HELP - gay/bisexual encounter with Taurus

Okay this is a long one so you're going to have to beat with me. So basically Im bi and one of my close friends is a Taurus. We basically hit it off right away at the beginning of the first year and we have a very close mutual group of friends. I guess I've always had a crush on him but It was always just your average straight guy crush.

Anyway basically in October we went out one night with the whole of the college and we ended up staying at one of our friend's house just out of convenience.

We shared a bed because there was only one bed spare. For some reason I don't know what it was that night wether it was the alcohol or... one thing lead to another and I was on top of him all of a sudden, and next thing you know he pushed me down and I basically gave him head, after it had happened he basically kinda freaked out and was like wth was that, I was as shocked as he was and had no clue what had happened, anyway he got up and went to sleep on the sofa the next morning and we didn't speak of it again.

Fast forward to like two weeks ago, another night out with friends, we get back, to his flat this time. I was sleeping on the sofa because their flat is quite full. Basically he walked in on one of our close friends having sex with some random chick next door, then before he went to bed he called me over to sleep in his bed because he saw me sleeping on the floor. We sat there for like 5 minutes he was on his phone and he randomly came out with 'I'm so horny right now, I would literally do it with anyone' this was an obvious direct invitation.. anyway the same thing happened, this time strangely enough it was followed with some pillow talk after as I was very confused by this point. He went on to tell me that for him, being given head it doesnt matter if it's a girl or annoy.. but he says that he's not attracted to guys.. which is weird because he was rock hard when I jumped in the bed... anyway after that happened it just got a little awkward and we hadn't really talked.. oh and did I mention during the drunk pillow talk I told him I was attracted to him...? I'm just confused on what to do right now... because I normally go around to their flat everyday after uni but I didn't the last week, and now we aren't really talking... I don't know wether to keep distancing myself or to try speak to him. Because basically after the first time, we didn't speak for like a week and then he messaged me asking why I hadn't spoke to him all week.. *confused*

So yeah to clarify, he's obviously Taurus and stubborn but I just wanted your opinion, because I know Taurus like sex, so do you think 1. It's as black and white for him to disconnect sex/attraction/emotional connection as he says it is? was he just really horny? I'm just finding it hard for it not to be awkward because I'm obviously an Aries so I just want things to move really quickly and to know what's going on in his head but he's so slow + not very expressive so I don't know what's going on right now..

Posted by Theariesguy
So yeah to clarify, he's obviously Taurus and stubborn but I just wanted your opinion, because I know Taurus like sex, so do you think 1. It's as black and white for him to disconnect sex/attraction/emotional connection as he says it is? was he just really horny? I'm just finding it hard for it not to be awkward because I'm obviously an Aries so I just want things to move really quickly and to know what's going on in his head but he's so slow + not very expressive so I don't know what's going on right now..

You can't rush into much, I think taurus have to feel you out first.

There will always be that pull and push with fire and earth peeps. Like an off and on thing with some major physical attraction going on.

Does he give you head back?

Posted by Ssuperman
Does he give you head back?

See that's the thing, nothing happened the first time because after he freaked out and went downstairs, the second time before he was about to finish he turned me into my back and he was like sat on my legs and then he took off my boxer shorts, and it looked as though he was about to but then he turned me over and finished on my back. I'm just trying to figure out what to make of it because I heard Taurus like to please their lovers and he always tells me about how much he loves giving head to girls. However he's only let one other girl give him head whilst we've been at college.. like whenever he goes on a date and we ask what he did with a girl he always says he went down on them and I know that's a very Taurus thing that they like to please their partners... so is this a sign that he's just getting off on getting head or what? I'm confused

Haha right it's a sex thing. My bad .

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Posted by Ssuperman
Does he give you head back?

See that's the thing, nothing happened the first time because after he freaked out and went downstairs, the second time before he was about to finish he turned me into my back and he was like sat on my legs and then he took off my boxer shorts, and it looked as though he was about to but then he turned me over and finished on my back. I'm just trying to figure out what to make of it because I heard Taurus like to please their lovers and he always tells me about how much he loves giving head to girls. However he's only let one other girl give him head whilst we've been at college.. like whenever he goes on a date and we ask what he did with a girl he always says he went down on them and I know that's a very Taurus thing that they like to please their partners... so is this a sign that he's just getting off on getting head or what? I'm confused

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Sounds like he just wanted some head

So he's supposedly straight outside of what's been happening with the two of you behind closed doors?

If he cant admit he's at least bi, then it's going to be a long road, however, stuff will continue to happen between the two of you. He most likely would like to go all the way, he just don't want to admit it in his mind that he's bi or even gay imo at least. It's probably going to be a long process.

Posted by lnana04
So he's supposedly straight outside of what's been happening with the two of you behind closed doors?

If he cant admit he's at least bi, then it's going to be a long road, however, stuff will continue to happen between the two of you. He most likely would like to go all the way, he just don't want to admit it in his mind that he's bi or even gay imo at least. It's probably going to be a long process.

Yeah he says he's straight, and tbf has had a lot of chances with a lot of girls but uses the infamous 'im not ready' Taurus line or the 'im just going to wait and see how it goes' until they lose interest, which is why I found it weird for him to just go straight there with me. And when we spoke afterwards before we slept he was asking me like 'oh so are you bi then?' And I basically said yeah, the way he was asking almost as a form of self validation like he was looking for an answer himself.. I don't know wether to carry on with this and see where the process goes because I don't wanna get hurt if it is just sex I'd rather stop and preserve our friendship.. also did I mention During pillow talk when I was asking him questions he did mention that 'and also it goes against my like religious beliefs' (being gay/bi) he says that after j just gave him head... I think he is separating emotional intimacy and physical.. but I think that may just be a coping mechanism in his head.. or am I wishfully thinking? ??

Posted by Plagued
Nah he ain't straight he swings both ways. He likes manlips on his shaft, if he had zero type of attraction he'd not get off getting a blow job from someone with a dick.

*my taurus father claims to be straight but all this anti gay talk and a rubber dick says otherwise.

Lool I find this oddly reassuring. Okay so would you suggest I carry on with what we're doing to see how it goes? I'm just trying to avoid being hurt and used for sex because that's annoying. Also the day after I asked him if we could speak In a room alone and I asked why he was acting weird he said he was fine and couldn't wait to leave the room but other than that the next day we were fine, if anything he seemed so bright and chirpy the next day with all his flat mates. Anyway I just want to know if I should ask him why all of a sudden it's been weird this last wee because I see him putting stuff on twitter like 'blablabla when friends cut you out of their life' or like 'life's too short to wait on people' idk I think he is assuming I'm ignoring him when I'm not, if anything he's the one not talking to me. I'm confused how to you apprdo such a Taurus in a situation like this? Should I do the same indirect twitter thing? I heard Taurus's don't like mind games.. and tbh being an Aries I don't like them that much, long term wise, I lose interest very easily.

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Posted by lnana04
So he's supposedly straight outside of what's been happening with the two of you behind closed doors?

If he cant admit he's at least bi, then it's going to be a long road, however, stuff will continue to happen between the two of you. He most likely would like to go all the way, he just don't want to admit it in his mind that he's bi or even gay imo at least. It's probably going to be a long process.

Yeah he says he's straight, and tbf has had a lot of chances with a lot of girls but uses the infamous 'im not ready' Taurus line or the 'im just going to wait and see how it goes' until they lose interest, which is why I found it weird for him to just go straight there with me. And when we spoke afterwards before we slept he was asking me like 'oh so are you bi then?' And I basically said yeah, the way he was asking almost as a form of self validation like he was looking for an answer himself.. I don't know wether to carry on with this and see where the process goes because I don't wanna get hurt if it is just sex I'd rather stop and preserve our friendship.. also did I mention During pillow talk when I was asking him questions he did mention that 'and also it goes against my like religious beliefs' (being gay/bi) he says that after j just gave him head... I think he is separating emotional intimacy and physical.. but I think that may just be a coping mechanism in his head.. or am I wishfully thinking? ??

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This is why I think you should stay away. He's in denial about what he likes and part of who he is, which I'd say he's bi. It will definitely just be sex because of that alone.

Posted by Theariesguy
I'm just trying to avoid being hurt and used for sex because that's annoying

That's exactly what's happening.

Tauruses just love to have everything for free.

I heard an older straight taurus coworker say one time he went to a swinger's club and he fucked a guy in the ass because the guy offered him to do it.

Omg, smh

You should give him a wide berth. You are going to get hurt for the fact this guy is not ready. If you want to be teacher then go for it but he will use you as he learns more about himself. If you're prepared for that and happy to bring him into the fold then tread carefully.

You got make that change, I'm talking about man in the mirror.

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Tauruses are hedonists... A lot of them have mutable signs in the chart like Sag and Gemini and Taurus is a feminine sign so I am sure that a taurus can switch off.. Ie "head" is just "head" a sex act.. As long as you are giving him pleasure and he is getting it, it does not matter what sex the person is who is doing it... Oral sex is just that... For him it is not penetrative sex and you are just a mouth to cum in...

I suggest you lay off the damn alcohol if this is what is making you lose your Inhibitions to give the Taurus head just to please him. The Taurus is not attracted to you sexually he likes females but he will use your mouth to get pleasure any time he feels like it.. "pleasure" being the key word. As long as "he gets off", he doesn't care who or how...

Stop doing it!

Thanks a lot, I think honestly I'm gonna stop doing it. I hate being used and I feel like I need someone who actually cares about me. At the same time I'm not looking for a relationship in the slightest, so what do you guys think of like FWB? Even though he may not be attracted to me sexually but getting him off turns me on. But is this worth ruining the friendship and potentially just becoming that person who he calls when he feels like he needs pleasuring? Because I don't really want that. But on the flip side, if I was to leave him, and on the off chance that he IS bi, would he come to this realisation within a reasonable time span? I don't mind playing teacher and helping him figure stuff out but that's only if I feel it's gonna be worth the end result.. and when he does next try to speak to me do I just keep a distance beause at the moment I don't think I can bare just being friends. As an Aries I hate this grey area, it's all or nothing for me.. please tell me what to do...

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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
Tauruses are hedonists... A lot of them have mutable signs in the chart like Sag and Gemini and Taurus is a feminine sign so I am sure that a taurus can switch off.. Ie "head" is just "head" a sex act.. As long as you are giving him pleasure and he is getting it, it does not matter what sex the person is who is doing it... Oral sex is just that... For him it is not penetrative sex and you are just a mouth to cum in...

I suggest you lay off the damn alcohol if this is what is making you lose your Inhibitions to give the Taurus head just to please him. The Taurus is not attracted to you sexually he likes females but he will use your mouth to get pleasure any time he feels like it.. "pleasure" being the key word. As long as "he gets off", he doesn't care who or how...

Stop doing it!

Thanks a lot, I think honestly I'm gonna stop doing it. I hate being used and I feel like I need someone who actually cares about me. At the same time I'm not looking for a relationship in the slightest, so what do you guys think of like FWB? Even though he may not be attracted to me sexually but getting him off turns me on. But is this worth ruining the friendship and potentially just becoming that person who he calls when he feels like he needs pleasuring? Because I don't really want that. But on the flip side, if I was to leave him, and on the off chance that he IS bi, would he come to this realisation within a reasonable time span? I don't mind playing teacher and helping him figure stuff out but that's only if I feel it's gonna be worth the end result.. and when he does next try to speak to me do I just keep a distance beause at the moment I don't think I can bare just being friends. As an Aries I hate this grey area, it's all or nothing for me.. please tell me what to do...

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You sound all over the shop.

In one moment you are are saying you don't want to be used and want someone who cares for you.

In the next moment you are suggesting an fwb. Fwbs are where you you each use the other to get off without any deep emotions. You're emotions are already involved. You already feel that the friendship is over for now after a few bjs.

Then you start wondering what if? What if he comes around in an acceptable time frame for you? Teacher is not an easy role to play. You'd be dealing with an emotional toddler. If your primary aim is not to be hurt, then don't be the teacher.

If this guy eventually decides this is who he is is, then perhaps there may be something between but at the moment you are sounds like you are forcing things and those situations rarely end well.

My advice? Stay away from him. You are far too emotional at this point. Once you can get a handle on yourself, then perhaps see how he is faring.