Is this slow or normal? How long do you take to decide about someone?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by AriesJo on Sunday, March 4, 2018 and has 2 replies.

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@AriesJo
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I've been seeing this Taurus woman and things are really nice, I just worry sometimes things are too slow? Like I've known her a month and we've seen each other six times, and seeing her again next week. So typically once a week? She works in a club so it's been kinda difficult to take it to the next level. But I like it so far, as past relationship have been too quick and ended badly. I don't know if I should be asking her out more? Or waiting to see if she suggests things? Because I need to know how she feels myself? Things are really good when we are together, I just usually have to say goodbye as she has work. But from what I've read, this is completely normal? Taurus women need time make a decision about someone?

I've asked questions like this before, my brother and my dad are Taurus, they said this is normal and just keep going how I am. I have three good Taurus guys friends. One said it's what happens with him, he needs time to make a decision, he married to another Taurus though. Then two said no it's too slow, one proposed to his wife after four months and he said it should be quicker, but then I asked him in more detail, and he took three months of dating, once a week before they had sex, then he proposed one month after that. So that's three months, which is ages. Then the other one said he wanted to see his wife every day when they got together, but asking him too, he saw her once a week in a dance class for a year, before asking her out. So I dunno, is it too slow but that's normal? Once a week I mean. We always plan the next date to look forward too, which is kinda nice. I think if I ask her out more, she will say yes, so I don't know why I don't do that. But I really get this feeling, until she starts asking me out, then she's still in decision mode? And she was suggesting things last time we were out, like day trips together, maybe I just wait to see he next time and try to organise day things with her.

Also something else, she has a job interview at the end of the month for a job abroad, so maybe she won't want anything until she knows about that?

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@Ilovemyaqua
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So it's just been a month? You're unnecessarily stressing out. I, for a fact, am slow as fuck! I never know if I'm sure, lol.

In your case I think you need to give her some time. Go with the flow. In another month or two, if you want, you can ask her if you guys can hang out more.

As of now, even texting often is a good idea.

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