Taurus Girl I was dating totally cut all contact with me :( (Page 2)

Posted by tiziani

Posted by jeane

Posted by tiziani
Lol you're going to put that idea in his head.

Every woman I've spoken to about it has said in the first few weeks (if not sooner) they do the go cold and distant thing to see if he will lose his mind. Not that they outright come and say "yeah I do this" but when I've asked they will say "yeah that's true".

This doesn't apply to you?

really——!!!!!! no way does that apply to me! it wouldn't even cross my mind. i am completely shocked at the thought.

lol, it's not the first person who dropped the prospective love interest when the old one came back on the scene.

See, now you're shocking me.

Hand on heart, you're the first woman that says no they don't know anything about doing this.

@justagirl knows how to explain it better than me.

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honestly, hand on the bible, may i be eaten by a pack of zombies tonight in my bed, i've never heard of it, never done it, never considered it. i have done the "ooh, i've chased enough, calm your tits and let him reach out to you" but that's not the same...wait, is it? that would be really early on when you wonder if you're reading the signs right. it's more about doubt of yourself rather than a test of him.

the "test" of i'm going to go cold to let him sweat, noooooooooo, absolutely not. i have read something where they say don't text back right away because it shows him your interested, i completely ignore that. i would text back immediately! i'm shit at games.

Posted by BG2
There's no such thing as too much sense 😄
Common sense, that's all it is.
@tiziani

"common sense is not so common."

OP, you're 32 this year? Forget this girl. There'll be others. Why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Sure, you were keen, that's always flattering and occasionally scary but as others have said, if she was half decent she'd have just told you. We've all been there in these situations. Don't bother constantly trying to communicate with her. Maybe she's playing games, maybe she's unavailable etc. The point is, you knew her for all of five minutes. It's infatuation. She's still a little young. At your age you should be getting a good grip of yourself. I'm 36, I'd considered dating younger guys of your age (that's not an invitation) but I found most didn't know who they were and would just jump right in and after a while lose interest and disappear. Go for a more mature woman who knows what she's doing. Not necessarily old in age but just emotionally available would be a good start! This girl you met, she just sounds like a bit of a cunt. No one likes a cunt ‰

@Nevermore

I am sorry for the delay.. i was at work when you guys tried to page me.. lol i read to try to get up to speed. All my comments are not in regards to this specific thread, but the prior conversation that took place in the thread @tiziani is refering to.

If i recall what he is talking about it's stuff that i have wittnessed and even have done when younger and usually they don't even realize they have done it. But it's little tests of interest or loyality if you will. It's so hard to explain even. i get what others have said about being direct and telling a dude you just aren't into them and that is not what the conversation was about. It was specifically addressing the females that do the dating shuffle ( i dunno what else to call it).

Guy is into said girl. girl likes said guy but isn't 100% that the guy is really into her just yet.. so the females do the pull back to gauge if the guy trully is invested as much as he claims. Guy will view it as her going cold or distant on him. He then reacts to that. It's usually completely subconscious but it is still a game. It's not laying all the cards on the table.

now i barely recall this convo, as there has been many over the years. so Tiz please add anything to help remind me if this is even remotely what you are speaking of lol

@infinite8 if more women were open an honest like you are the world would be a better place.

I haven't attempted to contact her since monday, and I have no intention of attempting to again. This girl has messed with my mind in a way I have never experienced before and it has left me reeling and obviously looking for answers, But im not going to get them! She's emotionally unavailable, fair enough. but she should have been honest and upfront with me from the get go, and im a nice enough guy she could have just told me this instead of running away. Running away is a rather immature thing to do and tbh it has opened my eyes. I knew that she had complained and complained for a long time about never finding a sweet, kind honest guy. One comes along and BOOM! she can't handle it. Yet I bet the next douchebag that comes along she'll be all over him.

The reason im posting this today is because last night she invaded my dreams........I have't ever dreamt about her. Yet last night I dreamt she was calling my name and it has totally freaked me the fuck out. I have no idea where it has come from

Never in my life have I ever disappeared on someone. I've always told them exactly why I was leaving. People always deserve to at least know why!

thanks @BG2 I guess it was my own fault for letting my guard down and opening up 😢

agreed!

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@OP - WATER AND EARTH CREATES MUD.

@Op -Yes earth needs water to nurture the roots, earth with stabilize and ground it where it can both balance if the two of you can work it out. You know Pisces is the 12th sign far away from Taurus which is number 2 . They say it's usually 6-12 for compatibility...it could work but the both of you have to adapt and Pisces is mutable.

You're freaking her out and you are coming on way too strong. We don't like to feel pressured. We like to take things slow and get to know you. It takes us time to decide our feelings because once we are in it's for the long haul. Give her some space and let nature take it's course.

ugh I love virgos

Posted by wicked
I didnt read beyond the first few pages. What struck me was the op was so naive enough to fall for the easiest trick in the dating game.
Men and women do this all the time.
Amazing first few dates. When u start to connect emotionally, you start to wonder. A bit of your wicked side kicks in. So what do you do? You pull back. Wait for them to react. If they dont react, get back with a plausible excuse. At that stage anything will do with those uncontrollable raging hormones. Sad part is when the other party is cute enough to fall for the ignoring gimmick. Cheap stuff but works almost all the time(But hey i wasnt a grown up woman then, dont hate me.) Suddenly all the fun is gone and you need an escape plan. While hoping they don't know your home address. And a lil prayer they are not a Virgo 😉
The thing is if a person ignores you after an amazing date, let them be. Dont try to act cute. Save the cute stuff when you are together. The more you chase something..... the more you end up falling flat on your ass.
How old are you op? Seventeen? Ninteen?

@tiziani, is this what you were talking about?