I'd like to further understand my taurus woman. We've been in a long distant (3 hours away) HIGHLY wonderfully intense relationship for almost a year. Seemingly OVERNIGHT she completely distanced herself. She cried that I was just getting too close. ??? We fantasized a home, marriage, rings, children, and just feeling a complete weakness in the knees for eachother. I've started school to pursue a career that will allow us time to travel and work in the same town and will be moving in just 4 months. I admit our closeness is intense... but isn't that what love is all about?
This sudden distance is quite an adjustment! We are both fairly independent and have hit the ground running with eachother. I understand and of course sensitive to her fears and feel I'd go to hell and back to wait for her. But is there any light anyone is able to shed on this behavior? It seems she's occupied herself with other flirty attention and my gut tells me that its just to ground herself or get her back into a perspective she's comfy with... as I've heard taurus is a creature of security and whats familiar. Is this normal taurus behavior?
What on earth do I say to support her? I've chosen to stay for a while and I want to make the best decisions possible to support that.
Thank you so much and any advice is greatly appreciated!
yea the touching thing, i get that. We're only 4 months away!!! She's freaked. I know taurus hates feelin pressure and its probably what it comes down to. She tells me she wants nothing to change except our expectations... that sounds like having your cake and eating it too.
Well I am not Taurus but I am dating one so my perspective is limited. As I see it, Tauruses like to move at their own pace. They like the dance of sex and romance and in their own way they are dreamers. Commitment becomes a possibility to a person when they are ready for it. Maybe she is not ready for a real one-on-one everyday kind of relationship and Tauruses can't often be pinned down about the future because they like their space. They like to be independent and they might not be so good at tolerating someone else in that space and they don't like change. Yes they like security but just like other signs, it has to be right for them. She could be trying to find a way to lessen the pressure. There are so many questions that only she can answer. You have made a move to get somewhere in your life. Whether or not she is part of it, you still have to build a life for you. Maybe you are moving just a bit too fast. If she wants a part of it, she will be there but if she doesn't want a part of it, it would be nice to know now than find out later after a divorce.
it's funny, my fish has alluded to something similar. he's said i've gone from uber interested and engaged to..."not." where nothing has changed for me, i guess i have been far more withholding as things have gotten heavier. i don't feel that way but he says i have so i guess maybe it's true. i'm not trying to play games or punish him but i am in self-protection mode and it's primarily because i'm fearful of success.
failure, i can brace myself for that. hit the ground and keep on running. but success? the type of success he presents? i dunno. it makes me so nervous that where before i enjoyed talking about it, now it's like, "don't think about it." i don't think we do dreaming out loud very well...at least not repetitively. right now my head is in the clouds...or more accurately, i'm in the abyss and it's hard to breathe. by ignoring the possibilities, by not discussing how much i want and desire great things with him, i can remain grounded and insure that IF a fall is eminent, it won't be such a drastic one.
i think at some point a woman has to learn to trust that a man isn't leading her astray. that he means what he says and he has her best interests at heart and in lot of ways, that means relinquishing control. i think as a taurus she might be waiting for it to be real and the anticipation, the nervousness, the "DON'T MESS THIS UP" is so great that you're see the quakes as you're shaking up her earthly solidarity.
don't give up on her and stay with your resolve. her earth is quaking, that doesn't mean you can't be solid.