Angeleyes17
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Concerned for my sister
Get her into volunteering.
She needs to delve into helping some else to feel of any worthy. Her problems will subside in comparison with the joy she will get in assisting others.
She needs to delve into helping some else to feel of any worthy. Her problems will subside in comparison with the joy she will get in assisting others.
She loves helping others, right? Then that's one of her strength. If you have local animals shelters, elementary schools and other organization that allows volunteering then volunteer and join her as well to show some support. This will probably help her to cope to some of her problems after making other people or animals happy.. There's too many things to do if she know how to play any intruments then that;'s one her strength as well, she can use it to make others happy by playing songs on them and so on, there's plenty to do.
Find out her what she loves to do and that's probably the key for her to get back on the track. Other things is tell her to use her past mistakes and fears as motivation.
Find out her what she loves to do and that's probably the key for her to get back on the track. Other things is tell her to use her past mistakes and fears as motivation.
Thank you for being such a caring sister for her. 🙂
Other people already mentioned charity/nurturing work. That is a good idea. Also, help her figure out a list of priorities and things she has to complete. Small goals ticked off can give her a small boost of confidence.
Other people already mentioned charity/nurturing work. That is a good idea. Also, help her figure out a list of priorities and things she has to complete. Small goals ticked off can give her a small boost of confidence.
Thank you all for your kind words and advise.
I’ve given her a new notebook to note down her food intake. I’ve strictly told her to have at least 5 meals a day but small portions and calculate her intake in calories. Provided her with exercises she can do to keep her active. Its only been 2 days but I have noticed she’s doing it which is a good start.
I’m not exaggerating when I say she’s such a beautiful woman inside out. She’s a part time freelance model and has got a portfolio of so many stunning images. I want her to get herself better so that she can look and feel healthy and enjoy her work how she used to.
She went out with one of her friends recently which I’m hoping becomes a regular thing to keep her mind off the negative and keep her active.
I think in time I’m going to advise her on the volunteering work like you all have advised. I think this will give her that confidence back.
Thank you all x
I’ve given her a new notebook to note down her food intake. I’ve strictly told her to have at least 5 meals a day but small portions and calculate her intake in calories. Provided her with exercises she can do to keep her active. Its only been 2 days but I have noticed she’s doing it which is a good start.
I’m not exaggerating when I say she’s such a beautiful woman inside out. She’s a part time freelance model and has got a portfolio of so many stunning images. I want her to get herself better so that she can look and feel healthy and enjoy her work how she used to.
She went out with one of her friends recently which I’m hoping becomes a regular thing to keep her mind off the negative and keep her active.
I think in time I’m going to advise her on the volunteering work like you all have advised. I think this will give her that confidence back.
Thank you all x
You sound controlling.
It's one thing to care and be there for her .... it's another entirely to tell her what she is going to do.
Posted by BlackMambamedications can do this... she might need meds but those might not be good for her
Its probably the medication...
I find it interesting she went from bubbly to depressed so quickly.
definitely SEE a professional especially if she's not eating
good luck
Women who are reaching 30 and are not where they envisioned themselves to be at that age will have bouts of feeling down. They say it's the age of 25 for men. So much pressure sigh.
Find out what medication she's on.
First.
First.
Posted by P-AngelI'm taking control coz someone has to. She's feel low ans lost her focus and direction.
You sound controlling.
It's one thing to care and be there for her .... it's another entirely to tell her what she is going to do.
Posted by aquapiscescuspI hate medication full stop. The side effects are terrible. Another thing she's having a hard time with is sleepingPosted by BlackMambamedications can do this... she might need meds but those might not be good for her
Its probably the medication...
I find it interesting she went from bubbly to depressed so quickly.
definitely SEE a professional especially if she's not eating
good luck
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Posted by BlackMambaThank you.x I actually am a very cool sister. 🙂Posted by Angeleyes17i need a sister like you
Thank you all for your kind words and advise.
I’ve given her a new notebook to note down her food intake. I’ve strictly told her to have at least 5 meals a day but small portions and calculate her intake in calories. Provided her with exercises she can do to keep her active. Its only been 2 days but I have noticed she’s doing it which is a good start.
I’m not exaggerating when I say she’s such a beautiful woman inside out. She’s a part time freelance model and has got a portfolio of so many stunning images. I want her to get herself better so that she can look and feel healthy and enjoy her work how she used to.
She went out with one of her friends recently which I’m hoping becomes a regular thing to keep her mind off the negative and keep her active.
I think in time I’m going to advise her on the volunteering work like you all have advised. I think this will give her that confidence back.
Thank you all xclick to expand
You're such a cool sister and wishing your Virgo sister to get back on track again. Keep it up!!
It could be the medication. Pain management can be greatly helped by cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness based stress reduction. Take her to a yoga class is my advice.
Posted by Nathan912I know i really hope so too! I want my sister back how she used to be. Its very difficult for the family at the moment.. especially with my other sister getting married real soon.
You're such a cool sister and wishing your Virgo sister to get back on track again. Keep it up!!
Posted by mswaim4That actually did come to mind for her to do yoga. She came to the gym with us few times and did some light excerices. She liked it but its something she hasnt continued with.. Yoga is ideal..
It could be the medication. Pain management can be greatly helped by cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness based stress reduction. Take her to a yoga class is my advice.
thank you x
Posted by Angeleyes17Theres also a really good book called eastern body western mind that could be very useful and offers self care practices. Xo.Posted by mswaim4That actually did come to mind for her to do yoga. She came to the gym with us few times and did some light excerices. She liked it but its something she hasnt continued with.. Yoga is ideal..
It could be the medication. Pain management can be greatly helped by cognitive behavioral therapy and mindfulness based stress reduction. Take her to a yoga class is my advice.
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Posted by Damnata
Get her into volunteering
She needs to
Posted by Nathan912
.... join her as well to show some support.
Other things is tell her to
Posted by Impulsv
Make sure she is not
Posted by Coucou
figure out a list of priorities and things she has to complete.
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And that ^^ is just the first four responders.
Again .... you are trying to control her, and it looks like you've got people in here helping you in trying to control her. You and them have in your minds to tell her what to do, as if any of you know what she needs or wants in her life.
Maybe she's in the place she is because that is where she needs to be.
You sit there (and the responders) and have decided that you don't like the way she's living her life, so you mean to change it to suit you.
typical Scorpio ... and typical Virgos to fall in place like robots.
P-Angel,
What’s with the negativity from you? I don’t understand. I was concerned for my sister and was seeking out some advise as other Virgos may have went though or are going through this situation or may know someone who’s been through this. I’m taking advice on board. Its not controlling her but controlling the situation that’s gone out of hand. If she is feeling this way I have to do something about it.. I’m not just going to sit back and watch her suffer. I’m gona show her that she is not alone and her family is here for her. So what’s wrong with that?! When your sister burst out crying in front of you and says she doesn’t want to live anymore.. that’s one of the most painful moments to go through. I want to bring back my sister and how her life was. Guide her towards a positive mind.
At this time I seek out advice and guidance. Not negative comments about how controlling I am and how “Typical” you think a Scorpio is. I’m proud of who and how I am. I’m caring and loving and if that comes across as controlling, so be it!!
I Love my family and friends and I’m gna do what ever it takes to support and help them!! If that’s controlling.. then I’m proud to be!!
What’s with the negativity from you? I don’t understand. I was concerned for my sister and was seeking out some advise as other Virgos may have went though or are going through this situation or may know someone who’s been through this. I’m taking advice on board. Its not controlling her but controlling the situation that’s gone out of hand. If she is feeling this way I have to do something about it.. I’m not just going to sit back and watch her suffer. I’m gona show her that she is not alone and her family is here for her. So what’s wrong with that?! When your sister burst out crying in front of you and says she doesn’t want to live anymore.. that’s one of the most painful moments to go through. I want to bring back my sister and how her life was. Guide her towards a positive mind.
At this time I seek out advice and guidance. Not negative comments about how controlling I am and how “Typical” you think a Scorpio is. I’m proud of who and how I am. I’m caring and loving and if that comes across as controlling, so be it!!
I Love my family and friends and I’m gna do what ever it takes to support and help them!! If that’s controlling.. then I’m proud to be!!
Posted by backtokemetThank you. I agree these medications that are being provided to her are causing different problems. Shes noticed shes loosing her hair and its breaking.
there is nothing wrong with not wanting to live anymore .. telling her that she shouldn't think nor verbalize those thoughts is sort of offensive even if you're simply showing concern in your own way .. as P-Angel said, maybe she's in the place she is because that's where she needs to be (at the moment) .. there isn't much you can do about this besides being there for her
as far as getting better is concerned:
- personally, I'm very skeptical about taking medication, ADs at the very least .. the body is an organic entity and medication is synthetic
I'd look into natural medecine/remedies but that's just me
- she will have to start eating healthier at some point .. eating crap contributes to making you feel like crap (in my experience)
- it's my belief you can steer yourself out of depression by using your mind .. there's tons of info about the power of the mind online
I completely agree its the healthy eating she needs to get into. I do the same too coz i make sure my intake of food is healthy and good for me. I sometimes make some for her too and shes liking it.
Only she can get herself out of this depression phase..
Posted by Angeleyes17
.... controlling the situation that’s gone out of hand.
I’m not just going to sit back .....I want to bring back my sister and how her life was.
^^^^ describes control
This is all about you, and what YOU can't handle, because it's not what you like.
meanwhile, it's her fucking life, and if she wants it to be in shambles then that's her business. If she wants to cry and stomp and scream ... that's her right to live her life the way she chooses it to be.
The only thing you have described her that is wrong with her is that she is overly emotional, and not processing her emotions the way YOU want her to ... that doesn't mean something is wrong with her ... it means something is wrong with you, such as a control freak, who can't handle that you're not her boss.
And yes, that is indeed very very wrong of you.
Even in the OP when she tells you her feelings ... you tell her not to say it. How fucked up and hypocritical can you possibly be?
You claim to want to help her yet tell her to NOT share her feelings with you because you don't want to hear them.
YOU are the one who is likely the damaging person in her life .... if when she comes to you to talk you tell her to stop.
To care for her would be to let her be, and let her work through it .... oh no, not you - you tell her to stop talking in words you can't handle hearing and then attempt to change her parameters to suit you.
Some people actually need to be a completely broken vessel before they can rise above ... but, you're not going to allow that, right?
Oh no, you don't like it, so you mean to change it/her to make you feel better.
and it is a typical Scorpio ... and I already realize that Scorpios are proud when they're being dickheads.
Posted by Angeleyes17Total waste of your time to even deal with her.
P-Angel,
What’s with the negativity from you?
A magnesium supplement really helped with sleep and anxiety also. I used this before bed:
http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Vitality-Calm-Raspberry-Lemon/dp/B00BPUY3W0/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1448042947&sr=8-2&keywords=pure+calm
You'd have to check how it interacts with whatever meds she's on though. I tried GABA, which is another natural remedy people try for sleep issues/anxiety, and it actually made me more depressed. I've heard of similar complications with Melatonin. I have always been weary of Melatonin, as its a hormone that regulates sleep, and I really don't think we know enough about it, or hormones in general, plus I've read about some scary side effects. Magnesium is just a mineral that most people are deficient in anyway.
http://www.amazon.com/Natural-Vitality-Calm-Raspberry-Lemon/dp/B00BPUY3W0/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1448042947&sr=8-2&keywords=pure+calm
You'd have to check how it interacts with whatever meds she's on though. I tried GABA, which is another natural remedy people try for sleep issues/anxiety, and it actually made me more depressed. I've heard of similar complications with Melatonin. I have always been weary of Melatonin, as its a hormone that regulates sleep, and I really don't think we know enough about it, or hormones in general, plus I've read about some scary side effects. Magnesium is just a mineral that most people are deficient in anyway.
Posted by P-AngelSuch a cold heartless response and I'm apprantly the bad one? Anyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy who.......... moving on.... LOLPosted by Angeleyes17
.... controlling the situation that’s gone out of hand.
I’m not just going to sit back .....I want to bring back my sister and how her life was.
^^^^ describes control
This is all about you, and what YOU can't handle, because it's not what you like.
meanwhile, it's her fucking life, and if she wants it to be in shambles then that's her business. If she wants to cry and stomp and scream ... that's her right to live her life the way she chooses it to be.
The only thing you have described her that is wrong with her is that she is overly emotional, and not processing her emotions the way YOU want her to ... that doesn't mean something is wrong with her ... it means something is wrong with you, such as a control freak, who can't handle that you're not her boss.
And yes, that is indeed very very wrong of you.
Even in the OP when she tells you her feelings ... you tell her not to say it. How fucked up and hypocritical can you possibly be?
You claim to want to help her yet tell her to NOT share her feelings with you because you don't want to hear them.
YOU are the one who is likely the damaging person in her life .... if when she comes to you to talk you tell her to stop.
To care for her would be to let her be, and let her work through it .... oh no, not you - you tell her to stop talking in words you can't handle hearing and then attempt to change her parameters to suit you.
Some people actually need to be a completely broken vessel before they can rise above ... but, you're not going to allow that, right?
Oh no, you don't like it, so you mean to change it/her to make you feel better.
and it is a typical Scorpio ... and I already realize that Scorpios are proud when they're being dickheads.
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Posted by TaurusLovesScorpioI agree! Cant be bothered with negative people anymore.. They are a complete joke to me!! I move on!!Posted by Angeleyes17Total waste of your time to even deal with her.
P-Angel,
What’s with the negativity from you?click to expand
But good news is ive seen a postive side to my sister since last week. Shes become more cheerful and talkative now.. and shes eating healthy. She has to still take her medication due to the problems shes been having but shes coming through..
thank you all for your advice on this.. xx 🙂
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I hope someone can advise or guide me on how I can help my sister. She’s 27years old and is a Virgo. She has a very bubbly lively personality and full of energy the type of woman who enjoys helping others and has no selfish side to her. She has close friends that are always drawn to her because she listens and is genuinely a good friend. She’s been having health issues and is in pain from that but she’s been seeking help and medication for that. In the last 3-4 months her personality has completely changed. She’s very lost and shut down. She has panic attacks and bursts out crying and cant even breath when this happens to her. Me and my other sister have helped her when this happens to calm her down and tell her to talk to us. I know she’s depressed and also takes medication for that too. I understand the symptoms how she feels because there was a time when I went through that too.
She is under weight and I have on many occasions advised her to eat more healthy meals and have her high calorie shakes to bring her weight back.
Last night she broken down again and it broken my heart when she said ‘I give up and don’t want to live anymore.’
I gave her a tight hug and told her to never to say or think these things. At first I thought it was due to health reasons but she said I don’t know why she feels this way. She just feels bla and has no motivation in life. I advised her to keep her mind off these thing and focus on herself. She’s been told that you need to get yourself better by others, but she doesn’t know how and why she feels this way.
I did tell her it can be because you may feel lost with sense of direction in life or because she’s close it hitting 30? She doesn’t know. I am very concerned for her.
Has anyone been through this or know someone who has been through similar?