I need serious help

Hi, this is my first time here. I've been dating my taurus bf for a couple months now, and he had been my bff for 5 yrs and then he asked me out i said yes. But the problem is from 2010 to 2015 he had been head over heels for this girl he never got. Basically his first love, I didn't know about this at first, a mutual friend spilled the beans one night, and made me promise I won't bring this up with him

So I'm kind of confused as to why he pulled a move like this? To be perfectly honest i started thinking about him as more than a friend a yr ago and when he asked me out i was all for it but now that i know about him chasing her for five yrs leaves me utterly dumbfounded.

If this was a girl he never got, then no, this isn't his first love.

More like his first infatuation.

@Tiziani no not jealous just lowkey scared that our relationship doesn't mean anything to him if yes then id rather end it with him.

@TaurusBull1977 um when i said "he never got her" i mean they never dated, she confessed to him two yrs ago..but he disappeared then came back and chased her again. But she had changed her mind by then so they were never official. I don't want to be his best second but this entire drama is nerve wracking

Maybe she is a scorp lady.

Hahaha

Had an officemate bull wayback 2010 - 2012

He confessed his love to me. I dont. He was flirting another girl in the office. I was jealous.

She is libra.

I gave way... and. Resigned the job. He's an engr.

I loved him but I dont confessed during those time. We had casual dates.. but no physical contact... I left the job. Move to another city.

Until this day. He kept snooping my linked. Lol.

It is just funny to remember him.

Bull love deeply..

Your basing all of this on what a friend told you. Before you make yourself crazy and destroy this chance of happiness why not just simply ask him?

If you have a desire to be every future partner's first love then you are setting some unrealistic expectations. The older you get the more likely it is that people will have come before you. You need to accept that everyone has a history and rather than reject it, understand that those experiences will have shaped your partner - in good ways and in bad.

Thank you for the advice I'll just ask him about this.

@jeane I don't have that desire I'm scared I'm a rebound if I am then I'd rather end this. I've been a rebound before and I can't do it again that's all

I don't think bulls would rebound with a friend. It would end up disastrous and wreck the longstanding friendship. Bulls love and cherish their friendships... so, I don't think that is the issue.

Correct me if I'm wrong bulls, but as a Taurus Venus and moon... I won't EVEN think about, yet alone, do anything with a friend unless I'm absolutely sure about I want a relationship with them that exceeds the normal friendship route.

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Posted by jeane
If you have a desire to be every future partner's first love then you are setting some unrealistic expectations. The older you get the more likely it is that people will have come before you. You need to accept that everyone has a history and rather than reject it, understand that those experiences will have shaped your partner - in good ways and in bad.

+1

Especially if your partner is hot.

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And with Tauruses that's kinda a given!

Posted by BuffaloBills28
Who needs help. I'm willing to give out cyber hugs.

I could use a hug - it's been a wild few weeks for me!

Posted by tiziani
Does the "mutual friend" want to have sex with either one of you? I'd question their motivation for bringing this up behind his back.

People can pursue someone for years, and get over them in a day. All it takes is accepting that you've done everything you can, and then suddenly you're over it.

I would be wary of wrestling with ghosts. If he's not, then neither should you.

Right?

Shes not even supposed to know.

Talk about creating your own demise.

I'd be pissed, if I was the Taurus.

Posted by M143
Maybe she is a scorp lady.

Hahaha

Had an officemate bull wayback 2010 - 2012

He confessed his love to me. I dont. He was flirting another girl in the office. I was jealous.

She is libra.

I gave way... and. Resigned the job. He's an engr.

I loved him but I dont confessed during those time. We had casual dates.. but no physical contact... I left the job. Move to another city.

Until this day. He kept snooping my linked. Lol.

It is just funny to remember him.

Perhaps

I tricked a gem into a bj last week

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Posted by TaurusinTexas

Posted by BuffaloBills28
Who needs help. I'm willing to give out cyber hugs.

I could use a hug - it's been a wild few weeks for me!

Venusian hugs 🤗

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Awe thanks, I feel better already - this is jist one of the reasons why you're my favorite libra! ?

Posted by TacoGem
Thank you for the advice I'll just ask him about this.

@jeane I don't have that desire I'm scared I'm a rebound if I am then I'd rather end this. I've been a rebound before and I can't do it again that's all

No one wants to be a rebound. No one wants their relationship go sour or have their partner change their minds but these are the risks you take. You have to weigh up the pros Vs the cons, the red flags Vs the green lights and then jump if you think it is safe.

Getting your heart broken in the process is the price of admission. There are no guarantees in life.

Posted by firebunny
I tricked a gem into a bj last week

How on earth is that even possible?

I would be suspicious about his "friend" who told you about this other girl to begin with. You don't know that this is true. Maybe this guy wanted/wants you himself and is trying to make a mess of things for you and your bull and it's working. Take it slow and see how it goes with him. Take him at face value and let him win or lose your heart on his own.

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Posted by firebunny
I tricked a gem into a bj last week

How on earth is that even possible?

How else is FB going to get a BJ?!!!

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I was drinking when I read that and almost chocked to death. Good times on dxp, man

@/Everyone who replied thanks, again, for the advice.

I brought it up and we talked, he said that the girl situation was a only-know-you-love-her-when-you-let-her-go type. He also admitted that he loved her and i couldn't take it anymore so i asked him with my fingers crossed if he loved her for so long yet he is with me. He said he loved me platonically (he has a libra moon and gemini venus btw) but had started thinking differently of me months ago

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Posted by firebunny
I tricked a gem into a bj last week

How on earth is that even possible?

How else is FB going to get a BJ?!!!

I was drinking when I read that and almost chocked to death. Good times on dxp, man

Just keeping it real 😉

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And God bless you for that... Even though I'm agnostic. 🙂

Posted by firebunny
I tricked a gem into a bj last week

How was it?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428

Posted by firebunny
I tricked a gem into a bj last week

How was it?

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Lol A for effort?

@OP: gurl, stay strong his libra moon def helps him move on bc its an air moon. I wouldn't worry too much taurus men don't (in my exp) jump around when it comes to relationships.