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Can a Virgo learn to overlook flaws and imperfections?
Posted by cancer_wyrm
For Virgos I know it is a must for them to have everything perfect but when they aren't happy and satisfied with life can they learn to look past their flaws if they truly like someone?
My Virgo ex basically hated himself and he made it aware through some of his comments. We were friends first and he opened up to me a little bit. He was in a very dark place and saw so many flaws within himself. I happen to be a very positive person and I think that's why he loved me. He really wanted a relationship because I brought happiness to his life. He would say he didn't know how he got me. That made me feel bad that he thought that way.
But yea, they can overlook their own flaws if they like someone. Especially if someone shows them love and support despite of those flaws.
They'll always know their flaws, but in my experience his flaws never stopped him from pursuing me and us being in a relationship.
My virgo bf has been feeling very unsatisfied eith life and after getting him to open up to me he said he was rethinking everything; family, friends, life, and relationships. I worried because I don't want to break up with him and he said he didn't want to either but he wasn't sure why he was feeling so unsatisfied. I'm glad I studied his zodiac because I remembered virgos love perfection and mentioned it. He said that might be the reason why he was feeling that way, I've shown him a lot of support about opening up and starting to accept everyone's flaws even his own because no one is perfect. I think he's going to try, yesterday our texting was a little strained but he joked a little last night before bed. I can't see him every day so texting is what we mainly do.
At first I thought the reason was because he lost his job and honestly that can have something to do with it too but hopefully he can learn to live with flaws because I really don't want to break up just because I don't fit his description of perfection. I don't even know what his description of perfect is!
Posted by DanceWithMeLightly
Posted by cancer_wyrm
My virgo bf has been feeling very unsatisfied eith life and after getting him to open up to me he said he was rethinking everything; family, friends, life, and relationships. I worried because I don't want to break up with him and he said he didn't want to either but he wasn't sure why he was feeling so unsatisfied. I'm glad I studied his zodiac because I remembered virgos love perfection and mentioned it. He said that might be the reason why he was feeling that way, I've shown him a lot of support about opening up and starting to accept everyone's flaws even his own because no one is perfect. I think he's going to try, yesterday our texting was a little strained but he joked a little last night before bed. I can't see him every day so texting is what we mainly do.At first I thought the reason was because he lost his job and honestly that can have something to do with it too but hopefully he can learn to live with flaws because I really don't want to break up just because I don't fit his description of perfection. I don't even know what his description of perfect is!
It's good that you've worked things out with him. With Cancers I noticed that lack of communication and deep-seated resentments become the downfall of a relationship with Virgos. The line of communication must always be open.
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Yeah Cancers can be a little closed and we sort of expect people to just know what they did wrong but I had to know what he was thinking and yeah I'm glad we got to some major point for him to think about. Honestly I thin he can change but he has to decide, I'll stick around as long as possible and do what I can.
Posted by cancer_wyrm
My virgo bf has been feeling very unsatisfied eith life and after getting him to open up to me he said he was rethinking everything; family, friends, life, and relationships. I worried because I don't want to break up with him and he said he didn't want to either but he wasn't sure why he was feeling so unsatisfied. I'm glad I studied his zodiac because I remembered virgos love perfection and mentioned it. He said that might be the reason why he was feeling that way, I've shown him a lot of support about opening up and starting to accept everyone's flaws even his own because no one is perfect. I think he's going to try, yesterday our texting was a little strained but he joked a little last night before bed. I can't see him every day so texting is what we mainly do.At first I thought the reason was because he lost his job and honestly that can have something to do with it too but hopefully he can learn to live with flaws because I really don't want to break up just because I don't fit his description of perfection. I don't even know what his description of perfect is!
Him losing his job can be a huge turn in his emotions. My Virgo ex was unemployed the whole time we were together. We met in a tech program that was 6 months. After the program he was applying to jobs basically every day for 5 months. He was SO stressed and depressed because of it. Almost suicidal.
Work and especially making money is extremely important to Virgos. Like obsessive in a way where even though they are putting in effort to find something, they feel totally inadequate no matter what until they finally get the job.
Be positive support to him and reassure him on his efforts.
I asked him how his job hunt was going but he wasn't exactly thrilled by it. I try to support him and keep him happy like I took him out to a movie and dinner. He really enjoyed that, I'll stick around and support and if he decides that we just aren't meant to be then okay. Even though he has said that he doesn't want to break up, he's just thinking about all his relationships and life. I hope he isn't suicidal, he hasn't shown any signs that he is but then again I haven't seen him in person in over a week. So far all is okay with him, I know once he finds a job things will get better.
Like a lot of people mentioned, although I definitely notice flaws or imperfections in everything and everyone, it's not the criterial I use to choose relationships.
From what i'm reading, it seems less that your bf is reacting to your imperfections, and more that he is reacting to what he sees as "his own imperfections."
I struggle with my own flaws way way more than other peoples' flaws. Not much you can do about it though, other than sticking it out, and showing him that you're loyal and worth keeping 🙂
Posted by starwars
i do notice everything about people and analyze it bc thats how i am and its an intriguing process for me. i dont make biggie out of it nor judge them for it. its more of a detail-orientation thing to me. I'm big on acceptance.I love imperfections and flaws, it usually what attract me to people in the first place and no, not because i want to fix them.
This is true...I like some things on a person that they may not like...and I like it
Imperfections are beautiful
Posted by kbear1988
Like a lot of people mentioned, although I definitely notice flaws or imperfections in everything and everyone, it's not the criterial I use to choose relationships.From what i'm reading, it seems less that your bf is reacting to your imperfections, and more that he is reacting to what he sees as "his own imperfections."
I struggle with my own flaws way way more than other peoples' flaws. Not much you can do about it though, other than sticking it out, and showing him that you're loyal and worth keeping 🙂
yeah you're right. I told him that imperfections make us human and said that maybe he can just start to accept them because there are no ways around him. I don't want to know what he considers imperfections on me >.> I do want to say that even if he found someone else then the same thing would happen and he would notice all these imperfections on them 😆 I'm going to try to prove to him that I do want to stick around and that flaws are beautiful
Posted by cancer_wyrm
My virgo bf has been feeling very unsatisfied eith life and after getting him to open up to me he said he was rethinking everything; family, friends, life, and relationships. I worried because I don't want to break up with him and he said he didn't want to either but he wasn't sure why he was feeling so unsatisfied. I'm glad I studied his zodiac because I remembered virgos love perfection and mentioned it. He said that might be the reason why he was feeling that way, I've shown him a lot of support about opening up and starting to accept everyone's flaws even his own because no one is perfect. I think he's going to try, yesterday our texting was a little strained but he joked a little last night before bed. I can't see him every day so texting is what we mainly do.At first I thought the reason was because he lost his job and honestly that can have something to do with it too but hopefully he can learn to live with flaws because I really don't want to break up just because I don't fit his description of perfection. I don't even know what his description of perfect is!
If he lost his job and still communicates with you...he likes you A LOT.
There's no description of perfect. It's just how we'd like to see things unfold perfectly...with no issues involved. But life happens.
Posted by happyface1
Posted by cancer_wyrm
My virgo bf has been feeling very unsatisfied eith life and after getting him to open up to me he said he was rethinking everything; family, friends, life, and relationships. I worried because I don't want to break up with him and he said he didn't want to either but he wasn't sure why he was feeling so unsatisfied. I'm glad I studied his zodiac because I remembered virgos love perfection and mentioned it. He said that might be the reason why he was feeling that way, I've shown him a lot of support about opening up and starting to accept everyone's flaws even his own because no one is perfect. I think he's going to try, yesterday our texting was a little strained but he joked a little last night before bed. I can't see him every day so texting is what we mainly do.At first I thought the reason was because he lost his job and honestly that can have something to do with it too but hopefully he can learn to live with flaws because I really don't want to break up just because I don't fit his description of perfection. I don't even know what his description of perfect is!
If he lost his job and still communicates with you...he likes you A LOT.
There's no description of perfect. It's just how we'd like to see things unfold perfectly...with no issues involved. But life happens.
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well that's good to hear 😆 even though the communication is a little... tense? he still jokes and carries on a conversation but its not quite like it was before.
Is there any way to help him see that imperfections are fine? like is it just support or basically telling him that they are normal?
Posted by starwars
Posted by happyface1
Posted by starwars
i do notice everything about people and analyze it bc thats how i am and its an intriguing process for me. i dont make biggie out of it nor judge them for it. its more of a detail-orientation thing to me. I'm big on acceptance.I love imperfections and flaws, it usually what attract me to people in the first place and no, not because i want to fix them.
This is true...I like some things on a person that they may not like...and I like it
Imperfections are beautiful
i thought you were a pisces o:
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Nope full Virgal over here dear
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For Virgos I know it is a must for them to have everything perfect but when they aren't happy and satisfied with life can they learn to look past their flaws if they truly like someone?