HELP WITH TAURUS MAN

I'm new to this so I'm just gonna place some signs in my birth chart and the taurus man Im talking about. I have sun in Aries, rising in Libra, venus in Aries, and virgo mars. His is sun in Taurus, rising in Scorpio, venus in Gemini, and mars in Taurus.

I have no idea where I stand with this man. I've known him for 2 years at the most. My best friends boyfriend is really close with the guy so whenever they would all hang out they'd bring me along and thats how I've been seeing him a lot. This past year whenever we were all hanging he was super sweet, always next or around me, and hed always mess with me playfully. My best friend told me he liked me cause he's always asking for me whenever he hangs out with them or mentions me when Im not around. I took the initiative and started to message him first our conversations are great but then he'd stop replying? The only time he messages first is whenever he wanted to hang out. Ive spent time with him but not alone we always had a friend around and we'd have a great time. Recently I had the house to myself and he somehow found out and asked me if I wanted to hang out I said yeah sure why not. So that night when he came over we smoked, watched tv, played games, ordered pizza, smoke some more, and also drank. It was only just us two in the house this time. We were having fun nothing intimate happened. Some of my friends would roll through to hang for a bit then leave. Once it started to get late I decided to move the wii to my room so we could smoke and play games in there also watch movies because I was getting tired and wanted to lay down. So we went in there played a few games. He mentioned sleeping on the couch but I felt bad so I offered him my bed. I put on a movie and we were watching it then he started tickling me and playing with me. I hugged him and asked if he liked me? He said yes and he asked me if I liked him I said yes. We kissed. Then we were kissing and making out. Before anything happened I told him I didnt want to be moving too fast he said we werent doing anything and we continued to make out. But lies! We ended up having sex but before we did I asked him if hes sure? He said whats the matter? As long as we like each other it shouldnt be a problem. So i trusted him. Afterwards he was caressing me and we were cuddling. The next morning we kissed, cuddled and ended up doing it again. Before he left my house we kissed and he told me hed see me later. Since we planned inviting my best friend and her bf. That night happened but he didnt spend the night. I didnt know how to act infront of his friends also since they were there. It wasnt awkward. If anything I felt more comfortable with him. ANYWAYS now that im done with the backstory. Lol. This is my actual question.

The other day I messaged him if we could talk about what happened when he spent the night. He said alright. So I basically asked if he meant what he said that night since he was high or drunk maybe both? He said "no i mean i do like you although i was pretty faded.dont trip though i think youre cool but i dont want to be in a relationship atm." well i totally understand cause i feel like i dont even know him well enough to jump into a relationship like that what was he thinking. I just messaged back saying well im glad were on the same page. But i also dont think we should be doing anything like we did that night. He said i feel you. I said okay thats all i had to say? he said do you hate me? I told him how i feel and said i like you but i just wish we didny do anything that night but you probably hate me though and all he said was nah lol were good. And i just ended it at that. Im stuck and Idk what to do. Im thinking of just dropping him. Does anyone know what this taurus man is thinking?! Im not sure what to do in this situation to make it better or else Im just gonna have to stop talking to him.

Why ask us what he is thinking when he told you what he is thinking?

If you can't handle his feelings (or lack of), stop talking to him.

And, paragraphs help.

I respect his feelings. So thats it? They can lose interest that fast? The only reason why Im confused about all this because he tells my best friends boyfriend he likes me but now everything changed after that night. My best friend told me she wouldnt stop being friends with me and her boyfriends with the taurus guy so there will be further interactions when we all hang out, but how am I supposed to act then? Is he telling me to back off now and there's nothing between us at all... See I need help. I just dont want to drop him after I told him I still like him. But if he doesnt feel the same way I dont want to waste my time with him yaknow?

Posted by ariesgal11
I respect his feelings. So thats it? They can lose interest that fast? The only reason why Im confused about all this because he tells my best friends boyfriend he likes me but now everything changed after that night. My best friend told me she wouldnt stop being friends with me and her boyfriends with the taurus guy so there will be further interactions when we all hang out, but how am I supposed to act then? Is he telling me to back off now and there's nothing between us at all... See I need help. I just dont want to drop him after I told him I still like him. But if he doesnt feel the same way I dont want to waste my time with him yaknow?

To be fair, his "interest" seemed to be in one thing only.

He doesn't feel the same way. How are you supposed to act? Like you meant it when you said that you are on the same page.

I cant believe it. So he lied just so he could sleep with me? I really did like him. If I didnt, I wouldnt have done anything with him. The fact that he told me as long as we both like each other before we had sex irks me the most. But I guess this is how most men are? Theyll say anything to get with you.

Posted by ariesgal11
I cant believe it. So he lied just so he could sleep with me? I really did like him. If I didnt, I wouldnt have done anything with him. The fact that he told me as long as we both like each other before we had sex irks me the most. But I guess this is how most men are? Theyll say anything to get with you.

i'm sure he does like you. he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. not a lie but you assumed something else. you assumed it would be more than sex. for him it wasn't.

I honestly didnt assume anything. It mightve been by how I worded it. I just wanted to let him know I wasnt going to fool around with him anymore which I did tell him. The only thing I was really worried about was this interest being one sided since I didnt want to waste my time. But thanks so much ? The best thing I can do for now is just go with the flow and see what happens.

Posted by ariesgal11
I honestly didnt assume anything. It mightve been by how I worded it. I just wanted to let him know I wasnt going to fool around with him anymore which I did tell him. The only thing I was really worried about was this interest being one sided since I didnt want to waste my time. But thanks so much ? The best thing I can do for now is just go with the flow and see what happens.

yes, go with the flow but remember one important thing - you are single! don't get hung up waiting around for this guy or thinking that something more could happen.

when i said i'm sure he does like you, i figure as a friend, as a cool person to hang out with, smoke with, have sex with when the mood strikes. do i think he likes you as you like him? no.

so yes, your level of interest appear one sided so...the world is a big place. don't waste your time waiting on and wanting a guy who doesn't want you.

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
" Before anything happened I told him I didnt want to be moving too fast he said we werent doing anything and we continued to make out. But lies! We ended up having sex but before we did I asked him if hes sure? He said whats the matter? As long as we like each other it shouldnt be a problem."

Read the above OP. The above para is your own words..

The Taurus did not put a gun to your head. You knew what you were getting into before you even moved the "PS 3 / games to your BEDROOM"... Don't pretend to be "sweet and innocent" ... The minute you move any kind of playing into a bedroom things are going to get serious....

You obviously have no sense of control. One minute you are telling him "I don't want to move too quickly" and within a couple of seconds you are doing the opposite. You have your panties down and having sex with him. You are certainly a fire sign. You people do not waste any time when it comes to throwing your panties out the window.

So you both liked each other enough to have sex.. So what is your issue? You were a one night stand or you are now an "fwb" or a part of his "harem" as you did not take the time to get to know him.

You even agreed with him that you were happy with the situation when he told you he was not looking for a relationship. So what is it exactly do you want from us?

How can we help you? You have already put the cart before the horse.

He is a fixed sign and you were a cheap lay... He is already on to the next game....

I guess. It takes two to tango. Im taking full responsibility for what I said. And I swear I wasn't planning on anything happening. I'm not going to explain myself because it'll all just sound like excuses. But we did everything cause it was in the moment. I regret it all now. I had a good night but I just wished we havent done anything. I told him that and I also told him that it wasnt a good idea to fool around like that. He agreed. I dont want him to think Im easy but that ruined it? so Im just going to move on and lay low from him.

This is more of a learning lesson for you. Or something to remember back on before you do something not so smart again.

He didn't play you. So you can't harbor negative feelings for him. He's a male. You guys were drinking and smoking and you took him to your bedroom. Let's not be naive. The moment you went back to your room he had plans. Then he threw out there for him to sleep on the couch, to see where your head was at.

You can not assume anything in life! Moving forward, with anyone, for any reason, you need to have conversations before hand so you are on the same page. Now when it comes to guys and sex, he might just say what sounds good to get what he wants at the moment. And you have to be aware of that possibility. A man who genuinely liked you, would not have tried to have sex with you once you said you wanted to take it slow. He would have chilled out. PLUS drinking and smoking makes people lusty.

Listen to what I'm saying to you, act like it never happened. Don't be weird. Be normal. You will be around him again. You have the same circle.

Be prepared for him wondering why you're treating him so basic. When he's feeling like he wants attention or he's feeling lusty, he will automatically try to fill these needs with you when you guys are all around each other. Don't let him!!! Keep him in the friend zone. His ego might make him chase you. People do weird things when they feel rejected. The feelings he feels while he's being rejected by you won't be real feelings on his behalf. His mind will just be fucking with him.

This is a pivotal moment. And you have to understand that. You can walk away from this situation unscathed. Just as two adults who decided to have sex one night

OR

you can lose your fucking mind fall deep into your feelings and permanently become part of his harem.

THE CHOICE IS YOURS!! Don't play yourself

Posted by Aries_Luminary
This is more of a learning lesson for you. Or something to remember back on before you do something not so smart again.

He didn't play you. So you can't harbor negative feelings for him. He's a male. You guys were drinking and smoking and you took him to your bedroom. Let's not be naive. The moment you went back to your room he had plans. Then he threw out there for him to sleep on the couch, to see where your head was at.

You can not assume anything in life! Moving forward, with anyone, for any reason, you need to have conversations before hand so you are on the same page. Now when it comes to guys and sex, he might just say what sounds good to get what he wants at the moment. And you have to be aware of that possibility. A man who genuinely liked you, would not have tried to have sex with you once you said you wanted to take it slow. He would have chilled out. PLUS drinking and smoking makes people lusty.

Listen to what I'm saying to you, act like it never happened. Don't be weird. Be normal. You will be around him again. You have the same circle.

Be prepared for him wondering why you're treating him so basic. When he's feeling like he wants attention or he's feeling lusty, he will automatically try to fill these needs with you when you guys are all around each other. Don't let him!!! Keep him in the friend zone. His ego might make him chase you. People do weird things when they feel rejected. The feelings he feels while he's being rejected by you won't be real feelings on his behalf. His mind will just be fucking with him.

This is a pivotal moment. And you have to understand that. You can walk away from this situation unscathed. Just as two adults who decided to have sex one night

OR

you can lose your fucking mind fall deep into your feelings and permanently become part of his harem.

THE CHOICE IS YOURS!! Don't play yourself

All great advice.

Posted by Aries_Luminary
This is more of a learning lesson for you. Or something to remember back on before you do something not so smart again.

He didn't play you. So you can't harbor negative feelings for him. He's a male. You guys were drinking and smoking and you took him to your bedroom. Let's not be naive. The moment you went back to your room he had plans. Then he threw out there for him to sleep on the couch, to see where your head was at.

You can not assume anything in life! Moving forward, with anyone, for any reason, you need to have conversations before hand so you are on the same page. Now when it comes to guys and sex, he might just say what sounds good to get what he wants at the moment. And you have to be aware of that possibility. A man who genuinely liked you, would not have tried to have sex with you once you said you wanted to take it slow. He would have chilled out. PLUS drinking and smoking makes people lusty.

Listen to what I'm saying to you, act like it never happened. Don't be weird. Be normal. You will be around him again. You have the same circle.

Be prepared for him wondering why you're treating him so basic. When he's feeling like he wants attention or he's feeling lusty, he will automatically try to fill these needs with you when you guys are all around each other. Don't let him!!! Keep him in the friend zone. His ego might make him chase you. People do weird things when they feel rejected. The feelings he feels while he's being rejected by you won't be real feelings on his behalf. His mind will just be fucking with him.

This is a pivotal moment. And you have to understand that. You can walk away from this situation unscathed. Just as two adults who decided to have sex one night

OR

you can lose your fucking mind fall deep into your feelings and permanently become part of his harem.

THE CHOICE IS YOURS!! Don't play yourself

Live and learn. Yeah you're absolutely right. Wow everything you said makes sense. Thank you so much!

Posted by palehooves
what's your moon?

Mine? Libra

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Posted by palehooves
what's your moon?

Mine? Libra

that's what i would have assumed. you kind of played yourself on this one. next time make sure you're not making decisions while intoxicated that you wouldn't make while you're sober.

there's more i could get into but i'm not gonna kick you while you're down.

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Honestly I wasnt even intoxicated to where I didnt know what I was doing or saying. I assumed he was the same but I guess not. I truly made a mistake. Go ahead I kinda want to hear it.

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what's your moon?

Mine? Libra

that's what i would have assumed. you kind of played yourself on this one. next time make sure you're not making decisions while intoxicated that you wouldn't make while you're sober.

there's more i could get into but i'm not gonna kick you while you're down.

Honestly I wasnt even intoxicated to where I didnt know what I was doing or saying. I assumed he was the same but I guess not. I truly made a mistake. Go ahead I kinda want to hear it.

i'll pm you. one sec.

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Whats pm?

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Posted by palehooves
what's your moon?

Mine? Libra

that's what i would have assumed. you kind of played yourself on this one. next time make sure you're not making decisions while intoxicated that you wouldn't make while you're sober.

there's more i could get into but i'm not gonna kick you while you're down.

Honestly I wasnt even intoxicated to where I didnt know what I was doing or saying. I assumed he was the same but I guess not. I truly made a mistake. Go ahead I kinda want to hear it.

i'll pm you. one sec.

Whats pm?

private message.

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Sorry Im new here but where do I go to see it?

At the top of Dxpnet.. see below MESSAGES - click that. See it in your Inbox.

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At the top of Dxpnet.. see below MESSAGES - click that. See it in your Inbox.

Thanks!

Ariesgal11,

Draw your boundary with that taurus man. You are now in fwb situation. Do not engage. Don't add mistake to what you did. Take your power back woman. No more talking and smoking with him. Don't do it again. If he will ask why you are cold just tell him you need space. This is to create a connection with yourself. Do not even pretend you are not hurt. You played as hard to get and You failed the game you played. Therefore you dont play it to get frustrated. You just simply don't know how to master the game before you play it.

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Ariesgal11,

Draw your boundary with that taurus man. You are now in fwb situation. Do not engage. Don't add mistake to what you did. Take your power back woman. No more talking and smoking with him. Don't do it again. If he will ask why you are cold just tell him you need space. This is to create a connection with yourself. Do not even pretend you are not hurt. You played as hard to get and You failed the game you played. Therefore you dont play it to get frustrated. You just simply don't know how to master the game before you play it.

The thing with him was I never thought thered be already be a label to it. He was the first to mention it. That he didnt want to to be in a relationship. I totally agree. I dont want to be in one either nor do I wanna do anything else with him. I just didnt know how to be around him. I didnt want to just shut him out, Id act like how it was before. Just friends. Or completely ignore him? I just dont know what to do about that part.

You're thinking too hard. This isn't about pretending. And it's not about making him aware of everything you feel about it. You and him both talked openly about it and nothing is unclear.

Be NORMAL. It happened. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just move forward. Don't over think this.

You don't want to make your friends feel awkward for a hasty decision that you and him made together. It has nothing to do with them.

Wrap your mind around what happened and get over it. Luckily for you it was just one night. And don't let any of these people commenting make you feel like shit about it. Contrary to popular belief, none of us are perfect and we don't do everything right.

Just act like it never happened. No need to be nasty or cold or rude towards him. That would be a reflection of you, not him. Don't be phony. Be yourself. Whatever that is. Keep it cool. Keep it together. Don't try too hard.

Just gotta know that since he's already had sex with you, he might want to have sex with you again. You gotta create boundaries. And stand firm in them.

You would rather be the girl he can't have than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to.

Be ladylike. Be cordial. But let it be known you're not taking no shit... in a classy way.

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100

Posted by Aries_Luminary
You're thinking too hard. This isn't about pretending. And it's not about making him aware of everything you feel about it. You and him both talked openly about it and nothing is unclear.

Be NORMAL. It happened. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just move forward. Don't over think this.

You don't want to make your friends feel awkward for a hasty decision that you and him made together. It has nothing to do with them.

Wrap your mind around what happened and get over it. Luckily for you it was just one night. And don't let any of these people commenting make you feel like shit about it. Contrary to popular belief, none of us are perfect and we don't do everything right.

Just act like it never happened. No need to be nasty or cold or rude towards him. That would be a reflection of you, not him. Don't be phony. Be yourself. Whatever that is. Keep it cool. Keep it together. Don't try too hard.

Just gotta know that since he's already had sex with you, he might want to have sex with you again. You gotta create boundaries. And stand firm in them.

You would rather be the girl he can't have than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to.

Be ladylike. Be cordial. But let it be known you're not taking no shit... in a classy way.

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You would rather be the girl he can't have than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to. "

As he has already "had" her... Should that not read :



"You would rather be the girl he can't have WHENEVER HE WANTS than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to."

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I'm speaking in regards to moving forward. They are both adults who had consensual sex. It's not a crime.

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You're thinking too hard. This isn't about pretending. And it's not about making him aware of everything you feel about it. You and him both talked openly about it and nothing is unclear.

Be NORMAL. It happened. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just move forward. Don't over think this.

You don't want to make your friends feel awkward for a hasty decision that you and him made together. It has nothing to do with them.

Wrap your mind around what happened and get over it. Luckily for you it was just one night. And don't let any of these people commenting make you feel like shit about it. Contrary to popular belief, none of us are perfect and we don't do everything right.

Just act like it never happened. No need to be nasty or cold or rude towards him. That would be a reflection of you, not him. Don't be phony. Be yourself. Whatever that is. Keep it cool. Keep it together. Don't try too hard.

Just gotta know that since he's already had sex with you, he might want to have sex with you again. You gotta create boundaries. And stand firm in them.

You would rather be the girl he can't have than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to.

Be ladylike. Be cordial. But let it be known you're not taking no shit... in a classy way.

"

You would rather be the girl he can't have than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to. "

As he has already "had" her... Should that not read :



"You would rather be the girl he can't have WHENEVER HE WANTS than the girl he can have whenever he wants and doesn't have to commit to."

I'm speaking in regards to moving forward. They are both adults who had consensual sex. It's not a crime.

I agree. But you said it wrong... He already had her.

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And he'll want her again! He doesn't know if she's a catch or not. All of this was premature. They both were already interested in each other. But neither one gave it the opportunity to give it a chance and go about the whole situation properly so that it could become something real.

You forget they WILL be around each other. On purpose. By accident. And in these moments he will come to learn things about her that he actually might like. If she looks good and is taking care of herself, is focused and progressive in her life, he will notice all of these things and will become attracted and be interested in her in more than just a physical way. I'm not saying it will happen but it's possible.

To simplify the situation, at the very least, he'll want to have sex with her because he's already done it once.

There is opportunity here, for her to redeem herself. So far, technically she hasn't played herself yet. But if she plays her cards right she can redeem herself and maybe even have him chasing after her while she won't give him the time of day... all while being respectable, civil, cordial, all of the above.

Thank you so much everyone. Before I posted this I decided I was just gonna act totally normal around him and just be cool with it. But if he asks to do anything for sure I was just going to reject him. I just wanted to hear everyones opinion on this. Im glad you all said what you did. It was a big help to stand for my decision.

I just read back on my post I meant to say my moon is libra and rising is pisces while his moon is in scorpio not sure about his rising though.

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Posted by ariesgal11
I cant believe it. So he lied just so he could sleep with me? I really did like him. If I didnt, I wouldnt have done anything with him. The fact that he told me as long as we both like each other before we had sex irks me the most. But I guess this is how most men are? Theyll say anything to get with you.

i'm sure he does like you. he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. not a lie but you assumed something else. you assumed it would be more than sex. for him it wasn't.

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Spot on.

Posted by ariesgal11
I just read back on my post I meant to say my moon is libra and rising is pisces while his moon is in scorpio not sure about his rising though.

Yea be careful of him. He's a young Taurus with a Scorpio moon. Stay on point around him. His charms might pull you in

@Ariesgal,

Something tells me that you're fairly young.

I read your thread and its entirety.

I'm not so sure what your main objective was with this Taurus man.

Was it genuine interest?

Or just an inflated ego?

The two of you were on the same page.

Neither party wanted a committment or a relationship.

Neither party wanted the sexual intercourse to happen again.

He asked you if you were upset, and you insisted you were not.

What is the dilemma here?

You were never used.

Sexual intercourse was mutual, you asked him if he was certain before the two of you proceeded.

You invited him into you bed, he didn't make his way into your bedroom.

This is the issue with FWB.

The unwillingness to 'own your sexuality.'

You can't play victim and have it both ways.

Welcome to the world of 'grown-ups.'

It's called accountability.

I'm still confused as to why this thread was created in the 1st place.

But if secretly your intentions were to take it to the next level.

Let me spare you the heartbreak now, and tell you it's NEVER going to happen.

Let's observe the following reasons.

1. Sex too soon.

2. No courtship

3. You affirmed that you were on board with the way things were.

This is a stubborn sign that is resilient to change.

A thread should be created.

The title should read: What do the Women REALLY want fromTaurus Men, and why can't they just be consistent and move accordingly.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
@Ariesgal,

Let's observe the following reasons.

1. Sex too soon.

2. No courtship

3. You affirmed that you were on board with the way things were.

If you were looking for something more,

Your best saving grace would have been to initiate an open honest discussion about what you were really looking for.

Instead your reponses were based off his responses.

Maybe something along the lines of this...

" I really like you. Last night was rushed prematurely. I would love the opportunity to get to know you better. I don't normally do this."

This would have eliminated the 'judgement' label of premature sex, and no courtship.

The geniune candidness & open honesty....He would have at least respected it.

Now, this opportunity is lost.

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Posted by ariesgal11
I just read back on my post I meant to say my moon is libra and rising is pisces while his moon is in scorpio not sure about his rising though.

Yea be careful of him. He's a young Taurus with a Scorpio moon. Stay on point around him. His charms might pull you in

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Hes too much when Im around. In a good way lol. He's always finding ways to touch me but not in a sleezy way. More like a cute playful way like a little kid. When we all hang with a group hes always next to me and Ive noticed whenever a guy talks to me he cuts them off and talks to them instead or when his friends are sitting next to me he asks them to switch spots or to move. Im not sure how its going to be now but I'll play it cool and be unbothered. Its fast for me to get over someone but not if theyre always flirtng with me like he does.. I just need to keep my guard high and not fall for it.

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@Ariesgal,

Let's observe the following reasons.

1. Sex too soon.

2. No courtship

3. You affirmed that you were on board with the way things were.

If you were looking for something more,

Your best saving grace would have been to initiate an open honest discussion about what you were really looking for.

Instead your reponses were based off his responses.

Maybe something along the lines of this...

" I really like you. Last night was rushed prematurely. I would love the opportunity to get to know you better. I don't normally do this."

This would have eliminated the 'judgement' label of premature sex, and no courtship.

The geniune candidness & open honesty....He would have at least respected it.

Now, this opportunity is lost.

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I told him something similar. I wanted to talk to him in person about it actually so I could tell him that but everything was on message and I didnt get to tell him everything I needed to. But I just dropped it didnt reply back. When I messaged him that I wanted to talk about that night what I actually wanted to say after I asked about if he was drunk or high when he said he liked me was that I wasnt drunk I meant what I said but we shouldnt do it again and that I hope he didnt think I was easy cause I dont sleep around. I told my best friend about it and she insisted for me to call him a liar. Cause hes been telling her boyfriend everything Ive said to him. She thinks the way I asked that first question he thought I was gonna put him down so he did it first? But it seemed a little childish to me. She told me it doesnt make sense at all cause he really liked me. Her and her boyfriend are confused also but I think he said how he felt and there wasnt any need to make it more than what it really was. I dont want to listen to them and get my hopes up. It was my mistake and I need to learn from it. Whats done has been done and all I can do is move on and not make the same mistake.

The only childish 'action' was the way you addressed it.

This type of conversation should have been face-to-face.

What is it with you 'youngins' and texting the life out of a phone.

Not every personal conversation calls for text messaging.

You're asking him a question after sexual intercourse about what a third party stated about his interest in you?

Are you serious?

Really?

Was that your question?

Ariesgal,

You have no winning argument.

The topic about what you really wanted was never brought up.

Posted by ariesgal11
It was my mistake and I need to learn from it. Whats done has been done and all I can do is move on and not make the same mistake.

Having sex with him prematurely wasn't the issue.

It's the way you handled it.

The life lesson shouldn't be "abstinenece."

But "effective communication."

Posted by ariesgal11
well i totally understand cause i feel like i dont even know him well enough to jump into a relationship like that what was he thinking. I just messaged back saying well im glad were on the same page.

YOUR words!!!

Posted by TaurusBull1977
The only childish 'action' was the way you addressed it.

This type of conversation should have been face-to-face.

What is it with you 'youngins' and texting the life out of a phone.

Not every personal conversation calls for text messaging.

You're asking him a question after sexual intercourse about what a third party stated about his interest in you?

Are you serious?

Really?

Was that your question?

Ariesgal,

You have no winning argument.

The topic about what you really wanted was never brought up.

First of I asked if he was busy and he said yes, but whats up? I said nothing really I just wanted to talk about that night. And he said alright ? I wasnt planning on telling him right then and there but I barely see him so I thought it wouldnt hurt. And I did tell him what I needed to like I stated a million times which was that we shouldnt do it anymore. What are you even tallking about the third party. I didnt ask him anything about them. Theyre the one who told me from the start that he liked me. To also add this because I forgot to mention it after we asked each other if he likes me and if I liked him I asked why? And he said that "weve been hanging out a lot and everytime i see you i cant get enough of you" he also mentioned asking for me whenever im not around when my best friend and her bf go see him. Im not sure what a lot is in his book but I never thought so. We'd see each other once every two weeks I wanna say.

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Posted by ariesgal11
well i totally understand cause i feel like i dont even know him well enough to jump into a relationship like that what was he thinking. I just messaged back saying well im glad were on the same page.

YOUR words!!!

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I do not want to be in a relationship. That night just ruined everything. I enjoyed what it was before we did anything.

Are you in high school?

How old are you?

You want the truth?

From a Taurus perspective,

He was genuinely interested in you.

You invited him to spend the night and told him to sleep in your bed.

The two of you had sex.

Being a Bull, despite his cool exterior, he is still a traditional man by nature, and this may have brought his interest down a notch.

What was probably going through his head " she gets down like that, she gives up like that, she can have no strings attached sex. Do I really want to entertain her for a girlfriend prospect?"

Then...

You insist on having this discussion by text.

Wrong move.

Too impersonal.

Although Bulls can have a very conservative streak in regards to relationships, however, we do honor consistency, honesty and forthrightness.

This would have been the redeeming card for you.

You pretended to be on board with something you were never on board with.

The two of you were never on the same page.

Posted by ariesgal11
I cant believe it. So he lied just so he could sleep with me? I really did like him. If I didnt, I wouldnt have done anything with him. The fact that he told me as long as we both like each other before we had sex irks me the most. But I guess this is how most men are? Theyll say anything to get with you.

Which one are you?

The girl who was a victim...

Or the girl who didn't want a relationship?

You invited him to spend the night in your bed, not the other way around...FACT!

You told him that you were not looking for a relationship...FACT!

The only individual playing head games is YOU!

You have no idea what you're looking for.

And your method of communication sucks @ss.

Posted by Feral_doe
I'm confused. What exactly is the problem here?

The Ariesgal is the only confused one.

She has no idea what she's looking for,

So she really has no clue as to what she should be asking.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by Feral_doe
I'm confused. What exactly is the problem here?

The Ariesgal is the only confused one.

She has no idea what she's looking for,

So she really has no clue as to what she should be asking.

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Omg.. Im not looking for anything. Yeah I slept with him and all I wanted to do was clear the air. As long as he knew how I actually felt then I'm alright with that. That was it. I just wanted opinions on it just to hear what I did wrong. I already knew but hearing it from everyone else made me understand more.

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Posted by Feral_doe
I'm confused. What exactly is the problem here?

The Ariesgal is the only confused one.

She has no idea what she's looking for,

So she really has no clue as to what she should be asking.

I'm confused because the chick she claims she doesn't want a relationship with the bull.

They slept together. It's done. Now what?

Shouldn't that have been the end of it, move on?

Could it be that she doesn't want him running around thinking that she's easy? So attempting to have that conversation with him was her trying to clear the air.

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This is exactly what it is. Thank you for understanding.

I think she was really feeling this Bull.

Regrets having sex with him so quickly.

So she used the "I am not looking for a relationship" as a defense mechanism.

She was hoping the Bull would mention a relationship first.

But he didn't.

In my opinion, I think he only stated that for what transpired the night before.

He had preconceived opinions of her.

But she could have laid it to rest real quickly if she was honest about how she felt and what her intentions were.

The Bull wouldn't have dived in a relationship quickly.

But at least he would have taken the time to entertain the possibility.

This is why texting is bad for business.

You don't see facial expressions, body language and vulnerability in text messages.

Just a blank text.

Posted by ariesgal11
The other day I messaged him if we could talk about what happened when he spent the night. He said alright. So I basically asked if he meant what he said that night since he was high or drunk maybe both? He said "no i mean i do like you although i was pretty faded.dont trip though i think youre cool but i dont want to be in a relationship atm." well i totally understand cause i feel like i dont even know him well enough to jump into a relationship like that what was he thinking. I just messaged back saying well im glad were on the same page. But i also dont think we should be doing anything like we did that night. He said i feel you. I said okay thats all i had to say? he said do you hate me? I told him how i feel and said i like you but i just wish we didny do anything that night but you probably hate me though and all he said was nah lol were good. And i just ended it at that. Im stuck and Idk what to do. Im thinking of just dropping him. Does anyone know what this taurus man is thinking?! Im not sure what to do in this situation to make it better or else Im just gonna have to stop talking to him.

Ariesgal-

LIAR!

You already cleared the air.

He understood.

Go back and read what you wrote.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I think she was really feeling this Bull.

Regrets having sex with him so quickly.

So she used the "I am not looking for a relationship" as a defense mechanism.

She was hoping the Bull would mention a relationship first.

But he didn't.

In my opinion, I think he only stated that for what transpired the night before.

He had preconceived opinions of her.

But she could have laid it to rest real quickly if she was honest about how she felt and what her intentions were.

The Bull wouldn't have dived in a relationship quickly.

But at least he would have taken the time to entertain the possibility.

This is why texting is bad for business.

You don't see facial expressions, body language and vulnerability in text messages.

Just a blank text.

I wasnt even thinking of being in a relationship with him. I dont understand why yall keep saying I do. I just wanted to talk things through with him to make sure it doesnt happen again but he mentions not wanting to be in a relationship atm. Which Im totally okay with because neither do I. And yeah, I thought about it also. He only mentioned not wanting to be in a relationship cause of ehat happened. He thought I would be all hung up on him because of what we did but Im actually not. If anything I just want it to be like it was before but Im sure it wont be. The night after that happened we hung out with a group of friends and everything was fine he acted like he did before. But after messaging him to clear things out Im not sure how itll be. It doesnt matter though cause I can go with the flow.

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Posted by ariesgal11
The other day I messaged him if we could talk about what happened when he spent the night. He said alright. So I basically asked if he meant what he said that night since he was high or drunk maybe both? He said "no i mean i do like you although i was pretty faded.dont trip though i think youre cool but i dont want to be in a relationship atm." well i totally understand cause i feel like i dont even know him well enough to jump into a relationship like that what was he thinking. I just messaged back saying well im glad were on the same page. But i also dont think we should be doing anything like we did that night. He said i feel you. I said okay thats all i had to say? he said do you hate me? I told him how i feel and said i like you but i just wish we didny do anything that night but you probably hate me though and all he said was nah lol were good. And i just ended it at that. Im stuck and Idk what to do. Im thinking of just dropping him. Does anyone know what this taurus man is thinking?! Im not sure what to do in this situation to make it better or else Im just gonna have to stop talking to him.

Ariesgal-

LIAR!

You already cleared the air.

He understood.

Go back and read what you wrote.

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Liar on what? And yeah I did clear the air.

Posted by ariesgal11
I respect his feelings. So thats it? They can lose interest that fast? The only reason why Im confused about all this because he tells my best friends boyfriend he likes me but now everything changed after that night. My best friend told me she wouldnt stop being friends with me and her boyfriends with the taurus guy so there will be further interactions when we all hang out, but how am I supposed to act then? Is he telling me to back off now and there's nothing between us at all... See I need help. I just dont want to drop him after I told him I still like him. But if he doesnt feel the same way I dont want to waste my time with him yaknow?

This was your question.

You have a problem with telling the truth.

Try a truth serum with your morning corn flakes.

It's good for the soul.

http://images.mentalfloss.com/sites/default/files/ style s/article_640x430/public/120520631-565x418_2.jpg

Posted by jeane
Why ask us what he is thinking when he told you what he is thinking?

If you can't handle his feelings (or lack of), stop talking to him.

And, paragraphs help.

You cleared the air.

And he already told you what he was thinking.



Why did you really create this thread?

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by ariesgal11
I respect his feelings. So thats it? They can lose interest that fast? The only reason why Im confused about all this because he tells my best friends boyfriend he likes me but now everything changed after that night. My best friend told me she wouldnt stop being friends with me and her boyfriends with the taurus guy so there will be further interactions when we all hang out, but how am I supposed to act then? Is he telling me to back off now and there's nothing between us at all... See I need help. I just dont want to drop him after I told him I still like him. But if he doesnt feel the same way I dont want to waste my time with him yaknow?

This was your question.

You have a problem with telling the truth.

Try a truth serum with your morning corn flakes.

It's good for the soul.

http://images.mentalfloss.com/sites/default/files/ style s/article_640x430/public/120520631-565x418_2.jpg

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Okay well I get it. I asked that question because after the night we did things when we all hung out as a group he acted the same way before all sweet and lovey dovey with me. But youre right its not anything and I should just get over this whole thing.