Attention Virgos!!

He is livin on the dark spectrum of the virgo and only he can get himself out. this attitude just happened?
usually it's a slow process.. too much over thinking and being too hard on themselves leads to the acceptance of lil self worth. it takes alot of encouragement on the partners end to help them through but as I said he has to not wollow in his own filth of pesimism.

I don't know how common it is but
I know the virgos that do have this issue use their creative talents as remedy.. Poems, drawings, writings, songs, sculptures, gardening ect.
jhonen vasquez and his comic JTHM
is a prime example

Well yeah it has happened before but it was usually the disappearin act or silenet treatment after a fight or when he was depressed, but this is the first time he told me that when he's happy he's guilty, he feels as if a bullet will go through his head and he ll be dead. I mean seriously? I think he's disturbed but i cant read his mind! He is very quiet these days. And youre right, I have tried helping him but it hardly worked so its upto him to try & get out of this phase on his own but hes way too slow or rather happy being in this state of mind!..

sounds as we don't have much in the way of this relationship. Its gettin stale and resentments takin place of the love, though i m very supportive and understanding, hardly let my ego hit him but then again, I dunno if its worth my patience or not! What do you suggest i should do?

And he's not very creative, one thing he does to deal with such phases is sleeep, oh and its his favourite habbit! And yes once he told me he has a personal diary.

yeah that whole state of darkness can be comforting the more he accepts it. using that negativity in a productive manner if you could just find something he is willing to put effort in. Him sleeping alot means he is depressed of the day and by sleeping makes the day pass quicker. does he laugh at all? Can you get him to laugh?
I don't know what else to tell you.. If he isn't willing to snap out of it he might just drag you down with him in his lil slump. It's up to you either tough it out in hopes he'll change or leave

No for the past so many days i have not seen him laughing, infact he doesnt tell much about his worries, he prefers being quiet and leave all the talking to me, Its like i will ask questions and then presume and then try to come up with solutions, sorting his life out has been my business lately and still he doesnt care! Sleep makes him better. What i have realized is that maybe he's worried about his job, as he was expecting an appointment letter last month but oh boy! hes such a big worrier and doesnt look at the bigger picture! And when i try to make him laugh, he does laugh for a while but then his mood changes in seconds and i have a hard time dealing with it, Guess what i thought i ll stop annoying him so i told him that we need to stop talking for a while until you are back to normal but what happened? a week passed and he didnt text or call me! In the end i had to bring him back into contact myself.

And youre absolutely right, if he didnt change which doesnt seem like, i ll get used to his ways and its not a good idea! hes such a drag and i m his opposite! Anyways thanks for the help weeds!

@donegetmewrong! Thanks i ll try if i can make him change his routine, It might help 🙂

Posted by dontgetmewrong

... he might be checking out of the relationship, but wants you to be the one to break it off.

Which is very likely, considering how passive aggressive Virgos are.

However, from how I understood the OP ... this Virgo is being pressured. There are expectations being placed on him, as to how he is suppose to behave/express himself, and when he is unable to adhere to these expectations ... the Lion suddenly becomes very conditional in the terms she demands upon him.


The very nature of the Virgo is not good enough in this instance ... so, his only recourse is to dump her off.

The option of understanding him has always been present in the Lion, she just chooses to bitch about him instead.

Posted by Ritaleona


Anyway I m a leo engaged to this virgo guy who is very patient, loving caring but has his mood swings which i have managed to adjust with in the past 2 years.

he is so not happy with anything, all the time when i try to talk about us and our marriage he seems distant!

he starts confusing me, he says he can never be happy with anything and that its his nature and hes cursed!

Also he is very negative, he stays quiet and half the time its me who initiates a conversation and he only contributes to a goodbye,

I wanna know whats up with this secretive guy!

The question is....what the hell is the matter with you that agreed to marry him?
Are you so desperate you need to settle? Who agrees to marry someone they don't know—?

Let me clue you in on something. I'd venture to say he only put a ring on your finger to get you off his back. It DOES NOT mean you are going to marry him. Judging by his behavior, he wants nothing to do with marriage. He also sounds like he's doing everything in his power to get you to walk and you haven't caught onto that yet, OR you are so desperate that you are clinging onto the hope that this confusion you have going on will magically go away.

Check yourself first would be my advice.

Posted by P-Angel


However, from how I understood the OP ... this Virgo is being pressured.

^^^^^^exactly my point.

The point isn't you agreed to marry him and because he's a family friend. The point is, you are miserable and somehow think this will all change. He is showing his true colors NOW. If you choose to still marry him that's your problem, you don't get to complain afterwards. You can't change his behavior, yet you believe you can by clinging onto him. It's sad that you don't have enough confidence in yourself to find a man who knows how to be a man and treat a lady like a lady. You are really missing out. Don't blame him...blame yourself for allowing him to behave this way.

Instead of saying "I Do"...the reality is you are saying "You'll Do" again, YOUR choice.

@ LetItB - I think your point makes sense! I m stuck on him because i feel that if i didnt hold back, i ll miss out on a great person i used to know! Its like I dont wanna experience with men all my life. But at the same time i dont want to cling onto him either. Just tryin to pick things up

Ritaleona what birth month and day is he? I think early september virgos are more prone to this.

September 17th!

Like after spendn two weeks in his own nutshell, he finally spoke to me last night but all he did was trying to get physical. Is this normal for a virgo guy after a fight or being distracted? He says he wanna give things another shot before we are tired of each other. :/ Hes cripplin my energies i feel drained and he seemed well rested! Any idea?

Regardless of what he thinks or feels he is a male and will look to intimacy as an open door.
there is a word ppl like to use an "energy vampire" physycaly and mentally draining personality.
Any zodiac sign can have a person like this if they decide to live on the negative spectrum of said sign.
not a virgo trait but some are more susceptible.