About A Virgo

Seeing that Virgo Males are slow to start a relationship, how does one know a virgo male is still interested, say by the 2nd year and still nothing has happened, well besides the push and pull, stares, helpfulness, thoughtful gifts (not all the time)...treats...

I need some kind of closure that it's all in my head thinking it could lead somewhere with him.

If I may, please be kind. Kinda feeling low.
Thanks.

Does he know how you feel?

I'm sure he kinda does but we're both painfully shy about it and sometimes he acts real distant from me. It's really hard to get close to him. We "flirt" from a distance.

However to be honest, he has always said he was anti rels since we first met but at the same time, he always takes care of me in his helpful ways...

See the last thing I want is to be a crazy person 'oh your words said no but actions said yes' sorta thing you know.

The first few things he said to me when we first met was that he hoped never to get married.

Are you both young?

If you care about him, show it. Don't push him. Find something or someone else to take up your time. (fill in the voids) He will come to you, if he cares about you. It takes a long time. If you are young then you have time.

Damn two years and he has never said .... I want you?

Any Virgo who REALLY wants something....will construct the strategy to get what they want.
Its one thing to hang around for two years as your 'friend' its a whole other thing for him to ;inger for two years and never tell you how much he desires you.
Unless he has already gotten "Benefits" from you and well I think you know where im going with this.

I was friends with a girl for like a year but trust me, she knew how I felt for her every day. Not just because I was thoughtful but because I told her how i felt and the proverbial ball was in her court.

Posted by wgamador2
Damn two years and he has never said .... I want you?

Any Virgo who REALLY wants something....will construct the strategy to get what they want.
Its one thing to hang around for two years as your 'friend' its a whole other thing for him to ;inger for two years and never tell you how much he desires you.
Unless he has already gotten "Benefits" from you and well I think you know where im going with this.

I was friends with a girl for like a year but trust me, she knew how I felt for her every day. Not just because I was thoughtful but because I told her how i felt and the proverbial ball was in her court.

Well said! 🙂

That typo should have been
"Linger" and not "Finger" the " ; " is too close to the letter 'L', baby.
Just clariofying things for you wonderful perverts out there.
Call me.

LMAO! 😄

After a year and nothing substantial?

You probably either put him off somehow before or he just ain't that into you.

What about if he says he wants you and it's been seven months and you haven't met. He sends messages sexual messages and tells you your beautiful and says he wants to come see you and it hasn't happened ?

Are you a cappy too cremebrule?

Thank you everyone for your insightful opinions. I guess I knew it all along "he's not that into me" as Cajunspirit said because my ex had been a virgo and right from day one, I knew how he felt which reminds me a lot of what wgamador2. The virgo ex never gave me any doubt and I never experienced any of the push and pull trauma (haha).

To answer virgie, we're not young,30's and we work together. I doubt he's been in any real form of relationship. He's kinda awkward but there's something endearing about him which most ppl aren't able to see and have typically misjudged him. I've always held the belief that he's a kind person inside but needs time to open up.

There were no benefits involved...I'm classy. 😉 haha

Will be working no the closure now. 😢

Thanks you guys and girls.

Posted by redberry

There were no benefits involved...I'm classy. 😉 haha

Boring. lol.
Im kidding.

Plus thats really your business.
Oh and dont worry now that you dont want him, he'll really want you.

Posted by 25thDecan
You say he's awkward...I think he DID try to make a move but you pre-empted in one of those conversations like I described earlier....

Hey sorry I had meant to answer your comment but missed it the first round...I've never had a rels related convo with him much cause he seems really quiet around me, like he's almost afraid to talk to me. He's fine with the texting and e-mailing but in person, when we're alone he seemed really nervous or uncomfortable.

I gave him many chances and he has hurt my feelings numerous times but I've always forgiven him. Having said that, I've offended him as well and he too has forgiven me.

In our more intimate conversations, he once told me 'others don't know you like I do.'

I guess, me being old fashioned, wanted to see a big bold move to signify a change.

I just waited and waited.

I don't play games with ppl cause what's the point in being manipulative? I sure wouldn't want to be treated that way and wouldn't wish on this on anyone.Of course, I couldn't make it obvious like 'Hey, I like you. Do you like me?'. But in my own quiet ways, I did show that I care.

Guys, what is the one clear sign that you always show when you're into a girl? Especially when you're a shy person.

Posted by wgamador2

Posted by redberry

There were no benefits involved...I'm classy. 😉 haha

Boring. lol.
Im kidding.

Plus thats really your business.
Oh and dont worry now that you dont want him, he'll really want you.

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hahaha I'm old fashioned...can't change that about me.

You men just love the thrill of a chase, don't you? lol

I understand your feelings redberry and I love how you sound like the typical awesomely patient and old-fashioned cappy girl🙂

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
I understand your feelings redberry and I love how you sound like the typical awesomely patient and old-fashioned cappy girl🙂

haha thanks for your kind words, Boom. Your cappie is one lucky girl.

please keep us posted. Im so curious to know if he goes for it or not.

Hi, it's interesting how this story gets similar between virgo guy friend and me.
I've known him for 4 years, and once he told me he loves me as a friend, which I took it very casually.
When he said those for 3 times, I was confronting him for what he said in his text previously, I was mad and he said he was scared to lose me as a friend.
When I didn't reply follow up text message to him, he sent some more texts and then he said he spent the night with a girl he tried to avoid.
He avoided her on the day he supposed to meet her, he met me and we had a nice day out together as a friend.
I'm also an old fashioned girl, I would like to see a man who can say exactly what he wants, and express what he feels toward me....but I began to realize that is not happening from this virgo guy.

Long time ago, he said, he fantasized me, I was kind of puzzled by those remarks.
No man ever said that to me in that manner, it wasn't thrilling or romantic at all.
And yet, from the beginning, when I asked him what he wants to see between us, he cleary said, he wanted to get to know me better and become friends.
When I had a brief boyfriend, he used to call me more often, and tried to keep in touch with me more, but when I broke up with ex, the virgo guy keeps distance from me.
He showed some subtle jealousy while we talked about my ex, he seemed not pleased how I could be connected with that kind of guy.
He said I could do better than him.

Still occasionally we keep in touch and meet just two of us, but I don't know about him.
It doesn't feel like we are just friends, although, he seems little detached, compare to the first 2 years he doesn't treat me that speical now, he used to remember everything about me.
At first that kind of intensity, staring, protect of me, his memory about me made me scared.
He still says I am special, but he seems wearing out now.
Despite of all the connections we felt just two of us, many enjoyable conversations, many days out together.... just mystery... and it always leaves me wonder what is this all about virgo guys intention!!

I think sometimes Virgo men and the approach is so casual, comes at an awkward time and women might sweep it under the rug because it's missed. The absence of the intensity of your statements and the words may come across as being "my friend, my homie, my girl".

I think I missed my friend's confession in between a salad and a sip of wine he said,
"So what are we doing here? Every two years we get together and we do this same song and dance."

I don't recall my answer because I never took that question as a confession of "I want you". It was very casual, but now after learning more about the UNCERTAINTY of A VIRGO GUY (LOL). I'm thinking I missed my mark. We ended the weekend with a quick peck on the lips, me meeting him at the airport because I work nearby, saying last birthday wishes and giving him his 4th gift of the weekend.

Now, he's back! Offering a contractual business opportunity and considering moving back into my town. But not proclaiming any love for me...So in Redberry's defense; I don't think it's being strung along or unsure of your feelings, you're just so unsure of theirs...

I'm an open book...so I don't mind the up front this is what I want...I welcome it and if it's something that I can handle I'm all in. It also helps me make all the right moves. I hate playing games and hate game players. Moving forward to something more intimate requires a commitment (I abhor man sharing) and I can not assume that just because we did the grown up we're in a relationship.

My friend comments all the time that I can relax and be myself around you. He's also said that I'm the only one that puts up with his madness. In the same conversation he'll say our "friendship" means more to him than anything and to ruin that would break him. He knows what I've been thru in past relationships and I him...So I took those statements to be more profound than the "What are we doing here?" after having several glasses of wine and on course number 3 over dinner.

Concluding...Friendship is what he desires most. Maybe this is what many of us are thinking when it comes down to it. "Jessayin" LOLz!!!

"I don't think it's being strung along or unsure of your feelings, you're just so unsure of theirs..."

haha took the words out of my mouth, LeoGal4Real.

It's really hard to explain the uncertainty as we're talking about feelings based...the virgo and I had shared an emotional connection few nights ago but when I saw him again the next night, he became withdrawn at first so I just let him be. He gradually loosen up but he wasn't as friendly as he was the previous night and I felt a change in his heart. After doing this for so long, I just knew he recoiled again.

25th Decan - I'm sorry you've met some of the women you've met. They sure sound annoying, for the lack for better word."When I feel that way about a woman...I tell her. Period. I ask her out too. And...I simply tell her and let the chips fall where they may." Thanks for being so 'vocal'. That's the kind of quality man, a quality woman will look for. Thanks for your advice. Sorry it took me a while to respond.