
Roam
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Posted by phEnyxBull876
It sounds like his mind isn't on you, that's for sure.
I talk to my BF all day while I'm at work, and I'm busy as fuck. The way I see it...he's got time during or between classes to call/text you. He's got 2-3 nights a week free to see you. And sure he's gigging or doing school work, but if I really wanted to see my BF, I'd tell him come to my gig and we hang after, or come to the library while I study, etc. There's ways around everything no matter how busy you are. So if he's not making an effort...Masters degree or not, you're not a priority.
You don't have to be the #1 priority, but you still have to *A* priority in order to maintain a relationship. Otherwise, what's the point?



Posted by phEnyxBull876
That's not a Taurus thing... Sounds like he has some cancer in him. But i sure wouldn't let that slide. School or no school, he needs to shape up, and you need to speak up.
People come along all the time. And circumstances can push people together just as much as they can pull people apart. Let this be a peek into your potential future with him. If this is how he deals with stress, and you can't handle it, make the decision that's best for you, because that's what he is doing for himself right now.

Posted by Koniucha
I wouldn't say that Venus in Gem cheats necessarily, but my understanding is that it can be difficult for them to stay in a relationship. I knew a Cancer with Venus in Gem and he told me he had a love addiction. Basically he would fall in love then leave.

Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by phEnyxBull876
Man, Venus in Gemini gets such a bad rap! I would (easier?) say its more like, its easy for our attention to wander if our needs aren't being met. But whether they choose to cheat or not is based on maturity and experience, not a guarantee based on planetary placements.
If anything, I think his moon in Aquarius PLUS Venus Gemini speaks more to how he's behaving right now.
Think your first comment was on the money...
If someone's truly interested, they make the time. If they're not putting in the leg work, they're not that serious. Like you said, one can't expect to come along and immediately be priority #1, but they hafta at least be *a* priority. Otherwise no progress is made and you devalue yourself by putting up with the absentee behavior.click to expand

Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaerie
Maybe *he* should be the one hoping no one comes along for you. Do what makes you happy, but don't sell yourself short.
He may be a little over confident. He's very spiritual and has a lot of good...credentials if that makes sense...his character has been proven for years to be good. So it isnt just a connection that brought us together...we have marriage material.
So you've known him for years, but have only been together together for a few months? The first post makes it sound as tho you've only been bf/gf for a short time.click to expand




Posted by phEnyxBull876
By needs to be met, i did not mean sex.
Again, this is not a Taurus thing. It's a HIM thing. Just because he IS a Taurus doesn't mean everything he does is BECAUSE he is a Taurus.
Not sure what else you want us to say. He's not investing time in you right now, you're sticking around playing nice and talking to a phone while he's busy not making time for you. And you admit you don't like it... But make a lot of excuses at to why you think you should put up with it.
He's not trying to manipulate you. You're trying to manipulate yourself into thinking he's worth putting up with this for.



Posted by phEnyxBull876
Mmkay, then I hope we don't see you hear in a week asking why he's ignoring you again.
Did y'all have sex last night?
In any case, woohoo. You knew the answer all along!

Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by phEnyxBull876
Man, Venus in Gemini gets such a bad rap! I would (easier?) say its more like, its easy for our attention to wander if our needs aren't being met. But whether they choose to cheat or not is based on maturity and experience, not a guarantee based on planetary placements.
If anything, I think his moon in Aquarius PLUS Venus Gemini speaks more to how he's behaving right now.
Think your first comment was on the money...
If someone's truly interested, they make the time. If they're not putting in the leg work, they're not that serious. Like you said, one can't expect to come along and immediately be priority #1, but they hafta at least be *a* priority. Otherwise no progress is made and you devalue yourself by putting up with the absentee behavior.
I dont think I'm devaluing myself...he in no way shape or form VALIDATES me or my worth. I am whole without him.
It's the fact you teach people how to treat you.
According to you, he's trying to condition you into being ok with only seeing each other once every three weeks and it sounds like you live in the same city. If you're ok with that, that's none of my business. I'm only saying busy is a reason until it becomes an excuse. How much of that you're willing to put up with is exactly what you're gonna get.click to expand


Posted by KoniuchaPosted by RoamPosted by phEnyxBull876
By needs to be met, i did not mean sex.
Again, this is not a Taurus thing. It's a HIM thing. Just because he IS a Taurus doesn't mean everything he does is BECAUSE he is a Taurus.
Not sure what else you want us to say. He's not investing time in you right now, you're sticking around playing nice and talking to a phone while he's busy not making time for you. And you admit you don't like it... But make a lot of excuses at to why you think you should put up with it.
He's not trying to manipulate you. You're trying to manipulate yourself into thinking he's worth putting up with this for.
Him not investing time wasnt the issue. It was the lack of communication about it. That's was my point this whole time. I know why he's not making as much time as I want. He's busy. But the lack of response I just can't take.
Any who, he surprised me!! Oh I'm so happy. I love my Taurus. And I got on him about it. He said he was sorry and that his extra school work was done.
See you all shouldnt read so deep into things! I said the man was busy. School and work come first. -shrugs- and he just happened to have a double load. My man is interested. He just has that Aquarius moon and passive controlling Taurus stuff goin on.
Then why are you asking us our opinion if you know what is going on??click to expand

alright...it wasn't too late to do much else. I'm not some random chick he met. I'm an understanding women that supports his life style . Clearly you read that he had band stuff to do. As I said before he works as a MUSICIAN. that's how he pays his rent. Has no reflection on how he values me...that's your problem with men....not mine. I Dont get in relationships with a man if I'm still questioning everything your trying to make me question. Get over yourself and think about why your projecting your own insecurities with men on me. 🙂 I'm dating a busy man working towards his masters and talented enough to make a living off of his talent..which means he's going to be busy...and instead of being happy for me you want to make me feel insecure. WOMP WOMP Not buying it.
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by phEnyxBull876
Mmkay, then I hope we don't see you hear in a week asking why he's ignoring you again.
Did y'all have sex last night?
In any case, woohoo. You knew the answer all along!
I guess I did. Yes we did. ^_^. I won't I'll just deal with it if he does. I get him.
Aaand he just came over when it was too late to do much else, had sex with you and didn't even have the decency to stay the night?
Good luck. I'm out.click to expand



Posted by HotbeefyPosted by Roam
This has to do with him not responding when I ask to see him. Not why I haven't. Should've been more clear about that in beginning but I was just venting.
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Yes venting...in other words instead of making it more about what I was confused about...I told all the details instead of acknowledging what I was confused about and what I wasn't confused about. I just show a nadty side in that response...you're just reading into it like that.
Sent him a text message this morning about how I dont like how he doesnt respond and he has yet to answer. It's 12:42 pm. What is so hard in saying "I dont know yet babe"....
Why do you think he's doing this?
Is he trying to control me into getting used to his busy schedule?
Is he ashamed of being so busy and not comfortable with opening up?
He's not a phone person so we dont talk on the phone at all. Everything is through text and these past two weeks going on three he has sent about three texts...when I respond thats it...nothing else.
Where the heck is his mind?
Calling a venting? You were asking us in the beginning. Suddenly you showed the nasty side after this:
See you all shouldnt read so deep into things! I said the man was busy. School and work come first. -shrugs- and he just happened to have a double load. My man is interested. He just has that Aquarius moon and passive controlling Taurus stuff goin on.click to expand

ing being busy if he works and has an 80 hour school load plus he is a youth pastor so he has to be up on Sundays at 7...teach at nine then play for the church during service. HE LITERALLY had no time...he is his priority. He's not hiding behind anything...that's his real life. But for some reason you don't get it.
I have heard that Taurus men don't respond for various reason so yes it has Ben said that it is a Taurus thing...because they want to be in charge and control. Even when he explained it last night he was like "if you know what I'm doing then why would you second guess?" He said this after I asked why he didnt respond and after I said I know what he was doing but was still second guessing. Maybe your Taurus doesnt do that but Taurus have been known to passively try to control in relationships. I simply wanted more opinions.
If you can't see how a 80 hour school load and work and ministry isn't hiding behind busy then I dont know what to tell you.
Our relationship is still new. We got in relationship FAST so he is still in his slow phase in terms of feeling me out and seeing how I'll respond to things.
He made an EFFORT to focus on his priorities first and take a breather to himself. He even mentioned how he's on the move a lot when I asked about responding. That points to a Taurus trait too...then like to contemplate things before making decisions and his life at that time just didn't allow him to. Now granted that's not an excuse but I think that wanting that need to contemplate is just a Taurus thing that they need to adjust to...depending on the Taurus. Plus his indecisive Venus in Gemini adds to it too. He can't make up his mind how he's going to lovingly fix the issue so he just focuses on priorities. This man had a deadline...not just 80 hours of school PLUS work mainly on nights. So...whateverPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by Roam
Oh your a Scorpio moon...I get it...JEALOUS.click to expand
Fuck it. I'm back.
Now *your* insecurity is showing.
What the rest of us are trying to tell you is that the lack of communication is only the little issue here. The big issue is hiding behind busy. It's great that you're understanding, but there is such a thing as too much understanding. It starts to become a lot like denial.
To answer your question, no. Not respond

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Then I revert back to my first post. I don't understand what makes this worth it to you, but that's not my place. Again, I say good luck.
You're right that a Taurus man likes to set the pace and will probably end up doing it one way or the other. That said, I don't think he's trying to train you not to expect texts when he's busy. He knows all the stuff he has going on and if he still likes you enough that he wants to give this a go, I'd think the least he could do is text you. I'm not trying to be harsh when I say that really is about the minimal amount of effort a person can give. If he can't do at least that on a more regular basis, that's pretty selfish on his part.

Posted by HotbeefyYes venting...in other words instead of making it more about what I was confused about...I told all the details instead of acknowledging what I was confused about and what I wasn't confused about. I just show a nadty side in that response...you're just reading into it like that.
Not only that responds, after that responds you were mockin on Cheekyfaerie and the rest.
Your relationship is new and yet you go vent about it. Suddenly you switched into know-it-all.
That's what I called moodswings of your double Libra.click to expand

Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by HotbeefyYes venting...in other words instead of making it more about what I was confused about...I told all the details instead of acknowledging what I was confused about and what I wasn't confused about. I just show a nadty side in that response...you're just reading into it like that.
Not only that responds, after that responds you were mockin on Cheekyfaerie and the rest.
Your relationship is new and yet you go vent about it. Suddenly you switched into know-it-all.
That's what I called moodswings of your double Libra.
She was rude to me! What am I gonna crawl with my tail under me? Like I said I vented not out of uncertainty of why I haven't seen him. I KNOW that part. Call it what you want I won't lose sleep.
Not rude. Tough love. I'm still a Cap, afterall. 🙂click to expand

ell the truth you gave your insecureky rooted opinion.Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by HotbeefyYes venting...in other words instead of making it more about what I was confused about...I told all the details instead of acknowledging what I was confused about and what I wasn't confused about. I just show a nadty side in that response...you're just reading into it like that.
Not only that responds, after that responds you were mockin on Cheekyfaerie and the rest.
Your relationship is new and yet you go vent about it. Suddenly you switched into know-it-all.
That's what I called moodswings of your double Libra.
She was rude to me! What am I gonna crawl with my tail under me? Like I said I vented not out of uncertainty of why I haven't seen him. I KNOW that part. Call it what you want I won't lose sleep.
Not rude. Tough love. I'm still a Cap, afterall. 🙂
tough love is rude.
Haha. If you can't handle me telling you the truth then you're gonna need that luck for a Taurus. Take care.click to expand

te either one.Posted by HotbeefyPosted by RoamPosted by cheekyfaeriePosted by RoamPosted by HotbeefyYes venting...in other words instead of making it more about what I was confused about...I told all the details instead of acknowledging what I was confused about and what I wasn't confused about. I just show a nadty side in that response...you're just reading into it like that.
Not only that responds, after that responds you were mockin on Cheekyfaerie and the rest.
Your relationship is new and yet you go vent about it. Suddenly you switched into know-it-all.
That's what I called moodswings of your double Libra.
She was rude to me! What am I gonna crawl with my tail under me? Like I said I vented not out of uncertainty of why I haven't seen him. I KNOW that part. Call it what you want I won't lose sleep.
Not rude. Tough love. I'm still a Cap, afterall. 🙂
tough love is rude.
You'll meet someone in here who's totally giving you tough love when you vent on virgo or pisces board.click to expand




Posted by scorchedearth
btw we only disappear when we're uncertain about someone and we're making a decision about them. taurus only ignore people if we're not totally invested in them yet.
once we're all in we're as consistent as the day is long. if we can't talk? you get a text or a call BEFORE that time frame giving you an ETA on when we'll be back.

Posted by jeane
i'm still stuck on why you would want to be in a relationship with someone who you believe to be manipulative and controlling.
the double (crossing) guessing game playing is so childish but i get the sense that you are very young so carry on. us oldies won't be able to shed light on your situation because what would we know now eh? after all, we were at our smartest when we were young.

Posted by scorchedearth
ignores her for 3 weeks. comes over for a booty call. doesn't even spend the night.
yep. everything is great in taurusville.

Posted by HotbeefyPosted by Roam
Its not tough love...its being rude to strangers because you're no where near them.
You're just reading into it like that. 😉
If not, there's a good logical over there.click to expand

Posted by scorchedearth
ignores her for 3 weeks. comes over for a booty call. doesn't even spend the night.
yep. everything is great in taurusville.

Posted by RoamPosted by scorchedearth
ignores her for 3 weeks. comes over for a booty call. doesn't even spend the night.
yep. everything is great in taurusville.
well when he has moon in aquarius and venus in gemini...plus mars in capricorn with a bust schedule...thats what you deal with. he came over to make love. thats what people do when they're in loving relationships...they have sex. lolclick to expand

Posted by Faithndestiny
** lly taking anyone words so i will let u be,,just putting down my thoughts on paper,,, that is all 🙂 ps: communication is hugeeeeee for me... Esp for airy placements like us.. Never take that lightly.... Its a way of expresssing love... 100 %

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