Why do I always manage to see the bad things?

So me and the Saggy guy have lasted a whole month so far. I really like him, he's super keen to see me and buys me loads of presents and stuff, which is a completely new thing for me. But the green-eyed monster is starting to rear it's head for me and I'm not happy about it, but I can't seem to control it.

Basically it's this: He told me that a few years ago him and his male housemate lived with a girl, but they didn't like it and he worked with her too, so she moved out. Then on Friday, we were having a drink and he comes out and says that she had/has feelings for him, but he wasn't interested. I didn't ask anything further as I wasn't sure why he was telling me. But I was dwelling on it a little bit, so on Sunday I asked him straight out why he told me about a girl fancying him. He got a bit upset and said he should have finished the whole story off, which was that he wants to take me out with the people he used to work with and she'll be there, and his old work colleagues seem to delight in telling any of his new gf's that this other girl has a thing about him, in order to cause drama, so he was just letting me know in case anything was said. I accepted this but he then seemed a bit moody and I asked what was wrong, and he said he was angry with himself for causing me any upset. So I let it go. But, then I was talking to a Cappy male friend I have and he was like, 'Your guy must have slept with her, and he might even be sleeping with her now'. So now I'm in a complete dilemma. Do I ignore what my friend said and accept what my Saggy said to me or do I ask him straight out if he slept with her and risk having an argument?

Any advice on this would be very much appreciated.

Thanks for the advice MB. Am hoping that my Saggy rising and Gem moon can help keep things going well, as I like change too, but sometimes the Taurean in me drags its feet and gets scared about any change!!

Well, I saw him last night and I had to say something. He did sleep with her. This doesn't bother me in the slightest, what bothers me is that on Sunday he was going on about being honest with me, but he wasn't. We argued about it, but there was no shouting and I was trying to explain why it upset me, but I'm not sure he understood. There was silence for a bit and I asked him what he wanted to do. He said he was willing to forget it as what we have is special, so I'm hoping that will be the end of it. but I've text him today and no reply, so am worried that I have spoilt things by bringing it up again last night. I hope not 😢 I really like him and am falling for him big time.

"copperhead,
I agree with your cappy friend, I have few guy friends and they are never wrong about other guys, sometimes it's hard to believe but when they tell you something to do with a guy they usually right."

Flat out agree with this 100% ! I have sworn off listening to any of my female friends anymore in respect to dating. No offense, but women like to believe the good in a person/situation, so they are going to try to look at the "bright side" of something, even when it's clearly NOT there. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but it's not beneficial when you need and WANT to hear the truth about a situation. I will say that had I listened to two of my best male friends, I would NEVER have continued in my relationship with the Leo that I recently ended it with. My two male friends told me EXACTLY what was going to happen, and that I should NOT entertain BS. Well,what did I do, I listened to one of my female girlfriends (against my better judgment) and continued in the relationship. I KNEW my male friends were right, but I chose to listen to the glimmer of possilibity/hope from my female friend. Had I just listened to my OWN inner thoughts I would not have gotten involved in the crap I got involved in. I don't blame ANYONE but myself, because I am an adult; however, had I listened to the guys, all of this would have been avoided because they were telling me what I already knew!!
The long and short of it is: always keep your eyes open. I'm not saying to think the worse of anyone, but if something doesn't sound right, or doesn't sit well, then it's probably NOT right, and isn't GOOD.

Thanks for the advice guys 🙂

I think you're right, guys always know about guys. My female friends were a little more like, 'well, she probably does like him, but nothing's happened', where as my guy friends were like, 'yeah, if she was offering it, he took it'. I'm deciding to let it pass this time, but just take a small step back and keep my eyes peeled. His actions show that he thinks a lot about me, he's always wanting to see me, buys me things, makes time for us to do fun stuff together. So I think I need to swallow that Taurean stubborness and jealousy, take a deep breath and not let myself ruin what could be a great thing by being negative. Before this came up, things were brillaint between us.

"I'm deciding to let it pass this time, but just take a small step back and keep my eyes peeled."
Always keep your eyes open 🙂 Very smart indeed.

"So I think I need to swallow that Taurean stubborness and jealousy, take a deep breath and not let myself ruin what could be a great thing by being negative."

Very mature. Good luck!!!