Do you think I've scared this Virgo Guy away

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So this guy randomly added me to facebook and my friend brought up that I must have met him when we went to this bar, he also added her. Apparently her and another friend went to his friends house for party after but I think I was talking to another guy then went home. I don't really remember meeting him but then a few month later I liked a photo of his dog & he started private messaging me. He asked if we had met & I was like well your the one who added me. Definitely not my type looks wise but really easy to talk to so he ened up gaving me his number & I went to put it into my phone, it was already there. We have a few mutual friends so we've probably been at the same place a few times. Anyway he was txting me every 2nd or 3rd day & was increasingly flirty. We were meant to meet up on the Thursday but I told him i'm busy every other day of the wk so I'm not sure i'll be up for it & I wasn't so we just txtd. The next wk I told him about this dating tv show my friend dared me to go on and it was just for shits and giggles so he laughed about that then on the Friday he txtd me to see how it went & I was out for dinner but agreed to meet up with him after. By the time I met him I had, had 2 wines before the tv thing, then 3 wines with dinner and then we went to the brewery. The conversation flowed freely and we have a few mutual friends so kinda asked how he knew them and stuff like that. One of them who I'm not very close with is getting married back in Australia where I'm from and we live in the same town and he said he's probable going to fly there for the wedding, I said oh yeah I might be in Perth then, he's like oh you should come. I just said I wasn't going but I didn't say it wasn't cause I wasn't invited. Anyway after the 4 wines I had we ended up going to another bar had another wine then went back to his. We ended up talking till 4 in the morning which I didn't even realize but being a gemini when I'm drinking I talk a lot of crap but he was telling me about his ex's and stuff. He kissed me while we were talking on the couch. He mentioned a client got stolen away from him cause he doesn't speak mandarin and I was like you should learn, he was like its apparently really hard to learn and I was like I'll learn with you then you can talk to me. Anyway he asked if I was going to stay and I said yes cause I knew it would be hard to get a cab back to mine. We made and a bit but didn't have sex then fell asleep. In the morning everything seemed fine and he drove me home. We were joking in the car and then later he txt'd me asking how the races were cause thats what I was doing that day. Then two days later I txtd him and now its been two days and I haven't had a response. Its not really a big deal because we only went out once. I just felt it so easy to talk to him. I'm just wondering if maybe I came on too strong and scared him off. Is this normal for virgo?
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haha true. I just find it weird that some guys come on so strong then just vanish from thin air. I only txtd first cause I always wait and was like well i guess I should show some interest. But I was talking a lot of crap when I was drunk. I think you must feel somewhat comfortable around someone to start talking about your past relationships. Actually a guy I went on a few dates with a few months ago started talking to me about his ex's but he clearly wasn't over it by the way he spoke so I stopped seeing him. Maybe I'm just one of those people that people feel comfortable to talk to at the moment.
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Posted by brandyp
Wow this post was excessively long. The whole mandarine thing didnt even have anything to do with the story and then you didn't even say wat the crap you were talking was so how can we tell if you scared him or nah.
Lmaoooo right!?

Like what shit. I was looking to be entertained on my lunch break.

OP unless you have some not so flattering details, we cant tell you if your behavior scared him off. You asking Based on you did write, i would say he is just busy with work but will be back around. He probably feels like since you soent so much time together that he doesnt need to text you so soin as in evey min of every day.
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What I do remember is him telling me his ex was a psycho cause she hacked into his phone account and went through every number asking who each person was and I was like yeah I can't be too judgey cause I once went into my exs phone bill but that's cause his ex was a crazy. He's like yeah that's different cause it was one person. Then I was like well that's what you get for dating someone so young cause he's in his 30's and his ex was 20. Then I think I talked about me ex a bit. I don't expect someone to keep in touch every min but it's been 5days..I'm wondering if he wanted me to leave but I was too drunk to notice. A lot of my friends tell me when I'm drunk I just talk heaps of crap and they sit there like okay and can't get a word in...
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Posted by brandyp
Wow this post was excessively long. The whole mandarine thing didnt even have anything to do with the story and then you didn't even say wat the crap you were talking was so how can we tell if you scared him or nah.
Lol if someone said about learning Mandarin together to me on a first date I would think who says I want to see you again... Getting a bit ahead of yourself that's why I mentioned it.
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Wow this post was excessively long. The whole mandarine thing didnt even have anything to do with the story and then you didn't even say wat the crap you were talking was so how can we tell if you scared him or nah.
Lol if someone said about learning Mandarin together to me on a first date I would think who says I want to see you again... Getting a bit ahead of yourself that's why I mentioned it.
Lol you are funny 😄

If anything you probably overwhelmed him by the sheer volume of how much you may have talked. But if he scares off that easily, he's not a keeper anyways 😉

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Lol yeah thats kind of what I figure as well. Are virgo's easily scared away anyway? I really don't know much about virgo men... I always thought they would be kind of boring...
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this guy randomly added me to facebook

he ened up gaving me his number & I went to put it into my phone, it was already there.






so, he just randomly ran to your house and accepted a friend request from himself?

or, he ran to your house to send a friend request to him, so he could accept ... randomly?

so, you have random men's phone numbers in your phone that you don't even know who, or what they are?
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this guy randomly added me to facebook

he ened up gaving me his number & I went to put it into my phone, it was already there.






so, he just randomly ran to your house and accepted a friend request from himself?

or, he ran to your house to send a friend request to him, so he could accept ... randomly?

so, you have random men's phone numbers in your phone that you don't even know who, or what they are?
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I obviously accepted the facebook request after I spoke to my friend and she said I had met him.

Yes occasionally I drink a little bit too much or am at a bar and give a random guy my number... this is what happens when you are single
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Wait. I lied.

You mention drinking a lot. Is he down with that or do you think it could be a turnoff? It's a little endearing you don't even remember putting his number in your phone, but it could jus as easily be a red flag. Thinking you may have gotten housed and missed a cue or something. But it sounds like you were getting on so well! I'd wait a few days and then text him if he died.
haha yeah well thats one of the reasons I thought maybe I hadn't heard from him. Being that drunk is not attractive....

The two things happened months apart so it's not like I'm always drunk.... just to clarify
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Most likely ... it's not that you talk too much, rather, what is said back/ to and fro with you - flies over your head.


I sensed that too actually
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I never really thought about that, I'm not going to say I definitely don't do that more that maybe I'm unaware of it. Although flies over my head makes me sound dumb lol I would say I'm just more in my head then most people.
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this guy randomly added me to facebook

he ened up gaving me his number & I went to put it into my phone, it was already there.






so, he just randomly ran to your house and accepted a friend request from himself?

or, he ran to your house to send a friend request to him, so he could accept ... randomly?

so, you have random men's phone numbers in your phone that you don't even know who, or what they are?
I obviously accepted the facebook request after I spoke to my friend and she said I had met him.

Yes occasionally I drink a little bit too much or am at a bar and give a random guy my number... this is what happens when you are single
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I beg to differ.

This *can* happen, certainly. But I would in no way describe this as standard operating procedure for many. Especially the not remembering anything about who he is part.
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this guy randomly added me to facebook

he ened up gaving me his number & I went to put it into my phone, it was already there.






so, he just randomly ran to your house and accepted a friend request from himself?

or, he ran to your house to send a friend request to him, so he could accept ... randomly?

so, you have random men's phone numbers in your phone that you don't even know who, or what they are?
I obviously accepted the facebook request after I spoke to my friend and she said I had met him.

Yes occasionally I drink a little bit too much or am at a bar and give a random guy my number... this is what happens when you are single
I beg to differ.

This *can* happen, certainly. But I would in no way describe this as standard operating procedure for many. Especially the not remembering anything about who he is part.
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The not remembering part, clearly not standard but meeting a random guy at a bar letting him put his number in your phone is normal, then 4 months later talking to him and not remembering meeting him the first time... it wasn't like a week later. I think lots of girls would talk to a guy for 5mins in a bar and not remember them months down the road.

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Wait. I lied.

You mention drinking a lot. Is he down with that or do you think it could be a turnoff? It's a little endearing you don't even remember putting his number in your phone, but it could jus as easily be a red flag. Thinking you may have gotten housed and missed a cue or something. But it sounds like you were getting on so well! I'd wait a few days and then text him if he died.
haha yeah well thats one of the reasons I thought maybe I hadn't heard from him. Being that drunk is not attractive....

The two things happened months apart so it's not like I'm always drunk.... just to clarify
Right. But they were the only times you physically hung out? I'm just spitballin tho. Like I said, you guys have been chatty enough that, if you don't hear something soon, I'd feel comfortable dropping him a line and going from there.

And I don't think being too chatty is a bad thing, so long as it's not all the time. Mine says I turn into a motormouth when I drink, but we have some of the best and strangest convos when that happens. The exception can be fun, but the rule can get tiring.

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He ended up replying to my txt like an hr ago! So obviously it wasn't a complete turn off! But taking two days to reply isn't exactly the greatest sign someone is into you.