Taurus Boy Leo Girl, Taurus Disappeared

I was in a relationship with what I initially thought was a great Taurus guy. He seemed patient, willing to listen to me, comforting, caring. I knew he was in between jobs but he said he was trying to get another and was going to sign up for school again in the fall. But as soon as we were in our relationship, he began disappearing/withdrawing whenever the relationship got more serious or there were any signs of commitment. He never did get a job. My Taurus lives his life very carefree. He has no job and hasn't had one for years. He still lives at home. His parents provide for him and pay for his car, phone, and daily expenses. They are unaware he has quit school. I also found out his parents still clean his room. He complains that his parents are trapping him and not allowing him to do what he wants to which I don't understand as he could just get a job and move out on his own. I am very self sufficient and have my own friends. I am able to take care of myself and have a job. I never once asked him for anything and noticed when I did come to him with problems, he couldn't give me the time of day for them. It was always about him. After his week or two week withdrawls, he would come back with empty promises to try harder or realizations that what he's done to me is bad and that he's sorry. He would always tell me he's undeserving of me because he cannot provide for me material things but he knows these are things he needs to work on and wants to work on. We were okay for about another week then he disappeared. It's been about a month and not a word from him. I sent him a final email saying that things are over and that I don't deserve to be treated this way as he would not answer any calls or texts.

What I cannot wrap my head around was how he could possibly do this? Does he not feel any remorse or guilt? He always presented himself as someone who works situations out with his friends or communicates or is able to be vocal about problems. To disappear like this is an awful way to end a relationship and I am still trying to heal from it a month later. (Our relationship span was about 5-6 Months.)

Sorry also wanted to add that while I've been working on moving on, really hard. Though I still wonder if I will ever hear from him again? I have a fear he may turn up one day again. I miss the Taurus I initially met.

you mean the broke, jobless bastard whose parents wash his drawls?

haha noo, the sweet, caring, guy with plans. somewhere.

well now you know the plans were a lie. or on the upside, they're uber long-term. look at it this way...

if you met a man who claimed to be a millionaire, lion tamer, rhodes scholar and you find out 5 months later that he was living off a settlement that's now depleted, he hates cats and has a ged, do you really miss him?

he sounds like a loser. let it go leo. when someone shows you who they are...believe them.

and maybe the guilt/shame he feels is causing him to do what some people naturally do in this state. run home to mommy with his tail between his legs. does he really need to tell you that he's sorry for being a disappointment and a loser? isn't it obvious? or does he need to humiliate himself further so that you can feel better?

Thanks TubbyScubby. When you put it that way... I guess for me, I just felt really hurt that he would leave without a word. It just was the most horrible and disrespectful thing to do. Part of me just wishes that he would at least acknowledge that and feel guilty because I just imagine him going on, living his life, happy as can be and I'm the one left in the dust. But I guess when you put it that way, it makes more sense.