Can someone explain

If men cum too much in a short amount of time, can it affect their energy in interacting with people?

This weekend my fwb and I spent a record amount of time together (for us, at least).

It was only 23 hours, so please don’t read this thinking we spent an entire weekend together.

Lots of orgasms were had on my end.

I made him cum 6 times. He was reluctant on his last 2; I swear I didn’t coerce him! We are both just horn dogs.

Anyways, things were kind of okay after his 5th, but after #6 his energy changed.

He was still receptive to me, but he was definitely less talkative and less affectionate after #6.

But also insistent we still hang out?

Like, I thought throughout the day he had dropped hints for me to leave, but then whenever I would agree with the hints (my way of agreeing is saying an enthusiastic “okay” and standing up so he can walk me to my car lol) he would either pull me back in to cuddle or tell me to wait.

It was just kind of odd to me, the lack of affection (we are usually like magnets, can’t stay off of each other) but also unclear boundary on when I should go home (usually he sets a firm boundary).

Historically, after I’ve made some one cum that many times, I’d leave after the last one, so I’ve never known whether a persons demeanor changes.

I think I’m also speculating that maybe his demeanor changed from simply spending too much time together (a projection of how I act/feel after I spend too much time with someone).

I’m also a little confused because I really felt throughout our time together he kind of made hints for me to leave, but whenever I accepted those hints and tried to leave he sucked me back in (in no way am I saying I didn’t have a choice; I’m moreso saying I was becoming confused: was I supposed to leave or not?? It was like that Keye and Peele skit where Jordan Peele plays a lady who keeps flipping between “Okay 😃” and “Okay 🤔”)

I was also thrown off by the fact that at the end of our time together, he introduced me to his friend who is couch surfing at his place. We hadn’t discussed this; usually he tells the friend to fuck-off until I leave. My anxiety spiked and I firmly said I had to go lol.

Now I’m wondering if I should’ve handled that situation differently, but it was honestly a very weird final few hours together and my sensitive brain needed to go home and process.

What is going on here?

Do men act different after cumming too many times? Is he trying to control me by monopolizing my time?

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To me it reads like seeing if you wanna be around him or not - the game playing of hints to leave - if that's what they really were. Feels like he was seeing if you were okay being away from him or something.

Posted by Solo
To me it reads like seeing if you wanna be around him or not - the game playing of hints to leave - if that's what they really were. Feels like he was seeing if you were okay being away from him or something.

But when we’ve had sleepovers in the past he would lay the same bait for me to leave and when I’d take it, he’d let me leave. Granted, the bait has previously been more solid; it was a little softer this time, but on paper read the same to me 🤔

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ya I know, I’m grossed out at myself tbh

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Posted by Solo
To me it reads like seeing if you wanna be around him or not - the game playing of hints to leave - if that's what they really were. Feels like he was seeing if you were okay being away from him or something.

But when we’ve had sleepovers in the past he would lay the same bait for me to leave and when I’d take it, he’d let me leave. Granted, the bait has previously been more solid; it was a little softer this time, but on paper read the same to me 🤔

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Seeing if you prefer him imo

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ya I know, I’m grossed out at myself tbh

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Semen demon

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Seeing if you prefer him imo

And if I don’t?

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Seeing if you prefer him imo

And if I don’t?

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You can always prefer me instead

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Seeing if you prefer him imo

And if I don’t?

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But also, I don't know. That's just how I think of it. I can either kick the woman out or see if she wants to go, see if she wants to be with me. This is vague as you said tho, bc someone respectful of someone's boundaries with it would just do as you did which is say "Okay" and leave lol. I think he just likes you and is seeing if you'd prefer to be around him.

Posted by Solo
Semen demon

I identify as that 🙋‍♀️ I will parish if I don’t receive a deposit on regular basis ☠️

Most days I have to cum at least 2 times before comfortably leaving the house. I do this to avoid committing any type of hate crime to fellow humans.

I feel like having 0% testosterone keeps me from following people who upset me to their home, or literally crashing into people that piss me off on the road. I call it self medication.

Posted by Solo
But also, I don't know. That's just how I think of it. I can either kick the woman out or see if she wants to go, see if she wants to be with me. This is vague as you said tho, bc someone respectful of someone's boundaries with it would just do as you did which is say "Okay" and leave lol. I think he just likes you and is seeing if you'd prefer to be around him.

Ok ok, but what about the change in demeanor towards the end of the day? Like he pretty much stopped kissing me after he came the 6th time. Maybe a few pecks on the lips, but nothing compared to the hot make out sesh’s we share. Like I was legit starting to feel friend-zoned almost 👀

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But also, I don't know. That's just how I think of it. I can either kick the woman out or see if she wants to go, see if she wants to be with me. This is vague as you said tho, bc someone respectful of someone's boundaries with it would just do as you did which is say "Okay" and leave lol. I think he just likes you and is seeing if you'd prefer to be around him.

Ok ok, but what about the change in demeanor towards the end of the day? Like he pretty much stopped kissing me after he came the 6th time. Maybe a few pecks on the lips, but nothing compared to the hot make out sesh’s we share. Like I was legit starting to feel friend-zoned almost 👀

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Exhaustion. Imo. Or he just doesn't see you that way, but I'd think this isn't it if you're making out beforehand.

Posted by Soul
Most days I have to cum at least 2 times before comfortably leaving the house. I do this to avoid committing any type of hate crime to fellow humans.

I feel like having 0% testosterone keeps me from following people who upset me to their home, or literally crashing into people that piss me off on the road. I call it self medication.

Why did this remind me of that Theo Vonn clip where he advises someone to jack-off a bobcat 😂😂

Keep in mind that I'm a fucking weirdo that can't socialize as well, so who knows how far off of the mark I am

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Most days I have to cum at least 2 times before comfortably leaving the house. I do this to avoid committing any type of hate crime to fellow humans.

I feel like having 0% testosterone keeps me from following people who upset me to their home, or literally crashing into people that piss me off on the road. I call it self medication.

Why did this remind me of that Theo Vonn clip where he advises someone to jack-off a bobcat 😂😂

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I love Theo. That had me rolling lol.

Posted by Solo
Keep in mind that I'm a fucking weirdo that can't socialize as well, so who knows how far off of the mark I am

Remind me your sign?

Also, do you consider yourself antisocial in the sense that you don’t like to be too chummy with people?

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Keep in mind that I'm a fucking weirdo that can't socialize as well, so who knows how far off of the mark I am

Remind me your sign?
Also, do you consider yourself antisocial in the sense that you don’t like to be too chummy with people?

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Cardboard Goat. I'm in the way of "I hate people" and "please don't interact with me, and it will be fragile beginning from approach" meaning if I don't like how you approached me, I'm not gonna like you or want to interact. It's subject to change, but in Sept I went to a party and left within like 10 minutes because a person I didn't know was like "HEYYY! HIGH FIVE?" while I was bringing in stuff I was asked to bring. I asked him if I knew him and he replied "No," so I set the stuff down on the table and turned around walked back out down to my car to get a few more things. When I walked out, he goes "Wow, someone's grumpy" and I politely and softly said "I'm not grumpy." Inside I was seething off of that tho. I don't know this person at all. It fucked with my head genuinely that he talked to me at all because I was thinking that I have literally forgot someone in life. Genuinely confused AF. I don't talk often. I am usually staring down at my feet. I don't go out often. I can't tell if I'm okay at reading social cues or not. Things make some sense to me, but not all.

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Posted by Solo
Keep in mind that I'm a fucking weirdo that can't socialize as well, so who knows how far off of the mark I am

Remind me your sign?

Also, do you consider yourself antisocial in the sense that you don’t like to be too chummy with people?

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For the right person I'm extremely chummy. I let my inner little kid shine around some.

Posted by Solo
Cardboard Goat. I'm in the way of "I hate people" and "please don't interact with me, and it will be fragile beginning from approach" meaning if I don't like how you approached me, I'm not gonna like you or want to interact. It's subject to change, but in Sept I went to a party and left within like 10 minutes because a person I didn't know was like "HEYYY! HIGH FIVE?" while I was bringing in stuff I was asked to bring. I asked him if I knew him and he replied "No," so I set the stuff down on the table and turned around walked back out down to my car to get a few more things. When I walked out, he goes "Wow, someone's grumpy" and I politely and softly said "I'm not grumpy." Inside I was seething off of that tho. I don't know this person at all. It fucked with my head genuinely that he talked to me at all because I was thinking that I have literally forgot someone in life. Genuinely confused AF. I don't talk often. I am usually staring down at my feet. I don't go out often. I can't tell if I'm okay at reading social cues or not. Things make some sense to me, but not all.

He tells me similar stories to this and expresses the same feelings in response (minus the thought process; not sure if he just leaves that part out or he isn’t evolved enough to contemplate the “why” behind his emoting)!

Have you considered you may be on the autism spectrum?

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Cardboard Goat. I'm in the way of "I hate people" and "please don't interact with me, and it will be fragile beginning from approach" meaning if I don't like how you approached me, I'm not gonna like you or want to interact. It's subject to change, but in Sept I went to a party and left within like 10 minutes because a person I didn't know was like "HEYYY! HIGH FIVE?" while I was bringing in stuff I was asked to bring. I asked him if I knew him and he replied "No," so I set the stuff down on the table and turned around walked back out down to my car to get a few more things. When I walked out, he goes "Wow, someone's grumpy" and I politely and softly said "I'm not grumpy." Inside I was seething off of that tho. I don't know this person at all. It fucked with my head genuinely that he talked to me at all because I was thinking that I have literally forgot someone in life. Genuinely confused AF. I don't talk often. I am usually staring down at my feet. I don't go out often. I can't tell if I'm okay at reading social cues or not. Things make some sense to me, but not all.

He tells me similar stories to this!
Have you considered you may be on the autism spectrum?

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Considered, yeah. Wasn't tested at all for it tho. Haven't bothered at this point.

Posted by NotALibra
Well what do you think no fap November is about?

The theory is that by not cumming your motivation increases

So if he came too much (lol) then that explains his low motivation apathetic behaviour

I'm sure he considered it worth it tho

That's why they say women are the main downfall of a man and they literally suck the life out of dudes. If you gotta beat your meat just to calm down you need psychological help. That's not the way. These girls will really suck the life out of you and then go on a forum and fake brag about it like it's cute lol Dudes gotta focus on they job fr before it's too late.

Lmao yes someone can be drained through sex. Energy is energy.

Be it Emotional or physical energy

or both at the same time.

Males get their own chemical release during sex and after orgasm as well.

The whole energy thing is why I don't like finishing, because as a man it's a large release of energy so to speak. Rather hold on to it and use it as fuel to continue til exhaustion.

Only had one relationship were we did that to each other. Had to set a timer because we would loose track of time enjoying each other.

So yes you can drain someone with sex.

Posted by Ballerina
I don't have an answer to this but had to say I envy your free time and energy to devote to just doing that😂 it would be a torture to me to spend a weekend like that😂

As someone who has sex with people I’m not too attracted to (who tend to be mediocre in bed) in exchange for money, I can’t resist the temptation to hookup with someone attractive with a perfect-size penis who knows how to fuck. This man is my kryptonite 🙈

Good sex is very important to me, a life force of sorts.

What’s your sun/moon/mars?

Posted by LaGenereuze
I mean you said you were fwb, so you over served your purpose that day, he needed no benefits no more of course you gonna get stuck with just "friend"

You should teach math lessons, I’m 100% serious 😅

Posted by NotALibra
Well what do you think no fap November is about?

The theory is that by not cumming your motivation increases

So if he came too much (lol) then that explains his low motivation apathetic behaviour

I'm sure he considered it worth it tho

This dismisses my follow-up question regarding if he could be trusted to follow-through on plans, a question stemming from the fact he made plans with his family (while I was there) and then ghosted them after the last 2 rounds 😬 And yes, for anyone reading this I do feel bad but I did try to leave so he could fulfill those responsibilities.

You drain the man's energy in every respect. He wasn't thinking clearly anymore. I've had it done to me and I've done it to others.

Give him a day or two to clear things up in his mind, he'll be back to business.

You drained him completely...what do you expect lol

He'll be seeing the shadows for a few days.

Well yeah. When he hits the quota for 'benefits', all is left is the 'friend' part. So what's the problem with spending time as a friend? What am I missing here?

Posted by goldenhour
Well yeah. When he hits the quota for 'benefits', all is left is the 'friend' part. So what's the problem with spending time as a friend? What am I missing here?

tbh most of the men I’ve done the fwb have NOT treated me like a valued friend; most men I’ve fucked for free (including “fwb’s”) would leave immediately after or send me home after, no cuddling/sleepovers/camaraderie 🥺 Idk what to think about being treated unconditionally kindly.

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He'll be seeing the shadows for a few days.

What shadows? 👀

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Well yeah. When he hits the quota for 'benefits', all is left is the 'friend' part. So what's the problem with spending time as a friend? What am I missing here?

tbh most of the men I’ve done the fwb have NOT treated me like a valued friend; most men I’ve fucked for free (including “fwb’s”) would leave immediately after or send me home after, no cuddling/sleepovers/camaraderie 🥺 Idk what to think about being treated unconditionally kindly.

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Does he have some cancer in his chart? Sun and Moon can act like this.

He seems confused as to whether he's catching feelings for you... I'd say set the boundaries that you want or discuss them. Maybe it's not that he came so much, maybe he's thinking, "should I keep her?" But that's just my suspicious thinking.

After orgasm physiologically men want to pull away do to testosterone drop

Or something like that so after 6 lol

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Well yeah. When he hits the quota for 'benefits', all is left is the 'friend' part. So what's the problem with spending time as a friend? What am I missing here?

tbh most of the men I’ve done the fwb have NOT treated me like a valued friend; most men I’ve fucked for free (including “fwb’s”) would leave immediately after or send me home after, no cuddling/sleepovers/camaraderie 🥺 Idk what to think about being treated unconditionally kindly.

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Just enjoy the kindness. Pursue more if that's what you want or enjoy the arrangement.

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Well yeah. When he hits the quota for 'benefits', all is left is the 'friend' part. So what's the problem with spending time as a friend? What am I missing here?

tbh most of the men I’ve done the fwb have NOT treated me like a valued friend; most men I’ve fucked for free (including “fwb’s”) would leave immediately after or send me home after, no cuddling/sleepovers/camaraderie 🥺 Idk what to think about being treated unconditionally kindly.

Does he have some cancer in his chart? Sun and Moon can act like this.

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Gemini sun, Gemini moon 👀

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Well yeah. When he hits the quota for 'benefits', all is left is the 'friend' part. So what's the problem with spending time as a friend? What am I missing here?

tbh most of the men I’ve done the fwb have NOT treated me like a valued friend; most men I’ve fucked for free (including “fwb’s”) would leave immediately after or send me home after, no cuddling/sleepovers/camaraderie 🥺 Idk what to think about being treated unconditionally kindly.

Does he have some cancer in his chart? Sun and Moon can act like this.

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Gemini sun, Gemini moon 👀

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Hahaha okay. Just enjoy the friendship.

It's called 'bok' or 'bock' lol when a man has nothing left in the tank.

Dumbest term ever. 😅

Posted by Truemara
After orgasm physiologically men want to pull away do to testosterone drop

Or something like that so after 6 lol

OMG I wonder if this drop in testosterone leads to fearful thought processes because at the end of the day (after 22 hours together and a couple hours after our fuck) he took me out to dinner + drinks and he was acting super on edge.

He thought the bartender slighted him, when he was just grabbing an iPad to take our order.

And then an old man WITH A WALKER was standing behind me with his hand in his pocket and after he left my fwb was like “that guy was making me nervous”.

I didn’t want to invalidate him so I just listened, but I’d never seen him like that before.

Posted by Saturn_Returns

Six times in 23 hours?! Pffff! I've done it four times in 6-8 hours with some of my exes (and we didn't go again either due to time restrictions or because they were starting to feel sore).

*smh*

6 times in ~20 hrs. 3 were spaced within a 4 hr period, but the last 3 were more spaced out.

I was sore, but he turns me on soooooo much I couldn’t resist.

When I’ve gotten sore with other partners, it would be hard to get in the mood for more. But it’s so easy with this one; I’m hoping I feel this attracted for a while because it feels so gud 🤤

Posted by RollergirlOrc
He seems confused as to whether he's catching feelings for you... I'd say set the boundaries that you want or discuss them. Maybe it's not that he came so much, maybe he's thinking, "should I keep her?" But that's just my suspicious thinking.

I think we will at least be fwb for a while, as his justification to introducing me to his friend was “it was bound to happen eventually”.

But the paranoid part of me thinks something else entirely is going on here (a common thought pattern I experience whenever I get close to anyone lol).