when a taurus guy demands and acts 'weird'

hi! just want to ask your opinions about this taurus guy (i'm a cancerian)...

he was an ex, we've decided to be just friends since he initiated a break-up co'z as what he had said, he doesn't feel an intense feeling towards me (i just really don't know why he can't make-up his mind if he does feel something for me or just plain nothing), as friends, he would text me where he is and with whom even though i'm not asking, he would even tell me if i could call him up (in a demanding manner) and he would just tell co'z he was bored and got nothing to do. i'm actually confused of what he is doing, we aren't in a relationship but he is acting as if we are.

i don't know if i just have to stop myself from being sweet towards him and stop giving him the attention. to be honest, i still have feelings for him. i'm quite confused of what he wants from me.

any idea?

thanks! = )

Well dating the bull can be an up and down battle for the Cancer until you figure out how they work. He is interested in being more than friends with with you he just doesn't want to come out and say it and give you too much power early on. All of the bulls real feelings aren't spoken, you have to pay attention to what he does not what he says because they usually are not the same. His actions always tell how he's really feeling. When he starts to act distant give him his space and when he comes back around act like nothings wrong. They don't like to be rushed into anything and its going to take almost forever it feels like for them to make up their mind when they want to take the relationship to the next level.

Just take things real slow and follow his lead in the relationship. As long as he keeps contacting you then he's showing that he' still interested. You have to learn how to pick up on his non verbal clues. It seems a bit confusing at first but you'll get the hang of it. I'm sure he likes you he's just not sure how he wants the relationship to go right now.

thanks for that CL =) yeah i do hope i'll get his non-verbal cues and get a hang of his personality... he is somewhat also moody, i don't know if it's also part of him being a musically-inclined individual -- kind of being artistic.

i really hope i'll understand him more especially at times whenever he would tease me that i'll get a new bf just like that instance when he started teasing me with our guy friend. i don't know if he is just jealous or something. i'm not sure if he really does want me around to be with him or he just wants me to find myself somebody else co'z there isn't any hope for both of us.

i really don't get him. everything he says and does are really contradicting especially when he told me that he just sees me as a friend on our break-up.

He will be jealous of any guy that comes around you or try and have a relationship with. He still see you as more than a friend thats why he wants you'll to continue to be friends so when he's ready to take the relationship back to that level he can because you'll will still be cool with each other. When a Taurus is through with someone its not lets just be friends, they completly let you go, so the fact that he still wants you'll to remain friends means he has plans for you'll in the future just not right now, but yes he will get jealous if you start a relationship with another guy. It doesn't take much to make them jealous.

thanks CL =) it's really enlightening to hear your feedback. well, i guess i just have to be patient. more patient and understanding than ever. wish me luck!

I do hope for the best with all Cancer/Taurus relationships.

hi CL... just an update... well, the taurus guy just told me that we are just friends and says sorry. it's quite sad. i don't know if there will be any chance he will still change his mind. he is really unpredictable. i don't know if i'll still pursue or just move on.

No don't still pursue and move on. Sometimes they say one things and do another. Just wait and see how he acts and follow his lead. He might not want a serious relationship right now. So just wait and see how things go for a while.

i see. i'm just having doubts if this platonic relationship would move. as friends, he is open with me with his feelings, ideas, goals for the future, etc. i feel there is a special bond between us, just not sure if a romantic kind of love will grow from our friendship. earlier, he asked me if i've got a bf already, i told him none. i'm a lil bit confused if he is asking it just a friend or someone who has the interest... then he told about the 'we are just friends' things.

thanks again CL for replying = )

Just be his friend and don't worry about the relationship turning into more. It takes Taurus men a long time before they have a serious relationship with someone. He's interested or he wouldn't be asking those questions and sharing his thoughts and ideas with you. Don't push or rush anything. Just let things flow, its going to take a while before a serious relationship happens and you have to decide if you're willing to wait or not.

alright. i'm kind of losing hope when he said that co'z this was the second time he repeated that to me after we broke up co'z of the same reason. thanks for the encouragement CL, really appreciate it.

I have a problem. Been living a wonderful life with a Taurus man,(I am a scorpion woman), for 4 years. There have been some issues, but nothing I regarded as critical. Apparently, I was wrong. He cheated on me and when I found out he asked me to move out. It's been 6 weeks, I am devastated, he sees this girl frequently, she sleeps with him in our bed, has dinner parties at the home we renovated and designed together. But, he still says he loves me and calls a few times per week. I can't move on because I feel there is a chance we can work this out. He saysd I hurt him badly with my venomous tongue. I think his reaction was overboard but love him enough that I am willing to go to counseling and get over this, if he will get rid of this girl. I will not push or pressure him, but the contradictions, indecisivness and lonley heartache are kiling me. He is a musician and the girl is his bass p;ayers niece, an Aries. She is the one who pushed herself on him after she was told he was in a long term relationship. Granted, he also responded to her availability. I am in total shock.What can I do?

JT, he is manipulating you. He cheated. He is wrong. If he is still seeing this girl. He doesn't love you. He is trying to make you feel guilty because of his actions.

Merc there are some in every zodiac sign... People are a product of their environment, no matter what sun sign. Learn or not learn by the their life lessons.

"an Aries. She is the one who pushed herself on him after she was told he was in a long term relationship"

not to say he wasn't at fault - but I will say this is typical of an aries....she wants your man she'll get him..... no matter what.

Well, I feel like it is my fault, although I am in total shock he would act this way. However, he is a bit obsessed with women, nudity and porn on the inet. On the other hand, he has always been very warm, caring, reliable and very domestic around the home etc. Like I said, we lived a very wonderful, serene, comfortable home life, aside from his band and all those goings on. But, that was merely a social outing 1x per week and never did any unusual things occur. We were always together, everyone knew we were together, a team, a pair in lockstep. He is now like another person altogether. I feel I am being led on only so he knows I will still be there for him should he chose but I need to make some kind of decision for my sanity. It really does not look like there is a chance, yet he asks if I have "someone" and accuses me of it often. It is infuriating. As a scorpio I cannot cheat, even after a relationship ends, it takes me forever to get involved again. I go back and forth loving him o completely and then hating him and cursing him.

thanks taurusbabe =)

i guess i should... it's really hard to hang on to something which is unsure. i'm still patiently waiting though but sometimes, i don't know. can't understand him sometimes. he is very moody. unpredictable. what i hate about him is that, whenever he is down, i'm there to cheer him up, but i can't get that kind of support from him as a friend, when i'm the one who is down.

he even told me i was melancholic and dramatic. we really have different views on things and we seem to clash with our ideas and even in our emotions most of the time. i tried my best to understand him. all i can just conclude, he is self-centered, i'm not sure if he is just being childish or something. i don't know how long i could wait, he really is slow and can't make up what he really wants.

It can be very hard trying to have a relationship with an immature bull. My advice to you is to do you and if he comes around then he does but don't wait for him if you're not getting what you need in return to you giving him what he needs. Relationships are 50/50 you can't do yours and his part. You want him to come to you so back away and allow him to do just that. If he wants you he'll come after you and won't allow you to get away. I wouldn't say give up completly just step away for a little bit and see what happens.

thanks CL, that's a good advice for me especially now, i sent him this email days ago and he just read it last night, i told him that i need space, just one way to breathe co'z the feelings weren't that on the same level making me feel so drained, he said in a nice way that if it'll make me feel better then i do it. i'll just what happens, i know he can go on with his life without me, i'm kind of curious though if he'll get over with the idea that he won't be hearing from me from now on since it's been a routine that i would always

keep in touch and i'm someone who he can open up his ideas and emotions and hear him out whenever the people around him doesn't understand him, even by his other friends.

oh well, wish me luck =)

Trust me if you mean something to him he won't allow you to get too far away.

Luna 13 my heart goes out to you! After reading your story and I too am a scorp with a new taurus friend? and I am scared together because of he noticeable differences we have and my sharp tongue. This person has vowed to be faithful no matter what and prides himself in not sharing his body wih just anyone, but yet I feel since we are 4 hours away and he has cancelled dates last minute. I have to wonder is there some other friends he professes that I have perfect timing yet he disappears or wont answer his phone at times, but wants complete availability from me! We have great chemistry, but I have a feeling that there are some mysterious that are going to unfold! He lives alone but yet I dont have his address? I asked for his mailing address and he gave a po box? I wondered why he didn't give me address and he came off like I was the one playing tricks, which I was? None the less we talk all night and I know where he works, but I have not been extended a formal invitation. I know these guys go slow, but its been six weeks..what gives! I am getting nervous...he works all the time and is also working on his Phd. I dont know if I want to wait..I am very attractive single female that gets a lot of attention. My b day passed and no flowers, no cards, no nothing? He said everyday is a holiday! We did just meet, but some gesture would have been nice, especially from someone who says that he is very generous. I am successful so I dont need his money, but my spidey senses are up!

Everytime I want to take a break or tell him I want to see other people he tries to talk me out of it!!

Good luck and GOd Bless! I think Im pulling out!

trobin - it took me almost 2 years to meet my bull. We were good friends through our on line video game and phone. I mean, we became very dependant on each other to get through whatever we were goin through. he was married and me and him were friends. never corssed the line while he was married. It took 6 MONTHS for him to finally meet me in person. in those 6 months prior to meeting i know we both loved each other as mouch as you could without having the physical contact. and he didn't volunteer the meeting after 6 months i basically told him look, how i feel about you I NEED TO SEE YOU FACE TO FACE to know if this is real or not. he was scared i know. but i drove up there and it was done after that.
He might be torn between you and someone else. mine was, but i knew about her and i also knew she was filler for when i wasn't with him. he wasn't right but since he was 6 months out of a marriage, i wanted him the freedom to see other peopple as well. i didn't express that out right to him lol but i was torn with that and with not wanting to share him. But i endured and he ended up making his decision. And he has since moved by me which was a HUGE step. It was almost 2 years later that he moved. They need time, they need understanding, but they don't want someone they can walk over. Just my opinion. Bulls are incredible men. You get a whole lot once they are committed to you. Worth the hurt and pain of waiting for him to figure out what he wants.

LMAO SOCOM to be exact hahahaha ya ya ya come with the jokes.

I hear guys say so many times "i wish my chick played video games" but ya'll don't realize they say it but don't mean it. Cuz i can't tell you how many dudes i dated that were either intimidated by me playing video games, insecure about me playing video games and or jealous of the time i spent playing video games. it's bad out there lol

ya not all men are bulls lol i can't tell you how many times i had to tell a dude i was dating to not make me pick between you and my games. LMAO and i'm good at everything i do so um yeah... it's hard on my bull when i kick his ass and i talk big shit too.

He made me really have to think twice about the shit talk though cuz if i did too much, he took it out on me other ways. ways he knew he could defeat me LMAO it's a fun game we play.

But with my love for gaming, makes our life so much easier and enjoyable because we have that in common. So he never gets nagged for playing games. and he understands i take care of my business but after that, yeah it's play time so it all works.

i never got inot call of duty. Isn't that 1st person? don't really like 1st person too much.

kids drive me nuts on the game. no home training.

Baby Grl

I appreciate your foresite on taurus, but this guy may be a little too self centered for me. He asked me to extend him an invitation for THanksgiving when we met, and so I asked if he wanted to still come up next week. He replied, "I dont do holidays, and please count me out thats what I tell everyone", who the hell is everyone!

WHat about what I celebrate is there any consideration My bday, Thanks giving, X mas....In any event he can barely get through today moreless tommorow or next week. He is so busy with work, school and Chairing stupid events! But yet he has no geographic boundaries! I have only seen him once since we met 7 weeks ago and I attmepted to provide him an out....By asking if he is shy or hesistant at all his reply was I trust in God the Father. ( He has an answer for everything) yeesh! Basically he just does not have the time for me!)

Well geuss what neither do I...I was thinking that maybe I just need to be unavailabe for awhile..Maybe a week and then lets see if he knows what he wants! I have no patience for the bull # $ % ^ no pun intended!

Does anyone have any thoughts!