how do you know if your virgo is in love

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me and this virguy known each other for years. this summer we started fwb. Both started to get closer that that, having feelings. about a month into it, all things went to hell. not really from, us but others. we let others wreck it. I was sooo heartbroken. but we remained n contact and always hugs and flirting when we see each other. I never got over him. I could feel he felt the same, but neither one of us did anything about it, just try and move on. a few weeks ago, at a funeral, of all places, we talked a bunch and i would catch him staring at me, I just smile at him. he was going outta town the next day and i jokenly said I come with. But, that is how it happened, him and I and his sis and her bf. we were barely outta town and we were kissing. that was 3 weeks ago. we have yet to have sex. but I ve stayed at his house almost every other day. we kiss and hug and laugh. he refers to me as his gf, but never officaily asked me. we have gotten so close, opening up. He is soo much more open and sweet than he was before and even then he was a complete doll to me. last night i was teasing him, asking what day of the week girl I am, he say everyday, he hug me,, so much warmth. we look in each others eyes. he is just perfect. I really think that he is very serious about me. He said he had missed me the months that we were apart and alwasy thought about me. same here. Soooo you virgs, does this sound like it could be a true thing? let me know what you all our thinking. Execpt P-Angel, plz keep your thoughts to yourself.
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Not sure about virgos but earth signs generally proceed slowly and take their time falling in love. It seems a little fast to me, but I'm a cautious cap. Infatuation is more likely at this point in my opinion. My advice is to go slowly and build a foundation.if you keep sex off the table, you'll have more of an idea about his feelings tthrough his actions and will avoid a lot of confusion.
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7 months - 4 months = 3 months.
As an earth sign, I cant know someone well enough in 3 months to determine if its love. I have to see how they react in a variety of situations and know them very well before I can decide if its love. But like I said, I'm not a virgo. I just wanted to offer some insight to the earth way of thinking. People who move too fast cause a lot of us to doubt the sincerity and make us more cautious. Makes me run.

If you move slow, you'll be just fine. 🙂
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it seems you're looking at things through rose-colored lenses. it's nice to have hope and optimism, but things had gone astray with you two before, which resulted in you being hurt so it's prudent to always stay on your toes and not allow yourself to get swept away for the time being. keep in mind, circumstances bought you two together again and not on any real effort on his part, so it's hard to say if it's "true" or not. speaking for myself, even romantic love is practical for me... not enmeshed in corny lines and words.
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I agree with truecap, earth signs usually take their time in general. But out of all earth signs I found that virgos are a bit more vulnerable and willing to move fast. To me it sounds like he likes you a lot 🙂 In my experience my Virgo bf who I've known for 6 years told me he loved me pretty much when we started talking and still feels that way. He isn't the best communicator of feelings and such like most earth signs but he would always say he thinks about me all the time and I believe that so I feel like your Virgo guy is being genuine! Maybe ask where you guys stand?
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yes it is. Like I have said. I have known him for years. This summer, after my break up with my ex we started fwb. because neither one of us was in a postion for a relationship. We talked daily, met 2 times a week. started hangin out more. talked about us getting closer and liking each other, etc. our exes found out, which is what he was affraid of, his kids mom. When she did find out, she took his kids from him, tried to come up on me. etc, it was horrible. They have been broke up for a year. She has mental problems, he knew that she would freak out and take his kids away. Being his name is not on thier birth certificates there is nothing he can do short of going to court. anyway.. thats a long story, so after she pulled her kids outta his car, kicking a screaming and saying a bunch of lies about me. he Blocked my on fb and wouldnt take my calls. It killed me.. I understand about his kids, I would not want to be responsible for him not being able to see them. They need him, he is working on going to court now. Anyway. a couple weeks later he stopped by. we talked a lil. he apologized for blocking me. This was in august. from aug to nov we talked weekly. When ever I seen him, hed hug me, flirt with me. When we would talk or text, it was kinda a checking thing. some flirting. I wanted him back so bad, but felt that at some point i had to move on. Anyway. we are at same funeral. he staring at me. talk.. hook up from there and have been spending every other night with him. Not having sex. Kissing, flirting, staring, touching, laughing, talking. cuddleing. its great. He was so sweet last summer, now I just feel that it is even meaning more to him. I am scared.. scared to death right now. I thought I lost him once and I don't wanna go through that again. So please tell me how I am deluding myself. I am trying so hard to take a step back and to look for the truth of it. His kids mom is no longer a threat because he is in court. she can't take the kids whenever. I mean, she may still raise hell with us, but, not use his kids. I mean I am trying to build a foundation, not a physical one. We are very attracted to each other, no doubts. But Am really trying for more. trying to be myself and show him myself for the truth.
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so after what we have been through, what reasoning would he have to come back into my life, other thatn he wants me ion his life. Do virgos do this? I know he likes me and cares, but, I just can't see him playing mind games with me. He was always honest and true before. what can be going on in his virgo head. I mean, hes a catch, hes the best. I know that I am a catch too. He ask why I didn't get a bf while we were apart. For the fact that I wanted, needed to be alone, to get myself straight. every guy I even talked to I would compare to him. I just couldn't get over him. He says same about me. I just think that the right time needed to come for us. maybe its now. idk. all I can say is that I feel genuinly blessed that he is in my life.
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thats exactly how it is. Expect the saying i love you part. but, staring in my eyes, smiling. I just trip on myself. after i leave him, i feel so sure, then as the hours wear on, or a day, I get freaked out, thinking he dont like me anymore. But wtf? y would he stop. nothing has happened to make him stop caring. maybe I should be on Aries forum talking about insecurities...uggg! in the 4 months we were apart he didn't stop thinking of me, why would he stop in a matter of hours. Se us Aries are not always full of confidence. Don't let on to many that we have secret fears. We are only human too
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Posted by raerae2one8
we been seeing each other.. everything is great perfect, showing me more affection than when we were together in the past. telling family i am his girlfriend anyway. last i talked to him was sat. everything fine. then no contact from him and I sent fb msg that said this """whats up? idk, i miss you, i need you to be real with me, if u need space tell me, if you dont want me tell me K? plz dont ignore me, it isnt nesscsary, we are friends, I just miss you and wonder what is going on. hope i hear from you"" that is what i sent him sun. I just knew something was wrong. I have always had strong instincts about him, us. no response. texted him last night, no response. but he just sent this msg. on fb. from virgo "yea i know we good friends but yes sorry i do need space right now. Dont know whats really going on in my life just. Just need to sit back and think about the future right now. Sorry i been ignoring you tho feel like shit for that hope we still friends tho"""


Friends— how can i be friends with this man i love, and want>>> somebody plzzzz explain to me, because I dont understand. I know he feels same for me... I know!!!!





According to what you wrote ^^^^^^^^^ on one of your other threads ... it becomes obvious that you're so fucked up in the head that there's no way your interpretation of him is accurate.

You have no fucking clue how he feels, or why he does what he does ... no clue at all. And it's all due to you being delusional as fuck.

And the quote above is a perfect example of this
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Posted by P-Angel
Posted by raerae2one8
we been seeing each other.. everything is great perfect, showing me more affection than when we were together in the past. telling family i am his girlfriend anyway. last i talked to him was sat. everything fine. then no contact from him and I sent fb msg that said this """whats up? idk, i miss you, i need you to be real with me, if u need space tell me, if you dont want me tell me K? plz dont ignore me, it isnt nesscsary, we are friends, I just miss you and wonder what is going on. hope i hear from you"" that is what i sent him sun. I just knew something was wrong. I have always had strong instincts about him, us. no response. texted him last night, no response. but he just sent this msg. on fb. from virgo "yea i know we good friends but yes sorry i do need space right now. Dont know whats really going on in my life just. Just need to sit back and think about the future right now. Sorry i been ignoring you tho feel like shit for that hope we still friends tho"""


Friends— how can i be friends with this man i love, and want>>> somebody plzzzz explain to me, because I dont understand. I know he feels same for me... I know!!!!


No offense but I agree, you're both kinda complicated lol


According to what you wrote ^^^^^^^^^ on one of your other threads ... it becomes obvious that you're so fucked up in the head that there's no way your interpretation of him is accurate.

You have no fucking clue how he feels, or why he does what he does ... no clue at all. And it's all due to you being delusional as fuck.

And the quote above is a perfect example of this
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You gave him that option of giving him space. If that's not what you wanted, then you should have been honest with him. The message you sent him comes across as you being very insecure. I wish I could tell you how to deal with someone you have strong feelings for after they've told you that they just want to be friends, but it seems like he has backed away from any chance of relationship at this time. We can't read these guys' minds, but we can take what they say at face value. In this case, you can conclude two things: 1) he does need space right now and 2) he sees you as a friend.

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aug. 26th 85

so we are both messed up. i dont think saying that if time is what he needs is being week. and i dont think that him saying he needs space means he doesnt care or want to be with me.

his fb post today was "am, I blind or am I retarded that I keep doing the same dumb shit. idk" seen nye pics of him from his sister, one of my bff, he looks so sad. I wish I could help him, make everything right in his life. I just have to give him space. take care of me.
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Posted by truecap
7 months - 4 months = 3 months.
As an earth sign, I cant know someone well enough in 3 months to determine if its love. I have to see how they react in a variety of situations and know them very well before I can decide if its love. But like I said, I'm not a virgo. I just wanted to offer some insight to the earth way of thinking. People who move too fast cause a lot of us to doubt the sincerity and make us more cautious. Makes me run.

If you move slow, you'll be just fine. 🙂



Agree! ^^^^^^^^^^

I second that!