taurus_sunshine
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Posted by taurus_sunshineOnly you can answer if it is ok. But if you are finding it difficult to control yourself/him/the situation and again, it's not something you want, then perhaps don't go to a place where you can "snuggle".
I am glad to find help, thank you.
My virginity is very important to me. He is not the first guy and I have been in love before. I did not do anything even when I was in deep down love, hence I need to feel safe first and secure and lot of emotional understanding. Not rushing, nope.
But if I am having a second date, kissing and snuggle is still okay? It was so much shocking to me that I let him do that on our first date. He just touched me and next moment he was on me. Not sure how to handle this.

Posted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.
He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)
He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.
We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)
We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.
It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
Posted by jeanePosted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.
He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)
He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.
We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)
We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.
It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
i might be being cynical here but he's a player.
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Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by jeanePosted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.
He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)
He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.
We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)
We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.
It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
i might be being cynical here but he's a player.
Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.
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Posted by jeanewhat the heck, I am actually feeling like a fool now. I just want to hibernate knowing this all. But drive and looking at stars was my thing, not his.Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by jeanePosted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.
He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)
He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.
We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)
We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.
It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
i might be being cynical here but he's a player.
Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.
like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.
does he know you're a virgin?
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Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by jeanewhat the heck, I am actually feeling like a fool now. I just want to hibernate knowing this all. But drive and looking at stars was my thing, not his.Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by jeanePosted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.
He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)
He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.
We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)
We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.
It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
i might be being cynical here but he's a player.
Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.
like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.
does he know you're a virgin?
But yes, he knows. And he texted me for another date, dinner at his professor's house.
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Posted by OCJackhe's right, men are wired differently from woman..
Haven't you heard? Literally 100% of all men are just trying to get into your pants. Trolololo.


Posted by jeaneMy gut says I should be patient and talk to him about it more openly that I am not ready yet. And if he still wants to see me, good else I will part off. I met him twice already in a week and tomorrow is our third date. I will not allow him to touch my body except kissing, if that sounds like an appropriate behavior.Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by jeanewhat the heck, I am actually feeling like a fool now. I just want to hibernate knowing this all. But drive and looking at stars was my thing, not his.Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by jeanePosted by taurus_sunshine
I am writing about my second date here which happened last night.
He asked me to join him for dinner and then go for drive with him. (Which is pretty romantic in my eyes)
He cooked dinner and we went for a drive in his car. While driving he was holding my hand and told me how much he likes me but its my choice if I want to go forward. He told me a consolidated history about his past relationships. He said he is happy things did not work out before as he is able to do spend time with me.
We are at some cliff late night and gazing at stars and holding hands. Out of no where he hugged me, lifted me and kissed me (again pretty romantic)
We kissed few times and he suggested we should go home. That's when I know he wants to do more. We had two hours of foreplay (not sure if its a good thing to talk about over the internet, pardon me if not) and he again expressed his desire to have sex with me. I am too sexy for him to resist as what I was told. I am just not ready, I need more emotional connection but he wants to rush in. We cuddled mostly before I left.
It's not easy to resist at the heat of the moment but I know in no way I am losing my virginity without having a special connection and it feels that he does understands it, partially.
i might be being cynical here but he's a player.
Oh god, I just wish I had knowledge about these things. I am just feeling like a fool.
like i said, perhaps i am being cynical but come on. go for a drive? kissing under the stars? let's go home? corny lines? he had that planned before the evening started.
does he know you're a virgin?
But yes, he knows. And he texted me for another date, dinner at his professor's house.
I could be wrong. You know him, I don't. Follow your gut.
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Posted by sas0risaPosted by OCJackhe's right, men are wired differently from woman..
Haven't you heard? Literally 100% of all men are just trying to get into your pants. Trolololo.
In the beginning stages they all want one thing: pussy, no matter how decent or classy they look/are. It's all a game to get in your pants. Some will play it very good, others not so much, but they're all the same.
I would say since you're still a virgin please wait it out, at least a month or 2 before taking it further.
If he really wants You he shouldn't have a problem waiting! Don't be fooled by sweet words and charm, they will use and say everything to get what they want.
You have all the time in the world, don't let him pressure you.
Maybe do more active dates and avoid intimate get togethers till you know what he's really about
good luck!
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Posted by pinkbird03
It might be exciting for him to have sex with a virgin. He does seem like he likes you. But you hold the key. Don’t let him in until he really likes you and courts you. Because some guys stop trying after they reach their goal to have sex
Did u find out his sign?
I find him romantic 😍
Posted by aqualady0118Your advise makes me think harder. Really I don't know what to do and how to behave. I have my pants on so far and I am pretty strict about saying no. I am testing his patience too.
I agree with darling Jeane on this one. He is just a player trying hard to get in your pants. And not a smooth player at that! Trying to get you to have sex on the second date knowing you’re not fully ready?! This guy seems like a real scumbag. I hope you keep your pants on long enough to see his true colors.
Posted by SodapopI feel shocked, most of the time that I am being so lenient in letting him touch me. I have had guys before but I was strict to establish emotional connection first before touching. My body is liking it, of course, it's first time hence I am trying to tame my mind is being strict to say no and have non-intimate dates.
Sorry if I missed it somewhere but how are your own feelings concerning this? The kissing hugging and sex or whatever else. Do you feel ready? Do you want to do these things? Are you doing them to make him happy?
I don’t like the way he makes it sound like it’s a given or how it’ll happen for sure.
If anything he says or does that makes you feel uncomfortable please tell him.
Best of luck!

Posted by taurus_sunshinePosted by pinkbird03
It might be exciting for him to have sex with a virgin. He does seem like he likes you. But you hold the key. Don’t let him in until he really likes you and courts you. Because some guys stop trying after they reach their goal to have sex
Did u find out his sign?
I find him romantic 😍
I always tell the guy I’m very interested in astrology and I was just curious what your sign is
How to ask his birthday? I need some ideas.click to expand
Posted by GingerbreadManCan you please elaborate? I am super naive here.
Lol learn boundaries woman. You are playing with fire

Posted by OCJackAnd it’s better to let them sooner than later. Because later you will be in love and he will be gone anyway. If he had planned to be gone. If he is in love with you - he will stay even if you dropped your pants after ‘hello’...
Haven't you heard? Literally 100% of all men are just trying to get into your pants. Trolololo.

Posted by taurus_sunshineOk doll! Are you completely alone in this life? Have you not have friends who are talking about sex? Don’t you watch movies? I am not even asking about porn...you might faint! LolPosted by GingerbreadManCan you please elaborate? I am super naive here.
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Posted by taurus_sunshineI just want you to not have a lifetime of regret like I do. When you’re in the situation you can’t really see it from an outside perspective. But please realize that you yourself question his motive and that’s why you’re here...that tells you alot.Posted by aqualady0118Your advise makes me think harder. Really I don't know what to do and how to behave. I have my pants on so far and I am pretty strict about saying no. I am testing his patience too.
I agree with darling Jeane on this one. He is just a player trying hard to get in your pants. And not a smooth player at that! Trying to get you to have sex on the second date knowing you’re not fully ready?! This guy seems like a real scumbag. I hope you keep your pants on long enough to see his true colors.
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Posted by OCJackI have special and secret.Posted by Gemitati
And it’s better to let them sooner than later. Because later you will be in love and he will be gone anyway. If he had planned to be gone. If he is in love with you - he will stay even if you dropped your pants after ‘hello’...
No no no. Love is not putting up with an abusive cheating cunt. Sorry to say. Love is not accepting someone even when they fuck someone else. At that point your love doesn't mean anything special. So you should stop loving, and move onto someone who actually values you as much as you value them. Because THAT is special and sacred.
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Posted by OCJack
Haven't you heard? Literally 100% of all men are just trying to get into your pants. Trolololo.




Posted by LadyNeptune
Might be a good idea to get tested first and of course have safe sex. Make sure he wraps up.



Posted by FknMeowPosted by Metatron
Dear OP - you waited 27 years to kiss so I hope you've been patient these 2 yrs for this great relationship advice....make haste oh wings of the wind, m'lady is in distress...
He turned out to be a cancer so OP is probs way damaged now.click to expand

Posted by LadyNeptune
Might be a good idea to get tested first and of course have safe sex. Make sure he wraps up.
Posted by LadyNeptune
lol @sleeping with other men/women as long as you are safe
There is no such thing as safe. Each time you fuck someone you roll the dice, condoms or not. Herps doesn't just hang out on the tip of the dick you know. Bump and grind with the wrong pelvic region and you'll have some buddies for life.click to expand


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I am a Taurus, his zodiac I don't know. I was not planning nor he, but on our first date we kissed and snuggled. We both were at least half naked. I am really new in these things. I won't lie, I am 27 and was virgin to even kissing until our first date. He did not force me to do anything I am not comfortable to do. But he expressed his keen desire to have sex with me someday.
I am meeting him tonight again and he already said we are going to kiss and snuggle again. He told me that I am a good kisser but got shocked when I told him he is the first guy I kissed.
I waited 27 years to even kiss, it will take so much emotional connection to strip naked and do something with any guy. How should I handle this? I do enjoy his company, he ate whatever I cooked and we have some deep life talks. He said he held me because it felt that I want him to hold me when we were discussing about views on wedding and life. When I got a muscle cramp, he helped me let go of the pain.
Can someone advise me anything? I feel so weird asking that I hardly know anything about dating 😢