Male Taurus's sudden change

Hi peeps. I work with this younger Taurus guy (20), he's mature for his age but at times still a kid. I'm 25 and usually date guys older, so i never really considered him. He see each other a bit and ended up going to a few work drinks together. I've been having a few stressful weeks so let myself drink more than usual and flirt quite a bit with him (we always pick at each other in the childish kind of way), so he ended up making the move and we went to my place after a bunch of compliments my way and how he started having fantasies about me a few months back. Important thing to add - he's religious and a virgin... So once i sobered up i didn't know what to do with him (i've asked a few times whether we can forget about him being religious and was rejected). We ended up in the same place a week later and i just kept getting confused and sexually frustrated. He would message me constantly and I would play it cool, frustrating him. I guess somewhere during that time i started liking the way he pursued me and bought me drinks and food and was taking care of me... The third time we almost went to mine i told him to go home as this is confusing for me and logically we can't be together, i'm not exactly religious and if push comes to shove i don't think his parent will accept me and there's the whole sex thing etc. I pushed him away and regretted it a bit.

We talked the next day and it turned out he doesn't want anything more than casual (with eventually having sex with me) as he's recently out of the relationship. It came as a shock as these couple of weeks i felt like i have a love sick puppy who's had a crush on me for ages and wanted to spend time with me. Working together and being sort of friends I also thought he likes me for who I am, not just the looks.

We've spoken a few times after and i asked him to hang out at the arcade with me yesterday, so we did and it was fun but a bit awkward, we steered clear of each other, bought our own food and the convo was dry. He did message me later at night that he had fun and i answered then that's it. He feels like a different person now.

I do think he's got a nice personality and i miss being around him, cuddling up to him and being admired. I guess i was just scared and confused and went about the wrong way starting with taking him home. Any suggestions on how i can fix this mess up and have a chance at dating him?

Thank you
Gemini

1. Taurus don't really rush into sex, or even if they are virgin they might fall in love easily.
2. If you want more than that you have to respect the fact he is a virgin and religious.
3. It can be incompatible sexually for awhile, until he is ready.
4. Yes casual sex even for a virgin can be sinned.

Thanks FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428. Well now the issue is he wants casual and i want romance. I'm happy to hang as friends and see if i do really like him romantically and not just because he was really attentive but i don't want to seem clingy and asking him out all the time.

Hm yeah I suggest you do the casual and perhaps do other things, get to know each other better, just be friends...

He wants casual sex despite being a virgin for religious reasons.
You want romance and the trimming that come with a relationship.

That doesn't look like a match to me.

I'd look closely at what you want in life, from him, and what might happen down the line.

If you build a friendship with him and you both put effort in over time, without sex and without any sexual behaviour, to get to know each other then I'd say ok. I don't think this is going to work for you though. I don't think it's what you're looking for right now.

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Posted by AgentP911
He wants casual sex despite being a virgin for religious reasons.
You want romance and the trimming that come with a relationship.

That doesn't look like a match to me.

I'd look closely at what you want in life, from him, and what might happen down the line.

If you build a friendship with him and you both put effort in over time, without sex and without any sexual behaviour, to get to know each other then I'd say ok. I don't think this is going to work for you though. I don't think it's what you're looking for right now.

Agreed ^^^^.

@OP, there is a saying which says "if in doubt ; leave it out". You would do well to follow this..

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Meh... I was only regurgitating your example Busy!

Thank you everyone, will stay friends and see if it goes anywhere.

Will get out there again and meet guys... meh lol

Posted by AgentP911
He wants casual sex despite being a virgin for religious reasons.
You want romance and the trimming that come with a relationship.

That doesn't look like a match to me.

I'd look closely at what you want in life, from him, and what might happen down the line.

If you build a friendship with him and you both put effort in over time, without sex and without any sexual behaviour, to get to know each other then I'd say ok. I don't think this is going to work for you though. I don't think it's what you're looking for right now.

I agree. Men will always take what they can get. Your needs are not being met and I don't think giving in to him will help you win the relationship you want with him. He'll respect you more for standing up for yourself even if your opinions differ. Taurus guys are like that.