Need help with a Taurus woman?

Hi. I'll start at the beginning. I'm a capricorn man and recently met a Taurus. She was introduced by a mutual friend who knew both of our situations and how we were and thought we'd be perfect. Come to find out, we met and sparks flew. I'm extremely awkward and scared of social situations, unless have already known the person, and so is she so combined we were very quiet at first. We had finally had a moment and so happened to look it into each other's eyes, and I felt a strong array of emotions run through me and it seemed mutual. So me, being awakward like I am, told her and it was indeed mutual. So we hung out the whole weekend around mutual friends til she left. Well, once she left we started talking. From sun down to sun up talking and texting back and forth. She understood my ways, and how I was weird, and I understood hers. We both seemed perfect. We were on the same ground and same level.

Well, she came back to hang out for a few days. Drink beer, play video games, nothing serious. Although, it was upsetting because we had talked about all kinda affectionate things, but since we were both awkward and in person now our awkwardness collided and much conversation was not had, especially since we were in a large group of friends. I'm a paranoid and negative thinker, so I got upset thinking it was me, still knowing she's quiet and awkward too. The sweetheart she is, she came and comforted me and told me to be myself and stop being nervous. She told me she loved me for me. It felt amazing to finally feel accepted and a soft touch, and to have comfort. Well I still remained quiet and awkward because I wanted to talk but just couldn't. It drove me wild. So I devised a lovely plan to invite her over to just hang out, move slow and be just friends as to not rush anything. It took a lot to ask, but she said yes. Well come a few hours later, I asked if she was ready and she said she had never agreed to that. This being what I thought was her last night in town and just wanting to get to know her, I instantly turned into a hothead and got upset. It was a feeling I was all to familiar with and upset me deeply. I ended up punching a pillar and fracturing my hand and busted a window out. and her having a past of abuse and other horrible things. She got up and went and sat in the bathroom and cried while I sat in the next room over doing the same felling horrible.

Friends told me to just give it a rest, but me too being a stubborn I just wanted to simply t

Posted by Dwax

So I devised a lovely plan to invite her over to just hang out, move slow and be just friends as to not rush anything. It took a lot to ask, but she said yes. Well come a few hours later, I asked if she was ready and she said ,she had never agreed to that. This being what I thought was her last night in town and just wanting to get to know her, I instantly turned into a hothead and got upset.

You're a bit of a hot-head but my instincts tells me that you're genuinely sweet. 🙂 There was a mis-communication between this Taurus woman and yourself. You were nervous, afraid to take that emotional risk, and the attempt to be methodical lead to an ambiguity in communication. You meant one thing, but the assertion was poorly executed.

You suggested a friendship....what you probably meant was a gradual courtship.......

You suggested a friendship...she agreed...
You, then suggested a potential relationship...and was under the assumption that she agreed to this proposition.

Communication isn't your forte.

When you apologize, don't just tell her you're sorry. Be a little more detailed in your explanation.

You're a Cappy. She's a Bull. You're both earth signs. Just be yourself. Leave no room for anxieties. She likes you just the way you are!

That's the thing though, I'm never a hot head about anything. My friends even got scared, because they never see me get that mad or upset.

I'm willing to be just her friend if that's what it takes. I too don't like to rush things, I get even more uncomfortable and even more awkward.

My friends all told me to just leave her alone and what's done is done, she doesn't want to speak. But the friend who introduced us said just wait a few days and she'll probably talk. She even told me she would talk to me tomorrow, but I was stubborn and persistent and she ended up just going home.

I'm a capricorn, so I'm always honest and sincere. She likes me for me, so I think when it does come time I'm just going to really tell her. She told others she understand why I did what i did, so I might still be in the clear.

This all happened last night. I was gonna get some nice flowers to send with my friend back home to give to her and maybe wait a few days to contact. Do Taurus's hold grudges or anything? I just want her to forgive me.

Posted by Dwax

I'm willing to be just her friend if that's what it takes. I too don't like to rush things, I get even more uncomfortable and even more awkward.

Don't let this advice go over the top of your head.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

You suggested a friendship....what you probably meant was a gradual courtship.......

You suggested a friendship...she agreed...
You, then suggested a potential relationship...and was under the assumption that she agreed to this proposition.

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During a gradual courtship...nothing is being rushed. It's showing romantic interest without risking the issue of being friend-zoned. Two individuals that are getting to know each other slowly.

Posted by Dwax
From sun down to sun up talking and texting back and forth. She understood my ways, and how I was weird, and I understood hers. We both seemed perfect. We were on the same ground and same level.

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She told others she understand why I did what i did, so I might still be in the clear.

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Do Taurus's hold grudges or anything? I just want her to forgive me.

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I believe she has already forgiven you. I doubt she's holding a grudge. Proceed with sending her flowers, and tell her you would like a gradual courtship. You're romantically interested in her, but you prefer to take things slow.


Attempting to insert [friend] repeatedly will either land you in the 'friend zone' or in the 'dog house.'

That's exactly what we had. We told each other I'm yours and you're mine, but we weren't dating. She told me that and wanted to ensure me she was not going anywhere.

Would it be best to call her today, or wait a few days since it just happened last night?

Also she has blocked me on Facebook and blocked my number also so contact might be hard. I was told by someone she only blocked me last night to stop me from being persistent and give her rest time, and would unblock me soon.

Posted by Dwax

Would it be best to call her today, or wait a few days since it just happened last night?

Wait a few days...
She will unblock you.

Word of advice: When the horns are up, a Bull will chaaaaaaarge!

Being persistent in this case will lead to disastrous results.

Let it ride out a few days, she will utilize this time to recharge.

The both of you will be OK 🙂

I'm just going to wait a few days and go with the getting flowers and writing her a sincere and apologetic letter. I've always heard Taurus's are good at seeing through people's phoney or fakeness, so if this true she'll hopefully come back because I don't lie or front, and when talking about my feelings i get deep into it because not many people get to hear or know what war is going on in my head.

She seemed to legitimately understand me, so hopefully all will work out.

I've always heard caps and Taurus were supposed to be soul mates, but damn. I fell extremely hard for this girl, extremely quick which is not of my usual nature. Gonna be so hurtful to spend my birthday Wednesday alone, knowing she was going to give me a little surprise party. What a way to start the new year aye? :/

You have to cool that temper. Reading this, I don't think the two of you are godo together...not if you will get out of character and explode like that for that reason. If no control is there that's dangerous. Just fall all the way back and hope that one day she'll come to you.

That's the thing though, I never loose my temper like that. Some of the people in the room have known me for 10 years or more and have never seen me like that. I'm always a really sweet, kind, and gentle person. Sure I get mad and upset like everyone else, we all do but I always seclude myself from others to not even say the slightest mean thing or acting out. I guess that's where the stereotypical capricorn acting cold and aloof comes into play. I don't like to hurt people, because it always hurts me more than it does them.

Thats my point. I see it as a too close for comfort situation. Unless you get to the root of what made you flip it will happen again because you are not in control of your emotions when it comes to her. Again, thats a dangerous thing clearly. Take some steps back. She will aways have her own mind and be her own person...you gotta figure out if you can handle that by not trying to control her or not losing control of you.

Posted by Dwax
I've always heard Taurus's are good at seeing through people's phoney or fakeness,

^^^^ This is very true. The two of you will be OK.....I'm sure she already sensed you were genuine. 🙂

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Thats my point. I see it as a too close for comfort situation. Unless you get to the root of what made you flip it will happen again because you are not in control of your emotions when it comes to her. Again, thats a dangerous thing clearly. Take some steps back. She will aways have her own mind and be her own person...you gotta figure out if you can handle that by not trying to control her or not losing control of you.

What made me upset was I thought it was her last night in town, and I asked her if she would like to come over so we could actually get to know each other in private. Nothing serious just hanging out, pizza and video games. An she had agreed to it, and then a few hours later said she had not. It sent me back to past women and past failures which I know is my fault for bringing them into this. But I just wasn't thinking clearly. And when I got mad and started yelling, it sent her back to her childhood somewhere she doesn't want to go. It was just a miscommunication on both parties.

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Posted by Dwax
I've always heard Taurus's are good at seeing through people's phoney or fakeness,

^^^^ This is very true. The two of you will be OK.....I'm sure she already sensed you were genuine. 🙂

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Yeah, she told someone she understands and knows that everyone has off days. She told me once she could tell I was genuine and not like the rest of the assholes, so I'm sure she knows.