Find Out If You're In An E.A.R..?

Find Out If You're In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship


Hope you are not, but nevertheless it is interesting knowledge and it could save lot of troubles later?
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Ask Dan & Jennifer

I have a friend that could really use this site. Shes an aquarius and hes a pisces and he is extremely verbally abusive to her. I think a part of it she enjoys it, either that or doesnt know how to get out of it. I sent her an email on this site. I think my cap is just not quite emotional enough for me. He pins me down against my will and tickles me until Im exasperated. I think tickling is a form of child abuse. He does that regularly to me. It sucks because he is ALOT bigger than me and I cant fend him off. He thinks its so funny. I am 5'4 and he is 6'2. He is a big bully.

It all sounded like common sense to me .... if a person is in this type of relationship and doesn't know it's "bad" .. then they think they are happy .. in which case, this is where they belong.

Heres what I think happens in this scenario. Instead of an equally balanced relationship.. slowly and suredly the 'stronger personality' starts to subtely take the upper hand. It dont believe it to be an immediate process. The stronger personality slowly erodes the weaker ones sense of self esteem. Tony Robbins had some interesting facts.. it takes a little more than 3 weeks a behavior, before you slip into a pattern. For some it takes longer. Before you know it.. your situation becomes second nature making one feel that it is harder each day to climb out. I have seen this first hand in my friend. She is so sucked in now, I dont think anyone could bring her out of it, even me and it is hard to witness.

If he up and had to transfer to Canada for work, yea then maybe. Wishful thinking

I am 5'4 and he is 6'2."

so, that means your closer to his nuts.

Re read my print...5'4 not 3'4 ha!

"I am 5'4 and he is 6'2."

so, that means your closer to his nuts.

HAHAHAAHAHAHAHAAH!

It's her life .. if she's there by choice, then it's none of anybody's business to approve or disapprove.

yes I know but "I" tend to get the brunt of all her tulmutous ups and downs with him. She cries to me at least once a month and complians one minute and is in luv with him the next. I try to remain un bias.. because I know she will just throw herself right back in it. It is a viscious cycle.

She is my best friend I have known her for sixteen years. I feel helpless. I just think a part of her enjoys this drama. So I try to stay out of it and just be supportive to her when she needs someone to vent to.

Personally, I don't believe abusive relationships exist outside of choice.

A person can be an ass to you if you are there for him to be an ass to you.

From my perspective .. there are no victims of an abusive relationship, there are only choices we make for our life, and if one of our choices is to live with a person who is asshole, then this person isn't a victim.

Some people are not content when everything is steady and predictable. Some people have a restless need to swing the pendulum two and fro, she is one of those individuals. It is a subconscious battle ground they play with each other. One minute she has the upper hand.. next week the baton goes to him and she plays the subservient one as she cowers to him. Next week he is the neurotic emotional wreck. I just try to stay out of it much I can.

Where z heck is Qbone today 🙂

Right here?

Anything..??

I would love to have conversations with the people suffering from the E.A.R .

Seems that Pee Angle confusing it with ear..

Damn old bat is both BLIND AND DEAF what do you expect of a regular camper of Virgo board—

She is on here by the charity orders from the above..! ask DXP GOD! Not me.



Just ignore the shit if IT bothering you..

Anyhow..


The site is really helpful with good advices from the professionals and not the jackass like Pee angel.

Hope your friend, someday be freed of this unfair prison.

I didnt mean to leave you high and dry, I had some stuff to hash out with the cap.. I need to get ready for work here in a bit though 🙂