Confused, Taurus lesbian, slow or un-interested?

I met a taurus woman in a club, she approached me, told me I was wonderful and kissed me. It COMPLETELY took my breath away and I couldn't believe it, because I actually didn't know if I even liked her when she approached me and even after she kissed me I was CONFUSED to why I couldn't actually breath.

We started texting really casually and I wasn't that INVESTED it was just a bit of fun. Then I went to see her (she lives about an hour away) and I realised how much I actually liked this girl. She said she didn't REMEMBER coming on to me cause she was too drunk. We had an amazing time and I could tell she was nervous and having a good time as well, but we didn't touch at all. At the end I told her I really liked her and she said she liked me too and she was just shy. We had a pretty awkward kiss, because I went in for it when we both wern't even ready, she told me I was cute but then left really quickly.

After this I felt like through our texts I got the impression that she either didn't want to text me back, took ages or kept making excuses as to why she hadn't text me back, as if I was annoying her. I was really confused because I didn't need her to EXPLAIN why she hadn't text me back straight away. Anyway I think I might have come on too strong and she cancelled on our second date because she was ill and then stopped texting me for a week so I backed off.

Then she started up the flow again and so did I, she said she owed me a film (possibly out of curtsy) and I accepted but it took her forever to book her coach and she didn't even book until the LAST MINUTE when I had to remind her. When she came to see me, we had a great time again! but again didn't touch (she was really ill) but she paid for everything. And she said things like I should come to a concert with her and her friend, and that she wanted to send me some tea and that she felt like she should show me some more of her hometown. The moment she left I text her bye but I have only received pretty simple texts back. She can be cold but sort of nice in her texts so I don't know if it's just as a friend. I'm always that last person to reply. I'm not sure if i've put her off by telling her my feelings too soon.

I don't understand her not texting back and stuff and not wanting to touch me when she does seem nervous on that dates, pays for everything and also she was so touchy feely the first time we met (that she doesn't remember)

CONFUSED

Thank you! It's refreshing to have some lesbian taurus advice hahah but all advice is appreciated greatly! Yeh that's exactly what I needed to her but i'm already paranoid she thinks i'm wayy too into her. I said I was draw something for her to thank her for paying and i was to reciprocate, even though her text to me was short and cold. And now she hasn't text back, knew she wouldn't lol just feel sometimes like I need to tell her in word so she knows I like her, incase she thinks i've lost interest which is crazy. I just never like anyone really, usually it's everyone else chasing me so I guess I duno how to act. Also not used to being with women or date women, it's all really new to me.

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Erm well, she's got something going on with her ex at home, she's broken up with her for treating her badly. She said she wasn't getting back with her but i'm still not sure how she feels. I was in an open relationship when i met her but i've now broken up with them and moved out, I told her i didn't think i was the kind of person to be in an open relationship. when saying goodbye on the second date, she said it was nice 'chilling' and at one point throughout the date she called me mate.

She left early cause she was ill and kept saying is that ok? as if she felt sorry for me. I wasn't acting upset or anything, I was completely fine and chilled about it.
Every time I sort of touched her very briefly she moved away and her body language just didn't seem as forward as mine I think. I duno usually i can tell straight away when someone likes me, but with this one I feel like she gives mixed signals...

i'm scared to make the first move for sure, i acted a bit differently on the seconed date cause i was worried i came on to strong before....

also i think i'm paranoid that i'm too pushy or clingy over text or something, or she possibly gets annoyed by my facebook posts...whenever i tell her anything about feelings over a text she just ignores me completely. I get worried that i freak her out or scare her over these things.

yeah i can do that, just hope it's not too late already you know the last thing i test her was i will maybe do a drawing for her and i would like to reciprocate her paying for the film. she hasn't text back, just hope it wasn't too much. I never realised how fast i move in relationships until i met her. this has never happened to me before.

Yeah thanks 🙂 I don't think she pays much attention to her phone, she told me... do you think i should wait for her to contact me first? Not even sure if she will really but I would like to see her again in person...
The communication is hard because of the long distance.

libra...

Posted by scorchedearth
it's not confusing at all. she's cautiously interested. probably feels a bit weird that she came on so strong while she was drunk. is deciding where exactly she stands. the thing is... if she came back and initiates contact with you those are good signs. if a taurus is not interested at all we disappear. THAT is not confusing either. it's just... you are investing in her too fully when you two barely know each other. you need to back way the hell off if you're wanting to have anything lasting with her. we take a long time to really settle with someone. because once we do it's for the long haul. she's probably deciding where you fit in her life, if you do. the worst thing you can do is cling to her and push her into something too soon. you are not her girlfriend right now. you guys are very casually dating. you and she may also be dating other people at this time. until she locks you down don't think of her as your partner or put any of those expectations on her. you'll just lose her. calm your ass down. if you give her space she will most likely come right back to you. but you can't make her claustrophobic or you'll ruin everything.

i am the only lesbian taurus that posts regularly on the board. you'll probably have some straight women coming to give you advice soon. but women who date women are not the same as women who date men.

what do you mean? lesbians are diff? explain yourself

If she is confused let her find her way. If she isn't interested, her loss.