Taurus ex still tries to contact me- i've moved on (Page 2)

Posted by tiziani

The time is always now. Not making a decision doesn't indicate someone's lack of awareness that the time is now. It could be that's just the manner in which they choose to savour the time.

perhaps but you run a risk. savouring your own time? great. savouring the time on someone else's clock? not so much.

Posted by jeane

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

What is all the rush about anyway? We are all headed to the same place....Let's just take our time and enjoy ourselves...

there is no enjoyment when you are sitting on hands while waiting for someone else to:

a) make a decision
b) realise that the time is now
c) get to the point you were at weeks/months/years ago
d) jump on in because the water is fine

for the rest of us, the urge to take the proverbial bull by the horns can be overwhelming and infuriating.

click to expand

I think people are generally way too hasty in their reasoning, too hasty in their decisions and commitments - even one's that have life-long ramifications, etc. All of the rushing I've experienced from women I've been with, on some level, seems to stem from being discontent. I consider it my job to help them cultivate inner peace, acceptance, and patience....lol

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

oh tls! i was going to respond by saying, yes perhaps its a lesson that some of us should learn. god knows i have. i just remember the time of anticipation, of expectation, of wondering if feelings are reciprocated. its horrible to be kept alone in the cold darkness. we all need a little light sometime.

Posted by champranger

You can also miss out on opportunities if you are too slow to take actions.

True, but then there's always that "Well, it wasn't meant to be..." lolol

I guess there just isn't really anything that excites me that much on this planet, to where I worry about missing out on it.

Posted by jeane

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

oh tls! i was going to respond by saying, yes perhaps its a lesson that some of us should learn. god knows i have. i just remember the time of anticipation, of expectation, of wondering if feelings are reciprocated. its horrible to be kept alone in the cold darkness. we all need a little light sometime.

click to expand

Well, I think there are of course some contexts where I don't think you should make someone wait, and being honest/forthcoming about emotions is something I'm really good with. But if it takes that long to actually *feel* the feelings you want reciprocated, trying to rush that or hoping that it will go faster, is probably kinda counter-productive.

For my part, I don't even understand how you even possibly live life without missing opportunity? Just having to narrow down the things I'm passionate about and having to focus on one, leaves a trail of missed opportunity (and regret, if I were to allow it) constantly. I'm sure everyone experiences this to some degree. That issue alone, coupled with the fact that we can never know (at least from our currently limited perspective) which path is truly the best for us/others/our development/etc. -- this is enough to make me somewhat dismissive of the ultimate urgency of any of our experience.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio


Well, I think there are of course some contexts where I don't think you should make someone wait, and being honest/forthcoming about emotions is something I'm really good with. But if it takes that long to actually *feel* the feelings you want reciprocated, trying to rush that or hoping that it will go faster, is probably kinda counter-productive.

no, i don't mean not feeling it. of course, in that instance rushing is absolutely counter-productive. i mean the slow to share, the slow to trust, the slow to explain, the slow to show the soft belly. the testing, testing, testing.

don't get me wrong, i am slow to settle on a decision that i am willing to stick by. i take my time considering, testing, assessing but boy, bulls take it to another level completely. it's like trying to boil milk. you wait too long and it bubbles over, spoils and makes an enormous mess. it is fine not to rush but if you wait and wait and wait then you can find that people have already gone on without you.

agent p makes a joke out of the taurean 'soon'. how many women have been on the receiving end of the 'soon'? only two possibilities that i can see can explain the 'soon'; it is a delaying tactic or it is heartfelt but there is no attention to follow through in a reasonable time frame. soon? soon? at the extreme it becomes disrespectful of another person's time.

Posted by tiziani
I'm off the same mindset. What's meant to be will always be. If it wasn't, you simply didn't want it enough.

see but that assumes that the bull can easily change gears. i'm not sure they can.

Posted by jeane

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio


Well, I think there are of course some contexts where I don't think you should make someone wait, and being honest/forthcoming about emotions is something I'm really good with. But if it takes that long to actually *feel* the feelings you want reciprocated, trying to rush that or hoping that it will go faster, is probably kinda counter-productive.

no, i don't mean not feeling it. of course, in that instance rushing is absolutely counter-productive. i mean the slow to share, the slow to trust, the slow to explain, the slow to show the soft belly. the testing, testing, testing.

don't get me wrong, i am slow to settle on a decision that i am willing to stick by. i take my time considering, testing, assessing but boy, bulls take it to another level completely. it's like trying to boil milk. you wait too long and it bubbles over, spoils and makes an enormous mess. it is fine not to rush but if you wait and wait and wait then you can find that people have already gone on without you.

agent p makes a joke out of the taurean 'soon'. how many women have been on the receiving end of the 'soon'? only two possibilities that i can see can explain the 'soon'; it is a delaying tactic or it is heartfelt but there is no attention to follow through in a reasonable time frame. soon? soon? at the extreme it becomes disrespectful of another person's time.

click to expand

lol....Don't Libras have this issue with indecisiveness as well?

Posted by jeane

Posted by tiziani
I'm off the same mindset. What's meant to be will always be. If it wasn't, you simply didn't want it enough.

see but that assumes that the bull can easily change gears. i'm not sure they can.

click to expand

Really then you'd be telling us we "ought" to be or do something you feel we cannot. That's why I always come back to you having to readjust your expectations. They aren't reasonable....lol

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Really then you'd be telling us we "ought" to be or do something you feel we cannot. That's why I always come back to you having to readjust your expectations. They aren't reasonable....lol

absolutely. the only person we can change is ourselves. people either get on board or they get off but that's not to say that bulls are without criticism, no?

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

lol....Don't Libras have this issue with indecisiveness as well?

sure they do! but not like bulls. sooner or later, you have to shit or get off the pot.

Posted by jeane

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Really then you'd be telling us we "ought" to be or do something you feel we cannot. That's why I always come back to you having to readjust your expectations. They aren't reasonable....lol

absolutely. the only person we can change is ourselves. people either get on board or they get off but that's not to say that bulls are without criticism, no?

click to expand

Well, if we can't change as you say, its not constructive is it? Its like criticizing water for being wet.

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Well, if we can't change as you say, its not constructive is it? Its like criticizing water for being wet.

constructive to a taurus? maybe not. constructive to others? more likely.

Posted by champranger

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
For my part, I don't even understand how you even possibly live life without missing opportunity? Just having to narrow down the things I'm passionate about and having to focus on one, leaves a trail of missed opportunity (and regret, if I were to allow it) constantly. I'm sure everyone experiences this to some degree. That issue alone, coupled with the fact that we can never know (at least from our currently limited perspective) which path is truly the best for us/others/our development/etc. -- this is enough to make me somewhat dismissive of the ultimate urgency of any of our experience.

Jack of all trades, master of none.

Also, do you have the time and energy to keep all of your options open all the time, especially after long days of work in a career from one of your options?

click to expand

I feel I've mastered quite a few things, at least to my liking. The older I get though, the less importance I attach to any of them. I've come to think that it was most important to learn (and teach others) the lesson of not limiting your self in any way.

As far as time after work - I make sure I at least have a couple hours at the end of the night to pursue my creative interests. But I just rotate them....Of course they all can't be pursued all the time. That works for me because I get bored easily anyway and like the change....

My point though was really that its hard to see that anything is really all that urgent in life. I will confess that I have been smoking pot for 2 weeks now as part of my mid-life crisis, and it is making me extra slow, lazy, and apathetic about almost everything. So that could be at the root of my thinking today....lol

Posted by jeane

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio


Well, I think there are of course some contexts where I don't think you should make someone wait, and being honest/forthcoming about emotions is something I'm really good with. But if it takes that long to actually *feel* the feelings you want reciprocated, trying to rush that or hoping that it will go faster, is probably kinda counter-productive.

no, i don't mean not feeling it. of course, in that instance rushing is absolutely counter-productive. i mean the slow to share, the slow to trust, the slow to explain, the slow to show the soft belly. the testing, testing, testing.

don't get me wrong, i am slow to settle on a decision that i am willing to stick by. i take my time considering, testing, assessing but boy, bulls take it to another level completely. it's like trying to boil milk. you wait too long and it bubbles over, spoils and makes an enormous mess. it is fine not to rush but if you wait and wait and wait then you can find that people have already gone on without you.

agent p makes a joke out of the taurean 'soon'. how many women have been on the receiving end of the 'soon'? only two possibilities that i can see can explain the 'soon'; it is a delaying tactic or it is heartfelt but there is no attention to follow through in a reasonable time frame. soon? soon? at the extreme it becomes disrespectful of another person's time.

click to expand

Soon... They can shove that where the sun don't shine!

I think anyone who would like some kind of action or decision from someone that is quicker than that person wishes to give it will always be classed as impatient or demanding etc.

I don't think that is fair. Sure, people move at varying paces and just because someone is slower or faster than another doesn't mean it's wrong.

My interpretation of 'soon' is based on only one experience of a Taurean male, so it is hardly reflective at all. However, I've not experienced the 'soon' with any other guy regardless of astrological sign and it does seem to crop up a lot on the Taurus board.

Soon... In my case... Meant being put on the back burner... Whenever he could arsed or felt ready... Which might have been never... 'Soon' often didn't materialise into anything. It could be interpreted as a delaying tactic or uninterest

or not following through within a reasonable time frame.

What is a reasonable time frame?

It's different to each person.

In my case, had I not made a move and initiated something at the point of six months then 12 months on I'd still be waiting and hoping.

Reasonable for me (given the circumstances) was at the six month point.

Reasonable for him was an open time frame. Open to the point where he would not have made arrangements to visit me at the six month stage or even the 12 month stage or longer.

At six months it was either going to be something or nothing.

It was nothing.

Would it have been something if I'd have waited patiently for longer?

Probably not.

Was I prepared to wait longer or indefinitely?

No.

What I know is that I don't like to rush or to be rushed. What I like is to know there's an interest from the guy, clear intentions expressed. That there's a bit of a plan, a bit of a goal with a bit of a journey.

How that works out is up to us.

Posted by Infinite8
Wow AgentP911 - I love how you expressed that.

2am here and I'm on form!!

I must be on form tonight as I got asked for my number... _??_

By a bird... _—

Jumping into something is crazy. It's impulsive and the longer I seem to wait because something isn't running smoothly, is all the better for me. The longer I wait, the shorter time I can figure if I should or should not be doing something so fast.

Take the time to get to know someone. Cause if it leads straight to sexual or physical only it will never be the same.

We will be good friends and sex is inevitable whenever we would want. As soon as someone moves on it's over, no friendship.. because Taurus are loyal and will stick to the one they see fit, long term..not short term flings which I have been in. Sometimes for the better. And let go mutually..


I have jumped into something cause it was physical attraction my Aquarius moon seem to be hyperactive when I see a cute guy..So we hang out so many times, and then everyone gets to explore things about that person.. it's often I at times were incompatible with most people because of our differences approach to life, or too different attitudes and personality traits.

I prefer s slow gradual courtship. It's sweet and steady, and I prefer to savor the moments. It's like adding molasses or honey to your favorite dessert.

If a Bull expresses interest, there is something about you that has held our attention. We're quite selective.

We're just hoping that the initial chemistry gets better and stronger over time.

So we're just taking you all in...small doses...and savoring these moments with you.

We're observing you when you think we're not looking, cute little perks you were probably not aware you had.

We're actively listening to you, to see what is it you're looking for...what is it you want from us? are you intentions candid? or disingenuous?

To rush anything prematurely, kills the vibe.

You will be amazed to know how many Hot and Cold threads are created on this board from a sudden loss of interest.

All about chemistry not so much sexual.. but it will help later if we progress.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I prefer s slow gradual courtship. It's sweet and steady, and I prefer to savor the moments. It's like adding molasses or honey to your favorite dessert.

If a Bull expresses interest, there is something about you that has held our attention. We're quite selective.

We're just hoping that the initial chemistry gets better and stronger over time.

So we're just taking you all in...small doses...and savoring these moments with you.

We're observing you when you think we're not looking, cute little perks you were probably not aware you had.

We're actively listening to you, to see what is it you're looking for...what is it you want from us? are you intentions candid? or disingenuous?

To rush anything prematurely, kills the vibe.

You will be amazed to know how many Hot and Cold threads are created on this board from a sudden loss of interest.

yep

it's even less appealing when you are the object of affection.

look, i'm happy the bull and i took our time. i didn't want to rush into anything either. i think it has made for stronger relationship which is improving by the day. this observation is not borne out of any current grievance i hold against taurus. i just think if people are waiting years for taurus to show themselves then that to me, is a shame. what are you going to learn in year 5, that you didn't know in year 3?

i've known the bull 2 years now and only now is he beginning to let me into the inner sanctum of his heart and mind. i'm grateful. it is precious and something i truly treasure and value but those two years on the outside looking in have been tough at times!