Headbutting with the hubby's Taurus female friend

Most Taurus women I meet, I take a liking to. Then the hubby's sis-like childhood friend happened . So, I'm wondering how to handle the less evolved members of your clan and judging by how she acts, I'm going to say she falls in that category. This woman is like an extra heavy baggage. Note that she is even older than my hubby, but very immature. She oozes Drama with a capital D. I've seen her add and block my hubby from facebook countless times. She is very rude and has been disrespectful to me. My beef with her is that she only remembers him when she has a problem and boy, she has many. For instance, she's been with one guy on and off for 5+ years and he's even raised his hand on her. The hubby had to rush over, bring her to her apartment, and comfort her. She called him in the early morning hours and I myself commended him for intervening. You would think she had learned her lesson. From her own mouth, she confessed to me about trying to conceive a baby with that very same abusive guy after that incident. I thought to myself, "Are you out of your mind?" After that, the crises kept piling up. Next, her grandma was mean to her and she called him over. Then that same abusive guy cheated on her and again she called him over. Once her bestie's bf got tasered by a cop and had thrown his keys somewhere and the bestie needed help looking for the keys. Guess who she calls? My husband again. Yet, when we got married, she didn't even drop by to congratulate or meet me.

This has started to bug me because my hubby is a PTSD sufferer currently following treatment at the VA medical centre. He has terrible anxiety/panic attacks and she keeps calling him and dumping her problems on him. I understand they've been friends in like forever. I mean, she even borrowed money from him and never returned. My mom in law confided that bit to me. She was rude to her as well. Good friend of the family indeed. /sarcasm. I need to clarify that I have never been introduced to her formally or met this girl in person. The husband and I have known each other for over a year and met during our travels. We are currently in a temporary long distance setting. He is eventually going to move here (Canada). Anyway, I have only been dealing with her via facebook exchanges until recently. I cut her out. The drama got to me. I felt like she was using my husband as an emotional crutch. She recently told him she mixed vicodin with alcohol. Need I say I was pissed as the husband is in AA classes

Tough situation. It really is nature and nurture, eh? This girl sounds like a piece of work and poison quite frankly.
No drama from your camp. Tell your husband you love him dearly. Reiterate that he is trying to overcome mountains and get well. That means healthy people in his life, not millstones. I truly wish you both well.

Thank you for the word of encouragement. Yes, I have been supportive of the hubby and have told him to surround himself with healthy-minded people. He's been enabling her for so long that I am guessing it's going to take a while. I try to be as tactful as possible, given that it's a friend of the family. I spoke about healthy boundaries, especially now that he's married. I truly hope he starts focusing on himself a bit more because he battles suicidal tendencies. He did try commit suicide when he came back from his deployment from Afghanistan. It's up to him now whether or not he wants to always be "the savior". I wish she was a bit more sensitive. Instead, she told me, she has bigger anxiety issues than him. It's a bit ridiculous because my husband is incapacitated by it while she goes about her normal routine like everybody else. I don't deal with her anymore. I was wondering if I should perhaps try reason with her, but it seems like I'd be asking for trouble. She gets very defensive. I think I'll let things be since the hubby will be moving here eventually. Phew!