Hot and cold rebound Virgo Sun, Gemini Moon, Virgo Venus, Virgo Mars man

So I met this early-30s man (Virgo sun, Capricorn rising, Gemini Moon, Virgo Venus, Virgo Mars ). I am female, mid-20s, (Taurus Sun, Virgo rising, Aquarius Moon, Aries Venus, Leo Mars) online. We seem to have a lot of banter and the conversation flowed pretty well. We added each other on whatsapp and continued chatting on there and he was fairly full-on, complimenting me loads over the top etc. (I know, not a good sign)

He works as a builder so is fairly tired and sleeps a lot it seems. Anyway, he seemed pretty keen to meet up the day after, yet didn't confirm on the day at around the time we're supposed to be meeting (he lives 45 mins drive away) and so I thought he was messing me about and blocked him.

He contacted me via text (as I blocked him on whastapp only) and apologized and said he'd make it up to me and he'd been so tired that he didn't get up.. bit of a rubbish excuse but as I liked him, we agreed to reschedule. and on the new date, he finished work crazy late (7.30pm), he drove back 105 miles to get home (so was 9.30pm), got ready quickly, ran to the train and got here by 11pm..! Last train back was 12.15 so we only had an hour together and it was thundery rainstorms that day but he said it was definitely worth it and so we went to a bar, where he bought us both a drink, spoke for the hour and rushed back for the train. He kissed me on the cheek and insisted I take £20 for a taxi back home from the station (it was only a 10 min walk away) but was nice of him.

He texted continously up until 3am, phoned me at 2am, saying how much of an amazing time he had with me (he seemed a bit nervous on our date) and said I was incredibly beautiful in real life, etc. and said we could meet up for lunch the next day (I had to decline as I was busy).

He continued this hot stage for several days and then I went abroad on holiday.. he still contacted me but a bit less as he said he didn't want to bother me on holiday. On the last 3 days of my holiday, he didn't say a word.. so I felt ignored, yet the day after I got back, he friend requested to add me on facebook and messaged me asking how my holiday was? and phoned me for a quick chat the day after. So then, it made sense that he didn't contact me those last 3 days on holiday as he seemed to have wanted me to enjoy my holiday without distractions, esp as he contacted me the day after I got back (I remember him asking when I'd get back).

Generally his life is in a bit of a mess like he's had a falling out with his parents a couple of years ago (he says his dad was.. playing away and he confronted him about it which led to his parents and siblings cutting contact with him as they all took his dad's side), he confessed to having a daughter only when I saw a pic of her and asked who she was (this was on day 3 of us speaking) and he said he was worried that I'd not wanna be with him if I knew he had kid. I asked him when he split up with the mother of his child (he said roughly 6 months ago) but now looking at social media, it's obviously at most a month or 1.5 months ago. Also the pic he had up of him on his dating profile - I asked him when he took that pic and he said last year.. yet I find out it's actually from 7 years ago (he's put on a lot of weight etc. in the last few years)... so two rather big lies he's told me.

Also, when I was on holiday, he said he'd got fired from his new job (and that he was worried about telling me as he thought I might see him as a failure - I assured him I didn't)... so since then, he's been working as a contractor on random jobs meaning both day shifts and night shifts apparently.

Last weekend, he said he was working a night shift till 2am on saturday morning (he texted me telling me he'd just got in at 2.30am from work( so was planning to sleep in all saturday (and he'd contact me if he woke up to meet up) and on sunday, he's going to a match. Now, it's been a week since and he's not contacted me at all so very hot and cold as when I was on holiday, he'd be obsessively texting me all evening telling me how much he can't wait to see me again, etc.

It's obvious he has a lot going on in his life negatively and that I'm quite obviously a rebound and that he seems very insecure around me as he thinks of me as somehow rather "posh" in comparison to him (as I have two university degrees, have a highly educated job, conventionally "pretty/cute".. I guess?!, younger than him by about 5 years which is not a lot to me but I know he's insecure about it, and before our date, he'd ask what dress code I expected, he said he was worried about using a swear friend in front of me, that I'm above his level etc.. which I don't think at all but he seems to.

He said he split with the mother of his child because she apparently was cheating on him with one of his best mates and how furious he was. He said he was with her 5 years (but didn't mention that he got engaged to her a few months before the break-up....) and that he hates her (not a good sign I know) and she's making it difficult for him to see his daughter)

So it's a mixture of me being a rebound to him, him lying (about his pics, how long he'd been single for, etc. which all seems rooted in his insecurity that I'm somehow too good etc. or maybe because Virgos are generally fairly insecure anyway..?)

He's very charming and good with words via text (probably due to his gemini moon) but I think astrologically, we're reasonably well matched (both have earth sun and air moons, and I have virgo rising) but it does sound like he's messing me about, right??

Weird think is he had cooled down in his affections and then randomly decided to add me on facebook and yet is still in the cold phase... surely if you're starting to lose interest, you wouldn't bother to take the additional step of adding that person on social media?

HAHA. I have a Gemini Moon and Virgo Venus/Mars.

We are NOT easy to date. I repeat- NOT EASY! It takes someone with a lot of persistence... It isnt personal, we are just IN OUR HEADS. We think first, feel later. We do not know how we feel about anything initially. Then it can change in a heart beat. Makes us seem very unreliable. However..... it is hard for us to completely leave a situation.

I wouldn't date a Gemini moon unless it was in a water house and had good aspects to it. They say this placement can indicate cheating. I have cheated when I was younger and immature, and I know the men can be straight hoes.

I imagine dating us is really fucking confusing.

On a side note though..... NONE of that lying resonates with me. Im very very very direct and honest. Almost to a cutting degree. But, a chart only takes you so far, how you are raised and your principles is a bigger factor.

You already felt like he was playing games since day 1...

I dont know why you havent just put yourself out of your own misery.

Virgos with air personal planets tend to take the easy way out and lie, to keep you thinking everything is going good.

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Hahaha I have the same sun, moon, venus, & mars placement as you. Except I have a cancer rising. I have also once really liked a virgo sun gem moon but he was in a relationship and nothing ever happened. I understand the chemistry is spell-binding though. Anyway block this guy. He's simply not good enough for you and he knows it. Plus with virgo venus, he will without a doubt start making you feel like YOU are the one that's not good enough. And we can't be having that. I know it's hard because Taurus stubbornness wants to keep going at it. But tap into that Aries venus, girl. You CAN and WILL do better. Drop him sis. Trust me.

It sounds like you already said--he has a lot going on right now. He may be a good guy but you have to realize what you are signing up for if you want a long-term relationship with him. If you are the type who takes drama well, then Id say go for it if you really like him. Just know that nothing you can do will help his situation, he has to do that for himself--if he is willing to. Lies are never a good sign so I wouldnt just from the few examples you already gave us while courting. I guess Im just saying it wont be dull at least haha. It seems like you are on different levels. I guess just take it slow and stay friends first. See what that relationship is like, spend some prolonged time with him and see how that goes, like maybe a trip together. You are going to have to see his true colors before making any kind of committment and it is clear he isnt being genuine for one reason or another. To me, there is no excuse for dishonesty besides selfishness and it only poisons relationships of any kind. Just my input from one Taurus woman to another. I have been in a tumultuous relationship with a Virgo man for like 5 years now, and I was lied to at the start when he said he would "take care of me". Constant lies so now our relationship has no trust. Not fun.