How can I fix this?

So i'm a Virgo and several years ago I dated a wonderful (Pisces) girl at work. This person is my soul mate, and I've been single ever since.

I went over her place one night with some of our work mates. She asked if I wanted to stay over. I was a bit surprised and scared at the time (and I didn't in case you're wondering).

We went on several dates after this. I was pretty bad at keeping in contact, and I realise now not enough physical contact either. We drifted apart without ever really getting started. She told me that she just didn't feel it.

I just needed some time to think about things you know, but have thought about her every day since.

I still see her at work, and I want to at least talk things over. I think she thinks I don't like her, when all I really want to do is hang out together...

I don't know my exact time of birth, but a best guess is 12th house and Libra rising. Oh and I have a Pisces moon.

I actually can't believe I treated her in that way. I feel so horrible about it, and I need to try and put this right some how.

I would stay over her place now, if that's what you're asking....

10 sep 1984

Oddly, you are being told to communicate with her, and that's as far as the rabbit hole goes with most people, it appears, doesn't it?

They say to just contact her ... as if to just contact a person is all you need to do ... when there is actually more, but in the surface with where most people reside, isn't it?

Posted by newfoundglory

She told me that she just didn't feel it.

I want to at least talk things over. I think she thinks I don't like her

And you live there, too, obviously .... because the only thing you want to do is talk to her, when talking has absolutely nothing to do with why she doesn't want to be with you.

She isn't feeling it ..... do you people understand this at all? I'm talking to you, and every person who responded. She couldn't care a fucking less about talking .... she wants to feel it, she wants you to feel it.

If you can't do that ... then I'd suggest strengthening up your forceps ... for life can consist of many days in which your lover is yourself .. because if the concept of feeling her escapes you completely, then you will deserve to be alone.

ok, forceps are surgical tools ... bleh

You can't fix this, because the issue isn't her ... it's you

Stop thinking, and blindly just let your feelings ... which being a Virgo you cannot do, so this means you cannot fix yourself, which means you're not getting her.

she doesn't want a robot .. she wants a man who can feel it

P-Angel you are absolutely right on here, I was really shy about it all - we didn't even hug, let alone have sex. Lots of her friends at work were "looking on" from the sidelines just added to the pressure. I'm more reserved than just jumping into bed, and it happened so quickly I didn't even see it coming. A hug was all i wanted, and it just never happened (my fault i know!)

When I say talk about it, i just want to try and explain to her what was going through my mind. Hoping that she might understand??_ and have a hug.

We smile and say hi at work. But she has completely ignored emails i've sent in the past about having coffee... which makes me nervous about asking face-to-face...

You Basically ignored her by not keeping in contact of course she is going to feel rejected. Pisces once we get hurt and feel rejected we will just swim away and usually once we are done we are done and move on especially since there was no romantic connection formed. Maybe she has moved on? The only way to know is to confront her in person.