Taurus and

I??ve been dating my Taurus for a year and 8 mths. We've had several discussions about him not being communicative about our relationship or how he feels. He knows I desperately want kids (he has two already), last week I told him that I don't want to wait until I'm 40 (I'm 37) and then we break up, and it's too late. He's adamant about being married first which I totally understand but feel if he's not telling me that our relationship is going in that direction then I have to make a choice on whether to stay or go. This weekend we were talking and we discussed the child situation, he promised he wouldn't make me wait too long (for marriage). I was kind of shocked that he's hinting about marriage because he's never even told me he loves me. He does a lot of things for me and always makes sure I'm taken care of when it comes to my car or home, but I have difficulty reading how he feels. My friend married a Taurus. after dating for 5-6 years even when they got married he never told her he loved her. Is this normal Taurus behavior?

Hi DaBull,

I knew he had issues with saying those three words. When we first started dating he told me his ex was the only woman he said that to and she thought he was soft. He used to always say when a woman knows she has your heart she??ll take advantage. So I know he may be leary, thinking I??ll change and it's better he keep his verbal expressions to himself.

DaBull,

I just recently told him I love him, at this point he knows I do even before I said it. I just figured he??d say it back so it tripped me out when he started saying things liked —I never said I couldn't see myself with you for the next 30 years??. I'm thinking is that a round about way of saying he wants to eventually get married??

Yeah I figured as much. I understand a long time but close to 2 years, man that seems so strange. But since I'm a Cancer and free with emotions I guess it would seem strange.

Yeah I can tell sometimes but I sense he's just confused about how he feels, I know he cares but I feel he is confused about whether he is in love. He's very unemotional, almost robotic and this is what makes me think he didn't really deeply care. I??ve never meant anyone that appears so detached it's only when I mentioned maybe we need to rethink our relationship, that he comes on full speed. I don't use this to make him behave that way, at the moment I truly feel that way because of his lack of emotion, so when he gives hints about marriage it totally throws me for a loop.

I looked it up previously, I think it is Aries. What does that mean?

Yes you are right Star. I guess since he was so unemotional I wasn't sure how he felt, I even questioned if he even liked me. But if he's talking married in the future that eliminates questions in my mind. One thing I have learned is Taurus men are usually stand up people, they say exactly what they thing.. Knowing Taurus men are bad about communication helps, it makes me feel it's not about his lack of feelings for me. I was just shocked because I was so unsure of how he felt for me. I figure most men would have said something to give me a clue. He told me he thinks about us a lot but never talks about it out of fear I will begin to apply pressure, which I am guilty of when we first started dating, guess I brought him not communicating about his plans on myself..

Posted by Starfish225
Alluv: if he is this way now what do you expect after marriage— It does not get better..Taurus men are awful at communication just period. You either can deal with it and except it or you can't..Better decide what you can do before the nuptials..

She's right!
I've been with a Taurus man for 10 years now. It took him 7 just to marry me. They are very very slow in all they do and he's the most horrible communicator ever! I'm an Aries, so this can be tough as we are big on getting it all out.
I don't think you should be rushing into something serious with this guy if there's these big questions still unanswered. I also don't think you should be hurried to have kids because you are getting older. That's a huge decision and it should be made with a partner who is on the same or close to the same level.

My taurus was jaded by another woman too, so I know what you are going through. I'm still trying to fix what that girl did to him.
Mine does tell me he loves me, but they don't throw those words around. I don't think it has to do with being "soft", they can just be closed off at times. Mines in his own little world...somewhere floating above us in the clouds! God love him!!

His moon is Sagittarius

Yeah I picked up on that when he told me he dated his ex for 6 years, she was pushing for marriage but he says he wasn't sure. When she cheated and walked away, he was crushed. I??ve already told him I will not wait 6 years, if you??re that confused then we don't need to be together. I guess that's why he promised he won't make me wait too long. Maybe he learned from his mistake.

As far as being inflexible I learned that earlier on. I could tell he likes his freedom, but I think because we work opposite shifts, it's not an issue right now, if we were living together it would be different. He did tell me he likes that fact when he does go out I'm not constantly calling him or I don't trip about wanting him to be with me on the weekends. Being a Cancer and a loner myself I enjoy when I have time alone so it kind of works.

Well the thing is I'm fine with waiting at least another year. My urgency is to have a child, not marriage, in all honestly I have some closeness issues myself. At 37 and living alone the majority of my adult life, having someone live with me everyday brings much anxiety. You are dead on, he has told me he knows what he wants, he's just not sure when he will accept it. We only really started talking about marriage when I told him with my age and wanting children if we??re not moving in the right direction I could not or would not waste time if a child was not in the picture. Also because he doesn't say anything about us I had no idea of how he felt or what he thought, I guess that made him think and realize maybe he needed to shine some light on what he was thinking. Doesn't mean we??ll end up together or I won't leave but I??d at least like to know how he viewed —us??.

What I do find very odd, is he hates being alone. We lived together for awhile if I made plans and didn't tell him in enough time to make plans he seemed lost and he??d scramble to find someone to hang out with. When I asked why he had to make plans because I was going out, his response was —I don't like being home alone??, I thought that was very odd, especially because other times he??d seem like he really wanted some —Me?? time. I think Taurus men are very moody but maybe it's only because his moon is in Sagg??_

I agree w/what the others have said. The only comment I had was about him wanting to go out if you go out. From my experience that's most guys; regardless of sign. My guy friends also say, "I'm not staying home if I have a free pass to go out!" So, I just don't think that's a guy thing 🙂

You are all right, thanks for the great advice as I had no clue about other signs other then Sun. When we first started dating I sensed he would be fine taking up all my free time but not committing to a relationship. It was only when we got into a heated agrument did he admit we were in a relationship because he wasnt seeing anyone.

I asked him when we first met if he wanted more kids, we both agreed we wanted kids. I was thinking then by the 2 year mark if we were together we??d probably be married or closer to marriage. I mentioned to him at 8 mths if we were still together at the 1 year mark maybe we could try to have a baby, I'm not fan of children out of wedlock but at my age my fear of not being a mother is very strong, guess that's the Cancer in me. He's told me because I mentioned having a baby so much he feels I truly just want a baby and not to be married, I can see how he feels this way because I'm not truly pressed for marriage though I feel he??d be a good husband just not as communicative as I??d like. He likes routine in every other aspect expect when it comes to relationships and going out, I never understood how he was robotic during the week and then free spirited on the weekends, guess now I know.

When we do talk we get a lot out, but he??ll only communicate on a deep level when his back is against the wall or when I go in my shell which he hates, he??ll pull out all the stops then.

Why don't you go to those places that insert semen in you if your not really looking for marriage or relationship— You really need to think this out before it can up a slap in your face.

End up*

Yes you are right Machiavelli, a large part of the pressure is because I was uncertain on how he felt. He was so aloof it made me wonder if we were just a relationship of convenience. It's odd to me for a man to not verbalize anything for the amount of time we've been together. Now that I know he at least cares deeply and possibly loves me it has put me at ease so the need to pressure isn't as strong.

The Dream, I never said I didn't want relationship I just meant I wasn't rushed to get married, at 37 whats the rush now? As for inseminating that's the last resort, I'm in a stable relationship with a good man so I??ll give it some time, plus who wants to volunteer to do all that work alone..

Yeah he knew from the first day about me wanting children. I sense his feelings but because he seems moody (moon in Sagg) I was totally confused. Some times he seems insecure other times confident, sometimes he's very affectionate other times I wonder if he's attracted to me. I think to myself man I thought I was the Cancer with all the moody swings.. I just don't think I could carry a strangers child not knowing the person or their character, I??ve looked into adoption but I know I??d be kind of bitter spending thousands to adopt when I have a boyfriend. Though this is definitely an option.

We've also had issues because he got comfortable, he admitted he gets complacent. After letting him know I feel he takes me for granted, he changed. We were living together then so I know that had a lot to do with it, but I'm concerned he would get comfortable if we were married since stability seems to be the issue.

Bella IMO i don't see moon signs have effect at all, My mom is a Aqua with a scorpio moon and I'm a cancer with virgo moon and we still do not get along at all.

He shows me in ways like running to my aid if I have an issue with my home, or I ask him to do some minor repairs at my house. He steps up and talks to the service people when I get my car repaired. When he stays over he??ll cook us breakfast the next morning. Last weekend I went to his house, he cooked for me. When we first started dating he lived about 30 minutes from me, after I left he??d call me before I left his subdivision and talk to me all the way home to ensure I got home safely. I guess being a Cancer I just want to hear the words, I??ve read Taurus people aren't great with expressions of love but are good at showing thru actions. My dad is unemotional and I always felt like I wasn't loved, so I guess I'm trying to get the opposite in a mate. He says men just aren't like that, it's not they don't feel it but they??re just not as emotional as women. When he told me he said —I love you?? to his ex, he told me in a way to let me know it was such a rare and isolated thing.

As for me viewing him as robotic, I??d say more in his weekly routine he works 3pm-midnight so he's very structured in how he plans his day before work. He says it's because he has to constantly watch the clock and he doesn't like to rush, so he takes his time. Me on the other hand get up less than an hour before I have to be work and rush like a mad woman.

Dream,

As I mentioned I dont have much knowledge on the other suns, but I think an Aqua and a Cancer will always have a hard time relating. I have to say as a Cancer, Aqua is the least likely sign that I would consider dating, no offense but they're just too free for me.

The Taurus i met are very love dovey— Alluv72 does he act unemotional all the time—

Dream, he's only unemotional in a verbal sense. He touches me and sits close to me when we were watching tv and he cuddles when we??re about to go to sleep. It's just he wont say anything mushy..

Posted by allluv72
Dream,

As I mentioned I dont have much knowledge on the other suns, but I think an Aqua and a Cancer will always have a hard time relating. I have to say as a Cancer, Aqua is the least likely sign that I would consider dating, no offense but they're just too free for me.

That's really true...all aquas i met seem to do that not just my mom.

Bella, I'm a Cancer/Leo cusp (July 22). When I did my birth chart it said I was a Leo (born 11:42pm) how that for just making the Cancer cut off. But whats ironic is it says my moon is Sagg.. OMG we're both confused....

Posted by allluv72
Dream, he's only unemotional in a verbal sense. He touches me and sits close to me when we were watching tv and he cuddles when we??re about to go to sleep. It's just he wont say anything mushy..

Oh i see! Yeah I've known a lot of Taurus that way, well at least he's showing you better than telling you because ppl endlessly lie saying "i love you baby" and just saying what the they want to hear. Taurus people are very sweet people but can be bossy at times, is he bossy??

You are right Mach, I have to say I do have more confidence in our relationship since he and I talked about it. Thanks for the advice. I want to make sure we do the right thing for both of us and we're both sure.

I have an aqua rising and still emotional!

Yeah since we had the heated discussion I sense a change in how he treats me, it's positive, he seems more laid back and open. So I wont mention anything that hints about kids or marriage and will just try to focus on enjoying each other. Whats funny is I have an online friend that I met years ago, he's married and we've only seen each other twice, strictly over the phone friendship. He's a Sagg, he told me his wife tells him all the time that he wants the freedom of a single man but the benefits of marriage. Sounds like my Taurus but then it could be just a man thing.

Mach, I feel we are a good match. I kind of feel like he's my best male friend but with a strong attraction. I hate to say this but at times I'll start talking to him like he's one of my girlfriends then I remember, he probably doesnt want to hear this stuff, but he never says thats girl talk, he'll listen and provide input like he's really interested. I guess it's just our connection.

I know, I'm learning slowly... lol..