CancerLeoDynamite
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Taurus BFF dying of cancer - disappeared
We don't want to burden others because you have your own things to worry about. Just continue maybe sending a message and saying if you need me I am here for you, keep being supportive friend. That's all we need is caring individuals.
Do not disclose this to anyone it's none of your business and if we trusted you to tell you. Then know we trust we won't say anything either.
Now that I think about I would not tell anyone at all and leave. I have lots to do whether the chemo works permanently or temporarily. It's too hard.
Now that I think about I would not tell anyone at all and leave. I have lots to do whether the chemo works permanently or temporarily. It's too hard.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428It would be my honour to be burdened with anything for him, why doesnt he know that??
We don't want to burden others because you have your own things to worry about. Just continue maybe sending a message and saying if you need me I am here for you, keep being supportive friend. That's all we need is caring individuals.
He has been there for me through everyyyything, but asks nothing of me now?
ugh are taureans truly this altruistic?
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
Posted by RumiLI wish that was possible.
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
He lives in NYC
I used to live there many years ago at the start of our friendship but now I am out of the country and our friendship has been 100% online since then
Taurus are very selective and private.
He may appear to not like it but ...who doesn't like to be cared for, and he is in so much problem. Just don't worry and be your cancer-Leo self!
I actually want to fly out there but that seems drastic and possibly psycho?
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im losing my mind over it tbh.
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im losing my mind over it tbh.
Yeah just keep in touch and ask how are you doing today? And leave it at that. Trust if we are friends we'll respond truly.
Posted by tizianiHis stupid asshole sister brings her filthy sick all the time (adorable but who the fuck does this??) toddlers around and expects him and their mother to take care of them.
When you're undergoing chemo you have to be in isolation. Especially heavy chemo.
The risk is if he's isolating himself at home because there's just no guarantee it's a sterile environment compared to an isolation ward.
shes been doing this since they were born around the time their father had a heart attack so massive he was in a choma for weeks.
shes a selfish cunt.
so he is exposed to sick germs CONSTANTLY
sterile isolation my ass
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Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteOh 😢 Send him messages...call him or on his house asking after him. Warm gestures are always warm..Posted by RumiLI wish that was possible.
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
He lives in NYC
I used to live there many years ago at the start of our friendship but now I am out of the country and our friendship has been 100% online since thenclick to expand
Posted by RumiLOkay ty I willPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteOh 😢 Send him messages...call him or on his house asking after him. Warm gestures are always warm..Posted by RumiLI wish that was possible.
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
He lives in NYC
I used to live there many years ago at the start of our friendship but now I am out of the country and our friendship has been 100% online since thenclick to expand
I just wasnt sure if hed feel violated by the intrusion or what?
if the only thing he wants from me is to be left alone then I wanna do it right you know?
but id be happiest if i were right there cleaning his vomit and bringing him soup!
Posted by tizianido you think his disappearance is related?Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteIn that case he should definitely have someone convince him (without bringing the emotions into it) that he's better off in a real isolation ward.Posted by tizianiHis stupid asshole sister brings her filthy sick all the time (adorable but who the fuck does this??) toddlers around and expects him and their mother to take care of them.
When you're undergoing chemo you have to be in isolation. Especially heavy chemo.
The risk is if he's isolating himself at home because there's just no guarantee it's a sterile environment compared to an isolation ward.
shes been doing this since they were born around the time their father had a heart attack so massive he was in a choma for weeks.
shes a selfish cunt.
so he is exposed to sick germs CONSTANTLY
sterile isolation my ass
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One of the last things you want is to be around children when you're in this state, like you said.click to expand
Maybe he got really sick and has been in some kinda isolation
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428I'll throw him a line then
Yeah just keep in touch and ask how are you doing today? And leave it at that. Trust if we are friends we'll respond truly.
Im so scared to her something i dont want to
This is a very hard time and all family and ex or current gff will be there. So ask before going out there
Yes about chemotherapy. It's very important health care caution to be done properly. Some people are put on expanded precaution,lose hair and appetite, get very sick just on chemo and radiation, and well some don't do well at all on it. You said it worked though but I am just saying it is alot going on with cancer patients.
Yes about chemotherapy. It's very important health care caution to be done properly. Some people are put on expanded precaution,lose hair and appetite, get very sick just on chemo and radiation, and well some don't do well at all on it. You said it worked though but I am just saying it is alot going on with cancer patients.
Posted by tizianiInconveniently, I dont actually own a cell phone/have txting or long distancesterile isolation my assMaybe he booked himself into a hospital. They still let you have phones in the ward but only you (and people close to him) would know if he's even the type to bring a phone with him, let alone pick it up.
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I will email him
or actually i just recently bought a month on skype, I could call but that feels intrusive,
he would likely have his phone and a laptop in any hospital setting that would allow it.
email feels like the way to go.. but if the worst has happened, then maybe his mom wuld answer the phone??
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Posted by SensitiveBluesbecause i dont want to find out hes deadPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteThen do it! Why are you talking about it!Posted by RumiLOkay ty I willPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteOh 😢 Send him messages...call him or on his house asking after him. Warm gestures are always warm..Posted by RumiLI wish that was possible.
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
He lives in NYC
I used to live there many years ago at the start of our friendship but now I am out of the country and our friendship has been 100% online since then
I just wasnt sure if hed feel violated by the intrusion or what?
if the only thing he wants from me is to be left alone then I wanna do it right you know?
but id be happiest if i were right there cleaning his vomit and bringing him soup!
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Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHmm..but stay in touch you know.. He is isolating himself because he sees it as a burden on you. But who doesn't want someone to be by their side in times like this.. Dont worry much about whether or not to contact. But ill say..do contact him, atleast even if you have nothing to speak..Posted by RumiLOkay ty I willPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteOh 😢 Send him messages...call him or on his house asking after him. Warm gestures are always warm..Posted by RumiLI wish that was possible.
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
He lives in NYC
I used to live there many years ago at the start of our friendship but now I am out of the country and our friendship has been 100% online since then
I just wasnt sure if hed feel violated by the intrusion or what?
if the only thing he wants from me is to be left alone then I wanna do it right you know?
but id be happiest if i were right there cleaning his vomit and bringing him soup!click to expand
Maybe dont overly ask about his condition.. Or talk much about it..but talk about different things ...silly friendly banter is better.
A patient usually avoids people because they have to keep repeating their condition to people..and people put so many questions and a patient gets annoyed or are left with depression talking about it.. That's one of the reasons why patients avoid people.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428well in his case there is no 'work'
This is a very hard time and all family and ex or current gff will be there. So ask before going out there
Yes about chemotherapy. It's very important health care caution to be done properly. Some people are put on expanded precaution,lose hair and appetite, get very sick just on chemo and radiation, and well some don't do well at all on it. You said it worked though but I am just saying it is alot going on with cancer patients.
only "slightly prolong'
its a lethal cancer with no cure and it acts quickly.
I feel like his optimism was.. just his way of trying to be positive, but was not true.
there are no gf's or x gf's hes gay and has never been in a relationship.
Thats part of what upsets me the most he never really lived yet
he kept putting it off to hellp out other people, when his dad got sick, when his sister got pregnant etc
He keeps putting off his happiness to helop his family and friends and now he may never get the chance
Posted by RumiLah I rarely ask about hi cancer directluy i always just say how are you like its casual and let him decide what or if he wants to talk about.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHmm..but stay in touch you know.. He is isolating himself because he sees it as a burden on you. But who doesn't want someone to be by their side in times like this.. Dont worry much about whether or not to contact. But ill say..do contact him, atleast even if you have nothing to speak..Posted by RumiLOkay ty I willPosted by CancerLeoDynamiteOh 😢 Send him messages...call him or on his house asking after him. Warm gestures are always warm..Posted by RumiLI wish that was possible.
I'm sorry about your friend! Its been a long time right...since Jan 27th? You could probably drop at his place and see him.. It'll make him feel good?
He lives in NYC
I used to live there many years ago at the start of our friendship but now I am out of the country and our friendship has been 100% online since then
I just wasnt sure if hed feel violated by the intrusion or what?
if the only thing he wants from me is to be left alone then I wanna do it right you know?
but id be happiest if i were right there cleaning his vomit and bringing him soup!
Maybe dont overly ask about his condition.. Or talk much about it..but talk about different things ...silly friendly banter is better.
A patient usually avoids people because they have to keep repeating their condition to people..and people put so many questions and a patient gets annoyed or are left with depression talking about it.. That's one of the reasons why patients avoid people.click to expand
when we hang out its 90% just normal, playing games laughing etc.
I tried to make myself that place he could just be himself and not treated like a patient,
See..dont be afraid if he has passed!
He's in a greater problem.. He will be very touched by your gesture if he is alive..
He's in a greater problem.. He will be very touched by your gesture if he is alive..
Sad times really. Be strong and friendly towards him regardless. Take care.
^thanks guys, youve given me some courage to contact him and find out for certain whats going on, and hopefully let him know i care and am thinking of him
Correction sad and happy times we all endure in life. Don't take people for granted and have respect we are human with feelings and a heart and some crazy egos. But we are still human.
Okay..thats good CLD, contact him! Be strong 🙂
Posted by SensitiveBluesI am a great caring friend.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteSo many excuses! What a great caring friend you are!Posted by tizianiInconveniently, I dont actually own a cell phone/have txting or long distancesterile isolation my assMaybe he booked himself into a hospital. They still let you have phones in the ward but only you (and people close to him) would know if he's even the type to bring a phone with him, let alone pick it up.
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I will email him
or actually i just recently bought a month on skype, I could call but that feels intrusive,
he would likely have his phone and a laptop in any hospital setting that would allow it.
email feels like the way to go.. but if the worst has happened, then maybe his mom wuld answer the phone??
😢
I use my tablet everyday to make free phone calls!
On Google hangouts
There's a ton of ways to make free phone calls
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we dont 'talk on the phone' its not a thing we do he is a very private person and if he wanted to talk to me, he would be on skype talking to me.
That is and always has been the terms of our friendship.
He decides when he wants to be social
It feels rude and intrusive to barge in.
If he wants to be left alone, I want to do it for him.
period.
also cancerblues just fuck off out of this thread already, your cuntiness is unwarranted and a total yawnfest of negativity.
I dont understand why people like will get cancer when people like you actually deserve it
I dont understand why people like will get cancer when people like you actually deserve it
i would definitely get in touch. a lot of them don't want to tell you about their problems because they don't want to make you worry/sad.
yes of course find out if he is still alive!!
send him an email. can you send him a gift as well? he might not feel up for eating but maybe something to make him smile. if it were me, i would send him a large box full of things to read, do, dvds, a mixed cd, a tshirt with something stupid written on it, anything that refers to your in jokes or times you have spent together. send him something to lift his spirits and include a note to tell him how special he is to you.
there are lots of things you can do. maybe send him a joke every day or a funny meme or tell him funny things about your day. make it where he has something to look forward to everyday from you.
yes of course find out if he is still alive!!
send him an email. can you send him a gift as well? he might not feel up for eating but maybe something to make him smile. if it were me, i would send him a large box full of things to read, do, dvds, a mixed cd, a tshirt with something stupid written on it, anything that refers to your in jokes or times you have spent together. send him something to lift his spirits and include a note to tell him how special he is to you.
there are lots of things you can do. maybe send him a joke every day or a funny meme or tell him funny things about your day. make it where he has something to look forward to everyday from you.
Posted by tizianiMy brother was on heavy chemo for his treatment and didn't have to be isolated, he was just so sick from the chemo he couldn't get out of bed. He was given what is called the "red devil", and it was a lot!! When he went through radiation he had to stay away from pregnant women and small children for a certain amount of hours. The chemo is just HORRIBLE on the body!! My brother never stayed in the hospital during his chemo treatments.. Most people, I know, don't, they are taken to the hospital to a special room and get pumped through their picc line and then go home.
When you're undergoing chemo you have to be in isolation. Especially heavy chemo.
The risk is if he's isolating himself at home because there's just no guarantee it's a sterile environment compared to an isolation ward.
and to the OP, I would reach out to him no matter what.. My brother really appreciated people at least reaching out to him, even if he wasn't up to responding..It's an extremely depressing state people go through, it causes people to feel a lot anxiety, helplessness and just overall lack of control over their entire body and life.
NO one will ever get mad for someone showing they care by emailing or calling.
NO one will ever get mad for someone showing they care by emailing or calling.
Posted by SensitiveBluesyou mean in a thread I post about myself, I talk about myself? HOLY SHIT WHAT A SURPRISE.
Lol all your posts are so self oriented! Me! Me me!
What a selfish twat!
Peace I'm outta here
You are as stupid as you are cunty. It's a hilarious combination and I look forward to laughing at the cringey insecurity you display so openly, more often.
You have mistaken being a nasty person with confidence. You look like an absolute twat who hates herself, every time you type and it's embarrassing.
you people acting like Im being selfish for giving him his space are absolutely out to lunch.
It has been the hardest thing I have ever done not harrasing bothering calling emailing every goddamned minute.
I thought maybe his way of dealing with shit might be a Taurus thing but it clearly isn't, it's a unique to him thing so believe me when I say he has made it clear this is what he wants,
The other close friends who know have left him alone too, we talk to each other about how fucking hard that is to do.
If you cant see how me giving him his space when I don't want to give him his space is being selfless, then you're so far off base about peoples motivations that you've no right to offer advice in a public forum to anyone.
It has been the hardest thing I have ever done not harrasing bothering calling emailing every goddamned minute.
I thought maybe his way of dealing with shit might be a Taurus thing but it clearly isn't, it's a unique to him thing so believe me when I say he has made it clear this is what he wants,
The other close friends who know have left him alone too, we talk to each other about how fucking hard that is to do.
If you cant see how me giving him his space when I don't want to give him his space is being selfless, then you're so far off base about peoples motivations that you've no right to offer advice in a public forum to anyone.
Posted by Impulsv100% agree. when i am ill, i like to be left alone. i don't like visits or drop ins. i don't like the pressure of having to entertain people. i can't even begin to imagine what i would be like on chemo. my bull is the same. if he is unwell, he goes underground. i only find out about it afterwards.
Listen when I went through my issues I avoided contact because I did not want to burden my Freinds n family but let me tell u this I needed them
N always always appriciated their checking in
Check in that's all.
but do check in. i wouldn't invade his space but a kind word can do wonders.
Aww Will came to chat a few times before.
IDK what everyone else said, but the not wanting to be a burden to others is a big deal, but the secret is it feels really good when people want nothing more than to take that burden on. Just because we wont ask, doesn't mean we don't want to accept it.
My advice is you don't need to do anything but just show the fuck up! that simple. Don't ask if its want he wants, if its ok. just be there.
IDK what everyone else said, but the not wanting to be a burden to others is a big deal, but the secret is it feels really good when people want nothing more than to take that burden on. Just because we wont ask, doesn't mean we don't want to accept it.
My advice is you don't need to do anything but just show the fuck up! that simple. Don't ask if its want he wants, if its ok. just be there.
Posted by busyeyes88hmm, you've changed my mind busy. yes, he is dying. go and see him.Posted by CancerLeoDynamiteHe is Dying! He does not need "space"!!! Come on now!
you people acting like Im being selfish for giving him his space are absolutely out to lunch.
It has been the hardest thing I have ever done not harrasing bothering calling emailing every goddamned minute.
I thought maybe his way of dealing with shit might be a Taurus thing but it clearly isn't, it's a unique to him thing so believe me when I say he has made it clear this is what he wants,
The other close friends who know have left him alone too, we talk to each other about how fucking hard that is to do.
If you cant see how me giving him his space when I don't want to give him his space is being selfless, then you're so far off base about peoples motivations that you've no right to offer advice in a public forum to anyone.click to expand
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he was diagnosed with a rare and extremely quick killing cancer about 9 months ago. When the chemo made him too sick he'd just hibernate and isolate himself away.
I understand this is his way and I never ever questioned it or went looking for him. I know its important to him to decide when or if hes gonna be social around people. It was never more than a week or three at most until now.
I lose my mind every time he disappears thinking he has died, and wondering if I'd know, if his mom would tell me.
I could phone or email but,if he is alive and feeling like shit I dont want to bother him.
and if he really is dead
I dont think I want to know
he was telling me and our friends that the chemo was doing great and everything was looking surprisingly good, and he'd have less chemo to deal with but I have this sneaking suspicion he maybe just said that...
he hates the ideas of people pitying him. He wont even let me tell most of the people we know, that he has cancer, There are maybe 4 of us who know.
This latest disappearance has been since January 27th
Maybe you Taureans can offer some advice. is this typical taurean behaviour, do you understand this better than me?
my first thought when I'm upset is that I wanna be with my friends or talk it out with someone
I have such a hard time comprehending this....