Taurus -Finding Yourself-?

As a fish that is unable to get a lady bull from my mind, I have a question for all bulls about your transition periods in life. A little story first:

My bull and I had a quick start in our relationship, but after about a month things quickly went into standard Taurus style (slow and non-communicative). She's recently (last October) gotten out of a LTR with her High School sweetheart, and about 1.5 months into our relationship (New Years) he tried to kill himself and blamed her for it. In addition, she recently moved back home, and is searching for what she wants to do with her life. She's got a few options, but one of them would take her away for a long time.

So my question is this. When you bulls are in this phase of life, where you need to discover your direction in life or make time for yourself, how do you treat those whom you have feelings for? What can we say to you to prove to you that we're still there for you without seeming like we're overly clingy or trying to force a relationship forward? What are some of the signs that you show that you need some alone time? Or do you just flat out say it?

Posted by busyeyes88
I personally tend to go into my "own world" and shut out people other than those closest to me ie a sibling and get my thoughts together and then decide to do what is best for myself. But I do have a Leo moon which can be very selfish and self focused. You have not known her for a long time from what I can see so I suggest that you just be a friend to her someone she can talk to. Don't put any added strain or pressure on her for a relationship and just let her know that you will support any decision she makes even if it means she will be a distance from you. If you are both meant to be together... You will. No amount of time or distance would change what is already determined if you are both meant to be together. I also tend to be in contact now and again depending on how close I was to the person and how strong the connection was between us. Just show that you have her best interests at heart.

Plus when she met you she had only just come out of a long term relationship. So you could be classed as a rebound and that is the last position you want to be in. So right now 'time' is your best friend. You need to pull back get on with your own life as best you can and allow time to heal her and for her to sort out her present situations ie her emotionally unstable ex and her own life decisions. Let her reach out to you. I hope this is of help. If you have anything else you want to ask just holla. 🙂

@busyeyes88 Thanks so much for your insight. Yeah, I'm trying that approach, but it's so hard for me because of how things were. Seeing one another 1-2 times a week and talking every day. Now we've been three weeks without going out, and talk sporadically throughout the week. She's definitely got a lot going on, but she used to make time for us (which was probably just the rebound in action).

I'm a moon in Aquarius, and she's got her moon in Sag. Which explains to a point why I'm so willing to make this work, while she's off doing her own thing and possibly looking for the next opportunity. I guess my question is how do I even communicate with someone who seems like they are entirely "in their own head". Our conversations were once deep and thought provoking, and now it's just "How are you"s because we go so long between talking. I'm a talker, so it's tough to be with someone who isn't, but I can't shake her, haha. 😄

@quietriot There's an option at the top right of the post to "hide" it. That's about the best I've seen.

As per your input, I thank you. That's more or less the feeling I think she's going through, and I'm doing my best to not be selfish and make it about me. I'm a very empathetic person, and when a friend (or more) is suffering, I want to be there, and worry when I can't be. She has told me in the past that it's nothing that I can help with, and I've told her I'm there for her. It just doesn't feel like it sometimes, haha. 😛

Posted by busyeyes88
@adwand2k. I'm sorry but I'm a walking contradiction. I can be all over someone like a rash if all is good in my world... But when things go wrong I want to solve it by myself so I then go cold. I don't mean to hurt the other person but I just don't want to become a burden and therefore try to burden anyone with my problems. My sister whO is a sag with an aqua moon has a very calm (cold moon compared to my heated leo moon) but with her moon in sag you understand/compliment each other well because both of these moons are extremely independent. So I suggest just keep your distance do your own thing. At least she is still responding... Taurus is also known to just simply shut down and dissappear if that person is not viewed as an important aspect of their life. At least that is how I am.

Because she has so much in her head at the moment there is no space for you in her head. Her circumstances have changed since when you first met other things have turned up in her life which demand her full attention and focus so she doesn't have the capacity at the present time to attend to as well let alone at the same level when you first me. If you want to keep her you need to keep your distance. I know it is hard trust me I have been there. But if you keep pushing you will lose her and you know sags when pushed their temper is nasty.. You don't want that do you? Always remember the tortoise won the race... Time!!

@busyeyes88, thank you again. You're right on the disappear thing. She's told me before how when she stops liking someone she just cuts them out of her life without talking to them. So I guess that is in my favor. I just wish that she could tell me how I can help, or whether I should stay away. One week she asks me on a "date", and the next week she tells our mutual friend that she knows I want a GF, but she can't give that. It's like she's afraid to say I should leave her be because I'll go elsewhere or give up on her. But this is about the furthest thing from the truth...

@busyeyes88 Also, I totally mixed up my moon and Venus when I wrote that. I'm actually a Taurus moon. Not sure what difference that makes, haha.

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Yeah, I did some digging and found that it's generally not a good mixture, which is obviously counter to the sun signs. She's definitely got the travel and adventure itch, but I always attributed it to her being just out of school and not wanting to settle down. I'm willing to travel and see the world, but I definitely need a home to return to and recharge; I do like the familiar things in life, choosing to not take a ton of chances. Sigh...it's very hard for me to revert to just friends because of how I feel about her, but I know I have to. Unfortunately, I talk with my friends nearly daily, and as mentioned, she and I don't talk very much right now since she's canceled on three nights in the last three weeks. I think I'm going to leave her alone and try to get my mind off of her (operative word is try...hah). It's not like me to do that, and I just hope she doesn't think I've lost interest in her.

Thanks again. I'm grateful you gave me honest advice and not just sugarcoating. 🙂

I only have one dealing with Sag and it was FWB. Amazing sexual chemistry, but not much to talk about other than that.

Haha, I've only ever tried FWB once before, and let me say that I'm not built for that 😛. Attachment comes too easily for me.

this will work.besides parents ive seen this combo soooo many times.

Do you mean Pisces/Taurus? Or the Taurus Moon/Sag Moon? I definitely know it "can" work, but it's an effort on both parties thing.

Posted by busyeyes88
The moons rule the emotions and seem to be much stronger in this form than when in the sun sign. For example I had a date recently with a taurus with a sag moon and three other planets in sag and even though I am a taurus I have a Leo moon and rising and leo moons are one of the freeest moons on the planet!! Even though we had great laughs I found his sag moon to harsh on the leo moon ego!!! In many ways hr was a sag but also a controlling taurus wanting to 'stabilise' me!! I don't like being controlled or dominated lol hence we never met again. I am also a Fire Horse in Chinese astrology which is basically a sag/Gemini in western astrology. So look there also!!

So the sun sign is not a major player with compatibility the moon, venus, Mars, mercury and even the rising may play a part. I feel more like a Leo than a taurus and my mercury in Aries makes me too aggressive for most men!!

So once again.. I suggest you do not invite her on any more dates her head and emotions are not in the right place at the mo. If she wants you.. She will find you when the time is right For HER.

Again, @busyeyes88, I appreciate your insight 🙂. I haven't asked to do anything since two weeks ago, in fact I'm not talking to her right now since I was the last one to say anything. Not ignoring her, but I don't want to shove my face in her business. It's unfortunate that she works at my salon and I have an appointment this weekend, so we'll have to see one another and this non-communication time may be awkward...haha.