Do Virgos need to be chased or does it scare them?

Hi everyone,

I'm a Libra female and I've been dating a Virgo male for 2 months. I was out of the country for 4 weeks and just came back. During that time we emailed a lot and he called me a few times. Before I left he told me that he isn't dating anyone and when I asked him if it would bother him if I went on a date with another guy while I was away, he said that he really likes me and doesn't want me to go out with someone else but that he knows that he has no right to ask me not to and that he recommends we figure it out when I get back (so it wasn't exclusive yet). We slept together before I left by the way and I really liked him right from the beginning.

Now I'm back. I have reason to believe that he slept with another girl while I was gone which hurt me so much but I haven't asked him about it yet. We just spent the whole weekend together and had a great time. Before I left I asked him if he is sleeping with other people right now because it's a health issue. He said no and that he was going to talk to me about that soon (where we're at emotionally and what we both want from the relationship) and that it has been undefined for too long. Yesterday I didn't hear from him at all and it happens a lot that I don't hear from him in days sometimes. However, we are going to have the talk soon and after that great weekend it hurts me that he doesn't even text me. So I sent him an email at night and he wrote me back that he'll be gone for a few days and will let me know when he gets back. He has a very demanding job and works a lot.

My problem: I'm in love with him and all this hurts me a lot. When we're together he can be very sweet and physically affectionate, does a lot of nice little things for me and tells me that he has a great time with me but when we don't see each other I hardly hear from him at all. We live only a few blocks away from each other but see each other only about 2 times a week.

I thought that maybe I should be more distant too and not so available to make him miss me and think about me but I'm worried that this might backfire. Do Virgos like to be chased? Do they need that reassurance? I have no problems showing him my feelings but I'm afraid that it might scare him away. I usually need some sort of sign first and then I'm very warm and show him how much I'm interested.

What should I do? Be the sweet Libra that I am or be a little distant and play the game (which I think is against my nature and is killing me)? Is it a good sign that he brought up the talk? Does it mean something at all? I'm feeling alone right now and Im getting paranoid and think that maybe he's just playing me. I'm thinking about him constantly.

Please help.

A sheep is a sheep
a tiger a tiger
a wolf a wolf
a chick a chick

We know that we cant expect a tiger to be a chick or a wolf.
It is unnatural to demand one to be otherwise.

Pls dont go for any games. dont think he's into one. unlikely. he looks like he's just being himself. pls read up all virgo specific posts.

How r u soo sure that he slept around? -- ask ur self again pls 🙂

Everything depends on what YOU need for YOUR peace in life. (without being selfish, dishonest, etc)