Taurus Girl I was dating totally cut all contact with me :(

Ok, so im a Virgo. Usually very closed off until i meet someone who I believe i could make happy and could make me happy. With this Taurus girl i felt that. we chatted for a week via text before we even met, the more we talked the more we got on, and she told me I was constantly on her mind.

On Friday she came to one of my shows, we talked a lot and ended up cuddling/kissing for the entire night. she was so sweet to me and kept telling me how amazing and sweet she thought i was because she had never experienced the kind of attention i was giving her.

Saturday she asked me round to her place. in the morning we just spent the time cuddling and talking about things, we then went out for a meal and went shopping. Holding hands, playful touching, kissing, complimenting each other. She told me she didnt want me to leave as she's miss me like crazy. I said the same thing. this is totally out of character for me, i've fallen for this girl i thought

Sunday she was texting me as normal, I got a "good morning gorgeous, hope you have a fantastic day, cant wait to see you again tomorrow xxxx" she was texting fine up until 1pm. it all stopped. No reply for about 6 hours, totally out of character for her. So i called her just to see how her day was going, no answer. I got no phonecall back.

later that day I thought it would be cute to turn up at hers just to suprise her and see if she was ok, got the idea that maybe she was dealing with some stuff, I took some chocolates with me as i know she likes them

Her mum answered the door and said she was at her dads, i said ok no problem and left.

I then almost immediately receive a text saying "my mum just rang and said you turned up at the house, I am not ok with that, freaked me out"

I apologised and said I hadnt heard from her and was just trying to be cute to suprise her and please dont freak out etc, my intentions were just romantic.

No reply

when i got home i realised she had unfollowed me etc on Instagram

at 10pm that night i was attacked, knocked out and mugged and ended up in hospital til 4am
I text her "i've been attacked, knocked out and mugged not far from home. been in hospital all night, im ok so please dont worry xxxx"

NO REPLY

yesterday i sent her this...

"Hey, last night I was only trying to be sweet, I do the same for my male and female friends because I like to see them smile or just make sure they're OK if I sense they are dealing with shit, it's what friends do. but after I told you what happened to me last night, you not replying hurts me if I'm honest, as I thought you cared. But I forgive you because I believe you're a good person who has been freaked/burned by some psycho's doing shit in the past (so have I) and maybe you're scared it'll happen again, I don't know :/ , but I'm a good person and I believe you're a good girl, you can talk to me any time about anything you're going through even just as friends x"

she put on her instagram "emotionally una

Maybe she needs some space you're coming on strong or something personal happened or sadly she's not feeling you.

I personally have done it mainly because the other person did something that was barely noticeable but spoke volumes about his character.

That's the thing. I haven't done anything other than be myself and be totally sweet with her. and yeah it was "emotionally unavailable" i ran out of characters! lol.

when she said she freaked out that i turned up at her house, is it more likely she's freaked out about how she feels towards me? too many powerful emotions she's not used to?

Obviously i was still on her mind yesterday as she put that post up.

I also sent her a friend request on facebook, she denied it but yet didn't block me. it's curious

Could she be scared of letting someone in and getting hurt?

Posted by busyeyes88
You Went out on one date with her and because you hear nothing from her, you turn up at her house? Not even invited.. You just turn up?! I would have cut you off too!!!

She hardly knows ! That's just too muck of stalker ish behaviour after a couple of dates!!! Come on!

I should point out that she just turned up at my house on the Saturday morning!!!

Posted by busyeyes88
Sorry about Yr mugging also! Glad you are at least ok!

Ps the Taurus may not have response to yr mugging as after your behaviour of turning up at her house unannounced she may have thought that was you trying to get more attention her.

I have a feeling that this 'friendship ' is over before it even had a chance to survive . You need To get control of your emotions ...

Im trying to get control of my emotions. so at the moment i've left her to it. The last thing i want to do is freak her out any further etc

well in that case i guess i've blown it then. Even though like i said she just turned up at my place on Saturday and met everyone!

Posted by BG2
Hey jimi. Do you know your chart? And hers?

Hey, unfortunately not....

Posted by busyeyes88
When did she turn up at your house? After your mugging incident?

On the Saturday morning after the friday night she came to my show. We then spent the day together

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Posted by BG2
Hey jimi. Do you know your chart? And hers?

Hey, unfortunately not....

Not a problem.
Your birthday?
Hers?
With the year. And time.

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No No the mugging happened on the Sunday when i got home after turning up at her place. and im definitely not milking it to get her attention, I know that would be a totally negative and counter-productive thing to do.

My Birthday is 7th September 1984 7am i think

hers is 11th May 1989

Posted by BG2
You know what? Forget the charts.

You came on strong. She's freaked about whatever feelings she has for you. She 'cut you off'.
Yet you're still pushing the issue...

Back off a little.

That's what im doing. best to give her some space. but she came on really strong first and i just followed suit. thats the confusing thing. She was coming on strong, really into me.

yeah, it just sucks because she told me its been a long time since she felt this way about anyone. Maybe she is scared of her feelings. either way the worst thing i could possibly do is pursue her and make her run a mile. She know's im here but i guess i can't get my hopes up about her contacting me

Posted by mrpepperidge
never tell a virgo where you live. they show up!

haha thet hing is it isnt something i normally would do. i was just returning the favour!

you're seeing her for a week or so , right? And you are kissing cuddling to the lack of breath? Iwon't ask how old are you and won't tell it's too soon. Let's say it could be you're so into each other. But for me it is still immature to fall for the person so much without actually knowing him/her.
So...
She can have bunch of reasons which of course I can't tell you. There's obvious you freaked her out with something. YES, WE'RE VERY PRIVATE ( I HATE when a guy tries to sneak into my world until I'm in a deep deep deep deep love and even deeper trust with him and he with me).
Relax and enjoy getting to know each other. Never rush, play nicely. I hope you can make each other happy.
It's a difficult tsk for a Taurus to trust someone. I usually get the person through various tests before I can tell "That's the person I can be with".
Good luck to you. hope you're well.

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Posted by jimiguitar1984
yeah, it just sucks because she told me its been a long time since she felt this way about anyone. Maybe she is scared of her feelings. either way the worst thing i could possibly do is pursue her and make her run a mile. She know's im here but i guess i can't get my hopes up about her contacting me

She is not SCARED of her feelings!!!! YOU freaked HER OUT by TURNING UP ON HER DOORSTEP uninvited and unannounced!!! She does not know you yet?! How long max? Three weeks? That is 3 mins in "taurus world"!!!!

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Once again. On the SATURDAY MORNING she turned up on MY doorstep! this was BEFORE i turned up on HER DOORSTEP. I was just doing what she had already done!!!!

Maybe she planned the attack or maybe even an ex or a bf?

This is a weird story

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yeah, it just sucks because she told me its been a long time since she felt this way about anyone. Maybe she is scared of her feelings. either way the worst thing i could possibly do is pursue her and make her run a mile. She know's im here but i guess i can't get my hopes up about her contacting me

She is not SCARED of her feelings!!!! YOU freaked HER OUT by TURNING UP ON HER DOORSTEP uninvited and unannounced!!! She does not know you yet?! How long max? Three weeks? That is 3 mins in "taurus world"!!!!

Once again. On the SATURDAY MORNING she turned up on MY doorstep! this was BEFORE i turned up on HER DOORSTEP. I was just doing what she had already done!!!!

So when she showed up on your doorstep, it was not invited, or unannounced... You were not expecting her?

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no, she just randomly turned up to see me

Okay have nothing with taureans but all this story is so annoying. I'm a Pisces myself and let me tell you how I see all this situation. First I wanna ask you if you were too pushy ? that's the biggest turn off for most of girls, regardless their zodiac.. So this girl ignores you, If it was me I would get so upset, I find it extremely rude and weakness for a person not being available speak her feelings out, of course you got confused and she even didn't bother to explain anything, THAT IS THE WORST THING. I love direct people who can tell where you stand and there's no drama .

She's emotionally unavailable that tells you everything. I've been that way and am still trying to work on that and can totally see where things went wrong. Nothing you did wrong but it's just she's emotionally unavailable. So, when things get too serious too quick with emotions and you showing up at her door of course she's going to freak out. But I must say she must have real issues to push you away that quick. I would let her be. Let her deal with her butter. I know from experience the more you poke, pry, or pressure or try to get back in her life she will push you further away and go further into hiding.

I wish you the best of luck

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yeah, it just sucks because she told me its been a long time since she felt this way about anyone. Maybe she is scared of her feelings. either way the worst thing i could possibly do is pursue her and make her run a mile. She know's im here but i guess i can't get my hopes up about her contacting me

She is not SCARED of her feelings!!!! YOU freaked HER OUT by TURNING UP ON HER DOORSTEP uninvited and unannounced!!! She does not know you yet?! How long max? Three weeks? That is 3 mins in "taurus world"!!!!

Once again. On the SATURDAY MORNING she turned up on MY doorstep! this was BEFORE i turned up on HER DOORSTEP. I was just doing what she had already done!!!!

So when she showed up on your doorstep, it was not invited, or unannounced... You were not expecting her?

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Haha, Wow. I guess you didn't make that clear the first 5 or 6 times you said it.. @jimiguitar1984

Posted by pisceanloves
Okay have nothing with taureans but all this story is so annoying. I'm a Pisces myself and let me tell you how I see all this situation. First I wanna ask you if you were too pushy ? that's the biggest turn off for most of girls, regardless their zodiac.. So this girl ignores you, If it was me I would get so upset, I find it extremely rude and weakness for a person not being available speak her feelings out, of course you got confused and she even didn't bother to explain anything, THAT IS THE WORST THING. I love direct people who can tell where you stand and there's no drama .

Hi, definitely not been too pushy, she was blowing hot one minute and then cold the next, I havent hounded her with text messages or phonecalls, i simply apologised when she said she had been freaked out and explained i was just trying to be cute etc

Posted by xtina
She's emotionally unavailable that tells you everything. I've been that way and am still trying to work on that and can totally see where things went wrong. Nothing you did wrong but it's just she's emotionally unavailable. So, when things get too serious too quick with emotions and you showing up at her door of course she's going to freak out. But I must say she must have real issues to push you away that quick. I would let her be. Let her deal with her butter. I know from experience the more you poke, pry, or pressure or try to get back in her life she will push you further away and go further into hiding.

I wish you the best of luck

Thank you, yeah the best I can do is leave her to it to be honest. I wouldn't want to push her further...

Posted by tiziani
She shit tested you. It happens in every relationship when you're younger.

They let it go very hot then go cold for a few days to see if you'll react.

You reacted, so she's not interested in you anymore.

Luckily this isn't a problem as you get older because you find older women 35 and up don't need to pull this shit and you find yourself unmoved by the women that haven't grown up.

In short, if I were in your shoes back then I would go for an older woman. 35 and up. They know how to get you right back up after a mugging (which I doubt she believed that story btw).

I know it probably seemed unlikely to her, but unfortunately i have the massive lump on the back of my head to prove it, plus its all over my facebook, which is public and I think she's been checking up on that. If she really wanted to totally push me away and block me out etc i dont understand why she would just deny my friend request on facebook, why not block me completely? weird i know

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Posted by pisceanloves
Okay have nothing with taureans but all this story is so annoying. I'm a Pisces myself and let me tell you how I see all this situation. First I wanna ask you if you were too pushy ? that's the biggest turn off for most of girls, regardless their zodiac.. So this girl ignores you, If it was me I would get so upset, I find it extremely rude and weakness for a person not being available speak her feelings out, of course you got confused and she even didn't bother to explain anything, THAT IS THE WORST THING. I love direct people who can tell where you stand and there's no drama .

I gotta agree with you there, actually.
no explanations at all? What the hell?
She could have told him to back off a little. Done.

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That's exactly right! she could have told me to back off a little and i would have, as it stands she told me she freaked out. I apologised and explained my reasons, one thing i am is a good communicator as any of my friends who are Girls would tell you. So for her to just literally dissapear without explanation kind of feels like a smack in the face. especially as she was so warm to me one moment then freezing cold the next!

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Posted by jimiguitar1984

Posted by tiziani
She shit tested you. It happens in every relationship when you're younger.

They let it go very hot then go cold for a few days to see if you'll react.

You reacted, so she's not interested in you anymore.

Luckily this isn't a problem as you get older because you find older women 35 and up don't need to pull this shit and you find yourself unmoved by the women that haven't grown up.

In short, if I were in your shoes back then I would go for an older woman. 35 and up. They know how to get you right back up after a mugging (which I doubt she believed that story btw).

I know it probably seemed unlikely to her, but unfortunately i have the massive lump on the back of my head to prove it, plus its all over my facebook, which is public and I think she's been checking up on that. If she really wanted to totally push me away and block me out etc i dont understand why she would just deny my friend request on facebook, why not block me completely? weird i know

I'm sure you were mugged. Think of it from her position though and she has less reason to focus on that, you turned up at her house which was overkill and then just a few hours later you go through more drama and text her the details. By that time her only thought was what's coming next with this guy?

Anyway it's actually not worth thinking about, if she felt the need to test it's her game in life. Your problem was reacting. More importantly, wish you a speedy recovery.

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I Guess so. Reacting was not a good thing but then again i'm only human. It just seems really callous to just now act like i don'e even exist. But i guess I won't really get any answers. Will probably just have to move on with my life, maybe one day she'll contact me....maybe not...

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Posted by tiziani
She shit tested you. It happens in every relationship when you're younger.

They let it go very hot then go cold for a few days to see if you'll react.

You reacted, so she's not interested in you anymore.

Luckily this isn't a problem as you get older because you find older women 35 and up don't need to pull this shit and you find yourself unmoved by the women that haven't grown up.

In short, if I were in your shoes back then I would go for an older woman. 35 and up. They know how to get you right back up after a mugging (which I doubt she believed that story btw).

I know it probably seemed unlikely to her, but unfortunately i have the massive lump on the back of my head to prove it, plus its all over my facebook, which is public and I think she's been checking up on that. If she really wanted to totally push me away and block me out etc i dont understand why she would just deny my friend request on facebook, why not block me completely? weird i know

I'm sure you were mugged. Think of it from her position though and she has less reason to focus on that, you turned up at her house which was overkill and then just a few hours later you go through more drama and text her the details. By that time her only thought was what's coming next with this guy?

Anyway it's actually not worth thinking about, if she felt the need to test it's her game in life. Your problem was reacting. More importantly, wish you a speedy recovery.

I Guess so. Reacting was not a good thing but then again i'm only human. It just seems really callous to just now act like i don'e even exist. But i guess I won't really get any answers. Will probably just have to move on with my life, maybe one day she'll contact me....maybe not...

It may seem callous if you take it personally. But it's not to do with you as a person, she's just doing what she knows best to protect herself. Really and truly though, you knew each other for just over a week if i'm reading correctly? You can't expect someone to feel safe and familiar around you after just a week, especially not safe enough for you to turn up at their family home unannounced.

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ordinarily i would agree, apart from her verbally telling me "i feel so safe and comfortable around you all the time"

The whole ordeal has just left me so god damn confused. Searching for answers etc... 😢

Yes, that's for sure

When's your birthday?

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Posted by pisceanloves
Okay have nothing with taureans but all this story is so annoying. I'm a Pisces myself and let me tell you how I see all this situation. First I wanna ask you if you were too pushy ? that's the biggest turn off for most of girls, regardless their zodiac.. So this girl ignores you, If it was me I would get so upset, I find it extremely rude and weakness for a person not being available speak her feelings out, of course you got confused and she even didn't bother to explain anything, THAT IS THE WORST THING. I love direct people who can tell where you stand and there's no drama .

As you said, you are a PISCES!! Taurus and Pisces are VERY DIFFERENT! I would be pissed off BIG TIME!!! But then again I would NEVER myself turn up at someone's house uninvited or unannounced...

So maybe she is just not that into you!!!

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Im a Virgo :/

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Posted by jimiguitar1984
Yes, that's for sure

There's your answer.
You have to figure out, for yourself, what you can and cannot dealt with/tolerate/accept.

But like I said, focus on your recovery. Maybe that's the time you need to get it straightened out in your head.
As for her, you can't control what she does.

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again you're right. it's just difficult. im not used to feeling like this to be honest

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Yes, that's for sure

There's your answer.
You have to figure out, for yourself, what you can and cannot dealt with/tolerate/accept.

But like I said, focus on your recovery. Maybe that's the time you need to get it straightened out in your head.
As for her, you can't control what she does.

again you're right. it's just difficult. im not used to feeling like this to be honest

Aw.
Personally, I think tauruses and pisces are great together.
But the drama and the games have to stop. Pronto!

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Haha i don't know where the Pisces thing has come from. Im a Virgo 🙂

Yeah 😢

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Okay have nothing with taureans but all this story is so annoying. I'm a Pisces myself and let me tell you how I see all this situation. First I wanna ask you if you were too pushy ? that's the biggest turn off for most of girls, regardless their zodiac.. So this girl ignores you, If it was me I would get so upset, I find it extremely rude and weakness for a person not being available speak her feelings out, of course you got confused and she even didn't bother to explain anything, THAT IS THE WORST THING. I love direct people who can tell where you stand and there's no drama .

As you said, you are a PISCES!! Taurus and Pisces are VERY DIFFERENT! I would be pissed off BIG TIME!!! But then again I would NEVER myself turn up at someone's house uninvited or unannounced...

So maybe she is just not that into you!!!

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well it has nothing with pisces or taurus.. I'm talking about ignor, which is unacceptable for me. You have every right to have any kind of feeling toward others for their actions, but at least you need to respect people enough to explain everything you do.. Don't you like what he did?? then say so, don't you want him in your life?? again say so.. Is there anything whats annoying you?? talk to him.. Just be direct whatever you want or do,. Confusion is the worst thing, but I see that situation as she plays a game or something like that, she doesn't wanna lose him totally, just in case she can't find anyone better it's always good to know somebody's waiting for you huh??

OP is a Virgo

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Posted by xtina
She's emotionally unavailable that tells you everything. I've been that way and am still trying to work on that and can totally see where things went wrong. Nothing you did wrong but it's just she's emotionally unavailable. So, when things get too serious too quick with emotions and you showing up at her door of course she's going to freak out. But I must say she must have real issues to push you away that quick. I would let her be. Let her deal with her butter. I know from experience the more you poke, pry, or pressure or try to get back in her life she will push you further away and go further into hiding.

I wish you the best of luck

Thank you, yeah the best I can do is leave her to it to be honest. I wouldn't want to push her further...

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If she's playing these games she's not mature enough to give you a good quality relationship anyway. You seem like a good person. You can find a better person anyway 🙂.

And from experience if she comes back don't take her back, but if you have to make her work for it. You deserve a good quality woman 🙂

thanks all. i guess im just beating myself up. one minute she's there and the next she's just gone! hurts you know?

Im really resisting the urge to contact her. as you said @xtina it would just push her away further, but TBH i don;t know how much further away she could get. she's already completely ignoring me....

I have about 50/50 girl/guy friends. I am a guy who finds it quite easy to be just friends with girls

@The Virgo (jimiguitar)

Personally. I think she's a B&tch!
I would be freaked out if someone showed up my house unannounced, but I would NEVER show up @ anyone's house unannounced.
There lies the consistency with most Bulls, it isn't associated with hypocrisy.
The minute she addressed your uninvited visit, I would have simply called her out on her uninvited visit.

She's tap-dancing all over you...because you have NO backbone. She may have some Aries placements, and probably young too.

Tell her to go kick rocks and don't show up around these parks no more. (Translation; "Show up at your house).

Call it a gut instinct, but something tells me when this blows over, she will show up at your place..

As for how she feels about you? Only time will tell. Bulls internalize, assess, and then initiate. This can take time. You will never know what we're thinking.

But if you want to speed up the process, I advise you grow a backbone and tell her to f&ck off!

Who knows, she may be in for the shock of her life, and may actually warm up to you.

Good Luck!

Im gonna give it a few days to see what happens, if she doesnt contact i'll tell her straight that im not waiting around, I do have a life afterall and I deserve to live it. Not spend my time pining after someone who doesn't care

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^ agreed.

With @pisceanloves

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Lol that's funny how most of people got me as the author of this thread..

Posted by BG2
Wait, are you talking about mistaking jimi for a pisces?
😆

Definitely 😄

i wouldn't bother contacting her again to tell her you're "moving on".

you've contacted her 5 (?) times now and she has responded once and that was to tell you that she is not ok with you coming to her home. i think to contact her again is overkill. she has made herself pretty clear.

i think only 1% of people are truly scared of their feelings but a lot of people like to tell themselves the reason they are being ghosted is because feelings are too strong. i've said it before, it's a horse shit reason said to self soothe. if people are really felt strongly, even overwhelmingly so, fear or no fear, they will pursue the object of their desire.

and yes, sorry about your mugging jimi. glad you are ok.

yep, give it a rest dude - and glad you are ok after the attack

jeane I love your responses and your picture; you are very wise!

aw shucks. cheers mate. it's really just 90% papier mâché and guesswork.

Posted by tiziani
Fair play.

I think that highlights exactly that the "tit for tat" reasoning doesn't work for men (generally speaking), especially not after only knowing each other for a only a week.

I am sure there are some women who don't test or put up a front but it's rare. And she didn't do it maliciously or disrespect his life, even in this case. She just ran. Never chase.

do women really test that much? i don't know. i don't date women but going from myself, i don't test. i change my mind but that is not the same as testing.

if i was a betting woman my money would be she had recently broken up with someone, being a taurus, had a hard time letting go and tried to do that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"...the thing is her change happened suddenly. she suddenly stopped replying. that leads me to believe it's very possible her old flame re-entered the picture...

Posted by tiziani
Lol you're going to put that idea in his head.

Every woman I've spoken to about it has said in the first few weeks (if not sooner) they do the go cold and distant thing to see if he will lose his mind. Not that they outright come and say "yeah I do this" but when I've asked they will say "yeah that's true".

This doesn't apply to you?

really——!!!!!! no way does that apply to me! it wouldn't even cross my mind. i am completely shocked at the thought.

lol, it's not the first person who dropped the prospective love interest when the old one came back on the scene.

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Posted by tiziani
Fair play.

I think that highlights exactly that the "tit for tat" reasoning doesn't work for men (generally speaking), especially not after only knowing each other for a only a week.

I am sure there are some women who don't test or put up a front but it's rare. And she didn't do it maliciously or disrespect his life, even in this case. She just ran. Never chase.

do women really test that much? i don't know. i don't date women but going from myself, i don't test. i change my mind but that is not the same as testing.

if i was a betting woman my money would be she had recently broken up with someone, being a taurus, had a hard time letting go and tried to do that "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"...the thing is her change happened suddenly. she suddenly stopped replying. that leads me to believe it's very possible her old flame re-entered the picture...

Since I've been gained a lot of awareness lately and planned to do some testing on someone in case they either liked me, be faithful or what's their secret plan with me. Because we want to be cautious of who we are with.

If we actually see the cue that might be either red flag/incompatible/delusional to us, then they failed our test.

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i am cautious too but i wouldn't test someone find out the depth of their feeling. i would watch how they behave under regular conditions and go from there.