Confused about my Taurus ex.

Well it's going to be a pretty long story, so thank you for reading.

So I've been together with one of my university friends, we knew each other for about 4 months. We spend a lot of time together, but at that time I already had a boyfriend.

But i realized, that my feelings for my current boyfriend weren't the same, they were 2 months ago. So i broke up. And started dating my friend from university. He is Taurus Sun/rising, Leo moon and Gemini venus.

I asked him first out on a date, because i couldn't wait any longer, he told me it was great that I asked, because he didn't know when would be the right time because of the break up with my ex.

So we started dating and i asked him after 1 week, because he already told me he had longer feelings for me, if we are a couple now. He agreed.

After 2 weeks, he told me how serious it is with me for him and hat he loves me, like really he said:' i love you'

3 Days later, on the weekend he has been with all his friends, and haven't had text me, so i became upset and said i wanted to talk, because i felt ignored, he said that we can talk, but he is totally shocked that i felt that way.

So we talked, it was a total disaster.. He came to my city and we sat there for about 20 mins and I just said im feeling ignored, he said well he understands me but he wouldn't change any of his phone habits for me, so i became so angry at myself and sad of him. BTW my parents told me to take my little sister from school home, so i asked him if he wan to come with me for this 10 minutes, he disagreed. So after our conversation he saw that I had tears in my eyes and he just said wait, but didn't come after me he just drove back to his city. So I waited the whole day, that he maybe texts me, he didn't. He wrote me at 2 AM: Whats now?

And because I was so angry and upset, I said: 'In my eyes everything that happend is done.' He understood this like a break-up and just wrote: 'okay.' HE HASNT EVEN AKSKED WHATS DONE.

So I was frustrated and didn't answerd on that, because I knew I'm going to see him tomorrow with our mutual friends from university and there I can speak to him ,that I didn't meant it that way.

So the next day, I had an medical appointment and this Taurus BF knew that and he said one week before he will come with me. So I waited and thought maybe he will come, he didn't..

After the appointment we had the meeting with our friends, so we all meet up and he came too.

We went drinking and everything went fine, our mutual friends didn't even knew we had a relationship, so they didn't knew that I accidentally broke up.

I tried to reach my Taurus ex and wrote him if we can talk before I went home. He didnt read the message, so I wrote a long text message and explained that I didn't meant to break up and I expected him to come after me when I cried and run away. He said its over for him and we can never ever be back together and that I couldn't get any second chance. My heart broke down...

I can't forget my mistake and I hate myself because I really love him and want to be with him.

We see each other every day in university, and we have a group chat in Whatsapp with all our mutual friends, where he writes totally fine, but i wanted to reach him out one time and he didn't answerd me private. He is ignoring me in the privat chat.

In university he still talks to me, but very distant.

So last weekend there was a party, we planed in our group chat that we all will go there. So we all went there and before I wanted to go i tried to speak to my Taurus ex and he blocked me away, he said something like: 'No i really don't want to, go away.'

2 Days ago, I asked again in the group chat if everybody wants to hang out, and everyone agreed even the Taurus. But when we hung out, he ignored me again. Why is he even responding in the group chat and agrees to my ideas?

Im so upset, I don't know what to do, because I love him and I regret all of my mistakes. We only have been for 3 weeks together, and its now 4 weeks we broke up, and I'm crying everyday, because I can't get over anything. I want him back..

PS: Im a Leo Sun, Virgo Moon, Leo rising and Cancer Venus

And no we did not have sex with each other, and he said that he is breaking up because he can't get happy with me if I'm feeling ignored and that he didn't liked my mind games with him, that i cried and ran away, maybe expecting him to come after me..

Something about this Taurus is 'sketchy.'

True, the Leo was being a drama queen too early in the relationship, but nonetheless, his nonchalant response is questionable.

He committed to her prematurely.

He said the words "I love you" prematurely.

...And now he provides a nonchalant response with "I'm not changing my phone habits for you."

True, we're stubborn and resilient to change, but we normally bend for the right person.

Honestly, I think he realized he jumped the gun on this one, the OP was melodramatic, and now he is seeeing an 'out.'

I don't think he was emotionallyinvested to begin with.

OP,

Back away from this Taurus....slowly.

Those in Venus in Gems.

@JohntheBaptist

True, she didn't give him much of a challenge.

So changing his habits to appease her is looking like a no-go.

LOL.

I regret that I cried in front of him, but I couldn't stop my emotions. I didn't want to manipulate him or being weak, I wanted to make the situation clear and after he said he is not going to change his habits and I totally understood that and agreed I was upset because I already had to go.

But well I'm confused why is he always saying yes to the meetings in the group chat and answering me in the group chat, but is cutting me out of his life privately.

Maybe some information: his ex girlfriend cheated on him after one year, and I wanted to ne honest with him and telling him what I felt but I don't get why this is manipulating to him. I want him back, and that's the point. How?

I mean it's already 4 weeks ago, but I'm seeing him every day in university and cutting him out of my life isn't that simple, because of my friends. I'm scared to losing them too and then losing him forever. And I can't go alone to university I need some help and the guys are helping me

I know that it has been a huge mistake of mine, to expect so much at the beginning. It was because was in a relationship for over 5 years with someone else, and he gave me that attention so I accustomed to it and i definitely know it was wrong.

And his phone habits: I said to him I can live with that, I can be a person who didn't want that much of attention. But he said, he doesn't want me to change for him.

Another Leo Sun/Virgo Moon here. The Taurus ladies here are correct. You handled this situation poorly. You were way too dramatic early in the relationship and the Taurus guy definitely was not ready for that amount of intensity. The only signs that I can think might have put up with this type of drama is either another Leo or a Scorpio.

The real problem is you used your friend as a rebound (whether you see it that way or not). You gave yourself no time between relationships, which means your residual feelings from your last boyfriend were still raw. Even if things were going south, you definitely still had some leftover emotions to work through. Instead you jumped into a new relationship and transferred all of your expectations on to the Taurus.

Your reaction to him being gone for 3 days when you've only been dating for 3 weeks was way out of line. It's as if you forgot that this guy was your friend before you started dating. Also realize that while you had been in relationships non stop for months, the Taurus was coming into this situation fresh. He was ready to pace himself, while you expected him to pick up where you last boyfriend left off. See the problem?

Sounds like when you exploded on him, he got stubborn and shut down. Tauruses are known to do things their way. You can't force a Taurus to do something they don't want to do or aren't prepared to do. You should calmly communicate your needs, otherwise you're only going to butt heads with the bull. Ever tried headbutting a bull? It's not a good idea.

Also sounds like you two are young. Someone probably told him to never change who he is for a girl (which is good advice). Saying that he wouldn't change his phone habits for you makes sense, though it was poorly phrased. Seems like he hasn't dealt with too many women before you. He did make an effort by coming to see you though and you kept playing the "drama" card and placing your expectations on to him. Walking away and expecting him to "chase you" was just immature on your part.

Then when he text you later, your response to him was "'In my eyes everything that happened is done." I'm pretty sure you knew that this text sounded ambiguous when you sent it. You could make the argument that you meant to say you were going to put everything behind you, but that's not how it sounds in context. You knew it and he knew it. So he accepted the break up because frankly the whole relationship became too dramatic way too fast.

Also know that he has no reason to not hang out with the rest of your mutual friends, especially since they aren't aware the two of you even dated. He basically trying to keep things cool by not making a scene, but he always has no interest in talking to you anymore.

So at this point it's best that you move on now. He's already said that he can't get past the manipulation. Also realize that you've only been dating for 3 weeks. The reason you feel this strong is A) Leos see breakups as personal failures and B) you haven't resolved your emotions from your last relationship either. So now you feel doubly hurt. You need to spend some time being single so you can learn from all of this.

Posted by Chuckcem
Another Leo Sun/Virgo Moon here. The Taurus ladies here are correct. You handled this situation poorly. You were way too dramatic early in the relationship and the Taurus guy definitely was not ready for that amount of intensity. The only signs that I can think might have put up with this type of drama is either another Leo or a Scorpio.

The real problem is you used your friend as a rebound (whether you see it that way or not). You gave yourself no time between relationships, which means your residual feelings from your last boyfriend were still raw. Even if things were going south, you definitely still had some leftover emotions to work through. Instead you jumped into a new relationship and transferred all of your expectations on to the Taurus.

Your reaction to him being gone for 3 days when you've only been dating for 3 weeks was way out of line. It's as if you forgot that this guy was your friend before you started dating. Also realize that while you had been in relationships non stop for months, the Taurus was coming into this situation fresh. He was ready to pace himself, while you expected him to pick up where you last boyfriend left off. See the problem?

Sounds like when you exploded on him, he got stubborn and shut down. Tauruses are known to do things their way. You can't force a Taurus to do something they don't want to do or aren't prepared to do. You should calmly communicate your needs, otherwise you're only going to butt heads with the bull. Ever tried headbutting a bull? It's not a good idea.

Also sounds like you two are young. Someone probably told him to never change who he is for a girl (which is good advice). Saying that he wouldn't change his phone habits for you makes sense, though it was poorly phrased. Seems like he hasn't dealt with too many women before you. He did make an effort by coming to see you though and you kept playing the "drama" card and placing your expectations on to him. Walking away and expecting him to "chase you" was just immature on your part.

Then when he text you later, your response to him was "'In my eyes everything that happened is done." I'm pretty sure you knew that this text sounded ambiguous when you sent it. You could make the argument that you meant to say you were going to put everything behind you, but that's not how it sounds in context. You knew it and he knew it. So he accepted the break up because frankly the whole relationship became too dramatic way too fast.

Also know that he has no reason to not hang out with the rest of your mutual friends, especially since they aren't aware the two of you even dated. He basically trying to keep things cool by not making a scene, but he always has no interest in talking to you anymore.

So at this point it's best that you move on now. He's already said that he can't get past the manipulation. Also realize that you've only been dating for 3 weeks. The reason you feel this strong is A) Leos see breakups as personal failures and B) you haven't resolved your emotions from your last relationship either. So now you feel doubly hurt. You need to spend some time being single so you can learn from all of this.

Yes. All of this.

Your expectations for somebody that you barely know are extremely high!

You're coming across as extremely needy which means at this time you're not doing a very good job with taking care of your own adult needs and wants. It sounds like you are unaware of the fact that your needs are your responsibility to fulfill not somebody else's..

you are too dependent emotionally on someone that you're dating and that is a turn-off because most of us know that that is an indication of immaturity. It's your responsibility to make sure you have a well-balanced life that includes other friends so that you don't overwhelm somebody new in your life with all of your neediness. You know what your Taurus was doing when he was hanging out with friends he was being an adult and getting his need for social connection emotional sustenance and interpersonal relations met. And here come you talking about you feel ignored.

See you're so needy that you don't have the maturity to give your partner the space to enjoy his life with other people who've been there before you got there. Your neediness is making you selfish....why didn't you go spend time with your friends?

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
After 2 weeks, he told me how serious it is with me for him and hat he loves me, like really he said:' i love you'

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
And because I was so angry and upset, I said: 'In my eyes everything that happend is done.' He understood this like a break-up and just wrote: 'okay.' HE HASNT EVEN AKSKED WHATS DONE.

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The OP is an emotional wackjob, this is true, lol, however, I can't help to feel that the Taurus man is partially responsible. He set the initial tone for a serious committment, she didn't. He said the words "I love you." She didn't.

I believe because he set the tone prematurely, her expectations of the relationship was magnified.

And he held such a nonchalant demeanor in regards to their breakup. This set her off even more.

You can't 'toy' with the emotions of crazy people.

I'm not committing to anyone only after two weeks of dating, and don't expect an "I love you" either.

If and when I DO love you. You will know it.

Once emotionally invested, I will fight for you, I'm not cutting you off.



I think this is where her confusion is coming in.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
After 2 weeks, he told me how serious it is with me for him and hat he loves me, like really he said:' i love you'

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
And because I was so angry and upset, I said: 'In my eyes everything that happend is done.' He understood this like a break-up and just wrote: 'okay.' HE HASNT EVEN AKSKED WHATS DONE.

The OP is an emotional wackjob, this is true, lol, however, I can't help to feel that the Taurus man is partially responsible. He set the initial tone for a serious committment, she didn't. He said the words "I love you." She didn't.

I believe because he set the tone prematurely, her expectations of the relationship was magnified.

And he held such a nonchalant demeanor in regards to their breakup. This set her off even more.

You can't 'toy' with the emotions of crazy people.

I'm not committing to anyone only after two weeks of dating, and don't expect an "I love you" either.

If and when I DO love you. You will know it.

Once emotionally invested, I will fight for you, I'm not cutting you off.



I think this is where her confusion is coming in.

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I said I love you too, to him. Sorry if I thought that this is irrelevant to tell

Well I know my acting was immature, and i totally regret it because i know i was expecting way to much. But the problem is here, I want to attract him back again or just getting him to talk to me. Because if we are with the guys he is speaking to me, but not If we are alone.

And he is going to have birthday in two weeks I don't know if I should tell him happy birthday..

And even if I'm a Leo, my pride is so damaged because I did this horrible mistakes and he is not forgiving me for this. How can I forgive myself and move on?

And yes we are pretty young

I'm 19 and he will turn 20 on the 13rd.

And yes he hadn't that much of experience with other women, he only had one other girlfriend and she cheated on him.

And yes the problem is, why I wanted his attention was because I don't have any other friends it's very hard for me to trust other people and connect to new ppl

And I'm not showing anyone how frustred and desperate I am, I'm showing him that I moved on and that I'm over him. But like you all know deep inside I'm hurt.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
After 2 weeks, he told me how serious it is with me for him and hat he loves me, like really he said:' i love you'

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
And because I was so angry and upset, I said: 'In my eyes everything that happend is done.' He understood this like a break-up and just wrote: 'okay.' HE HASNT EVEN AKSKED WHATS DONE.

The OP is an emotional wackjob, this is true, lol, however, I can't help to feel that the Taurus man is partially responsible. He set the initial tone for a serious committment, she didn't. He said the words "I love you." She didn't.

I believe because he set the tone prematurely, her expectations of the relationship was magnified.

And he held such a nonchalant demeanor in regards to their breakup. This set her off even more.

You can't 'toy' with the emotions of crazy people.

I'm not committing to anyone only after two weeks of dating, and don't expect an "I love you" either.

If and when I DO love you. You will know it.

Once emotionally invested, I will fight for you, I'm not cutting you off.



I think this is where her confusion is coming in.

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I see

Posted by LeoSunVirgoMoon
Well I know my acting was immature, and i totally regret it because i know i was expecting way to much. But the problem is here, I want to attract him back again or just getting him to talk to me. Because if we are with the guys he is speaking to me, but not If we are alone.

And he is going to have birthday in two weeks I don't know if I should tell him happy birthday..

And even if I'm a Leo, my pride is so damaged because I did this horrible mistakes and he is not forgiving me for this. How can I forgive myself and move on?

And yes we are pretty young

I'm 19 and he will turn 20 on the 13rd.

And yes he hadn't that much of experience with other women, he only had one other girlfriend and she cheated on him.

And yes the problem is, why I wanted his attention was because I don't have any other friends it's very hard for me to trust other people and connect to new ppl

And I'm not showing anyone how frustred and desperate I am, I'm showing him that I moved on and that I'm over him. But like you all know deep inside I'm hurt.

I can relate to having difficulties with trusting people enough to establish new connections however that's not other people's responsibility. ?

What have you actually done to improve your neediness issue? Apologizing, recognizing your error is not quite the same as "DOING" something about it.

Like talk to the campus psychiatrist or therapist to work through some of your social anxiety or issues or get medication....because it's not attractive dating someone who doesn't have their own life.