Taurus stole my heart and crushed it

I've been seeing this Taurus for about 5 months. We have been together since the moment we meet. He was crazy about me...started talking about me moving his way this summer and making future travel plans.

Two weeks ago I saw a change in him and had a talk. He agreed he had been acting different and said he wasn't sure if he could have someone in his life with his child in the long run. "His child has disabilities" I was distraught and crushed. He continued to tell me I should calm down and that his feelings did not change. He said he wouldn't want to be without me it's just something he has to work out. This I did not understand at all...not sure how I could just forget that conversation.

The next week we had a big argument and he said he needed to work things out in his head. I crowded him "know I should have backed off". Went to speak with him and he said he couldn't handle a relationship. He said that relationships never would work for him and he was saving me. Talked that night a little and then the next day. He said he just felt pressured and that's why he said what he did...we didn't see each other for the next 5 days but I continued to reach out and text. He again tells me over the phone he can't do this and a relationship isn't for him.

He has ignored all communication with me. He has deleted me off social media. We never had a single argument our entire relationship. It was like a switch went off in those two weeks. I know I overreacted and should have allowed space. Everything was just overwhelming for me and out of nowhere. I am no longer reaching out. Is this something they do when they feel pressured and stressed? I never pressured or asked for anything in our relationship. I believe he freaked his own self out a little. Anyhow, is this something time will work out for him or do I need to believe he made this rash decision out of nowhere and is gone. It's just killing me because this isn't the person I've known.

Give him the space that he needs.. continue to be humble and receptive. Show him that you can give him his space to feel safe.

Do you know his other placements?

I don't know his placements. Wish I did...He is an ESTJ Personality with Myers Briggs. I told him whenever he was ready and willing we could talk. He responded that he was not going to speak now or anytime soon. He additionally said that if I needed closure to believe he wanted and cared for someone else. Whatever I needed to believe to gain closure "insert his name and believe". That's unbelievably cruel to me. I'm an Aries and to move forward I needed some answer or face interaction. I run on feelings so I needed to say my peace and look at him when doing so. It's all just amazing to me that someone wakes up one day and decides at random they do not want a relationship. I have no intention of reaching out or trying at this point. I am just left with no understanding of what happened to this person or triggered such a drastic change. He was truly a kind and loving guy so to be remember him like this is very sad. I know they are stubborn and when they say something it's usually final. Peace or not, I guess sometimes we just have to accept things we can not change.

I have a child also. We opened big parts of our lives to one another. I have put myself in his place. If my son had been disabled and someone should come into our lives good hearted, kind, and willing to take on that responsibility my heart would love them so much more. That is a blessing. I never gave him a reason to doubt me and his child was loved like my own. I don't think that's the problem and unfortunately if it is I can't fix what needs to be worked out within him. I won't doubt myself and believe I am anything less than a great person. That I know I am. He made the comment, "I want the best for you. You can and will do much better." Does he really believe that? I don't know. Some part of me believes he thinks his life is undeserving of a happy ending. He destroys anything when that comes close. It's very sad, but I have some form of peace knowing who I am. What made his choices that I do not know. Months, years, idk down the road...maybe he will see that. I have to be ok though even if he doesn't. Aries have a hard time letting go when truly invested and this is harder with no reason.

He made the comment, "I want the best for you. You can and will do much better." Does he really believe that?

I think you're missing the point entirely.



Yes, he believes that and wants the best for you. Be happy that he considered that FOR YOU. He really feels he is saving you from lesser circumstances.

IMO, it is very brave of you to want to be with him in these circumstances. Having a disabled child means a lot of support and money are going into that. And you being able to love him unconditionally is very beautiful and rare. Most people wouldn't even consider it.

Be persistent. Love will find a way.

If I did the birth chart correctly looks like his Ascendant is Capricorn. Thank you all for giving me feedback. I truly appreciate other views in this. That's obviously why I posted to try and have insight on this entire thing.

My Taurus lives two different lives as one week he works in my town and the other he lives about 2 hours away. He has two homes and one week is a great dad and the next spends with friends and enjoys his downtime. He is very active and likes to get out. Understandable with the stress he faces back at home.

I decided to go out with my girlfriends and have a drink tonight. This is the week he is at my town so we decided to pass on the side of his pub just for a check. Through the window I could see him sitting alone with a bright yellow hat I've never seen before. This stood out as I dislike the color yellow so tremendously he must have always kept it from me. He was alone though and my heart settled for that brief moment. I'm 28 he is 31.

I'm still fighting in my head how this amazing guy turned so ugly and cruel on me in a short time. I have played those days over and over in my head trying to find the missing parts. Not allowing him space is the only fault I find in myself but I can't seem to reason that with his behavior and ending a relationship over. I want to say I'll be ok and I won't think about them both. In all honesty I know my heart will be broken for some time. I still wish he would wake up and see my value but I don't know if his stubbornness will ever allow him to rethink anything at all.

Don't blame his being a Taurus for any part of this.

Whatever he's feeling-and something is obviously bugging him-he's not handling it the right way. Just because you feel something doesn't mean you act on those feelings and show zero regard for other people.

I would expect something like this from someone who's 21, not 31. You're supposed to want to cut through the bullshit as you get older, not create more bullshit to make your life harder.

I don't see anything valiant in his behavior. Maybe relationships never work for him because he pulls crap like this.

So what do you believe his point to be? He rather live a life alone then ever allow someone into it? I've thought about this also...I didn't ask for a future though. He planted the seeds in my head to allow me in believing that was ok. He talked about all of that I never brought things up and pressured the idea of it. I'm not sure how I could have done different expect give him more space when an issue he was having was brought up. I take responsibility for it. I just don't know if in time he will see all the good he walked from.

Being that he lives two hrs from me when he has his son I would drive up every Wednesday and see them for the day. Around 4 hours so I would drive 4 hrs round trip and spend 4. He has therapy on that day so I would leave in the afternoon. I would see them on the weekends. That was our schedule. I always told him I understood his life and respected him for all he did to make things work and be involved. He is a great dad I'll never take that from him. I did my best to let him know I would always be ok coming in 2nd in that area. I'm a mom so I get that love for a child.

My wrong was freaking out and messaging everyday when he said he needed time to figure things out. From my side I don't care how strong you are or independent you are, when someone you care about seemingly evaporates into thin air without a word, it eats away at you, it strips the love and trust and tenderness away and replaces it with fear, and hurt, and anger. It turns you into someone else. I wanted to fix things and be ok. This went on for a few days 4-5 with me texting and asking to see him. Finally he started to ignore me then left me. I get I should have backed off but I feel our entire relationship shouldn't be based on a single bad week. A decision that big should have more thought and I truly believed he would come around. I'm kind of at the point now I'm letting go of hope for that.

It was another women. Nothing I could have done would have made a difference unfortunately.

Fucking ESTJ Tauruses. Just leave him alone and move on oh my god.

It was actually his ex. They dated for a few months before us. He made it very public on social media over the weekend. Disgusting as I was with him just over two weeks ago. He didn't seem to be the type that would be this way. Always a great person who took really awesome care of me and had a future for us up until this. I'm doing ok...staying busy and posting some really smoking pics of me and my smile ??...I never had a guy who hasn't attempted to come back...months years whatever...I'm looking forward to the day I can give him my words when that happens.

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If I did the birth chart correctly looks like his Ascendant is Capricorn. Thank you all for giving me feedback. I truly appreciate other views in this. That's obviously why I posted to try and have insight on this entire thing.

My Taurus lives two different lives as one week he works in my town and the other he lives about 2 hours away. He has two homes and one week is a great dad and the next spends with friends and enjoys his downtime. He is very active and likes to get out. Understandable with the stress he faces back at home.

I decided to go out with my girlfriends and have a drink tonight. This is the week he is at my town so we decided to pass on the side of his pub just for a check. Through the window I could see him sitting alone with a bright yellow hat I've never seen before. This stood out as I dislike the color yellow so tremendously he must have always kept it from me. He was alone though and my heart settled for that brief moment. I'm 28 he is 31.

I'm still fighting in my head how this amazing guy turned so ugly and cruel on me in a short time. I have played those days over and over in my head trying to find the missing parts. Not allowing him space is the only fault I find in myself but I can't seem to reason that with his behavior and ending a relationship over. I want to say I'll be ok and I won't think about them both. In all honesty I know my heart will be broken for some time. I still wish he would wake up and see my value but I don't know if his stubbornness will ever allow him to rethink anything at all.

He probably doesn't feel like he's treating you badly. His disabled son is a priority and he has to make his decisions accordingly. I understand you're in pain over this, but he's laid it on the line. You know now how he feels. Try to show him you respect him and his decision. Trying to force him to change or talk will only make him more obstinate, (a Taurus quality). Best luck.

What a coward.

If he felt that way he should never have tried to start anything in the first place.



edit*- just saw your comment. He's still a coward.

The thing is I know who I am. I love me and the person I am. That's most important in this life because you'll never find happiness if not in yourself first. I'm at peace knowing I was good throughout all of this and gave everything in me to make something work. Life has taught me you can not change those who do not want change. I didn't know about this ex up until now. I was told by friends it was a previous relationship. I'm presuming I wasn't told because she has been in the background. I didn't ask him to tell me he loved me or talk about a future. I'm sure if he hadn't moved so fast I wouldn't be as hurt and that was wrong if he had no intention of staying around. I don't lie so why would I presume anyone else does. That may be foolish but I believe pepole treat others as they would want to be treated. My problem is him not being truthful and me finding out so harshly. I will be ok...and in time he will see his mistakes. Time has a way of healing and hurting...thank you for everyone in this post the last week.

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Posted by Aries985
The thing is I know who I am. I love me and the person I am. That's most important in this life because you'll never find happiness if not in yourself first. I'm at peace knowing I was good throughout all of this and gave everything in me to make something work. Life has taught me you can not change those who do not want change. I didn't know about this ex up until now. I was told by friends it was a previous relationship. I'm presuming I wasn't told because she has been in the background. I didn't ask him to tell me he loved me or talk about a future. I'm sure if he hadn't moved so fast I wouldn't be as hurt and that was wrong if he had no intention of staying around. I don't lie so why would I presume anyone else does. That may be foolish but I believe pepole treat others as they would want to be treated. My problem is him not being truthful and me finding out so harshly. I will be ok...and in time he will see his mistakes. Time has a way of healing and hurting...thank you for everyone in this post the last week.

My mantra is the same as yours "treat people as you wish to me treated" but as you see, that is a very very rare quality in mankind that is why it is sooooooooo important to ASK the relevant questions, do background checks, listen to every word said, look at the actions of the person and find out if the actions correlate with their words, do NOT have intimate contact until you when done the relevant checks and got to know the person and can trust them and what they say and how they treat you.

5 months is not long enough for an emotional attachment to have been bonded with the bull. It took my bull 18 months and we have a mega intense natal chart and dynasty chart, before he could get me to be in any kind of relationship with him because I needed to know everything with him and to build an emotionally strong connection which is important. He is like my bestfriend and this is the foundation with a bull.

A strong foundation of friendship is mega important especially with someone who has a disabled child.

5 months is like 5 minutes to a bull in their world. Time for them revolves much much more slowly than any other sign... At snails pace. So your 5 months may mean a lot to you but is very little to the bull.

Obviously a strong emotional friendship was not formed in those 5 months...

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I totally agree on the above. Strong friendship and trust are necessary for emotional bonding with Tauruses. I haven't really bonded with mine but the signs are strong.

Anyway, I feel it will take a lot of work in this (OP) relationship. Just stay strong and be there for him. I hope he comes around. You do seem to love him very much. I won't be able to make such sacrifices myself.

I didn't even need to read more than what u said in the title & a few other things u said responding to other posters on page 1.. I knew it was another women .. it's sad he used his child as an excuse.. he's a coward .. I can't stand cowards.. I saw that he was in a relationship a few months prior to u, too tired to read the rest.. did u talk about what happened in that relationship , who broke up with who , looked at his face & body language if u did talk about his ex?