Taurus man cut me off and moved on?

I've been with my Taurus for 8 months. A week ago I started sensing this new "I don't care" type of attitude he had. I yelled at my Taurus man over some health issues he was creating for me and I broke up with him. Then later on that day when I calmed down I tried to un-breakup but he said "actually I'm tired of you yelling at me maybe we should stay broken up because I've told you this many times and you're not changing and honestly I've been done for 3 months now but we can be friends." Of course we went back and forth for a little while I cried (also asked him if there was someone else, things were not adding up in the convo) because he's the sweetest guy ever and I have really bad baggage for a Libra who was abusive and my Taurus didn't deserve that back lash.

The next day he calls me and asks me to dinner and a movie. Then the next day I'm back at his family's house for dinner. The day after ,that was school day for us, he texts me before I get off work and says he can't walk me to class because he has to meet his lab group, I said ok. After my class I call him 15 times over the course of an hour and he says he was home and sleep. This was unusual that he didn't say anything when he left his lab group so I was confused. He said he would come to see me before his last evening class but he claimed he got caught up getting ready and wasn't gonna make it to me. The following day same thing..... distance but I always wanna know why so I keep pushing for him to come over and explain.

This Next day is the worst! He calls me and I'm making sure to be extra sweet since I thought are problem was my rudeness. I asked him if he had time for me and he said no. I said well what about if we just get some food he says ok.... long story short, while we're st the restaurant I asked how did he feel about me this week and he said he still wanted a break up but this time it was because he needs to focus on school and the whole "it's not you it's me" thing (we all know what that really means) and I started to tear a little as he tried to begin casual conversations about various other upbeat topics. Basically, I said I've lost my appetite and I walk out. The shocking price is that my waiter vhase me out side to check on me and my Taurus didn't!

The next day actually was yesterday. I texted the Taurus in a long message and said sorry because I realized that i never do that and I couldn't belive I had been so ungrateful and rude. My mother even has told me I was always her sweet child and that the Libra ex really messed me up. Also, I go on saying he's right we need to be apart, I gotta work on things and focus on me, we gotta grow, but I still do love you... etc. He did not reply. Then two hours later in just sitting eating with my friend at the college which I don't do on Thursday because I don't have class and HE WALKS IN WITH A GIRL. My back was turned to him and I refused to look but my friend was giving him dagger eyes lol. She said he was close to her and he backed up immediately when he saw her looking. Then lol omg she goes over there and ask him if he was planning on coming to say hi to me, he said "no" and nothing more. The girl said they were just friends and when she got her food she went out and my Taurus "got a phone call" (not likely) and walked the opposite direction where they came from.

Basically, I'm wondering is there anyway to come back from this? Did he go to her because I didn't give him space and I'm rude and not changing? What can I do? Or are we past the point of return?

@ScorpioNov8,

I am sorry that you're going through this ordeal with you Taurus.

At times, we as Bulls, can be emotionally insensitive.

Emotional displays can often be seen as irrational, non-pragmatic, impractical and senseless.

Honestly,

You're just being a Scorpio.

Emotional and intense.

My advice to you.

Since Bulls adhere to and respect consistent guidelines....

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Giving him space means not accepting is invitations either.

Next time he reaches out, give him 'it's the me and not you speech."

You need to take time out for yourself to re-evaluate what is it you really want.

Bulls respect strength and practicality.

@TaurusBull1977

Thanks! I really understand that is where I went wrong. I kept going out with him!

I know that we are perfect for each other so I hope I haven't gone to far. I'm just damaged goods but I can change it with time. Is there any way I can win him back?

Don't try to win him back.

You're not 'damaged goods'...just someone who put her love and trust in a past abusive relationship.

Take the time out to learn to love yourself.

Who knows, you may not even want him after this transition.

But if you do....allow him to try to win you back.

Post:

Never resort to side-stepping, games or manipulation to win a Taurus.

Our BS meters/detectors are always in full service.

This will backfire. I have seen this a million times on this board (mainly with water signs).

Hopefully you recognize that your emotional baggage from your ex was what killed this.

Hopefully the next time you encounter a decent guy you won't hold him accountable for the sins of your ex's...

Posted by ScorpioNov8
@TaurusBull1977

Thanks! I really understand that is where I went wrong. I kept going out with him!

I know that we are perfect for each other so I hope I haven't gone to far. I'm just damaged goods but I can change it with time. Is there any way I can win him back?

I won't comment on getting him back. But what I will say is that I was in an abusive relationship before (not a Libra...they come in all forms and signs) and I will say that being single for a while after that was the best decision I ever made. I worked on myself, focused on work/school, traveled, met up with friends and family more or just did some things that really made me happy. I "found myself" again. You have been hurt, but does that mean you will forever stay damaged? No. I don't see myself that way anymore and can honestly even say I have forgiven and let go of that situation, although difficult. A new partner (no matter how great he is) will not be able to do that for you. You can try to chase this guy, but in the end it is about you relying on him to make you happy. I sincerely hope you find the real you again (to make yourself happy), so that not only can you be the best you (for yourself and someone else if you choose to find another man) but ALSO you can find the best guy for you...not just the first guy who seems great. If not, you may continue to run into this type of situation, not just with this Taurus guy.

*Sorry just pains me to hear women call themselves "damaged good."

You're not ready for the Taurus, go heal, focus on getting you back, who you were before the Libra abused you.

@TaurusBull1977

Yeah, I am VERY manipulative at times. I'm definitely going to focus on me for now. I did tell him it was too soon for me when we started dating but I guess we got caught up more in physical things which turned into the relationship. Yes, you are right though I have to find myself first. Thanks !

@jane84

Thanks so much! I definitely will work on being alone, that's a big problem I have. Also, that's a good point that you made that he is just the first guy that seems nice.

Posted by ScorpioNov8
@jane84

Thanks so much! I definitely will work on being alone, that's a big problem I have. Also, that's a good point that you made that he is just the first guy that seems nice.

You're welcome!!