Dafuq Taurus -.-

Hello!

So this is something that happened recently with my Taurus best friend. About two weeks ago we were having this rift because he expected me to open up to him about EVERYTHING as soon as he demanded. I had told him numerous times before that I would tell him things when I am ready because I am, in general, a very private person. But he just made it into a trust issue and ended up calling me an "attention seeker" because apparently I refuse to tell him things so that he keeps asking me over and over again, while I enjoy the attention (which is not the case at all). So anyway, that got sorted out.

Today, at dinner, he goes "Can I ask you something?" and I said "Yeah, go on" and he said "Are you sure you're not an attention seeker?". It made me mad because the fact that he asked the question meant he hadn't even regarded what I've been saying all this while about me being a private person. I was really frustrated. 😐

When I asked him WHY he thinks I seek attention he started giving stupid examples about how I talk to everyone and offer advice to people or sometimes just stay quiet (Uh, yeah, because I don't really have anything to say). None of that made sense. So then he starts apologizing and saying it's his mistake to assume stuff about me and blah blah blah.

What is his problem? Is he just trying to agitate me or what? Just because he notices everything I do doesn't mean I do them to get his attention 😐 And this is a recent occurrence, he would never do this before.

He sounds annoying like my Cap friend. It's like all of a sudden, when they can't handle something there're dealing with internally, they'll start projecting or lashing out on you.

Idk, he probably can't read you how he'd like and it's frustrating him, so therefore something must be wrong with you in his mind.. Who knows.

Manipulating you bc he wants you to spill the beans. Trying to force it out of you...lol. He trusts you and wants you to trust him more and stop being so secretive.

I can relate, when I'm close to someone, I share everything. In my mind, this equaks trust. So when I don't receive the same in return, I tend to take it personal.

Specifically in love relationships, I think I may have been conditioned to be more upfront and forthcoming BC I used to lie and cheated on my partners a few times when I was young and immature. So in a way its also to hold myself accountable -- open book. And my cancer is VERY private, which irks me, but I also completely trust him, so its a learning experience in finding that balance. What's "normal" and "easy" to me are not the same to him. And in return, he does make an effort to be more open for me, BC he does understand where I come from, and he has that same level of trust in me.

If your Taurus friend is suddenly being this way, I get the feeling there's something specific that is making him question your privacy rules. Granted, it could be really trivial, but something triggered it. And perhaps...he is growing feelings for you? What kind of "friend" is this? 🙂

That said, how old are you and how long has this guy been your best friend? Seems odd that he'd be questioning you in this way if you are close enough to be besties...

Posted by lnana04
He sounds annoying like my Cap friend. It's like all of a sudden, when they can't handle something there're dealing with internally, they'll start projecting or lashing out on you.

I know, right. Whenever he is sad about something he just starts avoiding me 😐 I leave him alone because I know Taurus need their space once in a while. But if I am sad, he insists I tell him what's wrong AT ONCE. Scorpios need some alone time too. 😐

Posted by Impulsv
What does he want to know

Mostly, when something is bothering me or I am sad he asks me what's wrong. And I don't like talking about my problems so I say "nothing". He used to leave me alone earlier but these days he doesn't. Which is just really hypocritical of him. And anyway, I do end up telling him what's wrong ultimately ... but after I've put my mind straight about the problems I am facing.

Posted by phEnyxBull876
That said, how old are you and how long has this guy been your best friend? Seems odd that he'd be questioning you in this way if you are close enough to be besties...

We are both 19. I met him a year and half ago, we became friends then but got close about a year back and right now we're very close. Now that you mention it, perhaps he just called me his bestie without actual understanding how deep a bestie relationship is.

Jeez he sounds more like Virgo than Taurus to me lol. I would never push someone to talk to me before they were ready... Usually I'm the one getting bugged about opening up before I'm ready.

I don't know... Firstly we are, as far as I can deduce, receiving vague information to go on, pretty much similar to what you give him and then you want to get answers for his reactions. Also, this is only your version of the story but that is besides the point.

Secondly, Taurus pick up patterns rather quickly and if you think you get annoyed lol boy oh boy...

Basically, there have been occasions before where while you where feeling down and out you DID go to him to feel better. Even though you did not tell him before about what was going on, the fact that he asked, 'Hey, are you ok?' Already made you feel like someone at least cares.

Now here is the thing, he obviously has got a special place for you and does care about your well being, more than when you initially met, yet you still stick to the same routine, "only" going to him when you are down because you KNOW that mostly he has a calming sensation about him and he does care yet you won't tell him what is bothering you.

Hell, given enough time any damn person will feel this way, it has nothing to do with star signs ect...

You can't be ticked off when you are 'possibly' emitting this very behaviour. Hell even if you are just friends, proper friends do talk this out instead of wearing there hearts on there sleeve and getting annoyed when someone who actually cares tries to offer comfort.

Understand that he cares, if it doesn't ring with you then back off when you feel down and out and don't expose him to that side of you. Simple as that.

Posted by OmagaIII
I don't know... Firstly we are, as far as I can deduce, receiving vague information to go on, pretty much similar to what you give him and then you want to get answers for his reactions. Also, this is only your version of the story but that is besides the point.

Secondly, Taurus pick up patterns rather quickly and if you think you get annoyed lol boy oh boy...

Basically, there have been occasions before where while you where feeling down and out you DID go to him to feel better. Even though you did not tell him before about what was going on, the fact that he asked, 'Hey, are you ok?' Already made you feel like someone at least cares.

Now here is the thing, he obviously has got a special place for you and does care about your well being, more than when you initially met, yet you still stick to the same routine, "only" going to him when you are down because you KNOW that mostly he has a calming sensation about him and he does care yet you won't tell him what is bothering you.

Hell, given enough time any damn person will feel this way, it has nothing to do with star signs ect...

You can't be ticked off when you are 'possibly' emitting this very behaviour. Hell even if you are just friends, proper friends do talk this out instead of wearing there hearts on there sleeve and getting annoyed when someone who actually cares tries to offer comfort.

Understand that he cares, if it doesn't ring with you then back off when you feel down and out and don't expose him to that side of you. Simple as that.

I think you misunderstand me. I never said I go to him when I am sad so that he cheers me up.All I said is that when something used to bother me earlier, he would ask and if I wouldn't tell him, he wouldn't mind. Now, he makes it into a big deal.

I understand that we are better friends now but by your logic he should be opening up to me too,when he is sad. That doesn't happen. He has stayed the same. I do not think it is logical to expect me to change while he makes no effort from his side.

Also, the fact about only going to him when I am sad- that's not true. When people are friends, they tend to be concerned about each other's emotions. You seem to think that I don't care about the times when he is down and low. The fact is, I do. I ask him and if he doesn't want to share... I let it be. And that's because he has told me that he ju

That he just* wants to be left alone while he is going through something. And I respect that. I just don't get why he won't do the same for me. Especially since he used to do it before. And also since I've already told him that I WILL tell him what's wrong once I get my head straight.

That's all.

Cool, then I don't see a problem, since neither of you are actually being helpful to each other.

This pattern will just be repeating it self till you both shatter apart. No change, things stay the same and history repeats it self. Good luck with that lol

I still think there was some situation that was a turning point for him and that's why he's suddenly behaving this way

He's a male, he's not designed to 'open up' in the same way as a female. Guys are generally less open as it is how they are built. They deal with their own stuff themselves. He's not gonna go bitching or whining about his stuff to you.

However, in my experience, the more you open, start with just a little, then it can make guys open up a little too.

It seems like you want a 'fairer' exchange or an equal exchange of openness but I can't see that would happen. It's unrealistic.

You're the woman, open up a little more and give him some time. You don't need to spill your guts but a little is good.

He's obviously grown to like you more which is probably why he's more interested in what might be bothering you.

Guys like a little vulnerability in a girl. Being too tough is often counter productive.

Posted by phEnyxBull876
I still think there was some situation that was a turning point for him and that's why he's suddenly behaving this way

Yeah, the turning point came when he realized 'Oh shit, I actually care for her'.

Posted by AgentP911
He's a male, he's not designed to 'open up' in the same way as a female. Guys are generally less open as it is how they are built. They deal with their own stuff themselves. He's not gonna go bitching or whining about his stuff to you.

However, in my experience, the more you open, start with just a little, then it can make guys open up a little too.

It seems like you want a 'fairer' exchange or an equal exchange of openness but I can't see that would happen. It's unrealistic.

You're the woman, open up a little more and give him some time. You don't need to spill your guts but a little is good.

He's obviously grown to like you more which is probably why he's more interested in what might be bothering you.

Guys like a little vulnerability in a girl. Being too tough is often counter productive.

+1 Right on the money 🙂