Relationship Flaws

How long does it take for a Taurus to commit ? My bd told me the other day he loves me he told me three times to my face then he texted me it twice which I know he’s not good at expressing emotions. He told me an year ago he loved me. He also tells me he likes me and he’s always here for me. I asked him where do we stand he says we are good and we are cool. I do love him we just been thru hell for the last year we been seeing each other for 2 years now. He’s always busy so plus our work schedules it’s hard to see each other but we always try to make time for him to see our daughter. We are trying to better our relationship for our daughter we finally talked out our issues. Now I feel like he’s coming around. I told him I was done seeing him couple times it’s like he doesn’t want me too. Lately I been confused with my emotions and I’m mentally exhausted I pray things get better in time. I just want to know if this is worth waiting for or not. So I know how to handle what type of relationship with him. He says I’m his mami for sure.

What's his other placements?

So he loves you. And you have a child together. And you love him...

And you don’t have time to date...

Why not ya fuck just move in together—

Something doesn’t add up...😱

Virgo 🌝 Gemini Mars Gemini Venus

Posted by PurtyWingzFly2

Virgo 🌝 Gemini Mars Gemini Venus

Which part of him is taurus? lol

Geminis are wishy washy and hard to commit, they crave excitement and stimulation which may explain lack of commitment but at this stage you gotta ask yourself how much more life are you giving to someone who cant even commit to date after y'alls history that you have together?

What are some of the current relationship problems?

Is this reconciliation duty-bound (out of obligations for the child), or an emotional connection between the both of you that still exists?

Something tells me it's not the latter.

Are you his only baby mama?

I'm getting a "Future" (the rapper) vibe from this guy.

A serial 'impregnator' who loves to possess the women he has children with.

I think he has other children with multiple women, thus, the reason for not residing with you and non-committal issues.

Unfortunately for Future, it didn't go well with Ciara, the other ones, just stood in line...waiting and competing, like trained puppies.

Be Ciara.

Don't be a trained 'puppy.'

No I’m not the only one. My baby is the baby. I been knowing him for two years. He said in a couple years he said he’s not going to force anything. I told him I’m going to leave and he makes the point to make sure I don’t. He told me he gets mad I talk bout his other bms and other females. I hate that he always tried to use things to get a reaction out of me for reassurance. That’s the most definitely annoying thing. He does ask bout our daughter he don’t see her much due to our work schedules. Our relationship isn’t the best I always feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him and he says we are good he doesn’t have no issues with me in his book. But he’s very vague he says he likes me I asked why he does he doesn’t tell me. Like I don’t think he’s a good communicator at all because he doesn’t open up much now due to I rejected him while pregnant.

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Posted by PurtyWingzFly2

Virgo 🌝 Gemini Mars Gemini Venus

Which part of him is taurus? lol

Geminis are wishy washy and hard to commit, they crave excitement and stimulation which may explain lack of commitment but at this stage you gotta ask yourself how much more life are you giving to someone who cant even commit to date after y'alls history that you have together?

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Taurus is his sun and he also has other Taurus in his chart. I told him I don’t know if I want to waste years of trying to wait around. And he told me he’s not going to force anything but if that’s how I feel he’s always here for me. It’s lije he can’t let me go for some reason. I didn’t talk to him for months while I was pregnant and he came back around. I been knowing him for 4 years but we been messing around for 2 years. He told me he loved me to my face last year then he told me he loved me last week 3 times in my face. We had issues last year. For some reason he needs reassurance because he kept asking me if I love him and he told me misses me time from time.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Do you currently have him on child support?

He either has three motives.

1. He is feeding you 'empty' promises so that you do not take him to the courts for child support. From what I have witnessed from other women's experiences, when things are sweet, reciprocated and mutual, there is a delay in obtaining financial support for the child. As long as their emotional needs are being addressed, the financial support and well-being of the child gets cast aside. If things go sour, then it's "hello courts" I need "financial support for my child."

2. He is currently providing for your child, and knows that there may be a slight retaliation from you if he he doesn't give you the indication that there might be a chance for a reconciliation. Happy Baby Mama= Increased visitation of the child. You referenced that he doesn't see her much due to the conflicting work schedules. Do you have to be present every time he sees his child? Why isn't a custody visit arranged without you bein present?

Do you currently have him on child support?

He either has three motives.

1. He is feeding you 'empty' promises so that you do not take him to the courts for child support. From what I have witnessed from other women's experiences, when things are sweet, reciprocated and mutual, there is a delay in obtaining financial support for the child. As long as their emotional needs are being addressed, the financial support and well-being of the child gets cast aside. If things go sour, then it's "hello courts" I need "financial support for my child."

2. He is currently providing for your child, and knows that there may be a slight retaliation from you if he he doesn't give you the indication that there might be a chance for a reconciliation. Happy Baby Mama= Increased visitation of the child. You referenced that he doesn't see her much due to the conflicting work schedules. Do you have to be present every time he sees his child? Why isn't a custody visit arranged without you being present?

3. There is manipulation on both sides. He wants to control you. You want to control him. The only difference? Your objective is to soldify a relationship. His objective is to have a convenient piece of @ss without the committment.

The vague communication isn't the issue. It's not holding himself accountable to 'smooth talk with empty promises.'

Lip service aside, you need to define to him what you want and need in the relationship.

Getting I love you texts doesn’t make up for time he should be spending with you and his kid.

Noise is noise. Actions are where priorities lie.

The whole ‘I don’t have time to see my daughter because I’m busy at work’ is some epic bs that you seem willing to eat.

Plenty of parents out there who work MULTIPLE jobs PLUS nightschool and still make sure to drive their kids to school, tuck them in at night, etc. etc. aka invest in their lives. He needs to step up in his child’s life.

Who tf cares about your romantic relationship. That’s secondary to your child’s development.

He’s not off til I go into work. My brother keeps my daughter and damn sure aren’t making no excuses at all what so ever. He hears my mouth a lot and I don’t really keep in contact with him less it’s bout our daughter. I think we both used each other for sex. I don’t want to control him he does what he pleases and I can’t stop someone from doing what they do. I just want to control my own emotions. I don’t speak on emotions. He does that I don’t. I ask him all the time why can’t he be honest if he just wants sex we are grown like I don’t do well with hints. I’m too straightforward like why can’t he come out and say it. I know actions speak louder than words but I don’t see why he’s trying to hold on to me when he got other females makes no sense.

I confront him all the time bout his behavior. I tell him to go see other people we both single. He says things like relationship I don’t. I know for a fact where I stand I just don’t understand the sweet talk and dumb ass bs. I’m not dumb I called him all the time. I act accordingly I don’t give him credit for things he doesn’t do. And he can be possessive all he wants he can’t control me. Hell he thought I had a guy the whole time anyways since I been dealing with him. He has other kids I get that as well but I told him he uses the baby to get to me so he can cut that bs off cause it’s not working clearly. I’m not dumb I don’t play games so I don’t get why he even tries just for sex that he been getting. He told me a year ago I was too childish for a relationship. I can show the text I sent him.

No lie I been wanting to say this for a long ass time. How come you just don't come out and say you just want sex so we can quit the bs. One thing I can't stand is the sweet talk bs that you do. I know you don't love me and no lie I don't understand why you came back in contact with me is this all a front ? Tell me what it is on your terms I'm never confused where I stand I'm confused on where you stand cause I guess we aren't on the same level at all. I let that dumb bs get the best of me again. You can't allow things go back to what they use to be specially there's a child involved. So I just don't get it. You are right the only thing we ever did was messed around. We hardly don't have nothing in common. I just try to be civil with you due to the fact now we actually have to communicate cause of our daughter. And yes my convos is going to be bout her. So really what I want is the final answer is if you don't want to be around for her let's just stop talking straight up. On a 💯 tip cause I'm not going to waste years of the same bs and it never changed. It's not fair to her and damn sure ain't fair for me to try to make her have a relationship with someone that doesn't seem interested of being around. Nothing is bout money all the time but I didn't make her by myself. I know you by now so why can't you just be honest with yourself. I think you only come around just for sex cause I go by actions. I don't overthink anything I read vibes and that's what I get. No lie I do believe you still love your other bm and that's coo but at the end of the day you only hurting yourself. So lmk what's up on your behalf. you said I was the only one fw but you said that last year & I wasn't the only one then so why would I believe that i am ? Sex does get old it damn sure won't keep someone around I'm human I have feelings. I actually did like you but I just can't see myself associated with you like that. Also to be a team you have to learn how to communicate build and grow I just don't see that in process. I got to do what's best for me and keep me happy for my daughter. You don't understand what I got to go thru and you wouldn't never give a damn prob anyways.

Oh I already did. I’m coo off of him. I already told him I’m done with him. He told me he hopes I find me a man that can give me what I need and the love I deserve. His daughter told me he did the exact same thing to her mom so had nothing to do with me.

He doesn’t have no emotional tie to anyone. His daughter just told me he doesn’t spend time with them like that. So I don’t understand why does he even waste his time coming around frfr. Cause my daughter isn’t hurting from nothing. He only worries bout his sons basketball.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Do you currently have him on child support?

He either has three motives.

1. He is feeding you 'empty' promises so that you do not take him to the courts for child support. From what I have witnessed from other women's experiences, when things are sweet, reciprocated and mutual, there is a delay in obtaining financial support for the child. As long as their emotional needs are being addressed, the financial support and well-being of the child gets cast aside. If things go sour, then it's "hello courts" I need "financial support for my child."

2. He is currently providing for your child, and knows that there may be a slight retaliation from you if he he doesn't give you the indication that there might be a chance for a reconciliation. Happy Baby Mama= Increased visitation of the child. You referenced that he doesn't see her much due to the conflicting work schedules. Do you have to be present every time he sees his child? Why isn't a custody visit arranged without you bein present?

Do you currently have him on child support?

He either has three motives.

1. He is feeding you 'empty' promises so that you do not take him to the courts for child support. From what I have witnessed from other women's experiences, when things are sweet, reciprocated and mutual, there is a delay in obtaining financial support for the child. As long as their emotional needs are being addressed, the financial support and well-being of the child gets cast aside. If things go sour, then it's "hello courts" I need "financial support for my child."

2. He is currently providing for your child, and knows that there may be a slight retaliation from you if he he doesn't give you the indication that there might be a chance for a reconciliation. Happy Baby Mama= Increased visitation of the child. You referenced that he doesn't see her much due to the conflicting work schedules. Do you have to be present every time he sees his child? Why isn't a custody visit arranged without you being present?

3. There is manipulation on both sides. He wants to control you. You want to control him. The only difference? Your objective is to soldify a relationship. His objective is to have a convenient piece of @ss without the committment.

The vague communication isn't the issue. It's not holding himself accountable to 'smooth talk with empty promises.'

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I already told him bout court. I think number one sounds bout right! I think he uses the baby to get to me so I don’t put him on support. He said let’s be a team but he doesn’t know how to communicate well. I asked him what’s the issue he says it’s cause I bring up other females I do that so he can stop trying to do something with me. I really don’t think he wants a relationship with me and I don’t think I want much with him. I’m just trying to figure out on how to handle this situation the best way. I don’t want to be bitter or anything but I think I’m fed up. He doesn’t do anything really I shouldn’t have to tell someone what they need to do. I can careless if he’s with someone tbh I think I need to stop playing his game back on him. Cause he always trying to possess me so I bring up other females on purpose.

Welcome, the future generation...

Posted by ScorpioTruth

Very well said @TaurusBull1977 I admire your ability to give logical and solid advice without getting all emotional and passionate like I do LMAO 😍😍😍

I have always admired that about earth signs.

Thanks.

Scorps rock too 😉

@PurtyWings,

I presume it's both 1 & 3.

You want a reconciliation.

...And yes....

You're using the child to solidify your ties with him as well.

It's simple.

Take him to court for child support.

Set up a visitations without you being present.

Accept the fact that you're not in a relationship.

Your child should be your top priority, not him.

If you want astrological advice in regards to Bulls....

The Taurus men are REAL men.

The strong, duty-bound, protective silent types.

They're more action-oriented.

Talk is cheap for them.

You have a controlling man-boy on your hands who will NEVER commit.

Not all Taurus men are honorable.

They're black-sheeps in the bunch.

They DO exist.

I meet some Taurus just like this. I know a few in my life and thanks I think I’ll do what’s best for me! 💯

I’m a Leo anyways so that’s prob why we won’t reach a point and I can careless bout a romantic relationship all my convos bout my daughter with him. Not me or him. I never put my emotions out I know I’m a Leo with a Taurus moon so I take forever to be in a relationship. I don’t force vibes.

Posted by PurtyWingzFly2

How long does it take for a Taurus to commit ? My bd told me the other day he loves me he told me three times to my face then he texted me it twice which I know he’s not good at expressing emotions. He told me an year ago he loved me. He also tells me he likes me and he’s always here for me. I asked him where do we stand he says we are good and we are cool. I do love him we just been thru hell for the last year we been seeing each other for 2 years now. He’s always busy so plus our work schedules it’s hard to see each other but we always try to make time for him to see our daughter. We are trying to better our relationship for our daughter we finally talked out our issues. Now I feel like he’s coming around. I told him I was done seeing him couple times it’s like he doesn’t want me too. Lately I been confused with my emotions and I’m mentally exhausted I pray things get better in time. I just want to know if this is worth waiting for or not. So I know how to handle what type of relationship with him. He says I’m his mami for sure.

Going through hell together (as you say) is the greatest commitment of all.