I'm listeing to you Taurus....I hear you.

Do you like it if someone listens to your word (giving you exactly what you want) meaning if you say "We'll catch up when I am ready" and I back off and leave you completely alone? You only have to tell me once and then I am gone, I will give you all the space in the world and not bother you whatesoever which means that you will have to come back to me. Does that work for you or would you eventually get upset once you realize that I am not chasing you like others may have? Or am I supposed to send hello messages every now and then?

The thing I see is this. It is all good and well to expect certain things from other people, but can you expect it from your self. You need to direct the question to your self, how would you feel if this happened. Now it is easy to say, 'yes but we are not the same...' and right there I think most of us are exactly the same.

How would you feel? What would you expect? If you feel that something as simple as a hello message would really make a differnce in your day, then sure, it would be great to get that from time to time. As for chasing... Really... Again, I see relationships as 50/50. I would send my interest a message from time to time. I even call her, despite the fact that she is really driving me up the wall atm. But I want her to see that I am steady enough to weather all her storms because that is how much she means to me. But, if she doesn't even take the time to at least call me back once in a while or even send me a hello message why in hells name should I continue?

It is all give and take. You can't give all the time, nor take all the time... Sure, he said 'We'll catch up when I am ready' but in what way are you seeing this. Are you seeing it as; Hey, he isn't interested let us back off and see if he comes after me? What is your perception of what he said. How well do you know him?

I would say we like to set some boundaries, but I as sure as hell won't be mad if you break them, especially if your heart and intentions are honest and pure.

I could reverse this. Do you like it if a guy listens to your word? And if you told him to not come by the office again and 2 months later he comes by and brings you gifts for your birthday, would that be ok. Or should he leave you till you realize what he is doing for you and have made up your mind. Or should he just back off and maybe send a hello message from time to time? It is also heavily contextual.

This is just how I see it. We don't mind at all. We care, we are passionate, we love deeply, but we are also human and also have to face sht like the rest. Sometimes, when it is at it's worst, we really like to get a message or have someone there even though we might have asked otherwise. First ask your self. If you don't like it, then neither would he, if you do, then so would he 😉

Posted by OmagaIII
The thing I see is this. It is all good and well to expect certain things from other people, but can you expect it from your self. You need to direct the question to your self, how would you feel if this happened. Now it is easy to say, 'yes but we are not the same...' and right there I think most of us are exactly the same.

How would you feel? What would you expect? If you feel that something as simple as a hello message would really make a differnce in your day, then sure, it would be great to get that from time to time. As for chasing... Really... Again, I see relationships as 50/50. I would send my interest a message from time to time. I even call her, despite the fact that she is really driving me up the wall atm. But I want her to see that I am steady enough to weather all her storms because that is how much she means to me. But, if she doesn't even take the time to at least call me back once in a while or even send me a hello message why in hells name should I continue?

It is all give and take. You can't give all the time, nor take all the time... Sure, he said 'We'll catch up when I am ready' but in what way are you seeing this. Are you seeing it as; Hey, he isn't interested let us back off and see if he comes after me? What is your perception of what he said. How well do you know him?

I would say we like to set some boundaries, but I as sure as hell won't be mad if you break them, especially if your heart and intentions are honest and pure.

I could reverse this. Do you like it if a guy listens to your word? And if you told him to not come by the office again and 2 months later he comes by and brings you gifts for your birthday, would that be ok. Or should he leave you till you realize what he is doing for you and have made up your mind. Or should he just back off and maybe send a hello message from time to time? It is also heavily contextual.

This is just how I see it. We don't mind at all. We care, we are passionate, we love deeply, but we are also human and also have to face sht like the rest. Sometimes, when it is at it's worst, we really like to get a message or have someone there even though we might have asked otherwise. First ask your self. If you don't like it, then neither would he, if you do, then so would he 😉

Bravo! You're amazing. I never thought of it that way and my reason for doing so is out of fear. I can take reject

Sorry, it's my computer OmegaIII. I can't take rejection so I took his words as "leave me alone and I will get back to you when I am ready." Some people are better at seeing something different than I am (I'm working on not always looking at the negative) but sure, I would like to I just thought I would be granting his wishes.

I totally get what you mean. We know each other pretty well but it will take more time of course. I am getting used to the silence and pulling back phase.

One thing is for sure is that I refuse to keep giving. It seems that I have always done that; always giving and getting nothing in return which got me nowhere so I only give so much and then I will let it go. I'm at the age where I can't see myself "chasing" after any guy and nor do I expect him to chase me. Maybe that's my issue...I'm getting old. LOL.

You're seriously over thinking it.