Do Virguys Like to Know where they Stand?

Sigh,,, here we go again with these Virguys... been there and doing that with mine, for the last year and that is the norm. Expect him to that a little more and probably send you into unsure insecure land....

WE also are in our early 40s and divorced. If I was asking this question a year ago on this board and you were answereing me I would want you to tell me to play it cool and dont go looking for him and dont act desperate and let him know how eager you are. dont do it.....!!! play cool and wait for him... I wish i did. it would have saved me alot of confusion and heartache. they move at their own pace and he will orbit back to you when he is ready... btw what isyour sign —?

I'm a virgo gal but my two of my best friends are virgo guys. Usually when they are interested in someone they will move ahead full throttle to begin with because of the attraction (esp. with a cap female) then they will take a step back and analyze the situation every way possible ( I am also guilty of this) before moving ahead. The chemistry between virgos and cap's seems like it is instant and the compatibility is off the charts. Due to our highly skeptical nature we sometimes don't trust what we are feeling so we analyze. I'm not saying this is true of all virgo guys but the majority of times, they are interested in a relationship not a fling. Virgo guys / cap girls and vice versa are a great combination. My guy is a cap and our compatibility is off the charts.

Exactly. Once he is done analyzing you and his attraction and putting it into logical terms (I know that doesn't sound very sexy or romantic but its true) he will approach again.

Thanks yall. That helps a lot.

Posted by Virgosun
I'm a virgo gal but my two of my best friends are virgo guys. Usually when they are interested in someone they will move ahead full throttle to begin with because of the attraction (esp. with a cap female) then they will take a step back and analyze the situation every way possible ( I am also guilty of this) before moving ahead. The chemistry between virgos and cap's seems like it is instant and the compatibility is off the charts. Due to our highly skeptical nature we sometimes don't trust what we are feeling so we analyze. I'm not saying this is true of all virgo guys but the majority of times, they are interested in a relationship not a fling. Virgo guys / cap girls and vice versa are a great combination. My guy is a cap and our compatibility is off the charts.

ITA. Mine still analyzes and says shit off the wall just to 'test' me or see how i react. Hmppff..I let it bounce off me because i know his own insecurities is why he does it. I'm in my 40's and he's in his 50's.

What they said!! Exact same thing here with the Virgo I'm dating...

It's true that not all Virguys push and pull but most do. You have already admitted to him that you are interested so he technically knows where he stands. If you look at some of the other recent Virgo posts - "So, if he has started to push and pull he must like me" and "A virgo question" this is very common with Virguys. He is still keeping in touch with you by calling you every few days and texts. Like cap's, virgo's also like their space. This is just the beginning of your relationship - a month or so I think. I would keep in touch, answer his texts, return his calls but I wouldn't push for anything more.

If you really want to see where his head is, when you are texting him you might try saying something like "That new movie, Act of Valor (or whatever) looks great. I'd love to see it". Something relaxed and casual. His response will tell you where he's at.

I'm a VirGuy. I can't speak for all VirGuys but I certainly like to know where I stand. I'm not interested in mystery or being kept guessing. While some see that as 'the thrill of the chase', I just see it as a whole load of anxiety. Just tell me exactly how you feel. No nonsense, no waiting for me to make the first move. If a VirGuy appears to be withdrawing it's usually because he's worried that you aren't showing him enough love and starts to protect himself fearing impending rejection and/or disappointment.

Posted by truecap
I have a new relationship with a Virguy. I feel that he really likes me. He admitted chemistry and attraction for me. I admitted the same. At first he was hot and heavy with texting, but this has slowed down and is less often. He still calls every few days. I'm not really sure how Virguys feel about women texting them or asking them to do things. We are in our 40's. Is it okay to text him first? Or to invite him to do things? Or should I hold off and just play cool? I don't want to come on too strong and send him running for the hills, but I also want him to feel like I'm very interested.

We are in the same situation. im an AQUA girl and im meeting VIRGO GUY now. (yes meeting. i exactly dunno what we are now.but we have a bonding moments. been seeing him for 4 months now.there was a time when we are both quiet, he suddenly told me i was his girlfriend. and i said "no im it your gf" and he said "yes u are" now its more complicated.)

anyway, his acting same with your virgo guy, but me, i dont message him when he dont message me. I feel like when his doing his work, he doesnt want to be interrupted with emotional messages. and its my first time dealing with virgo guy.

Posted by truecap
I was actually afraid of the chemistry I feel. Very intense. Scary. But, for some reason, I just don't care. Soooo not like me. Have never experienced anything like this before (he's my first Virgo). Maybe I should activate the shield to protect myself...lol!

Oh my!

me too! we started as a total stranger. and the 1st meet up it seems like the chemistry was very intense. i never been so comfortable talking to a stranger like that before.im 28 and his 36 of age...

Posted by Virgosun
If you really want to see where his head is, when you are texting him you might try saying something like "That new movie, Act of Valor (or whatever) looks great. I'd love to see it". Something relaxed and casual. His response will tell you where he's at.

its nice that you give us an idea how to deal with virgo guys.. specially to us first timer with virgos.. hehehe

Too dayum hard to be with Virgos if you ask me! All this advice posted here sounds so complicated! Why can't two people who like each other show it? Virgos: if someone text you--text them back; if they call, get back with them. If you're busy it doesn't take half a second to let someone know so they don't come on here asking if you're still interested because you aren't responding! Too easy.

BTW: I haven't learned my lesson from last Virgo: kicked him to the curb and now I'm dating another! LOL@ me! Anyone have some Virgo repellent for me? ijs...

:-)

Posted by Virgosun
Exactly. Once he is done analyzing you and his attraction and putting it into logical terms (I know that doesn't sound very sexy or romantic but its true) he will approach again.

What would you say about a virgo guy who has this habit of saying "We'll chat tonight" or "we'll chat in an hour" then never comes online (he lives away) then when I don't msg him for a while he'll send me 2-3 msgs with 'hi.. how u doing?" then "cha?" then something else... it's like he keeps me hanging then when I disappear he's all ready to talk. arg.. so annoying. What do I do?

in my experience if a virgo likes you and you have never done anything really offensive in the interim or when you were hanging out together they will always keep an eye on you.
I'm a virgal, I'm still friends with exes, stalk them a little on facebook (lots of mutual friends not too creepy) and basically text them every now and again just to say hi. And virgo boys - they will float on your radar for years if things are positive between you.

I have one virgo guy, only ever just friends but he is always interested in dating me when I am single again... I get texts from him every 3 to 6 months just saying howdy and such. This is over ten years now!
Just lettin me kno he's there etc...

Virgos are very good at stepping back and giving people space to move on with no hard feelings.
And of course you are a cap! such chemistry oh my! My boy is a cap and we are so good together... perhaps a little too similar sometimes but for the best.

Posted by RomancingA
I didn't play these games with my Virgo. I let him know I was single...wanted to be around him...didn't have family in the city or many friends. I said that if he wants to invite me anywhere...make plqnw...movie...whatever, that I was down.

We didn't do the mind game crap. I got the sense he needed space a few times a week to clean his home....be alone...laundry.....eat and sleep alone. So did I.....I needed to get back to my home duties and unwind and recharge.


So many women drain their Virgo and then act like babies.....because he's grumpy and wants to be alone. Just let him be....but some time doesn't mean ALL the time alone. If you get put last.....then he should be put last as well. Space is necessary but if you are always last to see him or spend time with him...say something but don't expect a reaction. Learn that the love to assist....but they don't want to be the only thing in your life.


Don't worry about texts either .....they only text when they have shit to say... which I respect.

I like it when a Virgo goes to recharge.....theyre so sweet and cute when they come back all fresh and craving you.

ooh... i like how you say it "
I like it when a Virgo goes to recharge.....theyre so sweet and cute when they come back all fresh and craving you"

We seldom see each other coz his project based. But when we see each other every minute counts.