Taurus lover denying make-up sex?

Hi all, I'm wondering what can be read into a Taurus-Aries female lover who has taken to denying sex, and is hot/cold with other physical affections, while still wanting to go on dates, spend time with me, sleep next to me in just undies and a shirt, and other mixed signals like that? My Taurus and I had been fighting, largely over a situation she feels guilt over, and instigated, and now she's still prone to instigating fights over incidents that she blows out of proportion then blaming me, or acting hurt for my reaction.

She initiated contact again with me, and pursued opening up communication lines after a very short breakup and is in constant contact, with a few vanishing acts along the way. I know she's confused, and scared but she's not capable of talking things out. We're hanging out again, but there has not been any make-up sex, and there are serious walls up with the level of flirting she'll engage in. We had a very sexual relationship, and she seems to derive power over where we are through sex, essentially using sex as a weapon, abut the most she'll do to communicate what's happening is to say she's not ready and wants to go slow. As much as I want to respect that, it doesn't add up entirely, and she's shared other stories about sexual dysfunction in her past relationships. The thing that stings is she was the one who rushed things sexually in the relationship. I need to resume the physical like we had it before if this is going to work for me at all. Otherwise what's the point?

Since the Taurus I'm involved in doesn't know what she wants with me, or at least isn't ready to convey it, I'm forced to do a lot of mind ready, which isn't a great situation for anyone involved. To me, the point of hanging out again should be to heal, and move on, and the refusal to go the full distance by putting up physical barriers seems decisive to me. I have a Taurus friend who shares a similar story about sleeping with her ex, sharing intimacy, but refusing sex after they were essentially broken up in her head, and so I'm wondering if this is typical?

Some insight from all of you who are perhaps more in touch with themselves, and more mature, would help me know how to deal with this. Am I getting strung along, and is this possibly just her being a creature of habit? Is this just the bull working at her own pace? Is this typical of a Taurus?

*mind reading.

sorry about the many typos. appreciate the help with this!

Posted by David13
It hurts the most to be rejected by your favorite. Let her be 'confused' on her own time... if you feel her pulling away... push her !

All wise words I'm taking in, but how can one push a Taurus towards a positive resolution?

From what I'm reading of the sign's traits, if I ignore her, or give ultimatums, it's unlikely to go well, and she'll judge my reaction to what she's instigated, and possibly use it as an opportunity to turn it on me, as if I'm the problem here, and not her frigidness.

Posted by David13


A man in a relationship wants to have sex to be ASSURED that everything is okay... a woman in a relationship wants to have sex WHEN everything IS okay. You see ? It is not her being frigid... it is that for her, everything is NOT okay.

wow word.