Routine, change and demanding my time.

Omg, Mr Taurus is a man of routine! Same thing day in, day out! Don't get me wrong, I find it quite amusing and somewhat sweet - I know he does it because change makes him anxious.

However, like it or not he DOES have some changes looming, things beyond his control, and he's getting his knickers in a knot over it - anxiety and upset, not sleeping too well.

So, I'm incredibly supportive, i listen, I take the time to acknowledge and don't scoff at his troubles even when they seem quite simple to me - all of which he loves because he's an incredibly open person and spills his emotions out like water that flows from a bucket, down the garden and out into the gutter.

Thing is, I've got my own shit going on at the moment - I'm moving house and am busy packing, I'm leaving my business and am dealing with lawyers and the ex husband for both of these things. I'm knackered, I'm stressed and well, i just don't have the energy to listen to Mr Taurus bleet on the way that he does. I'm human, I'm just so emotionally tired and not capable of lengthy discussions right now.

Tips to show support but not get too involved—

I've explained I have my own stuff to do and he knows that, is fine with that - yet he's still trying to dominate my time with his anxieties.


(Oh, and for anyone who wishes to presume re the ex-husband: It's been three years since we split,we're amicable and friendly, but we still owned a business together and now I feel it's time for me to change career, hence leaving my current situation - ain't nothing to do with being newly split).

Jesus, my head is full!

Hmmm. I would say that during times of upset, when I have need... Whether its just an ear or arms round me tight..is just knowing someone is there. Holding me up when I can't hold myself up. It's rare that I will admit even to myself that 'I need'. That he's open enough to tell you, and that you listen. Both good things.
Now the tricky bit. You've a life, things to wrap up on your end. He knows you're there for him, I doubt it stops him from reaching out and making sure ( over and over as you've seen ). I'd do the same thing. Just keep reaching out and touching.
Perhaps setting up a certain day of the week. "Okay love, on Wednesday we'll talk about everything. As long as you like, and about whatever you like. But I have things I must accomplish the rest of the week. I'm here for you, you know that. That bit goes without question." But ahhh, take that in reverse and give him back yours. What you're going through as well. And stroke his hand, the big lug. Loads of kisses in all the right places. Forehead, temples, corners of his mouth comfort.. lay your forehead on his and look into his eyes. "HERE for you."
Now, he's a big lad. Hair in all the right places and a brain rattling about in his cranium. He knows full well about taking care of business, he should be mature enough to wrap his head round that. But I will tell you in all honesty that sometimes that spider skittering round needs squashed on occasion. It likes to tiptoe all over the gray matter needing reassurances until its satisfied that yes indeed, someone is there. This too shall pass.

Thank you so much! Yes, he does forget to not demand because he's in a flap and while he knows I'm finishing up some stressful stuff, he still brings me his crap in full force. I think I'll just have to be more forceful that i will sort my stuff and be there for his when I'm done with the more pressing daily activities.

God, so tired!

Exactly lady. And you need someone to unload on too from time to time. He musn't forget that. And if nothing else, de-stress here. At least it's going somewhere, eh? 🙂

Trust me they don't need any support. They can do well without support, in fact that is how they want things to be. But from their soul mate they would expect emotional support, just give that. Be caring and that will triple their already oozing energy.