how do I know if Taurus guy is really interested?

I'm 35, he's 50. Met at the gym. I immediately found him to be very attractive. Started talking for a few weeks. Gave him my number, few days later he says I'm to young for him. Obviously, I was very disappointed. I told him "take care," and attempted to walk away. Then with an angry voice he asked if I was coming back to take classes, (we participate in the same workout classes.) I wasn't going to come back to same classes he is. I hesitantly say "yes"... he leans in to hug me and kisses my cheek. I don't understand why he would be upset if I didn't come back? I don't understand why he would hug me after he says I'm to young for him. Is this normal for Taurus men?

Taurus males are very warm and affectionate friendly men who like to have female admirers.
Even if he is not interested in you, it's nice to have female energy around.
Don't take it personal, he clearly likes you.

Smile it off, carry on as usual.
Don't think too much on it and go to your class and enjoy it.
You may find another guy to crush on soon.

Are you saying that because he said you're too young that you don't want anything to do with him? Is it all or nothing with you? Maybe he wants to see what you're about first. He's an older Taurus; patient, grounded, refined and very fixed in his ways. You're not going to get anywhere with tactics you would use on a 35 year old. He is basing his "too young" decision on what he has seen and heard from you thus far. He could be testing you to see how commited you are. We value loyalty. Any sign of flightiness is a turn off, especially to a 50 YO Taurean male.

You got rejected off the cuff...

Don't chase him. You've done enough already. The ball is in his court and don't allow a man to hug and kiss you off the cuff either because we women (a lot of us) place meaning behind a man's affectionate behavior when really it's meaningless behavior that can keep a woman hoping far longer than she should.

If you really wanna know if he's interested then don't be wherever he's going to be and allow him to find you/pursue you.

At his age if he's not in a real relationship already he might not wanna come across too readily available/desperate/eager.

Lot's of available men out there that won't keep you around just for the sake of getting an ego stroke. Next

He's very intriguing to me, and I want to get to know him better. I was hurt, so taking time away from seeing him is something I would do. What do you recommend? He's divorced for a few years now.

From a logical point of view he might be thinking you're too young if you're at different stages of life.

I don't know how much you know of each other but I'm 35 and a 50 year old would probably be too much of a stretch for me. I don't have kids and it's something I might like in the future. At 50 plus, he might already have kids and done his bit or not want any at all. He might be thinking you're too young in that respect.

Maybe he just doesn't fancy ya!

Maybe he's seeing someone.

I wouldn't take it personally. I hope he's not one of those guys who ends up playing on the fact that you like him. That's irritating.

I'd take it with a pinch of salt. You asked him out. He said you're too young. It's not a no but it's a good enough objection that you can't overcome. Unless there's an ageing pill on the market!

Maybe just chill out about it and don't make it into a big deal.

Like Tiki said, leave that hugging thing alone. If he got angry then that's his problem. Maybe he just likes your company but simply doesn't see how it could work, so in what I gather is a true Taurus style, he didn't pursue it or lead you on.

I am a Taurus female, not a male, but I sometimes say things I do not totally feel if I am insecure about them. If I were this guy, given the age difference, I would have said the same thing. I would have been hoping you would just respond that you do not think it matters. If you feel there is an attraction going on both ways maybe you can approach him saying that you do not care about the age gap, but since he does maybe you can head out for a juice or coffee of whatever some time just as friends. I bet if he really does like you things will progress easily from there. I think it is possible this is more about his insecurities with his age than anything else.

I appreciate all the comments. Have to say that this is the most difficult man to interrupt. As for knowing his interest level, he said,"I really like you, a lot, but ... you're too young for me." My fault for not writing this earlier on the post. In addition, few weeks prior we were talking about age and why he believes he should be dating a woman in her 30's. To the readers, he is 50, but looks much younger, I would say early 40's. Anyway, will take all you advice and see what happens next.

Last comment has an error. Should be interpret not interrupt.

offers you some of his food

If that's what he said then LostBull makes a good point with the insecurities being with him.

How could you miss out that nugget of info!

Good advice there.

f* $ & that is the thing nowadays. date someone a decade or 2 older than you. yuck.
you didnt give your sign specifics so theres no telling if it will be succesful

He's not that into you. Age ain't nothing but a number. I wish women would learn male psychology as to not waste so much time reading between the lines.

I'm sure you're a nice woman etc etc but he's just not feeling it (yet). He may never feel it.

Men (the emotionally healthy ones) that feel it don't say I like you "but". One but's for sure if you keep coming around you're going to do it his way on his terms. friendly benefits like a hug and kiss and whatever other benefits that possibly might be included in the you too young we can be friends package.

Graciously accept rejection or be sure you'll feel shitty for wasting so much of your energy and time when you finally realize that something you're hoping for turned out to be nothing.

I was watching something on MSNBC about the Power of No. It seems that there is something built into our subconscience that makes us want something more when we are told we cannot/should not have it.

This was how Bernie Madoff was able to steal so much. He would tell his clients no at first and they would literally stalk him to get into one of his funds.

It is truly interesting to watch.

LOL@Treat you like a buddy. Oh when will we women learn!

Rejection followed by hugs and kisses is a mans way of having a relationship on HIS terms not her terms, it's not even going to be fair nor equal. If a woman sticks around for the buddy treatment "we just friends" treatment it's because that's the way he wanted it to be. A woman's willingness to stay gives him the greenlight to treat her like a friend/buddy and not much more than that.

Hugs don't mean shit. A hug is a hug is a hug. If he has not offered you anything but friendship then he is not in love with you. He like you a lot, he may even feel love but being in love is when he's taking you off the market and keeping you all to himself.

It's a mans way of remaining emotionally untied and single, have options as he steps on over her until the right one comes along which is why some women get the buddy friend and not the fiance husband.

I agree with others that mentioned meeting you half way. If this guy truly is interested he will meet you half way & anything less then meeting you half way means he is not interested in you enough to do something to get you and keep you.

@tiki33: you are one wise woman, other than taurusbull1977 🙂

@OP: he could give you all the hugs and kisses on the cheek but unless he plans on taking you off the market and asks to be official/exclusive with you, the hugs and kisses don't mean anything. Stop looking into this and find yourself someone else.

Update: only going to one class we have together. It is part of my fitness program and only offered at a time I can go. Anyway, after class, I'm packing up and leaving, he calls my name, I look up, he waves and winks at me. I be nice and say "good bye." I leave the studio and stopped to read bulletin board about a promotion. He comes up neXT to me and says "you did great job today." Then attempts to smack my ass with his towel. Quickly turn to the side, he hit's my gym bag. I reply, "thanks you, have a good weekend." ... and walk away. He doesn't seem to understand that he hurt my feelings, and I'm not interested in flirting. Seems more like a cruel joke now. Readers, what do you think?

Sophia,

Did he exhibit this behaviour (flirting, talking etc) prior to you asking him out?

Most likely will be ignoring him. Yes, he was flirty and talkative before I gave him my number. I did not ask him for a date. Gave him my number and told him I would enjoy talking to him more outside of the gym. Was hoping he would have accepted and called, but now I'm just upset and frustrated how he's behaving.

His behaviour hasn't changed.

Yours has.

Giving your number = asking out, dating, hanging out, getting to know someone more, whatever you want to call it. Same thing.

He didn't accept your kind offer.

You feel a bit hurt etc. You'll live.

Remember, sulking about it isn't an attractive trait.