Does he just want to sleep with me?

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taurus_sunshine
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Hi,

I am a Taurus, his zodiac I don't know. I was not planning nor he, but on our first date we kissed and snuggled. We both were at least half naked. I am really new in these things. I won't lie, I am 27 and was virgin to even kissing until our first date. He did not force me to do anything I am not comfortable to do. But he expressed his keen desire to have sex with me someday.

I am meeting him tonight again and he already said we are going to kiss and snuggle again. He told me that I am a good kisser but got shocked when I told him he is the first guy I kissed.

I waited 27 years to even kiss, it will take so much emotional connection to strip naked and do something with any guy. How should I handle this? I do enjoy his company, he ate whatever I cooked and we have some deep life talks. He said he held me because it felt that I want him to hold me when we were discussing about views on wedding and life. When I got a muscle cramp, he helped me let go of the pain.

Can someone advise me anything? I feel so weird asking that I hardly know anything about dating 😢

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My advice would be to think about what your virginity means to you.

Also think about what expectations you have on the person you have your first time with.

This is someone you have known for a very short time. If you have expectations of what will happen after you have sex be sure that those expectations are reasonable with thus person.

You may sleep with him and then something happens and it fizzles out. Will you be disappointed? Hurt? Feel deceived?

This might be old fashioned thinking, but I think your first time is special. It's something you will (assuming your not drunk) remember for the rest of your life. This person also leaves a mark on you; good or bad.

If you think well, it just a thing and everyone has to have a first time sometime, then yes do with what you are comfortable with. But if you are attributing extra meaning to the act then I would stress caution.

I've heard before from a number of women that they wish they had waited for someone they were in love with but once it's done, it's done. You live with that regret.

You may not feel that way but if you do, then just go slowly. There is no rush.
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I am glad to find help, thank you.

My virginity is very important to me. He is not the first guy and I have been in love before. I did not do anything even when I was in deep down love, hence I need to feel safe first and secure and lot of emotional understanding. Not rushing, nope.

But if I am having a second date, kissing and snuggle is still okay? It was so much shocking to me that I let him do that on our first date. He just touched me and next moment he was on me. Not sure how to handle this.

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Posted by taurus_sunshine
I am glad to find help, thank you.

My virginity is very important to me. He is not the first guy and I have been in love before. I did not do anything even when I was in deep down love, hence I need to feel safe first and secure and lot of emotional understanding. Not rushing, nope.

But if I am having a second date, kissing and snuggle is still okay? It was so much shocking to me that I let him do that on our first date. He just touched me and next moment he was on me. Not sure how to handle this.


Only you can answer if it is ok. But if you are finding it difficult to control yourself/him/the situation and again, it's not something you want, then perhaps don't go to a place where you can "snuggle".

In my experience, Taurus can be very persuasive (at least when I have fanny flutter) so it's not preposterous that one thing could lead to another and you suddenly end up sleeping with him. Mine has worn me down many times. I'm rubbish at resisting him.

If you are shocked that things went as far as they did on the first date, then perhaps you need to avoid that kind of environment again if you don't think that in the moment, you will be able to say no and stand your ground.
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I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
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Posted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.



i might be being cynical here but he's a player.
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I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.



i might be being cynical here but he's a player.

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Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.
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I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.



i might be being cynical here but he's a player.




Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.

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like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.

does he know you're a virgin?
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I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.



i might be being cynical here but he's a player.




Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.



like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.

does he know you're a virgin?

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what the heck, I am actually feeling like a fool now. I just want to hibernate knowing this all. But drive and looking at stars was my thing, not his.

But yes, he knows. And he texted me for another date, dinner at his professor's house.

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Posted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.



i might be being cynical here but he's a player.




Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.



like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.

does he know you're a virgin?


what the heck, I am actually feeling like a fool now. I just want to hibernate knowing this all. But drive and looking at stars was my thing, not his.

But yes, he knows. And he texted me for another date, dinner at his professor's house.

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I could be wrong. You know him, I don't. Follow your gut.
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Posted by OCJack
Haven't you heard? Literally 100% of all men are just trying to get into your pants. Trolololo.
he's right, men are wired differently from woman..

In the beginning stages they all want one thing: pussy, no matter how decent or classy they look/are. It's all a game to get in your pants. Some will play it very good, others not so much, but they're all the same.

I would say since you're still a virgin please wait it out, at least a month or 2 before taking it further.

If he really wants You he shouldn't have a problem waiting! Don't be fooled by sweet words and charm, they will use and say everything to get what they want.

You have all the time in the world, don't let him pressure you.

Maybe do more active dates and avoid intimate get togethers till you know what he's really about

good luck!
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I say keep dating and see how it goes. He may not want to wait because his attraction to you is so strong. If he continues to not be that pushy (it seems like he’s not) then give him more chances. I went through something similar though I was not a virgin, which probably turns your guy on even more, and when we did do it he still continues to be invested in me and we are still dating, going strong, and moving forward. If you feel like you are connecting with this guy more on your emotional level then see where it goes until you’re ready
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I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.

He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)

He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.

We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)

We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.

It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.



i might be being cynical here but he's a player.




Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.



like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.

does he know you're a virgin?


what the heck, I am actually feeling like a fool now. I just want to hibernate knowing this all. But drive and looking at stars was my thing, not his.

But yes, he knows. And he texted me for another date, dinner at his professor's house.



I could be wrong. You know him, I don't. Follow your gut.

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My gut says I should be patient and talk to him about it more openly that I am not ready yet. And if he still wants to see me, good else I will part off. I met him twice already in a week and tomorrow is our third date. I will not allow him to touch my body except kissing, if that sounds like an appropriate behavior.

He is not forcing me so far, but telling me his desires related to me and it does make me think if he just wants my body. I am out from the country for 2 months from next week. He already told me there is no pressure now or later to even meet him or think about coming future. He said I should enjoy my vacation without thinking about him a bit. Also, if it helps, He is an American and I am from Nepal, a very conservative culture. He does talk to me every day irrespective of our meetings or not. This all is too much new and I need proper guidance.

But thank you for giving me advise 🙂
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Posted by OCJack
Haven't you heard? Literally 100% of all men are just trying to get into your pants. Trolololo.
he's right, men are wired differently from woman..

In the beginning stages they all want one thing: pussy, no matter how decent or classy they look/are. It's all a game to get in your pants. Some will play it very good, others not so much, but they're all the same.

I would say since you're still a virgin please wait it out, at least a month or 2 before taking it further.

If he really wants You he shouldn't have a problem waiting! Don't be fooled by sweet words and charm, they will use and say everything to get what they want.

You have all the time in the world, don't let him pressure you.

Maybe do more active dates and avoid intimate get togethers till you know what he's really about

good luck!

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I have not allowed him to touch me below tummy but he gets super excited to do it. I have guts to say clear strict no and he says he understands and we spend few hours cuddling.

You are right, I need to decrease intimate time and see him more otherwise. 🙂
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Posted by aqualady0118
I agree with darling Jeane on this one. He is just a player trying hard to get in your pants. And not a smooth player at that! Trying to get you to have sex on the second date knowing you’re not fully ready?! This guy seems like a real scumbag. I hope you keep your pants on long enough to see his true colors.
Your advise makes me think harder. Really I don't know what to do and how to behave. I have my pants on so far and I am pretty strict about saying no. I am testing his patience too.
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Sorry if I missed it somewhere but how are your own feelings concerning this? The kissing hugging and sex or whatever else. Do you feel ready? Do you want to do these things? Are you doing them to make him happy?

I don’t like the way he makes it sound like it’s a given or how it’ll happen for sure.

If anything he says or does that makes you feel uncomfortable please tell him.

Best of luck!
I feel shocked, most of the time that I am being so lenient in letting him touch me. I have had guys before but I was strict to establish emotional connection first before touching. My body is liking it, of course, it's first time hence I am trying to tame my mind is being strict to say no and have non-intimate dates.
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It might be exciting for him to have sex with a virgin. He does seem like he likes you. But you hold the key. Don’t let him in until he really likes you and courts you. Because some guys stop trying after they reach their goal to have sex

Did u find out his sign?

I find him romantic 😍

I always tell the guy I’m very interested in astrology and I was just curious what your sign is

How to ask his birthday? I need some ideas.
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Lol learn boundaries woman. You are playing with fire
Can you please elaborate? I am super naive here.
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Ok doll! Are you completely alone in this life? Have you not have friends who are talking about sex? Don’t you watch movies? I am not even asking about porn...you might faint! Lol

You saying how naive you are. And it doesn’t make you wondering what is wrong with you?

I think it’s the clear example of bogus post for self-entertainment.

How stupid and non sexual woman supposed to be to say ‘I am naive’ in every post somehow being DXP member? How did you get here? Googled ‘clean astrology for naive virgins’?

Really! What ta fuck—
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I agree with darling Jeane on this one. He is just a player trying hard to get in your pants. And not a smooth player at that! Trying to get you to have sex on the second date knowing you’re not fully ready?! This guy seems like a real scumbag. I hope you keep your pants on long enough to see his true colors.
Your advise makes me think harder. Really I don't know what to do and how to behave. I have my pants on so far and I am pretty strict about saying no. I am testing his patience too.

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I just want you to not have a lifetime of regret like I do. When you’re in the situation you can’t really see it from an outside perspective. But please realize that you yourself question his motive and that’s why you’re here...that tells you alot.
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And it’s better to let them sooner than later. Because later you will be in love and he will be gone anyway. If he had planned to be gone. If he is in love with you - he will stay even if you dropped your pants after ‘hello’...



No no no. Love is not putting up with an abusive cheating cunt. Sorry to say. Love is not accepting someone even when they fuck someone else. At that point your love doesn't mean anything special. So you should stop loving, and move onto someone who actually values you as much as you value them. Because THAT is special and sacred.

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I have special and secret.

But you can go crazy all you want!

Lol
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I am sorry if it seems like a self-entertainment post.

I moved to US few months ago from a conservative culture of Nepal, not knowing much rules about dating.

The guy is from Cancer zodiac sign.

I met him again on Saturday night to go to his professor's house for dinner. He was very happy that I made an effort to meet and help his professor and his wife in kitchen.

Later in the night I told him about me being uncomfortable about his eagerness to have sex with me. And he completely understood and was feeling bad that he made me go through physical or emotional pain just to make him happy.

We talked a lot about these things and just cuddled. It was too late to drive and I thought to sleep there. We shared same blanket but he still did not try to touch me even a bit. There was a lot of space between us. In morning though, we were half asleep while hugging with forehead and cheek kisses, nothing else.

I left his house after breakfast on Sunday morning and in the afternoon he texted me for dinner. We cooked food, watched movie, few hugs and I came back.

I don't know what will happen but I hope for the best for both of us 🙂
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After only a handful of dates if you fuck him do it without ANY expectations of a relationship. Letting him in your pussy doesn't guarantee marriage or anything you both talked about.

Might be a good idea to get tested first and of course have safe sex. Make sure he wraps up.

How tragic would it be to wait 27 years to bang and then contract herpes for life.

EDIT: I see this is an old thread. Op prolly got knocked up on that second date.
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Dinner at his professors house? and you trust that??

Who's that professor and ever met him?? What if he has somebody else waiting for you there and they do some unthinkable stuff to you, torture and rape, after all is done killing you and dispose your body. Years later somebody will find your skeletal remains, somewhere in a shallow grave, completely forgotten. Do you want to be one of thousands of unidentified Jane Does??

Do you have any idea how dangerous it is?

Why won't he take you for dinner out in public? Tell him you want to go to dinner at a fancy restaurant, not some creepy professors house, wtf, what professor, guy sounds hella suspicious.

Are you even for real?
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Dear OP - you waited 27 years to kiss so I hope you've been patient these 2 yrs for this great relationship advice....make haste oh wings of the wind, m'lady is in distress...

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He turned out to be a cancer so OP is probs way damaged now.
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our dxp message in a bottle being more like a molotov cocktail should help her with the healing process then...will also send Reiki...
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Posted by LadyNeptune

Might be a good idea to get tested first and of course have safe sex. Make sure he wraps up.


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lol @sleeping with other men/women as long as you are safe

There is no such thing as safe. Each time you fuck someone you roll the dice, condoms or not. Herps doesn't just hang out on the tip of the dick you know. Bump and grind with the wrong pelvic region and you'll have some buddies for life.
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