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Men Cannot Handle the Truth
Men's Ability to Handle Women's Sexual Desires
Many men struggle to accept or handle women's true sexual desires and fantasies due to societal taboos or personal discomfort. Understanding and communication are key to exploring these desires safely and consensually. Recognizing that women's sexual fantasies are normal can foster better intimacy and trust in relationships.
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Posted by AcutelyUnaware
BDSM = Batshit Crazy.Heed my warning.
I don't consider BDSM too wild, unless she wants some deep bruising or something. I think it can get more chaotic 🤣
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.
Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
I'm not necessarily talking about normal kinks or someone wanting anal constantly etc. But something that the woman doesn't share with every partner.
I dated a Virgo about two years ago. It took her several months to share her BDSM kink.. But it wasn't until after a year she finally shared that she had threesomes and multiple sexual encounters with different people in the friend group. At one point they were pretty much all fucking each other during COVID.
They all still remained friends, but it was a thing where she would introduce me and then say "yeah we had a thing before", but this kept happening and I was like wtf is going on??
Also, I have no idea about the rape fantasy thing. She may have just been wanted to be intensely dominated but the guy didn't feel comfortable doing that just yet since they had recently met.
I haven't had that issue except for guys saying they don't want to experience or inflict pain. That's only been a couple of guys. Some don't want to try anal. Which I'm fine with lmao.
Posted by IceStorm
What always fascinated me is when women actually admit that they want to be treated like a “dirty little whore”. Just Friday night I was out with my cancer and Virgo friends and my cancer friend who is in her last 40s says she likes to be demoralized… I like to be dominated, sometimes even restrained or controlled, but if a man disrespects me or calls me out of my name he’s getting slapped 😒 lol there’s nothing sexy about that.So it does make you wonder why different people have these kinks. Why some women want to be abused, either verbally or physically.
Mostly likely an imprint. It’s possible a person they deeply loved treated them in that manner.
But this is more so entering into what I called the shadow world. People can develop these kinks simply by exploring. Ever heard of someone getting turnt out 🤣?
Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's everyone's thoughts on men handling and accepting women's true desires sexually?Most women tend to not reach that level of comfort with the average man they date, but lo and behold if they do... The majority of men cannot handle all the sexual ideas or fantasies in a woman's mind, let own some actual experiences.
IMO (and limited experience) the men that react like this to women's fantasies are in denial about their own.
Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's everyone's thoughts on men handling and accepting women's true desires sexually?Most women tend to not reach that level of comfort with the average man they date, but lo and behold if they do... The majority of men cannot handle all the sexual ideas or fantasies in a woman's mind, let own some actual experiences.
IMO (and limited experience) the men that react like this to women's fantasies are in denial about their own.
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Hmm, I have no idea. I've always thought men were appalled or would have issues with it because of the diplomatic perception given off by most women. Those type of fantasies or kinks don't align with how they present themselves. You can say the same about men, but they are typically more open that they want to bang as many women as possible or something to that degree. An easy tell would be the content they follow on social media. So many men, married or not follow and pester IG models.
Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's everyone's thoughts on men handling and accepting women's true desires sexually?Most women tend to not reach that level of comfort with the average man they date, but lo and behold if they do... The majority of men cannot handle all the sexual ideas or fantasies in a woman's mind, let own some actual experiences.
IMO (and limited experience) the men that react like this to women's fantasies are in denial about their own.
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Hmm, I have no idea. I've always thought men were appalled or would have issues with it because of the diplomatic perception given off by most women. Those type of fantasies or kinks don't align with how they present themselves. You can say the same about men, but they are typically more open that they want to bang as many women as possible or something to that degree. An easy tell would be the content they follow on social media. So many men, married or not follow and pester IG models.
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I think what you're describing is the 'madonna-whore' complex..
Posted by IceStorm
What always fascinated me is when women actually admit that they want to be treated like a “dirty little whore”. Just Friday night I was out with my cancer and Virgo friends and my cancer friend who is in her last 40s says she likes to be demoralized… I like to be dominated, sometimes even restrained or controlled, but if a man disrespects me or calls me out of my name he’s getting slapped 😒 lol there’s nothing sexy about that.So it does make you wonder why different people have these kinks. Why some women want to be abused, either verbally or physically.
I think it’s sometimes different than you are thinking of it. This is more of a total submission thing than a disrespect/demoralizing/degrating thing imo. I’m speaking as a person who likes to be completely submissive in bed and enjoys that kind of talk, personally. Tbh I’m a bit of a cunt with ridged boundaries irl, so finding a man worth submitting to completely this way is a turn on. I think it’s actually called a “brat”, like teasing and being difficult and then fiiiinally giving in when he literally cannot handle anymore.
It’s not the idea that you’re a “slut” or a “whore” the way it’s generally used as an insult, but that you’re HIS slut/whore who would be willing to do anything naughty/dirty/shocking to please him, which makes it hot. It’s more a submissive/dom/ownership kind of thing. I know there are people into demoralization and degrading, but just giving you another perspective
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
I'm not necessarily talking about normal kinks or someone wanting anal constantly etc. But something that the woman doesn't share with every partner.
I dated a Virgo about two years ago. It took her several months to share her BDSM kink.. But it wasn't until after a year she finally shared that she had threesomes and multiple sexual encounters with different people in the friend group. At one point they were pretty much all fucking each other during COVID.
They all still remained friends, but it was a thing where she would introduce me and then say "yeah we had a thing before", but this kept happening and I was like wtf is going on??
Also, I have no idea about the rape fantasy thing. She may have just been wanted to be intensely dominated but the guy didn't feel comfortable doing that just yet since they had recently met.
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What part about that do you feel that you could not satisfy/fulfill? I mean based on the thread title. Her need for variety and group sex? Again, not sure how common this is.
I feel like communication barriers like these are not open because we live still in a puritanical society preaching abstinence only sex education in some areas, so sex is still associated with shame before we even get to have it. This poor education follows people and how they view sex their entire lives. I’m speaking from US pov btw. Europeans are generally more educated and open as a whole, I do believe
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
I'm not necessarily talking about normal kinks or someone wanting anal constantly etc. But something that the woman doesn't share with every partner.
I dated a Virgo about two years ago. It took her several months to share her BDSM kink.. But it wasn't until after a year she finally shared that she had threesomes and multiple sexual encounters with different people in the friend group. At one point they were pretty much all fucking each other during COVID.
They all still remained friends, but it was a thing where she would introduce me and then say "yeah we had a thing before", but this kept happening and I was like wtf is going on??
Also, I have no idea about the rape fantasy thing. She may have just been wanted to be intensely dominated but the guy didn't feel comfortable doing that just yet since they had recently met.
click to expandWhat part about that do you feel that you could not satisfy/fulfill? I mean based on the thread title. Her need for variety and group sex? Again, not sure how common this is.
I feel like communication barriers like these are not open because we live still in a puritanical society preaching abstinence only sex education in some areas, so sex is still associated with shame before we even get to have it. This poor education follows people and how they view sex their entire lives. I’m speaking from US pov btw. Europeans are generally more educated and open as a whole, I do believe
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It wasn't a fulfillment issue, she just had a bit too much going on for me. I completely understood her POV though and not wanting to hide things. That was mature of her.
This thread isn't really based on her I just gave that example because she didn't share that with everyone. One of my Scorpio friends was in PR last week, got drunk and slept with a man who's name she didn't know on the beach. Like butt-ass naked on the beach.. between that and the other incident she said she will never tell anyone she's romantically interested in about that. Based on fear of judgement I suppose.
Posted by IceStorm
What always fascinated me is when women actually admit that they want to be treated like a “dirty little whore”. Just Friday night I was out with my cancer and Virgo friends and my cancer friend who is in her last 40s says she likes to be demoralized… I like to be dominated, sometimes even restrained or controlled, but if a man disrespects me or calls me out of my name he’s getting slapped 😒 lol there’s nothing sexy about that.So it does make you wonder why different people have these kinks. Why some women want to be abused, either verbally or physically.
I think it’s sometimes different than you are thinking of it. This is more of a total submission thing than a disrespect/demoralizing/degrating thing imo. I’m speaking as a person who likes to be completely submissive in bed and enjoys that kind of talk, personally. Tbh I’m a bit of a cunt with ridged boundaries irl, so finding a man worth submitting to completely this way is a turn on. I think it’s actually called a “brat”, like teasing and being difficult and then fiiiinally giving in when he literally cannot handle anymore.
It’s not the idea that you’re a “slut” or a “whore” the way it’s generally used as an insult, but that you’re HIS slut/whore who would be willing to do anything naughty/dirty/shocking to please him, which makes it hot. It’s more a submissive/dom/ownership kind of thing. I know there are people into demoralization and degrading, but just giving you another perspective
I see what you’re saying.. I also feel like it takes a certain person and a level of trust to bring that level of freak out of us.. I just have not had that level brought out of me yet but I’ll never say never.
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See that's what i'm saying in this thread. You're open to it, but you just haven't met a man who will know how to handle it. It takes a deep level of trust..
Say you did meet a man who brought it out of you, but it doesn't work out between both of you. Now you have to start over and find someone who you can divulge that too.
Posted by Bumboklaat
Idk what the truth is. Can't read minds. I've seen/done some kinky shiz tho. Wouldn't surprise me women had wilder fantasies than men, they are more in tune sexually than men imo.What does surprise and fascinate me is the emotional control you can have over someone.
I probably should have used a better example. That show SexLife on Netflix.. the wife was a complete freak and married an average guy. Had the house, two kids, white picket fence and all that. She ended up suppressing her desires and over time became sexually frustrated with him. He finds her journal and figures out who she really is. He had no idea how to deal with the situation..
That in my opinion is a real scenario.
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.
I only met one who was into it…
Posted by MyStarsShine
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.I only met one who was into it…
you mean pegging?
Posted by MyStarsShine
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.I only met one who was into it…
you mean pegging?
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Yes anal sex performed on a man…
Posted by MyStarsShine
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.I only met one who was into it…
you mean pegging?
Yes anal sex performed on a man…
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I doubt this is super common, but there are submissive men.
Posted by MyStarsShine
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.I only met one who was into it…
you mean pegging?
Yes anal sex performed on a man…
I doubt this is super common, but there are submissive men.
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The guy I met who was into it was very dominant lol …
Can you handle the truth, is this some sort of dunking thread? Honestly every man under the age of 40 knows this shit these days. Lots of them just don't care, they're not into it themselves.
Posted by MyStarsShine
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.I only met one who was into it…
Interesting thought process you got going on here.
Meanwhile I'm over here trying to be vanilla af around women because I'm embarrassed to express how much of an absolute freak I am. Tbh if a woman opened up about her fantasies and sexual desires to me, it would make me feel extremely comfortable to open up with my own. I would literally want to put a ring on that type of woman. Most of my relationships I feel like I'm hiding myself and real desires, because I worry my secrets or fantasies might be too much, thus destroying the relationship. If a woman completely opened up to me with things way more interesting then the boring vanilla stuff I would literally lose my mind in a good way. I'm honestly into anything, and if I haven't tried it, I'm 1000% willing to try it at least once.
Isn't this why people flirt and talk about sex before they have it? I mean, I would do that just to see what they're expecting..
Posted by LuckyLibra7
What's everyone's thoughts on men handling and accepting women's true desires sexually?
All women I talked to who liked sexual fantasies and bondage sex told me men are scared of that. They told me men freak out. I never believed them, but maybe I was wrong.
I only slept with Sag women and they are not into that.
Taurus, Leo, Cap, Libra are the once who want it.
Some of it is experimental stuff and just fun in the bedroom.
Some kinks are let's say inspired by pyschological stuff related to hidden desires and feelings.
I have come across someone who wanted it rough the way the op described. She was a big fan of Laurel Hamilton too. She didn't want to be raped or forced actually. What she wanted was to feel extremely desired and to be taken in that way.
If you like you could even say young woman who date way older men and vis versa is also a kink for some. Daddy issues...
People who are sluts man or woman for validation.
People who only sleep with people that are safe because they fear connection with others.
People who have sex to work off emotional issues. To feel something other then what they normal feel.
Others who crave sex for connection and intimacy.
List goes on and on.
Kinks are a expression done with a sexual twist. Lol what is kink other then sexual stuff outside the normal with a twist of some kind🙃
I'm sure this is all too deep for a lot of you. So just ignore it and enjoy it. If it doesn't cause you or someone else any real harm go for it👍
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
There’s a difference between having a rape fantasy in your head and the actual expectation that she wanted this man to be sexually forceful with no knowledge of her desire. Where is the line of sexual assault drawn then? It’s very dangerous for both sides, and requires trust on both sides. My comment about it being extreme is directed at the latter. I don’t think rape fantasy/CNC/anything related is unusual.
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19085605/
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I doubt that figure is correct
I think it sucks, some men stay on the vanilla side and don't even pull hair, and that's a pretty common thing to do in sex. Like why not even try to do it? It's not gonna hurt you or the girl.
I don't know what men are afraid of.
The rape fantasy, I get. It's a scary scenario and someone could think they will be too rough or too hurtful. And how often would they have to do that? Like if a women needed to be fake raped every time she had sex to have orgasms, I would think it could be tiring to do, let alone create a sadistic style of sex that would be habit forming.
She just needs to find a guy sexually compatible with her if this is important.
Posted by saggurl88
I think it sucks, some men stay on the vanilla side and don't even pull hair, and that's a pretty common thing to do in sex. Like why not even try to do it? It's not gonna hurt you or the girl.I don't know what men are afraid of.
The rape fantasy, I get. It's a scary scenario and someone could think they will be too rough or too hurtful. And how often would they have to do that? Like if a women needed to be fake raped every time she had sex to have orgasms, I would think it could be tiring to do, let alone create a sadistic style of sex that would be habit forming.
She just needs to find a guy sexually compatible with her if this is important.
Damn, homie didn't even wanna pull your hair? *stretches fingers*
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I know! Boring, right? lol
I guess some people are just fine starfishing and being humped like a mechanical robot lol
Posted by MyStarsShine
I’m wondering how many men are willing to receive anal sex…seems a lot expect the woman to be up for it. Double standard.I only met one who was into it…
you mean pegging?
Yes anal sex performed on a man…
I doubt this is super common, but there are submissive men.
click to expandThe guy I met who was into it was very dominant lol …
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Posted by saggurl88
I think it sucks, some men stay on the vanilla side and don't even pull hair, and that's a pretty common thing to do in sex. Like why not even try to do it? It's not gonna hurt you or the girl.I don't know what men are afraid of.
The rape fantasy, I get. It's a scary scenario and someone could think they will be too rough or too hurtful. And how often would they have to do that? Like if a women needed to be fake raped every time she had sex to have orgasms, I would think it could be tiring to do, let alone create a sadistic style of sex that would be habit forming.
She just needs to find a guy sexually compatible with her if this is important.
Damn, homie didn't even wanna pull your hair? *stretches fingers*
I know! Boring, right? lol
I guess some people are just fine starfishing and being humped like a mechanical robot lol
I kinda wanna give sex classes. I think people could use some teaching. I'd be standing over 'em like NAH, YOU GOTTA SWITCH UP THE RYTHYM! WHY AREN'T YOU PLAYING WITH HER CLIT? ASK HER WHAT SHE LIKES!
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You know the saying that some men can't even find the clit! Hahaha! Imagine that?!
I have no idea how that's even possible, but I guess all vaginas look very different. I thought it was pretty obvious.
I also find that the younger generation, below 35 are way more open to everything. Pulling hair, choking, spanking, ass eating and that type of stuff is almost a regular part of sex.
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
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But how many of them would act that out?
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
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But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
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Most of your sexual partners?
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
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But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
Most of your sexual partners?
Lol nah, i haven't even had many partners, maybe like 6 at this point. Never broached CNC with any of them. Just that people like all kinds of wild shit
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I’ve not had many either …
Taurus moon purity 😋😂
I think that is wishful thinking OP.
The truth that men can't handle is that their sex drive is much higher than a woman's. And we are far more vanilla.
Most women have sex a lot of the time simply to please the partner but we dont need it and at times don't even enjoy it. Which i can understand might be hurtful to the man for him to know.
I think that is the truth men can't handle.
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
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But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
Most of your sexual partners?
Lol nah, i haven't even had many partners, maybe like 6 at this point. Never broached CNC with any of them. Just that people like all kinds of wild shit
I’ve not had many either …
Taurus moon purity 😋😂
click to expandI'm tryna get smudged up er suttin'
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I love the way you talk. 😄 its so cute.
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
But how many of them would act that out?
Pointless having fantasies if they trapped and imaginary
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I knew a woman who lived her life as a fantasy…she claimed the reality was a let down
🎶come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination🎶
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
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But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
Most of your sexual partners?
Lol nah, i haven't even had many partners, maybe like 6 at this point. Never broached CNC with any of them. Just that people like all kinds of wild shit
click to expandI’ve not had many either …
Taurus moon purity 😋😂
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Is that a thing? Taurus is known for indulging and being glutinous.
I know a Gemini Sun, Taurus moon, and Scorpio Mars that is a forever bachelor and will never settle because he loves being with a variety of different women. He will tell women that he will cheat if he's caged into a relationship. He gets too bored.
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
But how many of them would act that out?
Pointless having fantasies if they trapped and imaginary
I knew a woman who lived her life as a fantasy…she claimed the reality was a let down
🎶come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination🎶
I've got a remix of that it's called Wonkered
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Wonkered 😁
Did you see the original with Jean Wilder
Both Wonkers were Geminis lol
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
Most of your sexual partners?
Lol nah, i haven't even had many partners, maybe like 6 at this point. Never broached CNC with any of them. Just that people like all kinds of wild shit
click to expandI’ve not had many either …
Taurus moon purity 😋😂
Is that a thing? Taurus is known for indulging and being glutinous.
I know a Gemini Sun, Taurus moon, and Scorpio Mars that is a forever bachelor and will never settle because he loves being with a variety of different women. He will tell women that he will cheat if he's caged into a relationship. He gets too bored.
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Yes greedy Taurus moons
I think Scorp Mars can be slutty and insatiable
I said that because Stony both have Taurus moon…
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
Most of your sexual partners?
Lol nah, i haven't even had many partners, maybe like 6 at this point. Never broached CNC with any of them. Just that people like all kinds of wild shit
click to expandI’ve not had many either …
Taurus moon purity 😋😂
Is that a thing? Taurus is known for indulging and being glutinous.
I know a Gemini Sun, Taurus moon, and Scorpio Mars that is a forever bachelor and will never settle because he loves being with a variety of different women. He will tell women that he will cheat if he's caged into a relationship. He gets too bored.
Yes greedy Taurus moons
I think Scorp Mars can be slutty and insatiable
I said that because Stony and me have Taurus moon…
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Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
But how many of them would act that out?
Pointless having fantasies if they trapped and imaginary
I knew a woman who lived her life as a fantasy…she claimed the reality was a let down
🎶come with me and you’ll be in a world of pure imagination🎶
I've got a remix of that it's called Wonkered
Wonkered 😁
Did you see the original with Jean Wilder
Both Wonkers were Geminis lol
I think it's a great film, but very psychedelic. Not seen the remake, not really a big Tim Burton fan.
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Yes I loved that psychedelic vibe 😵💫
I thought the original was the best.
😵
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
But how many of them would act that out?
Probably more than you think given the right partner
Most of your sexual partners?
Lol nah, i haven't even had many partners, maybe like 6 at this point. Never broached CNC with any of them. Just that people like all kinds of wild shit
click to expandI’ve not had many either …
Taurus moon purity 😋😂
click to expandIs that a thing? Taurus is known for indulging and being glutinous.
I know a Gemini Sun, Taurus moon, and Scorpio Mars that is a forever bachelor and will never settle because he loves being with a variety of different women. He will tell women that he will cheat if he's caged into a relationship. He gets too bored.
He's a scorpio mars we're special people.
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Everyone has a choice on what they want to do in their private lives. He tries to warn women lol.
P.S. Scorpio Venus is better! 😛
Posted by Textosmoon
I think that is wishful thinking OP.The truth that men can't handle is that their sex drive is much higher than a woman's. And we are far more vanilla.
Most women have sex a lot of the time simply to please the partner but we dont need it and at times don't even enjoy it. Which i can understand might be hurtful to the man for him to know.
I think that is the truth men can't handle.
I think it varies. As I've said mine is either sky high or none existent. Some women have a higher sex drive than men and vise versa. Women's fantasies are also far more interesting than mens.
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Variance is indeed a fact of life 🙂
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
Womens romance fantasy books are not very interesting though lol. See this is a difference between men and women, women love that kind of shit and will read the same thing over and over and it's all the same sexual content, many popular women's books are ab sex. Men will read Moby Dick or something like that again and again while women can't stand it. A males sexual fantasy is some epic story of struggle and making a mark on the world, that's what gives us a hard on. A woman's sexual fantasy is for a man to make his mark on her...
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
Womens romance fantasy books are not very interesting though lol. See this is a difference between men and women, women love that kind of shit and will read the same thing over and over and it's all the same sexual content, many popular women's books are ab sex. Men will read Moby Dick or something like that again and again while women can't stand it. A males sexual fantasy is some epic story of struggle and making a mark on the world, that's what gives us a hard on. A woman's sexual fantasy is for a man to make his mark on her...
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And that is why men and women
are highly incompatible 😀
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
Womens romance fantasy books are not very interesting though lol. See this is a difference between men and women, women love that kind of shit and will read the same thing over and over and it's all the same sexual content, many popular women's books are ab sex. Men will read Moby Dick or something like that again and again while women can't stand it. A males sexual fantasy is some epic story of struggle and making a mark on the world, that's what gives us a hard on. A woman's sexual fantasy is for a man to make his mark on her...
click to expandAnd that is why men and women
are highly incompatible 😀
click to expandThat's why it's called straight person's problems
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Haha yes I guess so
Although in mens’ defence I was with two Aqua men who were very romantic as well as hot 🔥 as hell. I really appreciated them.
Both water moons ❤️
Posted by nanochip
I would disagree - all of the men I have experience with have been very receptive to my desire/kinks that I’ve wanted to try. I think men in general want to please their sex partner. I’ve never had experience with anything otherwise. The key factor here is communication. I think the issue is that people aren’t open talking about this stuff, especially if you’re a person who has a lot of casual sex.Your example is very extreme and an huge outlier from the norm. It sounds like that woman had a lot of psychological issues. Like she secretly literally wanted to be raped or what? No one would know she wanted that if she doesn’t tell them, she just expected them to do it of their own volition? Huge red flag. She sounds like she’s suffered from sexual assault/rape and hasn’t dealt with the trauma properly. That’s in no way a standard desire or expectation for most women.
Disagree 62% of women have had rape fantasies. The women's fantasies are always more interesting than men's. Most popular male fantasy is a threesome ... borin'.
I doubt that figure is correct
click to expandI don't. Loads of brutes in fiction, even Mr Darcy and the beast. It's a sexual fantasy not a romantic fantasy
click to expand
Womens romance fantasy books are not very interesting though lol. See this is a difference between men and women, women love that kind of shit and will read the same thing over and over and it's all the same sexual content, many popular women's books are ab sex. Men will read Moby Dick or something like that again and again while women can't stand it. A males sexual fantasy is some epic story of struggle and making a mark on the world, that's what gives us a hard on. A woman's sexual fantasy is for a man to make his mark on her...
click to expandAnd that is why men and women
are highly incompatible 😀
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I don't think that's true and I cbf trying to figure out why.
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What's everyone's thoughts on men handling and accepting women's true desires sexually?
Most women tend to not reach that level of comfort with the average man they date, but lo and behold if they do... The majority of men cannot handle all the sexual ideas or fantasies in a woman's mind, let own some actual experiences. Other than my own experiences, I've had a couple friends share some of their adventures and even though there's no romantic interest, at times like I'm still damn.. and in utter disbelief.
There was a guy a while back I know who went on several dates with a woman, but she was extremely closed off, yet kept communicating she liked him. He did not believe her and stated he wanted to end things.. she then turned the tables and stated she has a rape fantasy and he failed to take her by force so the relationship would not have progressed anyway.
The man was in complete shock and thought she was batshit crazy.