Help with a Taurus male

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by fishworry on Thursday, November 16, 2006 and has 37 replies.

Understanding Taurus Men Emotional Expressions and Behaviors

Taurus men are often reserved and slow to open up emotionally. They may appear cold but are loyal and caring in their own way. Their actions, such as returning when you pull back, show they value stability and connection. Patience and consistent reassurance can help them express their feelings more openly over time.

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

Why he is so cold? When I pull back he comes looking for me...why?

Do they every express what they feel? ahhhh so hard to understand them.

I keep hearing they are best lovers well i have still to see that.......been with him 9 months nothing!!! tho he did move in with me....now we have a long distance thing.

do they have a heart??

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@LovelyLibra
19 Years500+ PostsLibra

I just saw that movie the break up yesterday with Jennifer Anistan ( howerver u spell that)... wasn't a very good movie to me, but I swear the guy she was in love with was a Taurus. He just did not get it, and was not emotional or responsive, and at the end she broke down crying and explained in fuller, plainer details what her problem was with him and dude was like 'well why didn't you just say that in the 1st place (which she had been doing).

Being about a Taurus I can see why the movie was so boring...

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

I dont know this time of birth but I know date and place

Date : 9th May 1984
Place: belfast, Northern Ireland-UK

His dad says he was born in morning but doesnt remember the time.

I cried watching that move (break up) coz it how i feel....he just doesnt get it.

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

AAAAAA.......U must be kidding me!!

So what does this mean....— How do i read his chart? well i dont know the time so that makes a difference....?

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

I worked for Airbus. Right now doing my masters in Aerospace Engineering and hope either to fly or work again for Airbus.

Who do u work for?-Haffo

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@CreepyPants
20 Years5,000+ Posts

fishworry... that seems like a guy thing and not just a taurus male thing. sounds a lot like a guy who in a twisted way likes the chase and doesnt realy realize it.

blech... some men.

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

PF

We were going out together before we moved in. And it was him who insisted in we should live together...but yeah we did have our own seprate rooms.

Things have changed a little.......he is coming to see me 😄 i am so happy....he is also says he misses me and feels strongly about me. I am so surprised at this.....its been lovely since monday nite. i really love him!

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

Heart Frozen....why? -MercInAries how do I get him to melt—?

He is so hot and cold....this week he is cold.....i need to pull back. I dont want to end up getting hurt. So many mixed signals.....why cant it be straight forward!? ggggrrrrrrrr

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

CrabbyBull-🙂 cool eyes

~mystic fish- I wish there was a way to show his this...but i cant.

I am taking on advise of people on here and I havent contacted him since yesterday afternoon.

I feel like an accessory...coz i look good, I am like a perfect girl to everyone else his family...his friends...but i guess i am not enough.

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

So defensive do bull ever let their gaurd down....or maybe he is cheating on me.....maybe i am mad....or getting there.....

its not healthy.

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@VirgoStarBelly
19 YearsVirgo

I am having the same problem trying to date a taurus male. It is so frustrating yet I can't let him go. Everything I have read says that virgos and taurus work well together. Maybe, but is that after they drive us insane? It seems like he takes two steps forward, and ten steps backwards. I don't get it. I don't understand him, but we have this great chemistry. How do you approach them about their weirdness?

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

VirgoStarBelly

I totally understand when you say 2 steps forward 10 steps backward. Very frustrating....

TBH in my experience when I speak about it when he is in a caring mood and a bit open about his feelings....leave him for 4-5days dont express anything you feel...but still be his GF as in drop a text after 3 days if he hasn't contacted...Give them the SPACE they die for and without us they cant live.....leave him to be and when he apporaches you say calmly you want to tell him how you been feeling....can you just say it....but dont attack him....if u do it and he'll go back in his shell...you have to act like him to make him see...well i mean be distant but not mean. Be busy....I tried it worked but i keep failing coz i am very loving and love to express it.

Hope this helps. Good Luck!

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@CrabbyBull
19 Years

or sideways like a crab perhaps? 😛

Seriously though, just be a good friend and once he's had a chance to get more comfortable around you you can suggest a relationship to him.

I might add though that if he's currently more interested in someone else he could be very hard to sway.

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@VirgoStarBelly
19 YearsVirgo

He is so slow to respond. It's not someone else. He keeps telling me that he's 'insecure', and he gets hurt easily, and all this crap. People say it's just a ploy to get in my panties, but he's already been there. That's not it. He sends mixed messages constantly. It's like as soon as I start to feel more comfortable and safe with him, it back fires, and he gets weird again. I think partly he's just afraid, but how do I make him feel not afraid. I really like this guy. If any other guy did some of things he did I would have kicked him to the curb a long time ago. I think I give him plenty of space, but I'm also loosing my patience with him. Maybe he needs someone to not lose faith in him. I don't know. I refuse to give up on him until he tells me to. However my best friend is a virgo and has the same problems with her taurus man. I really do think it's a zodiac thing.

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@VirgoStarBelly
19 YearsVirgo

But it's true, I could see that as a possiblity if we hadn't done the dirty deed. One minute he's calling me his 'love kitten', and blurting out 'i love so much right now'(not during any sexual activity), and the next minute he takes 5 days to respond to txt message. What's up with that?

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@fishworry
19 YearsPisces

I thing you should let him chase you. Well my bull has never taken 5 days to reply...how long have you known him?

You do need a lot of paitence with them. It was my bull that chased me but now 10 months down the line i am chasing him. But if i dont call him or contact him he comes looking for me.

If you are running out of paitence then try and ask him when the mood is right....just remember dont coner him. He will just sit there quitly and you will get nothing out of it. But also one thing dont ever admit how strongly you feel for him...its a mistake i made and now he knows he's got me.

Nway, if you really care for him then just sit back and let him do the chasing then u'll soon know.

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@VirgoStarBelly
19 YearsVirgo

Yeah he's really strange. We met about 6 months ago or so. We briefly dated, but he was going through some major issues in life. I knew it wasn't the right time....That's the real trouble here. He has had some problems with drugs, like cocaine, and such. There was never a fight or anything we just mutually stopped contacting each other. For a couple of months we didn't see each other or talk. I couldn't stop thinking about him though. If love at first sight ever did exist, I felt it with him. So about a month ago I decided to contact him again, and we went out and it was like we had never been apart. I was shocked by how much he had got his life together. But recently I learned that drug problem is totally gone. I just don't think if he was only using me, he would act the way the he does. Maybe I'm wrong. My gut says he isn't. But like I said, he starts to get closer and he pulls away. I have never fallen for any guy like I have him. When we are together, it's like the rest of the world doesn't exist. I guess in someways I'm just as guarded as he is, I've never told him any of this, because I don't want to scare him away. I don't want to get hurt either.

I am going to stop contacting him. I also learned from a little fight that we had how not to approach him. And you are so right, they get stubborn and pissed off, and don't move or say anything. Thank you guys so much for listening. I'm so glad I found you all! It's nice to know someone knows exactly how I feel. It's like a roller coaster, up and down, but it's so much fun you can't get off it, even though it makes you a little nauseous!!!

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@Purnima
19 Years

hey guys! I'm a taurus girl so I figured I should help you guys out with my input...even though we're talking about a taurus guy.

Okay Tauruses and Virgos definitely get along REALLY well! My two best friends in the whole wide world are both, coincidentally, virgos. I love them to death!

But in terms of romance...okay it takes us a LONG time to get into it. And yes, we would test you. We don't mind calling, but we'd like to have you call every once in a while. On top of that, guys don't normally like calling so...it's worse with a taurus guy. Um...I know if I was even in a relationship, I'd hold myself back. I don't consider anything but marriage permenant, so that means that I wouldn't allow myself to become vulnerable. It does have to do with insecurity and fear.

HOWEVER, I would NEVER, EVER cheat! And if you believe in this star sign business, then this might mean something to you: tauruses very VERY VERY RARELY cheat. We really believe in honesty, straight-forwardness, and loyalty. So even if we seem distant, if it's clear that we're in a relationship, we will, under no circumstances, ever cheat on the person. (I think...after all...this is just astrology. But you're hearing this from a taurus female so make of it what you will. 😛)

And I think what we want most is a friend. Just be there...be normal...we don't really like overly mushy stuff all the time. On behalf of all the Tauruses...sorry. 😛 And yeah, we won't budge. Unless you can offer us sympathy, just leave us alone. We'll get over it and come back and be our jolly ol' selves again. 😛

Oh and out of curiousity...what are your guys birthdates and birthplaces?

- Purnima

p.s. we're not cold-hearted...we just do things differently. do they have do any sweet things for you? we're not very wordy people (heh...you wouldn't be able to tell that from this post 😛)...but we show our affections in different ways. for me...when i care about people, i'm like a mother hen...making sure they're comfortable, fixing their hairs, making sure they're fed and satisfied, and that they have everything else they need. 😛 oh and go here: http://mizian.com.ne.kr/englishwiz/library/names/zodiac/taurus.htm
(click cancel when they ask u to install something...the page should still load even after u click cancel. look under taurus male.)

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@taurean.doll
19 Years

I must say taurus men are quite different to the women in some ways...they tend to be much more flighty and much more lazy...it was the most boring relationship with the taurus guy and me, its true...it becomes like 2 couch potatoes. But he was the most clingy, posessive person ever, he was calling my phone every 2 seconds seeing where I was, eveyrthing had to be done together, we even had mutual friends, it was TOGETHER ALLLLLLLLLLLLL THE TIME. Couldnt handle it. I bounced.

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@missaries89
19 Years

Why he is so cold? When I pull back he comes looking for me...why?

My cousin is a taurus and since we were young he has always told me all of his feelings about girls that he was intrested in, But they kind of have a way of treating women like toys. but i fing that when im mean or agressive verbally with him i get the respect that i deserve!!!
i would try being more agressive!!