Aries04
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Suddenly see a woman in a defferent light
different* obviously
Nope, not unless you see someone exposing their deep feelings as some sort if weakness. All of us have faults and insecurities. What youre looking past is the most beautiful thing...she trusts you with you're her heart. If anything that should be a turn on...not a turn off. But to each his own
Posted by Rabbit
If said "opening up" reveals that she wasn't honest in the beginning, then yes.
No "opening up" as in letting the guard down.
And eventually becoming overwhelming as in pouring her deepest emotions out and being straight forward about feeling love for you.
I know men like mystery and the hunt, so when that wears down and you pinned your object of desire down do you find yourself looking for the next challenge?
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Nope, not unless you see someone exposing their deep feelings as some sort if weakness. All of us have faults and insecurities. What youre looking past is the most beautiful thing...she trusts you with you're her heart. If anything that should be a turn on...not a turn off. But to each his own
This.
So what is this "to each his own"? What kind of a man gets turned on vs. the kind of a man who gets turned off? Maturity? Experience? Exactly knowing and cherishing what you have? Or DOES it depend on the woman? Is it an intrinsic motivation?
Posted by tizianiPosted by Aries04
Guys, honest question:
You meet a woman, chase her...
You lost me at this point.
Usually the rest of what your described is a consequence of this behaviour. No one should chase on either side. Just be real.click to expand
My bad, not the best wording on my side. More like court her. I get your drift though, when women play hard to get and then turn out to be hard to want after a while it can cause great confusion.
Posted by RabbitPosted by Aries04Posted by Rabbit
If said "opening up" reveals that she wasn't honest in the beginning, then yes.
No "opening up" as in letting the guard down.
And eventually becoming overwhelming as in pouring her deepest emotions out and being straight forward about feeling love for you.
I know men like mystery and the hunt, so when that wears down and you pinned your object of desire down do you find yourself looking for the next challenge?
..........................
This is why I am a proponent of "letting it all hang out" with someone your romantically interested in. If they can't handle you exactly as you are, there's no point in continuing.click to expand
Unless I have a few hard drinks, nothing is hanging out. I am naturally reserved and shy. That's me. What you see isn't always what you get. Catch me in another mood, I am outgoing, dynamic and playful. A guy should want to know the woman he is interested in, which means making an effort. Talk to me, ask me questions, do your homework.
Children behave. Almost everyone posting here is just out of the college years (expect for maybe one or two of you.)
People will do what they are ready to do. You meet them where they are not where you want them to be.
Sometimes we want someone and then we find out it is not right. Sometimes we want someone and they are way to good for us and we hold on for dear life. Sometimes the relationship runs its course or we grow in different directions till one day you look at the other person and you don't them anymore.
What makes people grow apart? When you understand this you will understand your question.
Warning it could take a lifetime to get. You may not like the answer and that might take you another lifetime to accept.
People will do what they are ready to do. You meet them where they are not where you want them to be.
Sometimes we want someone and then we find out it is not right. Sometimes we want someone and they are way to good for us and we hold on for dear life. Sometimes the relationship runs its course or we grow in different directions till one day you look at the other person and you don't them anymore.
What makes people grow apart? When you understand this you will understand your question.
Warning it could take a lifetime to get. You may not like the answer and that might take you another lifetime to accept.
Posted by miamivirgo
Children behave. Almost everyone posting here is just out of the college years (expect for maybe one or two of you.)
People will do what they are ready to do. You meet them where they are not where you want them to be.
Sometimes we want someone and then we find out it is not right. Sometimes we want someone and they are way to good for us and we hold on for dear life. Sometimes the relationship runs its course or we grow in different directions till one day you look at the other person and you don't them anymore.
What makes people grow apart? When you understand this you will understand your question.
Warning it could take a lifetime to get. You may not like the answer and that might take you another lifetime to accept.
:-O I'm intrigued..
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Nope, not unless you see someone exposing their deep feelings as some sort if weakness. All of us have faults and insecurities. What youre looking past is the most beautiful thing...she trusts you with you're her heart. If anything that should be a turn on...not a turn off. But to each his own
——?
I have faults but no Insecurities
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All of us DON'T have insecurities... lol
probably most but not all
all of us DO have faults
Posted by strudelPosted by Aries04
Guys, honest question:
You meet a woman, chase her, date her, get to know her, fall in love with her, open up.
Then she starts to open up too, reciprocates your feelings and everything is fine - you got her.
Then she starts caring for you deeper, developing real feelings and is vulnerable. Does that make you see her in a different light all of a sudden? Do you get the feeling that now you have her and don't need to pursue her anymore and even feel annoyed when she shows "too much" affection? Can a man who truly loves a woman get turned off over night?
men can take women for granted. i do it all the time.click to expand
If this wasn't sarcasm: you are aware of it, so would you like to change it about yourself or did that have to do with the women you came across and they way they carried themselves?
If I had a penis I would be really pissed that you were posting this shit in here. And if I had a penis, I would require any woman requesting relationship advice form the "man cave" to submit that request with titty pic.
Posted by Aries04Posted by beautifulsoul74
Nope, not unless you see someone exposing their deep feelings as some sort if weakness. All of us have faults and insecurities. What youre looking past is the most beautiful thing...she trusts you with you're her heart. If anything that should be a turn on...not a turn off. But to each his own
This.
So what is this "to each his own"? What kind of a man gets turned on vs. the kind of a man who gets turned off? Maturity? Experience? Exactly knowing and cherishing what you have? Or DOES it depend on the woman? Is it an intrinsic motivation?click to expand
"To each his own" means each of us are left to learn the lessons of love according to our ability to understand and grow. While one can be an example, good or bad, it is up to the other person to open their eyes and mind with clarity and see reality. With that being said, it is dependent on the woman because it is her that chooses who she dates, just as it is incumbent upon a man to choose who he dates and both are equally responsible for their approach. In essence, dating isn't a man vs woman thing, but a human endeavor to find love. As you said, its about cherishing what you have. Realize, you have to learn the difference between someone who values the experience of you and one who values "you." The latter is not going to be turned off because you reveal yourself. In a world full of dishonesty and mistrust, to a mature person, you revealing yourself is a blessing and should be endearing. Yes, this comes with experience. Revealing yourself is a strength, not a weakness. Date a pursuer...not a chaser. There is a different between chasing and pursuing. Pursuing means you have a clear direction and focus and the more you move towards your goal. Boys chase tail, men pursue goals.
Posted by Xel1337Posted by beautifulsoul74
Nope, not unless you see someone exposing their deep feelings as some sort if weakness. All of us have faults and insecurities. What youre looking past is the most beautiful thing...she trusts you with you're her heart. If anything that should be a turn on...not a turn off. But to each his own
——?
I have faults but no Insecurities
—
All of us DON'T have insecurities... lol
probably most but not all
all of us DO have faultsclick to expand
What you say is true on its surface, but look deeper. Insecurity gives birth to a fault because of a lack of integrity(security, being whole).Its no different than a small crack in the side walk. You can cover it up, but the fault, and hence the insecurity is there. As the crack weathers(life experience, adversity) the crack gets bigger until finally it is repaired. Increasing the surrounding pavement doesn't work(behavioral compensation) because you only end up giving the fault more to erode and destroy over time. So, get some cement and repair the crack. It is the same with us. We either try to compensate with "redeeming qualities" or we fix the fault. The difference with us is its not about being perfect, but improving the integrity within ourselves.
Posted by Astrobyn
If I had a penis I would be really pissed that you were posting this shit in here. And if I had a penis, I would require any woman requesting relationship advice form the "man cave" to submit that request with titty pic.
LOL I know, I did feel kind of bad posting it on here, but the only reason I did it is to get replies from men that are not usually on the relationships/astrology forums. You know, men who aren't actually concerned with giving advice per se, but would do so if confronted. And I got it🙂
Didn't mean to disturb the dynamics of this thread. So y'all kicking me out? I got titty pics.. Just saying lol
Posted by beautifulsoul74Posted by Aries04Posted by beautifulsoul74
Nope, not unless you see someone exposing their deep feelings as some sort if weakness. All of us have faults and insecurities. What youre looking past is the most beautiful thing...she trusts you with you're her heart. If anything that should be a turn on...not a turn off. But to each his own
This.
So what is this "to each his own"? What kind of a man gets turned on vs. the kind of a man who gets turned off? Maturity? Experience? Exactly knowing and cherishing what you have? Or DOES it depend on the woman? Is it an intrinsic motivation?
"To each his own" means each of us are left to learn the lessons of love according to our ability to understand and grow. While one can be an example, good or bad, it is up to the other person to open their eyes and mind with clarity and see reality. With that being said, it is dependent on the woman because it is her that chooses who she dates, just as it is incumbent upon a man to choose who he dates and both are equally responsible for their approach. In essence, dating isn't a man vs woman thing, but a human endeavor to find love. As you said, its about cherishing what you have. Realize, you have to learn the difference between someone who values the experience of you and one who values "you." The latter is not going to be turned off because you reveal yourself. In a world full of dishonesty and mistrust, to a mature person, you revealing yourself is a blessing and should be endearing. Yes, this comes with experience. Revealing yourself is a strength, not a weakness. Date a pursuer...not a chaser. There is a different between chasing and pursuing. Pursuing means you have a clear direction and focus and the more you move towards your goal. Boys chase tail, men pursue goals.click to expand
Good stuff.. Thank you!
Posted by cowpuncherPosted by Astrobyn
If I had a penis I would be really pissed that you were posting this shit in here. And if I had a penis, I would require any woman requesting relationship advice form the "man cave" to submit that request with titty pic.
Stoic, COTC, and Rabbit: I hereby submit the following motions:
1) To grant Robyn the loftiest of honors, her very own honorary penis, complete with all the sense, sensibility, rights and privileged thereof.
2) We codify into law that stuff Robyn said.
click to expand
As long as item 1 isn't used on yours truly, I vote yes.
Posted by starlover
Gosh this thread just made me very grateful that i finished a relationship with an Aries male
How so?
I don't think it's an Aries thing per se. I believe it's the trend of today's society. People, who open up the least "win". People seem to find replacement fast and don't care about working things out anymore. It's all superficial games. I hate it..
Posted by cowpuncherPosted by Astrobyn
If I had a penis I would be really pissed that you were posting this shit in here. And if I had a penis, I would require any woman requesting relationship advice form the "man cave" to submit that request with titty pic.
Stoic, COTC, and Rabbit: I hereby submit the following motions:
1) To grant Robyn the loftiest of honors, her very own honorary penis, complete with all the sense, sensibility, rights and privileged thereof.
2) We codify into law that stuff Robyn said.
click to expand
I vote against Motion 1 and in favor of Motion 2.
Posted by Aries04
I don't think it's an Aries thing per se. I believe it's the trend of today's society. People, who open up the least "win". People seem to find replacement fast and don't care about working things out anymore. It's all superficial games. I hate it..
I totally agree with you. The person who cares more, gets used n walked all over. The person who acts as if, runs things.
However, grownups with maturity dont act like this. I think people who play those holding out games have major insecurities and they eventually lose in the end. They miss out on the best. At least thats what I tell myself lol
Posted by starlover
Aaaahh well, better to be true to oneself and heart i guess
yup. I cant hold it in if I feel it.
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You meet a woman, chase her, date her, get to know her, fall in love with her, open up.
Then she starts to open up too, reciprocates your feelings and everything is fine - you got her.
Then she starts caring for you deeper, developing real feelings and is vulnerable. Does that make you see her in a different light all of a sudden? Do you get the feeling that now you have her and don't need to pursue her anymore and even feel annoyed when she shows "too much" affection? Can a man who truly loves a woman get turned off over night?