why is my virgo so manipulative or is it something else? please help

Started seeing my now ex feb 2014. All was well for afew months until he had a death in the family. He hit the drink (alcoholic proportions) lost his motivation enthusiasm etc.i stuck by him. Im very domesticated.I cooked cleaned his butter mopped his brow cleaned up his sick. Even stupidly turned a blind eye when he was verbally abusive almost daily whilst paraletic drunk....Then a disappearing act for five weeks. This hurt as he wouldnt reply to texts or calls and I was genuinely worried he would turn up dead threw drink and drugs! Stupidly when I found out his mum and siblings hadn't heard from him I didnt take it so personal. After an ultimatum he finally came home and things slightly improved. For a while anyway.Few months down the line sex completely stopped altho I know he has a porn addiction which was hard to get round especially when he would turn down my advances. Im not a bad looking girl n im efficient in the bedroom lol. I brought up the topic n got called a sex addict which is unfare as once a week is on the lower end to what im use to but that hardly constitutes a sex addict Iin my opinion. As the time continued I noticed his friends falling away as he systematically pushed everyone away with his drunk abusive behaviour. I must admit I love this man dearly. Looking at the facts before me and being a logical person I should have walked away. But how could I leave him in his time of need. We broke up couple more times and I got the feeling that altho he said the words love that he was just using me for money for drink and clean shelter and cooking. Forward to the last two weeks tomy horror I realised Iim pregnant.I told him and he was very excited. He told his parents and told my son even tho I told him I wasnt comfortable with that. Afew days later he came homedrunk and abusive towards me and my daughter which was very upsetting. The next morning I chachallenged his behaviour and stated that if the drink didn't stop he would have to leave.So he left. Now he doesnt want the baby. He wants me to terminate the pregnamcy. So far hadnt come to any of my hospital appointment s. Yesterday I found out im 8 weeks gone already. I informed him over text and he didnt seem bothered. I feel that everything he claimed was a lie and I was a mug. He came round last nyt told me he was sick of the rut and tried to pin the problems all on me. I tried to get him out of the rut but his heavy drinking and hangovers made him reluctant to leave the house.I ignored all the advice from friends and his family and now im literally left carrying the baby. Was I played for a fool? Iv never been treated this way. Im 29 and hes 26. My last relationship lasted 10 years so I know mosly what makes men tick and relationships work but I could never figure this one out. I ignored narcissisic tendency and chalked it up to grief. Oh how wrong I was. Do I keep the door openfor him lile some kind of doormat or do I walk away for good? Help and advice needed

I have mentioned it. So have family members but he doesnt like being given advice no matter how calmly put 😢

you're going to have to put your foot down and leave him alone.

Yeah. I was allowing him to use my bank accounts aswell but today I cancelled the bank card he took when he left. Might I add he didnt ask if he could take. I text him to say let them no you now have no access to the account and have your money put into someone elses. Im sure this will cause further problems for me on friday when he gets paid and fant access his cash. He has had a week to sort his stuff out. Its not my responsibility anymore

Im terninating the pregnancy next week! So no im not trying to trap him. I already have children. It hurts me that he wont support me during this hard time. Termination hasnt been an easy decision to make but I cant bring a baby into this world with him the way he is 😢

Posted by Vanish
You're the one trying to control him and trap him with pregnancy o_O

he wanted a baby not me. And he changed his mind because he didnt want to give up the drink

Posted by scorpio1986
but I could never figure this one out.

This is the bottom line.

Coupled this up with "I love this man dearly"....in a present tense and not a past tense.

You stuck around for the challenge, there's no doubt in my mind who the real manipulator is.

Btw the grandstanding on "I stood by him in his times of need" is both hilarious and insufferable. Much like most lizard Scorpios.

I m really sorry for the pain you have been going through. I was so upset about my on going situation and wow i read yours and it horrified me. My sincere advice to you is leave him. Move on. He sounds v rigid thick and mean and ofcourse you deserve better. Btw whats his daye of birth ? Is he a september virgo?

I m really sorry for the pain you have been going through. I was so upset about my on going situation and wow i read yours and it horrified me. My sincere advice to you is leave him. Move on. He sounds v rigid thick and mean and ofcourse you deserve better. Btw whats his daye of birth ? Is he a september virgo?

Sept 21st virgo. Really love this guy. So hard to walk away. Know I need to tho especially as chasing him seems to make him worse. Can tell he likes me in this needy place 😢 and it's not an attractive look for me

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whats your thoughts?

Posted by scorpio1986Forward to the last two weeks tomy horror I realised Iim pregnant.I told him and he was very excited. He told his parents and told my son even tho I told him I wasnt comfortable with that. Afew days later he came homedrunk and abusive towards me and my daughter which was very upsetting.

Hopefully you get arrested for child neglect and both kids are taken away from you. When you willingly put a child in danger, in a courts eyes you are as guilty as the abuser.

I fee so sorry for your daughter. NOT YOU.

*feel

Posted by scorpio1986
Im terninating the pregnancy next week! So no im not trying to trap him. I already have children. It hurts me that he wont support me during this hard time. Termination hasnt been an easy decision to make but I cant bring a baby into this world with him the way he is 😢

Correction, I feel so sorry for your daughter and other "children"....

Posted by leona
I m really sorry for the pain you have been going through.

————————————? SMFH

@letitbe - why everyone here is sooo judgemental and bitter, before you feel sorry for other people and correct them you should just put yourself in her shoes, whatever she went through is complete torture and pain! Anyone in her situation would have done the same. I m sorry how this forum is nothin but torture..

@scorpio1986 - September virgos specially born in the last decan are usually more aggressive and narcissist, I know moving on is not easy but if you kept taking the shit then i m sorry to say you ll end up emotionally dead! Time heals everything, sooner or later you ll find your type and thank me ! lol

@BlackMamba - Not really, i wish they had some libra traits.. libras are love !! lol i m surrounded by so many of them and i just love it. - the late sept virgos are typical virgos thats what i've noticed! mine is 18th sept...