Why do you continue when it's not right??

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First question...Did you/would you honeymoon in a group or just the 2 of you? Odd question but my Taurus friend got married a few years ago...told me everything was great, honeymooned with 2 other couples but knowing my friend or what I thought I knew of Bulls, Taurus are romantics and wouldn't want that...so I was skeptical. needless to say a couple years go by and I hear he is sleeping on the couch, they have been talking about divorce and he really really wants out now!! He saw red!! So I questioned him on it and he said he knew she wasn't right but hoped she would change or things would change.

Why do you do this?? Now he is so far in he knows it will be a mammoth task getting out and admitted he should have done it before, would have been easier for everyone!
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First question...Did you/would you honeymoon in a group or just the 2 of you? Odd question but my Taurus friend got married a few years ago...told me everything was great, honeymooned with 2 other couples but knowing my friend or what I thought I knew of Bulls, Taurus are romantics and wouldn't want that...so I was skeptical. needless to say a couple years go by and I hear he is sleeping on the couch, they have been talking about divorce and he really really wants out now!! He saw red!! So I questioned him on it and he said he knew she wasn't right but hoped she would change or things would change.

Why do you do this?? Now he is so far in he knows it will be a mammoth task getting out and admitted he should have done it before, would have been easier for everyone!
so sorry, yes good question - why would someone get married if they knew things were not right but though "things would change" - omg ... I'm not sure if this is a Taurus trait or just one that isn't too bright and I hope that there are no children involved ... people don't change people so believe it cause it's true !!!
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First question...Did you/would you honeymoon in a group or just the 2 of you? Odd question but my Taurus friend got married a few years ago...told me everything was great, honeymooned with 2 other couples but knowing my friend or what I thought I knew of Bulls, Taurus are romantics and wouldn't want that...so I was skeptical. needless to say a couple years go by and I hear he is sleeping on the couch, they have been talking about divorce and he really really wants out now!! He saw red!! So I questioned him on it and he said he knew she wasn't right but hoped she would change or things would change.

Why do you do this?? Now he is so far in he knows it will be a mammoth task getting out and admitted he should have done it before, would have been easier for everyone!
Why is he getting a divorce and how long have they been married?
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and no I would not "honeymoon" with others ... that sounds so ... gross ? ...
Me neither. It's a honeymoon. Time to bond with a significant other, not swap and party in a crowd. It's hard for me to imagine a Taurus doing that.

Yes, Taurus can get into a mess hoping someone or something will change, but usually this happens if a person presents themselves to Taurus one way and then changes and Taurus hopes they'll change back. I've seen and experienced this.
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First question...Did you/would you honeymoon in a group or just the 2 of you? Odd question but my Taurus friend got married a few years ago...told me everything was great, honeymooned with 2 other couples but knowing my friend or what I thought I knew of Bulls, Taurus are romantics and wouldn't want that...so I was skeptical. needless to say a couple years go by and I hear he is sleeping on the couch, they have been talking about divorce and he really really wants out now!! He saw red!! So I questioned him on it and he said he knew she wasn't right but hoped she would change or things would change.

Why do you do this?? Now he is so far in he knows it will be a mammoth task getting out and admitted he should have done it before, would have been easier for everyone!
Why is he getting a divorce and how long have they been married?
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He said he's getting the divorce because he just can't live with her treating him the way he does and said he no longer loves her emotionally, physically or any other way! I also asked when the problems started...he said pretty early on, before even getting engaged. When I asked why he didn't do anything before he said she kept saying that he should change to be in the relationship. Also said she is manipulative
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Interesting my ex was an aries and I'm well earth and air. I will make sure we are friends and take it rather slowly next. I knew what I got myself into thinking maybe he'll change but all I'm doing is trying to make things work by talking and taking care of him. That wasn't enough. We never really argued until I suspected the cheating issues. Then once that happened never was the same under the same roof again.
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and no I would not "honeymoon" with others ... that sounds so ... gross ? ...
Me neither. It's a honeymoon. Time to bond with a significant other, not swap and party in a crowd. It's hard for me to imagine a Taurus doing that.

Yes, Taurus can get into a mess hoping someone or something will change, but usually this happens if a person presents themselves to Taurus one way and then changes and Taurus hopes they'll change back. I've seen and experienced this.
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yes I must say I have too ...
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Wait ur friend the guy is a Taurus? What's his wife's sign and did the honeymoon cause the divorce? What happened on the honeymoon?
Yes, he is a Taurus. His wife is an Aries. The honeymoon did not cause the divorce. Well he said HE had a nice time and really liked Mexico. Didn't say, well in fact did not mention her even when I asked
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Aww man. I had an Aries I would have forgiven anything of, done anything for and it was drama city. Like I made a complete fool of myself for this man and didn't care. In the heat of our romance I would have married him and had his children even though I knew he wasn't good. It was so unconditional and so bad for me.

In my teenage years my Aries friend cheated on her Taurus man and he bought her a $ 600 coat as a response. She was treating him so poorly and still had to break up with him. I don't know what it is with this pairing that makes us Taurus act silly but I've been there and seen it before.

The only thing that worked was time and distance.

Good luck to ur friend.
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Wait ur friend the guy is a Taurus? What's his wife's sign and did the honeymoon cause the divorce? What happened on the honeymoon?
Yes, he is a Taurus. His wife is an Aries. The honeymoon did not cause the divorce. Well he said HE had a nice time and really liked Mexico. Didn't say, well in fact did not mention her even when I asked
Aww man. I had an Aries I would have forgiven anything of, done anything for and it was drama city. Like I made a complete fool of myself for this man and didn't care. In the heat of our romance I would have married him and had his children even though I knew he wasn't good. It was so unconditional and so bad for me.

In my teenage years my Aries friend cheated on her Taurus man and he bought her a $ 600 coat as a response. She was treating him so poorly and still had to break up with him. I don't know what it is with this pairing that makes us Taurus act silly but I've been there and seen it before.

The only thing that worked was time and distance.

Good luck to ur friend.

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How insane!! It must be a similar thing it totally messed up everything. She stopped him from seeing his mum, she didn't like her. His mum used to talk to my mum about it. She would not make amends or anything and he just left it, said he was just trying to make her happy! Saddest thing is now she is taking him for everything, literally everything, as well as blaming him for everything his mother sadly passed away!! Makes me so angry. How could he be so stupid!!!

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Wait ur friend the guy is a Taurus? What's his wife's sign and did the honeymoon cause the divorce? What happened on the honeymoon?
Yes, he is a Taurus. His wife is an Aries. The honeymoon did not cause the divorce. Well he said HE had a nice time and really liked Mexico. Didn't say, well in fact did not mention her even when I asked
Aww man. I had an Aries I would have forgiven anything of, done anything for and it was drama city. Like I made a complete fool of myself for this man and didn't care. In the heat of our romance I would have married him and had his children even though I knew he wasn't good. It was so unconditional and so bad for me.

In my teenage years my Aries friend cheated on her Taurus man and he bought her a $ 600 coat as a response. She was treating him so poorly and still had to break up with him. I don't know what it is with this pairing that makes us Taurus act silly but I've been there and seen it before.

The only thing that worked was time and distance.

Good luck to ur friend.


How insane!! It must be a similar thing it totally messed up everything. She stopped him from seeing his mum, she didn't like her. His mum used to talk to my mum about it. She would not make amends or anything and he just left it, said he was just trying to make her happy! Saddest thing is now she is taking him for everything, literally everything, as well as blaming him for everything his mother sadly passed away!! Makes me so angry. How could he be so stupid!!!

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😢. Poor guy. He's probably not even as angry with her as he should be. But he might need a lot of time and support to get past her.

I've done a relationship profile between me and my Aries to try to figure out why he had such a hold on me and it literally said u guys won't know why u like each other so much but it will be a hard if not impossible bond to break and the relationship will be filled with chaos. Yikes. I'd have to decide to be willing to deal with it and he'd have to decide to be patient with me. Not the best for long term.

I think he's going to do a lot of assessing of his mistakes and blame himself for a lot. It's going to take a lot of time to even forgive himself so maybe if u wanna comfort him don't add to his questions or bad feelings of himself. Just remind him he'll be okay without her and he's strong and all that good positive stuff.

My advice based on my experience going through it myself 🙂