Younger Taurus Man

If he's says he doesn't want a relationship then you should take him at his word, people can not want a relationship but only be with one person so i'd take what he is saying, along with his actions, and believe it. Confessing your feelings to a man before he has processed his own is always a bad idea - IMO - and this could have prompted his words, but they have been said and you have been hurt by them. I'd say you are better off getting out now before you get in any deeper. The age gap isn't a big deal.

First, idgaf about age gaps. It's a moot point. *ignored due to irrelevancy*

Now, you aren't the first woman to catch feelings for her FWB, and you won't be the last.

But now what? He's clearly stated what he wants (no relationship).. doesn't matter why, or what hurts/baggage he's carrying.. not your job to help/change him or to take care of his baggage, it's his. And TRUST that he will take care of all that, when he's truly into a woman. Men do WHATEVER it takes to get ready for and win the woman they want. Period. But he is (of course) absolutely willing to continue on with your "relationship" just the way it is, cuz he hasn't changed, and his feelings haven't changed. YOUR feelings changed, so YOUR perception changed.. not his. He's just doing what he's always done with you. He probably likes you a lot, has a great time with you.. finds you fun and sexy... but that's not love. And wanting to continue sleeping with someone isn't love, either. It's sexual desire, it's fun and good times, it's convenience. And no, he doesn't necessarily need to be sleeping with anyone else.. why would he, when he's getting all of that from you with so little effort or investment on his part? You're a good return on investment.. not smart to dump the stocks that are still paying out. But please don't confuse that with him having deeper romantic feelings for you, even though you're clearly developing feelings for him. He's been VERY clear with you, you just don't want to hear it. FWB is fine for those who want that sort of thing.. but as soon as one develops feelings.. it's not FWB anymore, not really. It's a simmering pot of disaster waiting to boil over.

So I ask again.. what now? Do you hang in there, accepting his crumbs in this FWB relationship that's quickly becoming lopsided (for you), hoping somehow he falls for you, making you the exception and not the rule? Or do you take a deep breath, gather your pride and dignity and say, "It's been a slice, sweetheart.. but this no longer fits what I want." and walk away with your head high.. even though it hurts, even though it's scary, even though part of you is SCREAMING that you can't give him up entirely, you love him, and a little bit of him is better than nothing. But is it really? The way you're feeling now, do you want to KEEP feeling this way? How about when you fall deeper and it feels worse and worse that he's.. not? :c

Thanks for the advice. It's not what I wanted to hear, but it makes perfect sense. I wish I was the exception 😢