RainbowFish
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Will this go down badly with The Bull? Facebook related...
I think you're putting too much emphasis on FB. You're zoning in on this one person and this 'following' thing.
As Koniucha said, most people you 'friend' on FB automatically come up as 'following'. I'm following people I'm not even bothered about but don't give it the time of day to change it as it's just not that important. I've only 'unfollowed' one person and that's because they would post heavily and I didn't want their posts monopolising my news feed.
Re-read what you put in a few days time. I think you're being very controlling regarding who he can and cannot or who he should and should not follow. It's his FB account. The trouble with 'snooping' or 'researching' is you must be prepared to deal with what you find. The problem is things are often taken out of context and you end up painting a picture in your head of what YOU think it all means which is often not correct.
The facts of the case here are:
He has a FB account
You looked at his account
He has a few people who are female who he is following
You're in a committed/not committed relationship
You avoided the serious conversation he tried to have with you
You want to dictate who he is friends with and who he mixes with because you think it will make you feel better about the relationship you don't have and are avoiding due to...— Insert explanation here...
Personally, I wouldn't bring it up. You don't have enough 'evidence' and you're fuelled by insecurity (we all have it) so just sit on it for now, figure out what you want from this dude and then make it official or don't.
Don't expect girlfriend covenants when you haven't signed the girlfriend contract!
As Koniucha said, most people you 'friend' on FB automatically come up as 'following'. I'm following people I'm not even bothered about but don't give it the time of day to change it as it's just not that important. I've only 'unfollowed' one person and that's because they would post heavily and I didn't want their posts monopolising my news feed.
Re-read what you put in a few days time. I think you're being very controlling regarding who he can and cannot or who he should and should not follow. It's his FB account. The trouble with 'snooping' or 'researching' is you must be prepared to deal with what you find. The problem is things are often taken out of context and you end up painting a picture in your head of what YOU think it all means which is often not correct.
The facts of the case here are:
He has a FB account
You looked at his account
He has a few people who are female who he is following
You're in a committed/not committed relationship
You avoided the serious conversation he tried to have with you
You want to dictate who he is friends with and who he mixes with because you think it will make you feel better about the relationship you don't have and are avoiding due to...— Insert explanation here...
Personally, I wouldn't bring it up. You don't have enough 'evidence' and you're fuelled by insecurity (we all have it) so just sit on it for now, figure out what you want from this dude and then make it official or don't.
Don't expect girlfriend covenants when you haven't signed the girlfriend contract!
Either you are in a relationship or not. No half assing. Bye ...
I trust you both are open with each other and trust won't matter if you or we're on fb.. Respect, maturity, and responsibilities for your actions ..
I trust you both are open with each other and trust won't matter if you or we're on fb.. Respect, maturity, and responsibilities for your actions ..
Sorry that's long and I hope you understand at least what I am truly saying.
Thanks all, I appreciate.
I am glad I posted here and you guys are king enough to reply. It buys me time not to do anything stupid…. Up to this point I always have been involved in dysfunctional relationships with Scorpion, Virgo, and Aqua guys plus growing up, I didn't have positive role models in the relationship department so even though I am getting better now in my head I can still have treetrunking stink thinking process.
The Bull is a business man with loads of friends in many different countries. Networking online and in RL is a big part of his life and he is very concerned about the image that he projects.
He has many FB friends but if you click on the "following" button, only those 3 ladies appear as him be "following". I do wonder if this happened by accident as it doesn't make sense him to follow his mate's girl instead of the mate himself…The only thing I know is that him following the tacky lady hurts his image in my point of view and make me disappointed in the man he is regardless of my title with him. But maybe this is my Pisces drama creating mind…
Anyway, I am not big on FB, I have an account just to keep tabs with friends and families and I don't have my real photo on my profile or any other photo at all. Even my own name is spelled in a twisted way so people can't find me if I don't direct them. I have all my settings in high privacy and no info there at all. He was the one who insisted in become friends on FB when we first met, and he admitted that the day we first met he did a full online search on my name to see what he could find out about me….I have just briefly looked at his FB profile yesterday (don't even know why? Yes, maybe insecurity) and stopped quickly after seen him "following" this lady.
Regarding the relationship status, he never directly tried to have 'the talk', kept hinting and throwing words around…well it is not romantic enough for me, I need more assertiveness from him in order to get hooked. He just didn't prepare his bait very well I am afraid…I am not bothered. I always dived in very quickly, I am enjoying the Bull's slow approach.
I am glad I posted here and you guys are king enough to reply. It buys me time not to do anything stupid…. Up to this point I always have been involved in dysfunctional relationships with Scorpion, Virgo, and Aqua guys plus growing up, I didn't have positive role models in the relationship department so even though I am getting better now in my head I can still have treetrunking stink thinking process.
The Bull is a business man with loads of friends in many different countries. Networking online and in RL is a big part of his life and he is very concerned about the image that he projects.
He has many FB friends but if you click on the "following" button, only those 3 ladies appear as him be "following". I do wonder if this happened by accident as it doesn't make sense him to follow his mate's girl instead of the mate himself…The only thing I know is that him following the tacky lady hurts his image in my point of view and make me disappointed in the man he is regardless of my title with him. But maybe this is my Pisces drama creating mind…
Anyway, I am not big on FB, I have an account just to keep tabs with friends and families and I don't have my real photo on my profile or any other photo at all. Even my own name is spelled in a twisted way so people can't find me if I don't direct them. I have all my settings in high privacy and no info there at all. He was the one who insisted in become friends on FB when we first met, and he admitted that the day we first met he did a full online search on my name to see what he could find out about me….I have just briefly looked at his FB profile yesterday (don't even know why? Yes, maybe insecurity) and stopped quickly after seen him "following" this lady.
Regarding the relationship status, he never directly tried to have 'the talk', kept hinting and throwing words around…well it is not romantic enough for me, I need more assertiveness from him in order to get hooked. He just didn't prepare his bait very well I am afraid…I am not bothered. I always dived in very quickly, I am enjoying the Bull's slow approach.
Shiiish, how I edit my messages? ?
I hate making mistakes but I like to post fast…
can we fix this forum with an edit button ?
I hate making mistakes but I like to post fast…
can we fix this forum with an edit button ?
They should...Lol
Hmm he did what? He checked on your background...Lol crazy. But if he had to he had too.
Hmm he did what? He checked on your background...Lol crazy. But if he had to he had too.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Nothing crazy with back ground checking. It's more crazy to admit it though!
They should...Lol
Hmm he did what? He checked on your background...Lol crazy. But if he had to he had too.
Goldfish, try to think if boot were on other foot and he came demanding answers to this and that etc. Chances are you'd tell him to go fuck himself so if leave it alone.
I'd run for hills if I were him.I mean, I'm not in a proper committed relationship n someone already trying to control me is err..freaky!! :-/
Sounds like you want a guy who is molded to your perfect image. Has to bring up the topic directly because assertiveness is the only way you'll respond (meaning, you want him to become an assertive guy before he gets the reward of having this conversation with you), has to not be following any girls on fb unless you approve, has to be as kinky as you in the bedroom, etc.
You're not training a dog, here.
You're not training a dog, here.
So you guys think it is my neurotic Pisces mind creating too much drama?
I know it sounds hard work, I am myself exhausted but I don't show it to him, I know a lot better now a days…that is why I am rehearsing lots of conversations dynamics in my head before when I finally talk to him about my feelings…because i will have to, otherwise I will drown.
Anyway, he says he is not keen on the whole sex industry…well when I am with someone I don't doubt, I trust and believe…but…could him be lying?
I know it sounds hard work, I am myself exhausted but I don't show it to him, I know a lot better now a days…that is why I am rehearsing lots of conversations dynamics in my head before when I finally talk to him about my feelings…because i will have to, otherwise I will drown.
Anyway, he says he is not keen on the whole sex industry…well when I am with someone I don't doubt, I trust and believe…but…could him be lying?
HAHAHA I think Taurus guys in general follow hot girls on Facebook and Instagram for the sake of following them.
They're hot and they're easy to look at no harm done. We feel that as long as we never initiate contact and that we don't pursue them we're good. Like busyeyes88 Taurus are animals, like animal literal animal. The only two things in our mind are hard work and sex. We're simple like that and if we're working really hard and not getting the sex we need, we will either resort to porn or trying to sleep with the gf. We will hardly ever cheat on you, unless we think its over and that we really don't have a future with you. Even then, at least for me I will cheat on you emotionally, but never physically.
It's just because sex for us is just sex, love on the other hand is shown differently. We show our love through being there for you, cooking for you, reassuring you, driving you to work and overall just being useful to you. WE LOVE IT, when you tell us how much of a help we've been in your life and how you can't live without us. WE LOVE to be WANTED and to be USED, in return all that we ask is you show gratification. Don't ever take us for granted, because when we feel under appreciated we go back to being lazy and angry.
They're hot and they're easy to look at no harm done. We feel that as long as we never initiate contact and that we don't pursue them we're good. Like busyeyes88 Taurus are animals, like animal literal animal. The only two things in our mind are hard work and sex. We're simple like that and if we're working really hard and not getting the sex we need, we will either resort to porn or trying to sleep with the gf. We will hardly ever cheat on you, unless we think its over and that we really don't have a future with you. Even then, at least for me I will cheat on you emotionally, but never physically.
It's just because sex for us is just sex, love on the other hand is shown differently. We show our love through being there for you, cooking for you, reassuring you, driving you to work and overall just being useful to you. WE LOVE IT, when you tell us how much of a help we've been in your life and how you can't live without us. WE LOVE to be WANTED and to be USED, in return all that we ask is you show gratification. Don't ever take us for granted, because when we feel under appreciated we go back to being lazy and angry.
Posted by GoldfishPisces women are always second guessing us and unsure of our feelings, and essentially afraid of getting hurt. We're human too, don't you forget that. If you're insecure, the bull is very famous for being super insecure. We see you second guessing us as your lack of trust with us. Again, I bring this up, we're simple people. We only think about work, food and sex. It doesn't take much to excite us, to satisfy us or to annoy us. Be stable and calm, because essentially pushing your bull away will end up with him never coming back. Or for when you do decide he will say that it's too late, the trust has been broken and at that point the relationship is no longer salvageable. Because, the bull has too much pride than to get back with you, even if he loves you so much. Essentially, because if you didn't love him in the first place, any love that grows afterward is a love for his deeds, his wealth or everything else that is not him.
So you guys think it is my neurotic Pisces mind creating too much drama?
I know it sounds hard work, I am myself exhausted but I don't show it to him, I know a lot better now a days…that is why I am rehearsing lots of conversations dynamics in my head before when I finally talk to him about my feelings…because i will have to, otherwise I will drown.
Anyway, he says he is not keen on the whole sex industry…well when I am with someone I don't doubt, I trust and believe…but…could him be lying?
So it is like I woke up from a bad dream and OMG how pathetic and childish dream it was…What a waste of time and energy…but I guess I needed to see through it to keep growing…
I came to the conclusion that the problem with the tacky lady on FB is not her but my own insecurities and feelings of not being enough in past relationships…
So what did I do? Went on a mini-jouney of self reflection and decided to enhance my self love and sense of self worth…Thank God and DXPnet I didn't embarrass myself talking to the Bull about the FB "issue"…
Cheers!
I came to the conclusion that the problem with the tacky lady on FB is not her but my own insecurities and feelings of not being enough in past relationships…
So what did I do? Went on a mini-jouney of self reflection and decided to enhance my self love and sense of self worth…Thank God and DXPnet I didn't embarrass myself talking to the Bull about the FB "issue"…
Cheers!
Posted by GoldfishHAHA, I wish I had this forum before blowing things out of proportion with my ex and saying a lot of things I didn't mean. I realised now that I only did those things because I expected the Pisces girl to show me emotions, to show me that she still cares enough to get mad, instead of being indifferent. Very very childish and I should've realised a break-up is a break-up and you can't expect people to show emotions when its no longer there, the least you can do is play pretend on being friends to get closure.
So it is like I woke up from a bad dream and OMG how pathetic and childish dream it was…What a waste of time and energy…but I guess I needed to see through it to keep growing…
I came to the conclusion that the problem with the tacky lady on FB is not her but my own insecurities and feelings of not being enough in past relationships…
So what did I do? Went on a mini-jouney of self reflection and decided to enhance my self love and sense of self worth…Thank God and DXPnet I didn't embarrass myself talking to the Bull about the FB "issue"…
Cheers!
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Anyway, yesterday for the first time I decided to have a look at his FB profile and I noticed he is 'following' 3 ladies. One of them is a girlfriend of a friend, the other one I have no idea who she is but she looks like could be an old friend or something (she lives in another country too and seems very educated and stylish) but there is this particular girl who lives in his country (but different city) who I can guarantee is not his friend or girlfriend of a mate…she has lots of photos posing in restaurants, bars etc always with cocktails in her hands and doing sexy poses…she always wears super high heels, too much make up and is always showing her cleavage and legs in her 2 sizes smaller kind of outfits…she has lots os photos in bikinis and heels lying on beds FFS! And she isn't even that beautiful! I prefer my kind of beauty!
This is so strange because the Bull says he likes my style, casual smart and well dressed but next door kind of girls, low key etc, tells me I don't need make up…so why is he following this tacky lady??
I am honestly not jealous as I worked and suffered hard to heal from all my jealousy issues BUT I am kind of disappointed that he has not only befriended but is FOLLOWING this woman and I am not sure I can have a relationship with him if he doesn't stop 'following' her….it has nothing to help his image (that he is so worried about) and contradicts all he stands (or say he stands for)…(doesn't go with prostitutes or hangs out in strip clubs etc…)
Unless he is lying and he is just that kind of low value man in which case I better find out sooner rather than later so I can swim away as quickly as I can.
Anyway, I want to Skype him soon and ask him who is this lady and why he is following her and wait for whatever answer he has to give. I will confront him, without a doubt and I want him to stop following her on FB, can keep as a friend if he wants but FOLLOWING is just too weird…!!
Just wondering if there is a better or right way to do it, what to say, how to initiate the conversation because I am not w