Instigating Jealousy

Two nights ago my Cancer boyfriend purposely and successfully got me to explode in a jealous rage. Normally when we go to parties he sticks with me or hangs out with our group of friends. There was a new girl who introduced herself to the group and complimented him. I made a joke about him being mine. And he made a point to walk over to the other side of the group and actually stuck by her for a while, giggling, leaning into her and shit. He glanced over at me, maybe three times, and then started "casually" touching her shoulder and arm. I totally lost it. I left and he followed all the while "innocently" asking what was wrong. I KNOW he did it purposely. He looked fucking GIDDY when I got upset.

Our relationship has had a really tense two weeks over something really stupid, so I feel like he's been feeling insecure and wanted to me show I cared by getting jealous.
Since that night he has been, almost desperately, affectionate and cuddly but I feel disgusted and angry that he seems smugly satisfied that he got the reaction he wanted out of me.
Anyway I've put up a huge wall between us. Not purposely, but it's there nonetheless. I feel really manipulated and disrespected. I don't really think I can still be with him after that.

So my fellow Bulls has a love interest purposely inciting jealousy, been enough to drive you away from them?

It could. Maybe not crack the wall, but it would certainly drive a wedge in things. Food for thought, a pause, a stutter.
To may way of thinking it equates with game. Mental acrobatics I've no use for in that arena. Someone who professes to care for me wouldn't find it 'cute' to try to incite me into a rage or hurt me using a well known character trait as a tool or bargaining chip. The ice would begin. A feather of it on the window. You don't win someone through pain, and you don't keep them like that either. Manipulation blows. Also on the other side of that, it's a justification at times for someone to go "Well, your jealousy and temper'..oh rilly? When you were the one poking me with a cattle prod for your own vanity? NICE.
I would begin to wonder if that's a continuing pattern that is thought to keep things on the level for their emotional 'well being'

Posted by RoseTheTaurus


Our relationship has had a really tense two weeks over something really stupid

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Anyway I've put up a huge wall between us. Not purposely, but it's there nonetheless. I feel really manipulated and disrespected. I don't really think I can still be with him after that.

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Theres a word called communication I think you and him need to introduce yourselves to it.