Does Virgo man flirt to just have a casual real relantionship

I have posted my question few days ago but somehow did not get the answer or understanding I was looking for.

This Virgo guy i am talking to...we know each other for five months now.

It's a LDR and we meet once last week.

We stay in touch and talk on done every other day but so far there is no romance or stuff like that .

He knows I am looking for serous relantionship and he said he wants the same and we both are on the same page.

But he is still active on tinder.

Should I first ask him are we exclusive and then bring up tinder or what —

I really like him but I can't open up to him and share my true feelings unless I am confident enough that he is serious.

I am a leo and he September born Virgo.

Thanks

Yeap Ixion no talk to be exclusive so far.

Just talking and most of it s about our regular life and what's going on.

He expect from me to share my feelings for him but i can't just start telling a guy how I feel about him unless he opens up aswell.

Tomsawyer I am not some desperate chick.

I like him for who he is but if he is not ready to up his game aswell then I will definilty walk away.

I keep up so far just because of this whole Virgo thing and how slow they are plus his past history.

Ixion sum up it well.I need to ask him where we stand then i Can ask him.

I have asked him are we still two single ppl who are Checking each other out or are we in a relantionship and his reply was

We are bonded baby.

Now question is should i wait till i see him next week in person or should i ask him about being active on tinder on fone?

Don't you think if you are taking some one seriously you will stop using a dating app?

Well he is the one who will be coming to my city ..not the other way around .

I so wanna ask him but my friends said you can't ask him unless you guys are in real relantionship.

I don't wait around but in his case i did wait for things to start showing up.

Personally i feel like i should ask him now before seeing him in person .

Or I can let him know that I have deleted tinder and see what he gonna say.

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Posted by Fadnav
I have asked him are we still two single ppl who are Checking each other out or are we in a relantionship and his reply was

We are bonded baby.

Now question is should i wait till i see him next week in person or should i ask him about being active on tinder on fone?

Yeah ask, then why you still on tinder?



*nudge nudge*

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Where i live this app work as a good medium to find like minded people and trust me i had made platonic friends using this app.

He is fully aware of it.infact i wanted to delete the app but then kept it as we had our chat on it.sound childish but still.

I even told me this fact

So no I am not looking around anymore

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I have posted my question few days ago but somehow did not get the answer or understanding I was looking for.

This Virgo guy i am talking to...we know each other for five months now.

It's a LDR and we meet once last week.

We stay in touch and talk on done every other day but so far there is no romance or stuff like that .

He knows I am looking for serous relantionship and he said he wants the same and we both are on the same page.

But he is still active on tinder.

Should I first ask him are we exclusive and then bring up tinder or what —

I really like him but I can't open up to him and share my true feelings unless I am confident enough that he is serious.

I am a leo and he September born Virgo.

Thanks

Just because both of you are looking for a serious relationship doesn't give you dibs on his exclusivity. He's just keeping his options open and there's nothing wrong with that seeing that you guys aren't actually exclusively seeing each other.

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I am pretty sure he is gonna say we are exclusive.

I deleted my tinder and thought to let him know but now not sure if its the right time to do it.

I wish he had said we are still talking and are not into relantionship but he said we are in a relantionship n now it makes more serious.

This whole tinder thing.

Hm. I'm a Virgo cusp woman and I have a Leo moon so maybe I can offer some insight from my pov. Um I had a Virgo man chase me got in a relationship and when it started failing he was messaging me again. He was an emotional cheater but he wouldn't have cheated sexually. I blocked him not wanting to be the other woman but yeah. hope that helps

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Hm. I'm a Virgo cusp woman and I have a Leo moon so maybe I can offer some insight from my pov. Um I had a Virgo man chase me got in a relationship and when it started failing he was messaging me again. He was an emotional cheater but he wouldn't have cheated sexually. I blocked him not wanting to be the other woman but yeah. hope that helps

One meeting in person does not solidify the relantionship and that's why I kept quiet but yesterday when he said we are in a relantionship since then I feel like he needs to come clear about his presence on tinder.

If you are in a relantionship then you don't swipe ppl on tinder or talk to them unless you are not sincere with the other person.

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Hm. I'm a Virgo cusp woman and I have a Leo moon so maybe I can offer some insight from my pov. Um I had a Virgo man chase me got in a relationship and when it started failing he was messaging me again. He was an emotional cheater but he wouldn't have cheated sexually. I blocked him not wanting to be the other woman but yeah. hope that helps

One meeting in person does not solidify the relantionship and that's why I kept quiet but yesterday when he said we are in a relantionship since then I feel like he needs to come clear about his presence on tinder.

If you are in a relantionship then you don't swipe ppl on tinder or talk to them unless you are not sincere with the other person.

Hey hey, hold your horses...it may not be so nefarious, to be honest. You had just one conversation about relationships and now you are doubting his fidelity because everything hasnt changed after just one conversation.

Try a more measured response, so you don't come across as overbearing, unduly insecure, or worse un trusting of him (nothing deteriorates a relationship faster than mistrust).



Just state what you want. You want him off Tinder because well he is now "exclusive" to you. The best way to get a man of honor to do what you hope is to attempt to hold him to his word...if he lies then you can bring the fire and brimstone.

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IXION how I make it happen?

I haven't bring up the subject of tinder so far but it's making me stress out.

I agree with you just one meeting and him saying we are in a relantionship is not enough to excuse him of anything.

But still...i don't wanna open up to someone who may be just Not on the same level as i am.

So what should I do ?

Ixon I almost asked him a while ago but then decided against it.

I am not feeling comfortable with the idea of asking him right now without first clearing this whole "Where we both stand thing"

He knows I am looking for a long term relantionship and btw I am from an Asian country so in our culture he knows what does long term means(marriage)

Dating does work the same way as it does in western countries but when it comes to long term relantionship things are handle in different way.

He did said last time when we met in person that we are on the same page..means both are looking for this long term relantionship but that does not mean he wants it with me.

So first i have to clarify this with him and I am feeling hesitant ..if it's the right time to ask him or wait and discuss it after few more meetings .

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Ixon I almost asked him a while ago but then decided against it.

I am not feeling comfortable with the idea of asking him right now without first clearing this whole "Where we both stand thing"

He knows I am looking for a long term relantionship and btw I am from an Asian country so in our culture he knows what does long term means(marriage)

Dating does work the same way as it does in western countries but when it comes to long term relantionship things are handle in different way.

He did said last time when we met in person that we are on the same page..means both are looking for this long term relantionship but that does not mean he wants it with me.

So first i have to clarify this with him and I am feeling hesitant ..if it's the right time to ask him or wait and discuss it after few more meetings .

Ok, don't be afraid to "scare him off." This goes directly to what Ixion said. If you truly want things to work out in the long run, it is of the utmost importance to set the tone now...especially since you're five months in. That brings me to this:

It doesn't matter what a man says, it's what he does and "bonded" doesn't mean exclusive. Hence, your questions to him. You most likely feel that he's not sincere and given the fact that he's still on Tinder(if that hasn't changed) in truth he isnt. Telling you that you're bonded is simply a tactic to "imply commitment" but gives him an escape because it doesn't spell it out in exact terms as in "we're committed and monogamous." It's a subtle manipulation to control the situation and maintain the status quo. To make you feel secure and prevent you from exploring your options while maintaining his.

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Ixon I almost asked him a while ago but then decided against it.

I am not feeling comfortable with the idea of asking him right now without first clearing this whole "Where we both stand thing"

He knows I am looking for a long term relantionship and btw I am from an Asian country so in our culture he knows what does long term means(marriage)

Dating does work the same way as it does in western countries but when it comes to long term relantionship things are handle in different way.

He did said last time when we met in person that we are on the same page..means both are looking for this long term relantionship but that does not mean he wants it with me.

So first i have to clarify this with him and I am feeling hesitant ..if it's the right time to ask him or wait and discuss it after few more meetings .

Ok, don't be afraid to "scare him off." This goes directly to what Ixion said. If you truly want things to work out in the long run, it is of the utmost importance to set the tone now...especially since you're five months in. That brings me to this:

It doesn't matter what a man says, it's what he does and "bonded" doesn't mean exclusive. Hence, your questions to him. You most likely feel that he's not sincere and given the fact that he's still on Tinder(if that hasn't changed) in truth he isnt. Telling you that you're bonded is simply a tactic to "imply commitment" but gives him an escape because it doesn't spell it out in exact terms as in "we're committed and monogamous." It's a subtle manipulation to control the situation and maintain the status quo. To make you feel secure and prevent you from exploring your options while maintaining his.

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Couldn't agree more.

Although it does make me feel sad that I might lose him this way but what's the point of being with someone who is not in the same page.

Should i ask him this before seeing him person or should i bring up this topic when i meet him this coming Tuesday

I have deleted my tinder and told him that if you are serious about someone you dont have to keep any dating app and he said he is gonna delete his tinder as well.

Anyways i have make it clear that unless he is not ready there is no need to meet anymore so now let see what gonna happen.Will he come to see me or not.

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I have deleted my tinder and told him that if you are serious about someone you dont have to keep any dating app and he said he is gonna delete his tinder as well.

Anyways i have make it clear that unless he is not ready there is no need to meet anymore so now let see what gonna happen.Will he come to see me or not.

That’s a step in the right direction. Only time will tell

Still waiting for something to get clear.Have not met him this week so far as he has to come for his work thing and it still pending.

I am going back to my own city this weekend and I hope he does come in next three days otherwise i would not be able to see him soon.

I think the meeting in person is the only way to make things clear.

I am trying to stay positive.We still talk and all but its still Not on that level i hope it would get

Oh i am feeling so bad right now.

Unfortunately I had not deleted the tinder chrome extension and today in the morning when I opened it....it showed his change distance and not only that it showed me he was near my town .

When I simply asked him where he was he did not give me honest answer and just asked me how long I am gonna stay in city.

I told him and when later on I told him I know he is in the city i am visiting he lied point blank and told me he will be there in few hours when his tinder profile showed his distance mear 4 miles from where i am staying.

If he did not want to meet he could have told me point blank and even if he had a plan for next day he could had told me k I am coming n will see you when get free.

He noticed I was getting serious so I think he is now backing out otherwise he was all fine ubtill yesterday nite.

I wish guys learn to grow up and own to what they actually want rather than insulting someone like this.

Guys should I see him in person and then confront him or should i simply let him know that I know he still using tinder n show him the prove